At a quarter to 30, with most of my contemporaries already married, about to marry, or with one or more kids to care for, here I am in my parents’ house, boasting of being the deputy administrator of household affairs, a title that exists only in my imagination.
“U-U, what’s for dinner?”
“Ebaand Egusi soup” I reply, rolling my eyes as I stroll towards the kitchen.
It’s because you’re still in this house.
I’ll leave when it’s time.
While some half my age are already earning their pay, I’m here excited to be dashed 2k by my dad to buy the data I needed to publish what you’re now reading.
Arrant nonsense! Please grow up. My mind tells me.
Thank you, my daddy is not complaining.
I applied to a place recently but was rejected, I called my mom on my way home, tearing up like a toddler.
Are you for real? At your age, shoe size and marital status??
Lemme jaare. Is it a crime to cry? I know Jesus loves me.
I’ve been mood swinging for a few days, I know it’s between PMS and Satan’s tactics yet can’t help but feel dejected.
COME ON, SNAP OUT OF IT ALREADY…YOU ARE AN A-D-U-L-T!!!
*sighs* That was blunt. Oh, to be a kid again.
Please someone should explain to me what this Adulting thing is really about.
Because I’m beginning to think it’s some cheap form of blackmail.
I don’t even know if I know what it means to be ready for it.
What defines an adult?
Is it about the many responsibilities that life randomly throws your way? Or is there more to it?
Over time, I’ve realized that my most profound moments from medical school had little to do with the “books” but everything to do with the “lives” especially of the patients I encountered on the ward.
Today’s post is from an experience I had as a medical student rotating on the pediatric ward.
I walked into the ward that morning and noticed most of the staff were speaking in hushed tones.
Ward round went on as usual, but everyone seemed a little reserved. Soon, the cat was let out of the bag- one of our patients had passed on!
I was stunned.
Such a young, peaceful and innocent-looking boy, not more than eleven. He had been on the ward for sometime and because his diagnosis wasn’t straight forward, we kept running series of tests.
Then the doctor decided to place him on some steroids and his symptoms seemed to improve, so he was discharged.
However, he soon began to deteriorate rapidly that he had to be re-admitted, eventually leading to his demise.
It was particularly sad for me because that was the first patient I knew as a medical student that passed on.
I remember the day he asked me to pass him a bottle of water from his bedside cabinet. “Miss, Miss…” was how he began his request. After passing him the water, I watched him for a few moments before going back to what I was doing.
If only I knew that was the last time I would be able to interact with him,
Maybe I would have held one of his hands, looked into his eyes and told him not to be afraid.
Maybe I would have sang him a song, written him a poem, or read him a book.
Maybe I would have asked him to tell me about his family, his friends at school, and all of his favorite things.
Maybe I would have assured him that despite his pain, there was a Father in heaven who cared so much about him- spirit, soul and body.
Maybe I would have just taken a few minutes right there, to say a word of prayer for him.
If only I knew…
But I didn’t.
Because I wasn’t expecting him to die, at least not that soon.
Weak and wasted as he was, we still held on to the hope that he would live.
But death gave no notice of its intentions, it came and left without restrictions.
Three years later, my heart still bleeds when I remember the incident-though I didn’t shed a single tear at that time.
The rest of my sojourn through medical school came with its own heartaches as several other patients I met passed away, but I still can’t get that very first experience out of my head.
As a closing thought, it’s funny how we take the little things for granted, especially with the people that matter to us the most thinking they will always be around.
Truth is, when it comes to those we care about, death is always too soon.
The good news for the believer though, is that death is not the end, there is life after death.
And that for me, is such a comforting thought.
So when was the first time you saw a patient die? And how did you react to it?
It’s a few days into October already and all I can say is, God is good!
While meditating on what theme this month would be about, one word that stood out in my heart, was COURAGE. And I believe God was giving me a gentle reminder, that when everything else fails (my plans and what-not), I can look up to him and remain courageous.
Here are a few synonyms for the word COURAGE: “bravery, pluckiness, valor, fearlessness, intrepidity, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness, grit, hardihood, heroism, gallantry”
And I’ll go with the first, BRAVERY–
the admirable quality of being able to confront frightening things. It takes bravery for a knight to battle a dragon, but it also takes bravery for a shy child to walk into a new classroom.
It’s little wonder that the song in my heart for this season just happens to be:
||WORSHIP– You make me brave (Amanda Cook)
And it’s one of my favorite songs ever! I remember having it on repeat for sometime last year.
||WORD– Lamentations 3:22-24 GNB
“The LORD ‘s unfailing love and mercy still continue, Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise. The LORD is all I have, and so I put my hope in him.”
I especially love the line that reads,
Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise. How reassuring that is!
I still don’t know all God has in stock for me this season but I’m stepping out of the shadows of fear, discouragement and doubts and embracing his promises by faith.
And Amen to that!
In a nutshell, here’s what I’ve been upto:
|| My Ankara crafts and designs exhibition (As Promised)
My trainer, Niyot of Beracah House of Fashion, who is also a longtime friend did such a great job and I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn through her. Moving forward, I think I’ll be focusing on the Ankara book covers and see what designs I can come up with.
|| Still Learning:
Spanish and Igbo!
|| Recent Reads:
– Anthills of the Savannah (Chinua Achebe)
This was my first time reading any Chinua Achebe’s book. I’d attempted “There was a Country” earlier this year but found it difficult to continue with it. Not too long ago, I picked up this title, but I wasn’t enjoying the plot, so I dropped it. Eventually, one bored evening I summoned up courage and jumpstarted it (i.e. started reading right from the middle) and I was so intrigued that I read until the end. I found the book compelling, thought-provoking and with a melodramatic ending.
– I heard that song before (Mary Higgins Clark)
I totally loved this book (although I’m sure I’ve read it before but totally forgot the plot), the writer kept me guessing until the very end. It had the right amount of suspense that kept me glued till the last page. If you’re a fan of mystery/crime/suspense books, I totally recommend that you read this one.
– And then there were none (Agatha Christie)
I first read this book a couple of years ago, I had an idea about the plot but forgot how it ended, so I decided to read it again. So it was the Judge after all, what a twist!
|| Currently Reading:
– The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)
Principles and Values become more evident when we think of how short life is.
||Re-reading (For my Small Group Bible-study):
– UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)
Some start for the gold but end up with the bronze. Some start for the gold but do a poor exchange and can not continue. Some start for the gold but drop the baton and are disqualified. Some start for the gold and not only win the race, but break a record doing so.
|| Recent Adventure: A Mini-vacay!
So yours sincerely took a few days off to spend in Lagos. Yaaaas!!!
You know how I feel about the city already (You can read about my previous experiences here and here). This time around though, I was not constrained by a lack of “cash” or “time” nor any urgent business to take care of. I wanted to not just pass through Lagos, but actually savor it all over like a first-timer.
The summary of my stay was: Sightseeing, Window-shopping (plus some micro-shopping…lol), People-watching, Reading novels, Eating and Sleeping. I eventually stayed more indoors than outdoors, and found it kinda boring, thanks to EKEDC…😑🙄
I went off to visit one of my friends (@Tyn) and enjoyed every moment of it. Also went on a date with my sister to watch the movie, FLATLINERS (a Sci-Fi/Medical Thriller/Horror combo). The plot wasn’t too bad, in my opinion. Definitely PG material.
Then I ran into one of my seniors from Unilorin, Eyitayo, at the Palms Mall (saw him last in 2010…haha), I started “gisting” my sis how he is such a prominent figure on FB, and a kind-of-social activist etc. He is someone I actually respect (from a distance) and it was an honor to see him again, howbeit for a few minutes.
Finally, I got to ride in an Uber, then a BRT bus for the first time ever and I enjoyed both (for different reasons). Lagos is such a lovely place tbh, I just don’t see myself living there. But who knows, ehn?😉
Enjoy the lovely views!
To wrap up the post, here are my
|| 9 Intriguing Lessons [plus 1 Life Changing Discovery] from 2017:
1. Social media is overrated. I know it sounds cliché, but I’m only beginning to understand that phrase. I’ve now realized that Facebook (which was the social media platform I used the most) is not that important. I used to think it was impossible for me to do without Facebook in a day until I actually put some structure to my social media time and now I have days when I completely forget to log in. It’s amazing isn’t it? Ever wondered what we all did before the advent of social media?
2. Not everything that is happening will continue to happen. “Time” and “Chance” happens to all men. If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, have you ever wondered what happened to the likes of Mr. Biggs and Tantalizers? My sentiments exactly.
3. Time alone doesn’t make things better, deliberate actions do. Thanks to the Mother Hen (Remi Owadokun) for this. If something is bad and you do nothing about it, it will only get worse.
4. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness, but choosing not to remember. Choosing not to remember an offense is quite different from forgetting it, as if it never happened. I so needed that closure. Phew!
5. What you do is more important than what you know. We have many “knowers” but far too few “doers.” Memo to me. Noted!
6. To every stage in life, there is a backstage and to every scene there’s a behind-the-scene. Truth!
7. Others are different from you, and so are you from others. Our unity lies in our individual uniqueness and not in our uniformity (or conformity).
8. (More than your phones, wallets, money, relationships etc) The enemy targets your joy, don’t let him steal it!
9. The Nigerian Police may (or may not) be your friend. Not all policemen are unkind, rude or wicked. Ditto Lawyers, Nurses, Doctors etc Having a preconceived mindset can be harmful.
10. I don’t like bread. In fact, I’ve never liked it, and I’m only just realizing that. So I’ve only been tolerating bread all my life?! Well, it’s better late than never.
Solitude is a gift I’ve learnt to treasure. It’s my favorite place away from the noise and sights, voices and crowds, vying for my attention.
I don’t blame the world for being flashy, I blame myself for being vulnerable.
On some days I feel like hiding from real life and just staying by myself, feeding on what is edifying rather than the junk society tries to force down my throat.
Sadly, we live in an age of information, with little transformation. Cultural Influence creeps on us so subtly that we are hardly aware of being conformed to it.
This season I’ve spent chunks of time in sober reflection…thinking through some decisions I made in the past and those which I’m currently making.
I’m reminded again that everyday is a choice, every thought a seed, and every action a step towards purpose.
The future doesn’t just happen, I have to CHOOSE it.
Growth is not automatic. It takes process, commitment and consistency.
Knowledge is not enough, the correct application of it is what matters.
The easiest thing to do in life is to just be, and live by the choices of others passed on to us.
But today, I choose.
I choose to choose.
I choose joy over sadness…
I choose peace over anxiety…
I choose health over illness…
I choose discipline over indulgence…
I choose gratitude over murmuring…
I choose confidence over self-criticism…
I choose clarity over confusion…
I choose fruitfulness over frustration…
I choose victory over defeat…
I choose light over darkness…
I choose the word over the world…
Here’s a recap of the 50 Practical Ways you can motivate yourself through medical school. Feel free to check the links at the end.
1. Discover yourself
2. Learn new skills
3. Take online courses
4. Avoid negative self-talk
6. Listen to good music
7. Watch Medical Shows
8. Start your own business
9. Keep a journal
10. Keep the end in mind
11. Find a mentor
12. Medical school is just a phase. It won’t last forever.
13. Quitting is not an option.
14. Cultivate healthy friendships
15. Find what works for you and make it work
16. Remember why you started
17. Expectations from Friends and Family
18. Eat healthy
19. Focus on becoming competent vs just getting good grades
20. Listen to podcasts
21. Don’t lose your Passion
22. Set Priorities And Rewards
23. Don’t sweat the small stuff
24. Faith in God
25. Set simple goals and achieve them
26. Be your greatest cheerleader
27. Learn to unwind
28. Volunteer to teach others
29. Seek help when you need it
30. You are not alone
30. Play Stimulating Games
31. Stay Focused
33. Ask Questions
34. Aim For Excellent Grades
35. Enjoy the learning process
36. Think Medicine, Think Prestige
37. Believe you can make a difference
38. Financial Sacrifices And Future Remunerations
39. Don’t Quit
40. Take it one step at a time
41. Start a Countdown
42. Share Your Story
43. Have a bucket list
44. Contribute on Social Media
45. Sleep well
46. Work It Out
48. Cheer as others win
50. Live, Learn, Love. Repeat.
“Mercy-drops round us are falling,
But for the SHOWERS we plead.”
Then God gave me this understanding,
For everything we obtain by God’s mercies,
We can obtain even MORE through his blessings!
And y’all know the conditions for his blessings? TRUST and OBEDIENCE. And in my christian journey, I have come to understand that they both go hand in hand.
It’s who we trust (totally) that we obey completely. The question is, how much am I (are we) willing to TRUST God? Because that’s what this month is about…
SHOWERS (Surplus, Abundance, Provision, Saturation, Sprinkling, Spraying, Engulfing, Flooding, Overwhelming...I could go on) of Blessings, through Trust and Obedience!!
So help me (us) God. Amen.
Let’s jump right into the September train, shall we?
I believe strongly in the efficacy of God’s word and that there is a WORD for every season.
So this word right here came as NEEDED…
“He has set the right time for everything. He has given us a desire to know the future, but never gives us the satisfaction of fully understanding what he does.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 GNB
Equally amazing is this song,
Wonderful Wonder (Nathaniel Bassey)
which is also befitting for this season because my God is AWESOME like that.
1. Innovation And Entrepreneurship (Peter F. Drucker)
It is not good enough to offer the same product or the same service at a lower cost. There has to be something that distinguishes it from something that already exists.
2. Concerning Spiritual Gifts (Kenneth E. Hagin)
The fruit of the Holy Spirit is for HOLINESS, whereas the baptism of the Holy Spirit is for POWER.
3. Out Of Control And Loving It (Lisa Bevere)
Don’t be upset because you see other people’s blessings as a deduction from God’s ability to bless you. It did not come from your account but his, and he is unlimited.
4. The Power Of A Praying Wife (Stormie Omartian)
A wife can’t put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it.
5. The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)
If our feelings control our actions, it’s because we’ve abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.
6. A Novel: The Witness (Dee Henderson)
It’s a Christian Fiction with just enough suspense to keep me interested. I’ve deliberately slowed down on turning the pages except during my “free time” so that I can get MORE important things (like drafting this blog post) done. I remember those days when I would stay up all night to finish reading novels. [Singing: I’ve been changed, healed, freed, delivered…😅]
7. The book of JEREMIAH (I’m on Chapter 25)
– Spanish [via Duolingo and Memrise]
– Igbo [via Ife Igbo Learner and Igbo Basic app]
Here are a few things I’ve been up to lately, asides sitting home and getting fat (the scale says I now weigh 55kg😫😱, and to think I was around 50 kg this time last year):
–On Managing Distractions
Some weeks back while reviewing my schedule and trying to re-organize my priorities, I discovered how easily distracted I am in between tasks. One moment I’m trying to complete a task, the next moment I’m flipping through my emails. Needless to say, lots of tasks take double/triple the time required to complete them. I’m learning to sit through what I’m doing at the moment before getting started on another, it’s a painfully slow process, but I’ll get there soon by God’s grace.
– From “To-Do Lists” to “Done Lists” and “Not-To-Do Lists”
Also, I’m gradually shifting away from having To-Do-Lists at the start of each day, to making Done-Lists (never knew that existed until recently) at the end of the day.
I also came across the idea of a Not-To-Do List recently, and discovered I mentally had such in place already (just added the last one, because checking emails are forever a distraction *sighs*)
– Skills Acquisition:Ankara crafts and designs
It’s been a long summer of learning how to make different accessories with the Ankara fabric and it’s almost a wrap. I’ll come up with pictures when the class is over.
– I recently went to see the Banana Island GhostMovie with my homeys.
I’d give it a rating of 2.5/5 ⭐️⭐️ There were a few comic scenes and some not too funny ones.
Most importantly it was a lovely evening hanging out with my folks and I had an overfill of popcorn, soda and hotdog [no wonder I’m getting FATTER!😩🙄]
– I’m FREE: After a few episodes of late night panic attacks following the home-theft incident I wrote about here,
I can finally sing, I’m free!Because here is what God’s word says:
“You need not fear any dangers at night or sudden attacks during the day”
Psalms 91:5 GNB
– Lastly, The Job search is still on. My dream job is yet to locate me😉. So y’all should keep me in your prayers! Thank you!
The greatest fear of medical students in any part of the globe is to fail out of medical school. With the overwhelming workload, many students simply strive to stay above average rather than set unrealistic expectations.
While making good grades is not all there is to becoming a successful doctor, it definitely helps to get you started on the journey.
I remember the first set of exams I wrote in my second semester of medical school. Out of four courses, I FAILED two.
Physiology and Neuroanatomy!
And every medical student knows how important both courses are.
I was really devastated because my marks were not even close to the cutoff.
The day the results were released, one of my professors called me into his office and gave me a stern talking to.
“What’s wrong with you? You’re better than this!”
It was with teary eyes and a puffy face that I left his office that day, and I couldn’t get over the encounter for the rest of the week.
Thankfully, I got another chance to make up before my finals and that was the beginning of a turnaround in my medical school journey; as far as my grades were concerned.
These are some of the tips that worked for me:
Tip 1 ||START WITH A PLAN||
A common adage says, “To fail to prepare is to prepare to fail.”
This is the first step in achieving any major goal in life and it holds true for getting good grades in medical school as well.
Success is not a function of chance but a combination of:
* Discipline, and
Having a plan helps to build a framework for these vital ingredients.
Here are practical ways to help you prepare for a new semester:
What does success in medical school mean to you? Is it getting pass grades in all your subjects, having a number of distinctions or making it to the Dean’s list?
Your success is your RESPONSIBILITY. The earlier you acknowledge that, the easier it’ll be to work towards it. And it all begins in your mind.
That semester I failed two subjects ended up being one of my best ever, not only did I get distinctions in 3 out of 4 subjects, I also made the Dean’s list.
I got to know later that some students in my class also failed the same subjects I did at the start of the semester, but not all of them aimed to get distinctions in the final exams.
My point is, if your desire is to get an A, then go for it. Ditto a B or C.
Caption this: Success is a marathon and not a sprint!
Tip 3 ||GO THE EXTRA-MILE||
Now that you have a plan and the desired goal(s), put in the required efforts. Make the necessary sacrifices. Burn the midnight oil if you have to.
For me that meant staying back in school late to study, attending extra classes on Saturdays, and so on.
The truth is, you can’t win the prize without paying a price.
To earn good grades, you don’t just need to work HARDER, you need to work SMARTER.
Studying in Medical school sometimes requires a level of creativity.
I remember watching lots of animated videos to really grasp some concepts in Genetics after several failed attempts to comprehend the lecture notes.
There are as many methods to study as there are resources out there to choose from.
So what if you are putting in the required efforts, and it appears you’re still not getting the desired results?
And confess the scriptures.
As a Christian, I know that asking people to “stop worrying and just pray,” sounds cliché.
But PRAYER works.
Fear is a tool by the enemy to demoralize you and no matter how much you try to work hard, worrying will always stop you short from reaching your desired goal(s).
In prayer, you can also ask God for wisdom and he’s ever ready to show you what to do.
“But if any of you lack wisdom, you should pray to God, who will give it to you; because God gives generously and graciously to all.”
James 1:5 GNB
Maybe you need to study earlier in the day rather than later, or you need to study with a friend rather than alone, maybe you even need to take audio notes instead of writing in class.
I have learnt that worrying about poor grades won’t make you perform any better. So why worry, when you can pray?
And after praying get right back to STUDYING.
Tip 5 ||DON’T GO SOLO||
I can’t overemphasize this.
Be accountable. It is true that your success is your responsibility, but there are people who are willing to show you the ropes if you ask them.
Learn to ask questions not only from your colleagues but also from students who are in classes ahead of you. If you have some particular difficulties, see your course adviser or school counselor.
Also, many students resent failure so much that they fail to find out why they failed the first time and how to go about it.
I have learnt that failure is an opportunity to learn and do better, so I need to make conscious effort not just to GO THROUGH the experience but to GROW through it.
Like in any major event of life, finishing medical school is a big deal. Going through it can be as exciting too. One way is to have countdowns for each stage of medical school like the White Coat Ceremony, Starting/Completing Clinical Postings and of course Finals! Looking forward to the BIG DAYS was another major way I stayed motivated throughout medical school. So start the countdown now!
42. Share Your Story:
Sharing one’s story has such a powerful effect not only on the audience but also on the individual. There’s a uniqueness to your journey that only you can talk about: your fears, victories, and everything in between have contributed to who you are at the moment. So why not take the time to share your story and inspire several upcoming medical students out there.
No matter how many medical school blogs or YouTube channels are out there, yours can still stand out to a specific audience.
And if you’re concerned about your privacy or security, you have the option of sharing your story anonymously.
“Why do I need a bucket list?” you may be wondering. Well, being in medical school is a great opportunity for you to take on new dreams and go on adventures- because whether you like it or not, you still have the time. You don’t have to wait until you’re 40 before you start living the real life.
Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn how to swim or go on a fancy boat cruise or get a massage session in a spa. Well, who says you can’t?
Just start with what is within your financial means and soon you’ll be surprised at how many things you’ve achieved before you complete medical school.
44. Contribute on Social Media:
As a medical student, you are a stakeholder in the health concerns of the communities you belong to, whether physically or virtually. Several people are on the lookout for the right information regarding their health.
So creating a Health Awareness page on Facebook or sharing health tips on Twitter, can help to promote a healthy culture among the people in your sphere of influence. Remember you don’t need to have all the answers and where you’re not sure, just ask them to see a doctor.
45. Sleep well:
Some days, all you really need is a good night’s sleep. Make it a habit to sleep well everyday. An average medical student runs on less than 5 hours of sleep everyday, which is way below the daily requirement of 8 hours of sleep.
It’s amazing how pushing oneself to the physical limit often stretches one’s mental capacity as well. A simple morning jog or rope skipping if you prefer, will make a difference in your outlook for the day. Not considering the health impact it would have on your body in the long run. So make it a habit to Work Out, your body and brain need it.
Meditation is another great way to reduce the stress that comes with medical school. Take a few minutes off to unwind and practice some mindfulness techniques each day and begin to enjoy some amazing benefits.
48. Cheer as others win:
Celebrating others as they complete medical school, take licensing exams and start their residency programs, is another good way to motivate you for the remaining stretch of your medical school journey. When you see those ahead of you achieving their dreams, it boosts your confidence in pursuing yours.
To reflect means to step out of the picture and go down the “memory lane” a few times. Reflection helps you to review the decisions you’ve made in the past, your failures and successes, your strengths and weaknesses, and to take note of all the major contribution to your past achievements.
Knowing what has motivated you in the past, gives you some perspective in staying presently motivated.
50. Live, Learn, Love and Repeat:
Above everything else, see Life as a gift. Learn to treasure every moment of it no matter how challenging it may seem sometimes.
Be grateful for the little things and bigger things will come your way.
Remember, Medical school is a privilege and not a right. So live joyfully, learn passionately and love deliberately.
It’s amazing how overcoming small challenges, even virtual ones, can motivate us to face real life situations.
In a particular semester in medical school, I became almost addicted to “Candy Crush” and jokingly told myself that if I could beat a certain level in the game, no subject was too difficult for me to handle. Amazingly, I went on to have some of my best results that semester.
Thankfully, there are a variety of medical games that not only help students to unwind, but also improve medical knowledge remarkably.
It’s also possible for you and your friends, to make up random games on the go, for instance, naming medical conditions that start with letter A or try to play Scrabble with the medical dictionary as a guide or have an Anatomy Challenge, where you only speak in anatomically terms for a whole day. I can bet it’ll be fun.
32. Stay Focused:
No matter what happens around you, don’t lose your primary focus for being in medical school- LEARNING!
It is easy to get distracted by other things, social media for instance, but most of these distractions are avoidable.
The rule of thumb is, if something can wait, let it wait. It takes a lot of discipline to achieve that, but soon it becomes a habit.
Distractions are like leaking holes in a pipe, too many of them will jeopardize your journey in the long run; so you must be wary.
It’s important to remind yourself each day about your Priorities/Goals and a good way to achieve that is to create a personalized Vision Board.
33. Ask questions:
“Nothing is more powerful as a tool of for learning, than asking questions.”- Myles Munroe.
Asking questions, especially from those who have gone ahead, provides you with more opportunities to learn even outside the classroom. The wells of experience from senior colleagues will not only equip you with the courage to face some of your worst fears but also the wisdom to avoid some costly mistakes.
There are enough answers if only you ask the right questions – REQUINE.
So quit trying to figure out everything on your own. Just ask away!
34. Aim for excellent grades:
While getting good grades isn’t all there is to medical school, it certainly helps to boost your morale when you find out that you got an A in the Genetics exam, or your name was on the dean’s list four semesters in a row with a scholarship to complete your studies.
Getting an AWARD for your hardwork definitely motivates you to do more!
35. Enjoy the Learning process:
Remember how eager you were to know the alphabets and engage in other learning activities as a pre-school toddler?
Like most kids that age, learning was fun. Unfortunately, many students lose that excitement as they get older. If all you think of is how to graduate from medical school, you won’t get the best out of it.
To have a fulfilling career, you need to cultivate the habit of enjoying the learning process. Doctors are life-long learners!
Be an active learner by applying something you’re taught in your interactions/activities each day. Let your knowledge be an investment into the future, generations will thank you for it.
We all know that Medicine as a career, is both prestigious and lucrative. Here’s what one medical doctor says, “The associated prestige from non-medics was pretty cool that I didn’t wanna lose that.”
Perhaps among your childhood friends/immediate family, you’re the first to get into med school. Think of all those looking upto you and how much value you will add to the society.
37. Believe you can make a difference:
Have you ever asked yourself if you can make any real difference in the field of Medicine? The truth is, you can.
Think of the hundreds/thousands of patients (and their relatives) that’ll come your way in the course of your career, and if you’re more inclined to research, imagine the groundbreaking discoveries you can make in Medicine. Also think of how you can inspire the next generation positively whether in the classroom or on the ward.
38. Financial Sacrifices And Future Remuneration:
Think of medical school as an investment. Most people put in lots of money whether through student loans, scholarships, personal savings or family support into financing their medical education. In most countries, medical education is more expensive than the average college degree, so you don’t want all the money spent to be a waste. The good thing though is that you are likely going to be overcompensated for every penny you put in.
39. Don’t Quit:
“Dropping out of medical school, means you’re going to start all over, whatever else you choose to do.” says one Doctor. While quitting isn’t always a negative thing to do, the thought of losing all the time/energy you put into medical school can be really frustrating. So why not take the bull by the horns and keep at it?
40. Take it one step at a time:
One of my top secrets of passing through medical school with minimal emotional breakdown was learning to take each moment/challenge one step after the other. Before I knew it I was counting the Months/Weeks/Days to my finals. There were lots of giants to slay along the way, tests, exams and more, but knowing that one step in the right direction will take me closer to my goal, I was motivated me to keep moving. In the end, the journey was so worth it!
More tips to stay motivated through med school? Please share.
I’m so excited to be writing this POST. There’s so much to say that I’m afraid of just blabbing…and well, it’s a long read, so grab a seat if you can.
The 13th of July was the Induction Ceremony for FTDs by the Medical And Dental Council Of Nigeria (MDCN).
So officially, yours sincerely is now a bonafide, licensed, certified and registered Doctor (even though the license is “provisional” pending the completion of my internship, yada, yada…🙄)
The event took place in Abuja (the capital of Nigeria) and it was all shades of lovely. The highlights were the induction lecture by the Guest Lecturer, Prof. Lovett Lawson, and the keynote address by the Honorable Minister of Health, ProfIsaac Adewole, who was the Special guest of Honor.
Afterwards we took the Hippocratic Oath, received our provisional licenses and were served with refreshments.
And to add to the spice of the event, my entire family were present and that doubled as a family getaway (i.e. a mini-vacay), the first we’ve had in years…and oh, it was refreshing!
I remember this time about 5-6 years ago, when getting into medical school was my “biggest” prayer point…I was so obsessed about it, that I fantasized and day-dreamed of it till it became a reality, and now I can boldly say that every tear, every disappointment, every joy, every victory….everything about that journey was worth it!
God MAKES dreams come true! (Psalm 37:5)
So moving on, I’ve tagged this month-
A W E S O M E ||A U G U S T
And according to Dictionary.com the word AWESOME implies:
“inspiring an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration or fear.”
And I just can’t shake off the feeling that it’s exactly what I’m to expect this season. I believe God is going to do something amazing that will leave me in awe of him.
That said, Let’s roll!
More of you (SINACH)
SCRIPTURE FOR THE SEASON
Matthew 7:7-8 AMP
“Ask and keep on asking and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking and you will find; knock and keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who keeps on asking receives, and he who keeps on seeking finds, and to him who keeps on knocking, it will be opened.”
1. FERVENT (Priscilla Shirer):
I’m re-reading this for my Small Group Bible Study and I’ve been blessed all over again.
“We simply don’t have the luxury of playing nice with prayer, not if we want things to change. If all we’re doing is flinging words and emotions in all directions without any real consideration for the specific ways the enemy is targeting us and the promises of the God that apply to us, we’re mostly just wasting our time.”
2. UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)
“Our response should be to reach for Jesus in our moments of trials and allow his strength to make us into Champions. Champions understand that God uses every trial and obstacle as spiritual workout to build our strength and endurance.”
3. THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (Stephen Covey)
“We see the world not as it is, but as we have been conditioned to see it. The way we see things is the source of the way we think or act.”
4. OUT OF CONTROL AND LOVING IT (Lisa Bevere)
“God isn’t interested in using us, he wants to transform and conform us to his image. It grieves him when we allow him only limited access into our lives, the areas we hold back from God eventually become our downfall.”
5. INNOVATION AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP (Peter F. Drucker)
“A new business must start with the assumption that its product/service may find customers in markets no one thought of. Rather than dismiss the unexpected as an exception, entrepreneurs need to look at them carefully as distinct opportunities.”
6. THE BIBLE: The book of JEREMIAH
– Spanish language (Duolingo and Memrise)
According to Duolingo, I’m now about 4% proficient in Spanish language (7 months and counting since I started learning actively).
Memrise has been kind enough to give me a breakdown of the words I learn weekly
– Igbo language
Learning the Igbo language hasn’t been as easy as I thought, coupled with the lack of consistency on my part (there are days I even forget I’m supposed to be learning it…smh😅). I’ve tried video tutorials and Igbo language apps, and they’ve not been as effective as I wanted.
My dear Igbo kindreds in the house, what are your suggestions for a non-native speaker to learn your language, biko (short of hiring a tutor)?
StoryTeller By Design (An Online Writing Course)
So I took another creative writing course recently and learnt more about the importance of my tone, style, clarity and authenticity in writing, the best part was the commitment I had to make at the end of the course:
Summer so far has been pleasant. Thank God for the experiences each new season brings. So lately here are the things I’ve been doing:
– Home tutoring
Throughout summer, I’ll be tutoring an elementary pupil who has a really poor grasp of English and academically behind for his age. Despite these challenges I believe I’ve been graced for this phase of the journey, and there will be remarkable improvement at the end of summer.
– Ankara crafts and designs
Finally, I get to do something I’ve been looking forward to, and is actually fun plus keeps me occupied for the time being. There’s hardly any limit to what can be decorated with an Ankara fabric. Here are a few of my crafts with the skill I’ve acquired:
I’ve been going through selected topics in General Surgery, Internal Medicine, Obstetrics and Gynecology, Pediatrics and then reviewing my History Taking and Physical Exam skills.
– Job Hunt:
The story of my life!!
– FoodNetwork : So I have a new favorite channel (sorry Disney and Nickelodeon 🙋), and it’s the FoodNetwork. Their shows give so much inspiration to the creative mind. I especially enjoy how they make the art of cooking look so appealing rather than a mere chore. And thanks to them, “my kitchen” (well my mum’s) has been quite busy in recent times.
Making Pizza from scratch with my homeys for the first time, a few days back, was one of my best moments this year. Not only was it a memorable experience working in the kitchen as a team (which is rare), the Pizza tasted so nice that we had second and third helpings.
1. Highlights from my Journal of Goodness: The habit of journaling is such an eye opener. I was amazed by the little things I chronicled on a daily basis for a whole month that I’d otherwise have taken for granted. Things like:
– receiving cash gifts (made close to 5K last month from “dash” alone)
– visits from friends and other acts of hospitality,
– random calls and texts that made my day,
– hanging out with family (whether praying, gisting or making dinner)
– unexpected kind and encouraging words,
– feedback (likes, comments) and even new subscribers on the blog!!!
With that experience I hope to cultivate the habit of appreciating the little things people do for me and also cultivate active ways to “pay it forward”!
2. Home Theft Incidence (and a few tips to prevent window-robbery):
So a couple of days back, someone (or more) stole from our house via a window in the bedroom I sleep in (with two others at that time), and made away with some electronic devices, cash etc
It was especially painful for me, because I was up at night to do a couple of things, and on getting back to bed, I heard some sounds (and assumed it was our dog patrolling the compound) and also saw a flash light across the dresser (and assumed someone left a device there that was blinking). If only I’d gotten up to check…
Long story short, it wasn’t until the next morning when I saw my bag on the floor and the window wide open that I began to connect the dots and raised an alarm. It was a rather sad incident for all of us that day and I’d be lying if I say I’ve not been a little paranoid since. Sleeping at night in recent times has been quite challenging as I’m still trying to adjust to NOT getting up to check every weird sound I hear😱
One night in particular, I was so distressed at the thought of another theft that I could barely close my eyes for HOURS, so I literally prayed myself to sleep. Thank God for the comfort of the scriptures- Proverbs 3:24 (GNB):
It’s still my prayer that somehow the thieves would get caught and be brought to justice or the Holyspirit himself would arrest them, cause them to repent and make a restitution. Either way, we WIN! 💃💃💃
For my Nigerian audience (living in Nigeria), these tips might be of help:
1- DO NOT leave your electronic gadgets charging close to a window (except you live in an upstairs apartment)
2- ALWAYS have a flash light nearby when you sleep (that way you can quickly investigate if you notice anything odd)
3- KEEP all money (or better still your handbags/purses/wallets) and other valuables safely tucked away in a locked closet or random non-conspicuous place (eg under the bed, inside a bucket etc 😉)
4- Items like mopping sticks, rakes and other sharps are enablers for these predators and if possible should NOT be left lying about in the compound.
3. My New Muse:
I recently started crushing on this game PhatGal and though I’m yet to get a good hang of it, I can say it’s an interesting one. So check it out on GooglePlay store.
4. 8 Casual, Weird or Not-So-Weird, Things About Me:
(1. I’ve traveled via the 4 major means of transportation ✈️🚉⛴🚗 . Flying is the best!
(2. Brushing my teeth every night is one of my most favorite things to do 👄
(3. I’m the girl who enjoys eating other people’s food (especially my mum’s) just because… 🍲
(4. I don’t know how to/ have never playedchess before in my life and I’m not bothered 💆
(5. If wishes were horses, I’ll eat fried plantain every day and with every meal (or not) 🍛
(6. I sometimes sing/talk to myself while walking down the street and it’s never boring 💁
(7. I’m a confirmed bathroom “worshipper” and “dancer”, don’t judge 👯 (8. Between Watching a Movie or Reading a Novel of the same plot? Well you know the answer already…