I had an experience at work the other day, interesting in retrospect, but very emotional for me at the time. I was hurt by some stuff one of my “Ogas at the top” said, and I ended in tears.
It was so embarrassing…long story short, I came out of the experience a better me.
In this post, I’d like to share a few tips with you about how NOT to take things personal as a House Officer, especially if you work (or plan to work) in Nigeria.
1. Offenses will come.
Offenses are a part of life we all can’t do without. On a daily basis, we offend people and people offend us.
Unfortunately, even in the work-environment where everyone is expected to be cordial, people step on one another’s toes all the time.
As a House Officer, patients will annoy you, your colleagues will make you angry, and your seniors will frustrate you.
Sadly, a lot of Nigerian doctors still see BULLYING as a necessary evil, and unless there’s a change in such mindset, House Officers will continue to be at the receiving end.
It’s in your own best interest to develop a thick skin against such scenarios, because they will surely come.
2. Keep Moving On.
No matter how bad a day seems, that day will pass.
Days will turn into weeks, weeks into months, and before you know it, your housejob experience is over.
If you want to survive as a House Officer unscathed, learn to move on quickly!
3. Be Considerate.
Eventually, what goes around comes around.
As a newbie doctor, maybe it’s time to change the narrative.
Be the difference you want to see.
To your patients show empathy. You have no idea what some of them are passing through.
To your colleagues show comradeship. You’re together in the struggle.
To your seniors show loyalty. They were once in your shoes.
It takes a little kindness to make a BIG difference.
In all, do your best and give the quality of care, treatment and respect you want others to give you.
4. Know your elastic limit.
When all is said and done, it is NOT every nonsense that you should allow.
I’m yet to walk out of a ward round, because God has REALLY helped me.
And I hope the day never comes because if it so happens…hehe
Like I say to anyone who cares to listen, I’m the only doctor in my family…I cannot come and die.
For your own sanity, speak up when you MUST.
If a colleague wants to take advantage of you, call such person to order.
If a patient tries to disrespect you, set him/her straight.
And if your seniors verbally or physically abuse you, to an extent that is unhealthy to your self-esteem, please report them to the appropriate quarters.
You’re a doctor, not a door-mat!
5. Laugh out Loud
When all is said and done, someone may just be having a bad day and looking for a channel to vent.
DO NOT become the scapegoat.
Try to to give your best at ALL times. Be timely. Be proactive. Don’t be lazy. Don’t be rude. Know your limits.
Refuse to be a casualty in another person’s mood instability.
And when you’ve done all you can, and someone still wants to make you angry or sad, just LAUGH OUT LOUD.
Laugh so hard that it confuses your “Tormentor.”
A little humor can really go a long way!
Remember, you’re STRONGER than you think.
For me, whenever I start to feel overwhelmed by the sheer stress of the job, the Holyspirit gently reminds me that…
So I don’t complain, I give thanks.
I screen grabbed this from a friend’s status the other day. Truly this job Issa calling!
Last, last, all of us will be ALRIGHT.