A Day In The Life…(01/02/19)

This Blogpost was initially titled- A Day in the Life of a Jobless Doctor😂😂😂

Enjoy!

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5:38 am I wake up without planning to. I had roughly 4 hours of sleep with three weird dreams like that.😱 
It’s pitch black. No light. Nothing unusual. This is Naija.


5:40 am My Alarm rings, and I switch on the rechargeable lamp in my room then drag myself to the bathroom.


5:46 am Back from my bathroom trip, where I peed and washed my face. I’ve also taken some water. Time for devotion. 


6:30 am
I’m done with my quiet time- sang from my hymn book, read the bible and prayed. I have a prayer schedule, today’s prayer was on spiritual warfare. 

6:37 am  I filled in my daily planner. Here’s what the breakdown looks like:

  • 6:00-7:00 am Read two books 
  • 7:00- 8:00 am Edit Blog draft (February: 4 Secrets to waiting well)
  • 8:00 – 9:00 am Work on a project (on my laptop)
  • 9:00 – 10:00 am Study  
  • 10:00 – 2:00 pm Hangout with Niyot/Go to the supermarket 
  • 3:00 – 6:00 pm Study 
  • 6:00 – 8.00 pm: Publish blog post 
  • 8:00 – 10:00pm: Telegram group discussion 

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7:05 am I’m done with the first book (Model Marriage by Deg-Heward Mills). It’s a new one. Interesting read so far. 

7:24 am I’m done with the second book too (Jumpstart Your Leadership by John C. Maxwell). 

I’m sleepy, I should have my bath. 



7:42 am
Fresh out of the oven, sorry bathroom. Can you smell the fragrance of my soap? It’s delicious. #TeamJoySoap

7:53 am Now editing the blog draft I want to publish this evening. 

8:51 am Done with the blog draft. It looks like it’ll rain, which is a perfect excuse for a quick nap. I’m sleepy. 

9:02 am I want to sleep but there’s so much to do. I bring out my laptop to work on my project instead. It has started to rain, I love the smell of rain. 



10:05 am I’m done working on the project for today. I shutdown my laptop. The rain has stopped, sadly.  
It’s time to check the social media. But before that let me get breakfast…

10:15 am I’m back from the kitchen. Breakfast is nothing serious, just bread and boiled egg. I’m not a fan of morning tea. I don’t like bread either, but what choice do I have?

10:32 am Finished breakfast and spent quite some time scrolling through my messages on whatsapp. I almost forgot I left some cake warming in the oven. It’s for the friend I want to visit (as peace offering) because I’m about 30 minutes behind schedule. 🙈

10:51 am I brushed my teeth, got dressed, used some makeup, wrote a shopping list and tidied my bed. 



11:05 am
Leaving the house finally. First of all, selfie time. 


My dad was kind enough to let me use his car and driver (No, I don’t have a car yet and I can’t drive to save my life). I just called my friend, and guess what? She just left her house too…haha. I think I’ll just go and shop.


11:43 am I just finished shopping, interestingly, I left my shopping list in the car but thankfully I remembered everything I wrote but I spent more than I budgeted. All the same, I’m Thankful for God’s provision. 


11:56 am I’m at my friend’s place, and she’s not even here yet. Sighs. Her apprentices are here sha. What to do with my time? Try to study or just press my phone?


12:16 pm
My friend is here at last. She goes to sort out one or two things while I wait in the lobby. I’m trying to go through my tutorial notebook. There’s a radio playing in the shop, I can’t concentrate on what I want to study, so I give up. 

14:37 pm Still at my friend’s place. We just had lunch. Noodles and egg (again, I know). Of course we’ve also gisted non-stop for the past 2 hours or so. 

Meet the CEO, Beracah house of fashion.

Okay, so the purpose of my visit was to try on two of the attires she made for me, oh did I mention that my friend is a fashion designer? Yup, and she’s really good.


15:59 pm
I’m leaving my friend’s place now, my dad’s driver came to pick me. I’m exhausted but it was a time well spent. Yet to study anything today. I know I’m not serious enough and my exam is in about 2 months. 

16:10 pm On my way home a friend calls about a job offer in another town. Yeah, I’m job hunting.

She asks me to write an application letter, send it via whatsapp, and she’ll print out and submit herself. 

16:23 pm Home and very exhausted. I should get some rest, before thinking about what to fix for dinner. Yawns. *So tired*

16:39 pm My friend calls me back again for a detail concerning the job offer. We discuss briefly then I put my phone on silent mode. I really need this sleep, I’m beginning to have a headache. 

Sleeping beauty…

18:07 pm I’m awake. Just like I expected, I have 4 missed calls. 2 from my friend, 2 from an unknown number. I call my friend who told me she succeeded with submitting the application. Then the unknown number calls back, I’m expected by 9 am tomorrow, in Ilorin. For an interview, maybe? To go or not to go??First of all, it is time to fix dinner. 

18:31 pm It took a while, but I finally figured out what to make for dinner. Semo/Okro/Chicken stew. I’ll be going to Ilorin tomorrow BTW. Just discussed the details with my mum. Mixed feelings but what choice do I have? I do need a job. 

18:45 pm Dinner is almost ready. My target each night is to have dinner served by 7pm. While cooking, I’m trying to publish the blog post by adding the necessary images. 

Dinner prep…


19:25 pm Dinner is ready! Yummy!!


19:37 pm I’m done eating, time to plan for my trip. Oh wait, I should publish the blog post first. 

20:04 pm I’m done publishing the blog post. Here’s the link

I’ll skip the tonight’s online discussion cos I need to pack for my trip (who knows maybe I’ll get the job on the spot). 

21:29 pm  Packing, Ironing and Laundry all in progress. I’m exhausted tbh, but I have to try. 

22:29 pm I’ve brushed my teeth and washed my face. Laundry and Ironing completed. Almost done with packing.


22:54 pm Done with packing. I’ve noted my expenses for today (thanks to my Requine’s journal expenses tracker). I want to reply a mail now, then log out of social media. After which, I should read my bible, pray then sleep. Tomorrow is a long day. 



23:04 pm Here’s my Goodnight video…


 Ooops, lights out!!!

It’s pitch black, again. Sighs.

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I hope you enjoyed reading this?
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FEBRUARY|| 4 Secrets To Waiting Well.

Hey Friends,

It’s February already.

Whether you’re waiting by the bus stop to get a cab, or waiting for a friend at a designated place; Whether you are waiting to get an admission offer into college, or waiting for your PhD thesis to be approved, waiting always comes with mixed feelings.

Tension.

Hope.

Apprehension.

Faith.

Doubt.

Expectations.

And the morbid fear of worst case scenarios. What if I never get married?  What if I never have a baby?

Waiting can be tough, and I would know because I’ve been out of a paid job for a while now (49 days to be exact!).

Like for most people, job hunting has its share of dread (what if I spend all my savings and go broke?) and anticipation (maybe there’s a job offer in my spam folder).


Since I was in a similar phase of life [i.e. Pre-Housejob placement], not too long ago, I now know that it is unnecessary, in fact a total waste of time to stress myself over my current lack of employment.

Because it’s only a phase and it will pass. Still this is easier said than done.

So what are the secrets to waiting well?

1. REMEMBER.

Has God said it? Then he will do it.

Numbers 23:19 GNB

God is not like men, who lie; He is not a human who changes his mind. Whatever he promises, he does; He speaks, and it is done.

Hebrews 10:35‭-‬36 GNB

Do not lose your courage, then, because it brings with it a great reward. You need to be patient, in order to do the will of God and receive what he promises.

2. REJOICE.

Since you’re certain that your miracle is on the way, why not show your gratitude in advance?

Philippians 4:4‭, ‬6 GNB

May you always be joyful in your union with the Lord. I say it again: rejoice! Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart.

3. REACH OUT

It’s funny how we can be so consumed about our own desires that we ignore the obvious needs around you.

You don’t have a job, yet? Pray for your friends who do and ask God to strengthen them physically and mentally, and give them the wisdom to do their work in such a way that will glorify him.

Still awaiting your college acceptance letter? Then tutor your neighbor’s son after school or make dinner for the family.

Now that you’re available, endeavor to make yourself available.

I tell myself, “You can’t be jobless and still be useless.”

Galatians 6:2 GNB Help to carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ.

Philippians 2:4 GNB And look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own.

Hebrews 13:16 GNB Do not forget to do good and to help one another, because these are the sacrifices that please God.

4. REFRESH.

You know how a PC gets stuck after it’s been in use for a few hours, and you have to refresh a particular application, or reboot the entire system?

So is your Waiting Season.

God doesn’t waste our waiting periods, he uses them to train us.

With God, Waiting time is Training time.

Revisit the things you’ve already learnt that will make you better equipped when your waiting is over.

Trusting God for a life partner?
Now is the time to develop yourself mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

Trusting God for the fruit of the womb?
Now is the time to invest in godly parenting books, and even volunteer to babysit your friends’ kids.

No matter what you’re trusting God for this season, I bring you this word of encouragement, it will come to pass. 

Ephesians‬ ‭3:20-21‬ ‭GNB‬‬

“To him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of: to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time, for ever and ever! Amen.”

Here’s my prayer for you this month, listen and be blessed!

Have a Testimony-Filled February!

:::requ1ne:::

❤️❤️❤️

Book Review|| I’ll have what she’s having. 



Author: Bobbie Houston

Genre: Christian, Non-fiction 

How I came across the book:

One of the several books in my e-library that I acquired in an online christian group (The Fabulous Sisters Academy) about two years ago.

Expectations:

I was quite intrigued by the title, I didn’t know whether to consider it in a positive or negative light. 

Lessons and Reflections:

1. On making a difference:

Whatever your story is, it has the capacity to make a difference in this world. 

Even negative parts of our stories, once dealt with and overcome, become powerful tools that can bring inspiration, healing, deliverance and restoration to others.

Three things that matter the most- keeping your heart simple, keeping your desires simple and keeping your relationships simple.

Believers are not called to pretend to have good lives, we should be genuinely joyful and excited about what God is doing in us and through us at all times.
God passionately wants us to run well so that our success stories can inspire others to run too. 

2. On Leadership and Stewardship:

Leadership is a responsibility marked with integrity and stewardship. 

When we live as godly examples in our speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, others are inspired to lead godly lives as well. 
Transparency from a place of victory is a powerful tool.

A good leader recognizes that leadership carries a price tag, and that as a leader the margin for error is reduced. 

The mark of leadership is the fact that your life is not your own and you have to “get it right” for the sake of those watching. It is about bringing security to the people you lead.

3. On Overcoming the Feelings of Inadequacy:

Truth is we all feel inadequate at one point or the other. Inadequacy is not a major headache to God; but remaining inadequate is. We will remain inadequate until we choose to grow.

Biblical heroes were human like us. They faced fear, insecurity, inferiority and feelings of inadequacy. We are also making history today, just like they did in their time. 

God is a NOTHING expert. He specializes in making a somebody out of a nobody. With him our “not enough” can become “more than enough.” You will no longer feel inadequate when the word of God is rich within you

When we say we can’t, we are indirectly saying God can’t and that is blasphemy. With God all things are possible. If he says we can, then we can.

A believer must aggressively confront the spirit of containment because we are called to enlarge and expand not to conform to the limitations of our environment.

4. On Church Attendance and Active Participation:

For the church to work, each member must be a contributor and not just a consumer.

No matter how little we have to contribute God blesses us by increasing our capacity.

Weak Christians always look for excuses to avoid church.

Accountability, stewardship, commitment and maturity are some benefits of belonging to a local church.

The gospel message may be free but taking the gospel to a lost world takes a lot of hard work and finance. 

5. On Personal Discipline, Growth and Gratitude:

Many people want the reward of progress without the process. Anyone who aims to be successful must embrace discipline. Undisciplined soldiers perish, undisciplined athletes lose and undisciplined farmers miss the harvest.

If you can’t afford to invest in personal growth, then you can afford to be a miserable failure. 

Knowing the truth is not enough, applying the truth is what sets you free. 

Secular movies/music may or may not harm you but they certainly do not nourish your soul. The furnace is a refining fire, that gets rid of the nonsense, garbage, dross, and baggage that prevent Christians from reaching their fullest potentials. 

Until you carry out the last instruction, God does not give out a new one. We are only given more when we apply that which we already have. 

Love what you do and be faithful because faithful hearts are always rewarded. 

God wants you to be comfortable with who you’re but he also wants you to excel in life. Every christian’s growth and experience, should be continual, always moving onward and upward.

Be a thankful person. The blessings in your life are privileges, not rights. For you to count your blessings, you need to recognize them.

6. On Satan’s Tactics and Spiritual Warfare:

To have the mountain top experience we must learn to navigate the valleys of life. Without a doubt, God knows every bend and curve in our journey, and gives us the grace to handle every circumstance.

The enemy is an expert at magnifying unimportant things and making important things lose focus. And when we lose sight of the big picture we get frustrated by the nitty gritty of life. 

No matter how overwhelming life seems, with wisdom, discipline and careful planning, we can negotiate challenges so they do not become enemies. 

When attacks come from every side, it’s a sure sign that you’re doing something right. Our adversary is ruthless. He does not care where or who he hits as long as someone is hurt. Satan fights like a terrorist aiming for the weak and innocent. 

The storms of life come and go, but major damage can be done if things are not firmly secured. If we find ourselves undone, it means we were not as rooted and grounded as we thought we were. 

Always smile in the storm and you’ll make the enemy crazy every time. Joyful Christians are pretty irritating to the adversary. 

It is a choice to remain hurt and wounded. Strong leaders rise up and keep going no matter the setbacks they’ve experienced in life.

Our strength is not dependent upon perfect circumstances or conditions. A love for God and his purpose gives you the strength to stand firm against all odds.

7. On Convictions, Resolve and Trusting God:

To walk in purpose we must learn to trust God with the time frames of our lives and never forget that he is God and we are not. Patience is the ability to stand strong on God’s promises when it seems slow in coming.

Conviction on a background of faith in God enables us to endure conditions we would otherwise have run from. It’s not enough to have a conviction you must have the skill, determination and resolve to maintain it.

Resolve is an amazing quality. It has you seeking the necessary tools and skills so you can secure your destiny. 

A woman of resolve is a no-matter-what kind of woman. She is a woman on assignment and will never settle for half of a testimony. However, she understands the fine balance of desiring things, having things and knowing when to be content.

A purposeful single woman doesn’t have the time to sit around and wish she were married. She is too busy having a brilliant life. 

Single, married, divorced or widowed is not a status that affects your destiny. Destiny is about being in the right place, at the right time and with the right people.

8. The Mandate for believers:

The Holy Spirit conveys God’s mind to us per time so we can fulfill his purpose here on earth.

Each of us as God’s children have roles to play in bringing God’s kingdom to dominate here on earth. Divided we fall but united we stand.

Resist the temptation to do life alone. God is more concerned about the body, his church, than any individual person. No man’s plan is more important than the master plan.

It is up to us as God’s children to color the world with the goodness of God. God wants us to turn up our volumes so that our stories may resound, loud and clear through the earth.

Let Jesus Christ consume you, let him be your life. Let him shine forth. May all who observe your sweet life say, “I want to know this person who brings light and love, laughter and depth to this lady, I’ll have what she has!”

Observations:

I loved this book and enjoyed reading it. Every chapter ministered to me. I like the author’s colorful approach to life. Even her words of rebuke were rather encouraging. 

Conclusion: 

It’s amazing how much God is interested in investing in me as a woman; I’m really glad I was able to read this book as a young woman who is yet to navigate the complexities of a career, with marriage and motherhood. 

Recommendations:

To every woman who knows she has been given a specific assignment by God, and needs encouragement and strength to continue on her journey, so that she can inspire other women as well.

PPS: Would you like to have a copy of this book (PDF version)? Then send an email to lolade1512@gmail.com

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Housejob Chronicles: Memoirs of an Ex-HouseOfficer! (2)

Please read the previous part here
 

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 1. Can we meet you?

 

I’m Dr Sarah Ifeoluwa Oloruntoba, a graduate of Bowen University  (2017)

 

2. Favorite posting, and why?:

O&G

I enjoyed the morning reviews and working with my senior colleagues. 

They made things so easy despite the fact that I was in a stressful unit as the only House Officer. 

I also had enough time to do other things I wanted to do (like blogging, cooking healthy meals etc)

 

3. Least favorite posting, and why?:

Surgery

 Surgery posting was extremely stressful. 

I didn’t even have the time to go to church and I spent almost everyday  in the hospital. I also didn’t like the fact that I couldn’t really plan my day without any interruption.
4. Best call(s) ever:

The calls I prayed about, telling God the specific number of patients I wanted to see and got my request.

 

5. Worst call ever:

One Gynae emergency call. That night was really eventful.

I was so scared but my chief Dr Sule, was calm and brave all through. 

One lesson I learnt from that call is how to be calm yet brave enough to face my fears and handle situations to the best of my ability while awaiting help. 

 

6. Nicest Chief(s) I worked with:

 Most of my chiefs were actually nice.

However there are some that I will not forget too quickly:

  • O and G posting: Dr Awolumate and Dr Akinro
  • Paediatrics posting: Dr Owa
  • Internal medicine posting: Dr Palma
  • Surgery posting: Dr Aduloju, Dr Ibrahim and Dr Ogoji 

 

7. Most admirable consultant:

Dr Temitope ODI (Consultant Paediatric Surgeon). 

Though I didn’t really know (or work with) him, but the inspirational speech he gave at our sendforth dinner told me a lot about him. An Empathetic Christian doctor who isn’t just out to make money but to make a difference. 

 

8. Most likely specialty, and why?:

Geriatrics. 

I just have this love for elderly people and I feel the way our health system is currently designed doesn’t really suit them 

i.e. the Nigerian healthcare system is NOT old-people friendly. 

Like Children, they have special needs and peculiarities that should be properly addressed. 

Many of these elderly men and women gave their youthful years in one form of service or the other to the nation, therefore they should benefit from good health care.

 

9. Most unlikely specialty, and why not?:

 

Surgery. 😱😱😱

That posting was too stressful.  Abeg!

And their wahala as a department was just too much (a department of numerous rules and regulations !)

I do love the practical aspect of surgery, but the unfair treatment I saw our senior colleagues (residents) go through was not funny.  I can’t live my life like that jare

 

10. Three life lessons from housejob:

 

i. Be brave enough to face your fears. 

ii. There is a thin line between life and death and as a doctor you may be the one with the pencil that will draw that line or the eraser that will clean it off. 

iii. Build Relationships, nurture them and cherish them.

11. Most embarrassing moment:

I honestly can’t remember any.

 

12. What are you thankful about:

 – God’s faithfulness in bringing to pass the things he said.

– All the people I met, especially all my teachers and colleagues.

– I am specially thankful for the new friends I have now. I didn’t really have a lot of friends before HouseJob but God gave me friends who are now my sisters. Hallelujah!

The 3 Musketeers❤️


 

13. Longest day ever:

Day ke? Dayssss… My entire SCBU posting!

 

14. Happiest day ever:

The day I saw my Primaries* result.

 

15. Something to miss:

  • The chiefs who were like older siblings to me. Those ones I could have a conversation with conveniently anytime.
  • My darling friends.
  • Weekend trips to Mount Patti (Fitfam Adventure☺️)

16. Rate your housejob experience on a scale of 1-5:

4/5 

 

17. Call food: Yay or Nay? 

Indifferent 

 

18. New skills learnt: 

Quite a number. 

 

19. Unforgettable patient

One patient in general surgery who had surgeries up to 3 times, due to complicated perforated typhoid Ileus, I think… Well, she is alive doing well!

There was another woman in Gynae ward who had a cancer. She is now late though.

20. Any regrets? 
None that I can think of.

 

21. Favorite mantra:

This too shall pass.

 
22. Shout out to 3 friends you made during house job: 

(Hian…3 is too small ooo!)

 

Debby– She opened her room to me for the entire period. It means so much to me and I just can’t thank her enough. 

She chose to be my friend and treated me like her sister. I love all the lovely moments we shared together gisting, going out etc

She taught me how to take care of my natural hair, and tried her best to bring me out of my shell 😉

Debby, God bless you dear🤗

Deby and I.

 

Eunice– She encouraged me to start my blog the first time I had a conversation with her. 

She is also motherly, caring, and a no-nonsense person. 😬


Ifeoluwa Yes, me! 😂 For sticking with me throughout the one year despite all my plenty wahala. For being bold and courageous to take new steps to an amazing new me. 


Baby girl, you’re the best!😘😍❤️
 
23. What next after housejob?

 

NYSC, then others as the Lord leads.

 

24. If not Medicine, then what? 
 

Farming, Catering/Baking. (Yes, I’m a foodie😅)

25. What’s more important for a House Officer, skill or stuff? 

Both. 

Stuff without skill is useless because the stuff will not transform to an intervention all by itself without appropriate application.

And skill without stuff makes one look like a gambler just trying something just to see if it will work or not, and if it does work, applying it to everyone that comes forgetting that patient care should be individualized. 

26. Thank you for sharing your Housejob experience.

Thanks for giving me the opportunity 😀. 

*Primaries: An exam written to enter into the residency program. 
 

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Editor’s Note:

Dr Sarah (a.k.a Sarah Baby 😍), is my warm and wise friend-turned-sister, a chef of life and destiny (she can cook for Africa😂), budding blogger and a fellow believer in Christ. 

One of the most inspiring people I met during housejob. I really believe our meeting was not ordinary, God had a hand in it. 

Beneath her calm exterior is a depth with several stories of her journey with God, and an emphasis on his faithfulness and constant love. 

A foodie, lover of God and natural hair enthusiast, she doesn’t just preach her faith, she lives by it. 

Dr. Sarah blogs here.

Thank you for reading!

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤️❤️❤️

The Girl’s Guide||Hey, What’s in your handbag?

Hello again, 

This year, I’m introducing a new segment on the blog with the caption: 

The Girl’s Guide. 

The segment will be all about the girl (boss-lady, wife, mom…whatever role/title she chooses): her styles, her tastes and her preferences

It will cut across her wardrobe, her work-desk, her kitchen and her home in general. 

In a nutshell, I will be reviewing beauty care products, wardrobe essentials, toiletries and a few household products, that I’m familiar with. 

I will also tell you why I think a particular brand is great or not so great and maybe feature a couple of DIY tips too.

Lastly, the segment will serve as an open forum for suggestions and discussion threads that will range from beauty care products to house cleaning agents.   

Sounds pretty interesting, huh?

Please stay tuned. 

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For today’s post, I want us to explore the regular contents of a lady’s handbag (featuring yours truly) and why I think each item is important.

Enjoy!
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a. Handkerchief: 

I think every lady’s handbag should have a handkerchief at all times. 

It’s useful for wiping a sweaty face, stuffy nose, or wet hands. 

I use the white 100% pure cotton handkerchief cos it’s my mum’s preference, it’s easy to use, shows when dirty, can easily be washed, and dries quickly. 

You can purchase a piece for N100 from roadside vendors. But it’s more cost effective to buy in bulk (a dozen pack) from retail stores. 

The only downside to the white 100% pure handkerchief, is that the color fades easily, and the fabric wears out quickly, so you need to change it every couple of months. 

I hardly use colored handkerchiefs although I have nothing against them. 

b. Wipes:

I love to have baby wipes in my bag, especially while going on an outing on a sunny day. 

They have a nice, soft and baby friendly scent, that I find quite appealing to my maternal senses😂…

Their moist texture is a plus when trying to remove stains and smudges whether from your face or an object. I love this particular brand, Pampersbecause of its plastic seal, which keeps in the moisture. 

Other brands I’ve tried are fairly cheaper but have no plastic seal, so the moisture dries up easily.

c. Tissue

A pack of tissue is also a must have in every lady’s handbag or carry on purse, for its multipurpose use.

It serves as serviette when I’m dining outside the home (eg at work), serves as toilet paper when I have to use a public restroom and as a napkin to wipe off a dusty chair before sitting.

The Rose Carla tissue is my go to brand. I love it because it’s small, well packaged and has no scent. Some hand tissues are scented and for some reason, that puts me off.

These tissues are quite cheap, a pack of 8 is less than N500.

d. Wallet or Purse.

This is where I keep money and other important little things like my identity card, and my mom’s business card (incase I go missing…lol).

I love my current brown pseudo leather  purse because of its several compartments. I can’t even recall where I bought it from or whether it was a gift. 

The downside though, is that I sometimes forget where exactly I put something important and I have to take some precious moments to empty the entire purse. 

e. Mobile Phone (with/without an earpiece).

Ofcourse there’s hardly any outing, whether casual or official that doesn’t require that I use my phone. 

Apart from hosting my social media handles, my phone also serves as an accurate time-keeper, calendar, calculator, personal accountant (bank mobile app), fitfam instructor (Samsung Health app), menstrual period tracker (Flo app), and an e-library, among other things. 

The android phone is a lifesaver for the 21st century lady!

The only downside to my current phone, a Samsung S5, is that the front camera (especially) doesn’t do much justice to my fine face, hence my “selfie” game is so NOT on point!

I occasionally carry an earpiece with me, especially if I’m on a long distance journey. 

Ditto power-bank and cord.

f. Chewing gum

Having a pack of gum in my handbag is also something I see as a necessity. 

#ChewingGumGang
 
Among other things, chewing gum minimizes mouth odor, helps me to stay awake and reduces indigestion after a heavy or spicy meal. I’m quite addicted to buying them especially while traveling or working an overnight shift.  

My favorite brand is ORBIT which comes in different flavors and has a half-life of about 12 hours (I kid you not!). Although I think it’s a little too pricey, a pack costs about N350. 

The Clorets brand has a non sweetened minty after-taste which I’m not really a fan of, but is relatively cheaper. 

g. Pen/Notepad



I like to carry a pen/notepad, so that I can jot down new ideas since I don’t always like to use my phone. I take a book with me as well, especially when I’m going on a long trip.

h. Body spray 

If you live in this part of the world, where the average temperature around this time of the year is about 35-38c, then having a carry on body spray is a must.

And I love this particular product Enchanteur because it gives off such a gentle, sweet and girly scent. And it’s not too expensive either (costs less than N1000). 

i. Lotion 

This is a necessity if your skin type loses moisture and cracks easily. My hands and feet, can be embarrassingly dry even after doing a decent job on them at home. 

Hand lotion to the rescue!

My mum got this product Hendel’s Garden Goji cream for me last year.  

It is a pretty good moisturizer  but I don’t care much for its “herbal mixture” smell. 

I’d rather use a product with a milder and girly scent.

j. Sanitizer

It’s also important to have an alcohol based hand sanitizer in your bag as a lady, since you don’t know whose hands you’ll be shaking and all the places those hands have been to..(No, you don’t want to picture that!😱)

This brand Radox isn’t exactly my type though, because if it’s strong chemical smell. Again, I’d have preferred a more feminine scent. 

k. Diclofenac 

So I have this in my bag on days when I have menstrual cramps and I kid you not, it’s my lifeline.

Of course, NSAIDs are not recommended if you have peptic ulcer or other related conditions, which thankfully, I don’t have. 


l. Water bottle

Everyone needs a water bottle. 

Male or Female. Old or Young. White or Black. 

Thanks to my water bottle, I stay vibrant, all day, every day.

There is no excuse not to drink water.

Using a water bottle to store your own water, is not only cost effective, it’s also hygienic and super healthy.

More water means less soda.

Less soda means less sugar. 

Remember, a hydrated body is a happy body!

Stay happy, Drink water.

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I hope you enjoyed this post. 

Please tell, What’s in your bag?

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Book Review|| Crazy Busy.



Author: Kevin DeYoung

Genre: Christian

How I came about this book:
A friend shared it for a book review in one of my online small groups.

Expectations:
The title Crazy busy gave me a hint on what to expect. I wasn’t disappointed at the depth the Author went, to bring the dangers of busyness to mind.

Lessons & Reflections:

I love the opening paragraph of this book in particular. How encouraging it is to note that the writer is also a work-in-progress!

Some books are written because the author knows something people need to know. Others because the author has seen something people should see. I’m writing this book to figure out things I don’t know
and to work on change I have not yet seen. More than any other book I’ve worked on, this one is for me

BUSYNESS AND SOME OF ITS VICES:

1. Busyness puts our souls at risk

We are here and there and everywhere. We are distracted. We are preoccupied. We can’t focus on the task in front of us. We don’t follow through. We don’t keep our commitments. We are so busy with a million pursuits that we don’t even notice the most important things slipping away.

We wake up most days not trying to serve, just trying to survive.

When we are crazy busy, we put our souls at risk. Busyness is like sin: kill it, or it will be killing you.

When our lives are frantic and frenzied, we are more prone to anxiety, resentment, impatience, and irritability.

We need to guard our hearts. The seed of God’s Word won’t grow to fruitfulness without pruning for rest, quiet, and calm.

The presence of extreme busyness in our lives may point to deeper problems—a pervasive people-pleasing, a restless ambition, a malaise of meaninglessness.

You can be meaninglessly busy.

2. Busyness is more often than not a symptom of PRIDE.

Our understanding of busyness must start with the one sin that begets so many others: PRIDE.

There is more of Pride at work in our hearts than we know, and more of it pulsing through our busyness than we realize.

We are busy because we try to do too many things. We do too many things because we say “Yes” to too many people.

We all have needy people in our lives, the kind that never get enough attention and always demand more of our time.

So much of our busyness comes down to meeting people’s expectations.

You may have a reputation for being the nicest person in the world because the operating principle in your heart is to have a reputation for being the nicest person in the world.

Living for praise is the most obvious form of PRIDE. Because we regard ourselves so highly, we overestimate our importance.

You are unique. Your gifts are important. People love you. But you’re NOT irreplaceable.

3. Ambition and Self-Importance are direct causes of busyness:

God is not against ambition but ambition for our own glory must not be confused with ambition for God’s glory.

Some of us never rest because we are still trying to prove something to our parents, our ex-girlfriend, or our high school coach.

We work to earn, and we earn to spend. We stay busy because we want more stuff.

In addition, people feel sorry for us when we’re busy. If we get our lives under control, we won’t seem nearly so impressive.

Many of us feel proud to be so busy, and we enjoy the sympathy we receive for enduring such heroic responsibilities.

5. Overwhelming Christian Hospitality and Ministry:

Opening our homes takes time, but it doesn’t have to take over our lives

Christian hospitality has much more to do with good relationships than with good food.

There is a fine line between care and cumber. In many instances, less ado would serve better.

The needs seem so urgent. The workers seem so few. If we don’t do something, who will? We want to be involved. We want to make a difference. We want to do what’s expected of us. But there just doesn’t seem to be the time.

The Bible says a lot about the poor, about marriage, about prayer, about evangelism, about missions, about justice; it says a lot about a lot.

We know we can always pray more and give more and evangelize more, so we get used to living in a state of mild disappointment with ourselves.

For too long the church has motivated people to mission by news of natural catastrophes, complex humanitarian disasters, unreached people groups, and oppressed and exploited minorities. We’ve been given statistics and stories about the all-too-sad conditions of the world.

The good news of Christ’s death and resurrection has been turned into bad news about all the problems in the world and how much more we have to do to make things right.

“You may be part of the bridal party, but you are not the groom. You are not the Messiah, so don’t try to be.” (Gordon Hugenberger)

6. Perfectionistic Parenting Tendecies:

Parents make their work more difficult than it has to be because they overestimate how much depends on them for the future well-being of their children.

It would be better for us and for our kids if we planned fewer outings, got involved in fewer activities, took more breaks from the kids, did whatever we could to get more help around the house, and made parental sanity a higher priority.

We will parent imperfectly, our children will make their own choices, and God will mysteriously and wondrously use it all to advance his kingdom

While we can’t avoid being busy with our children—indeed, it’s a biblical command (Titus 2:5)—with a good dose of prayer, a shot of biblical reflection, and a little common sense, we can avoid freaking
out about them quite so much.

SOME PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO MINDLESS BUSYNESS:

We all need the Great Physician to heal our overscheduled souls. If only we could make time for an appointment.

It’s okay to be busy at times. You can’t love and serve others without giving of your time. So work hard; work long; work often.

Just remember it’s not supposed to be about you. Feed people, not your pride.

1. Set Priorities:

You Can’t Serve Others without Setting Priorities.

Jesus was busy, but never in a way that made him frantic, anxious, irritable, proud, envious, or distracted by lesser things.
Jesus knew the difference between urgent and important.

Jesus understood his mission. He was not driven by the needs of others, though he often stopped to help hurting people.
He was not driven by the approval of others, though he cared deeply for the lost and the broken.

He also knew that if he were to accomplish the purposes God had for him, he would have to pass up ten thousand good purposes other people had for his life.

Ultimately, Jesus was driven by the Spirit. He knew his priorities and did not let the many temptations of a busy life deter him from his task.

If Jesus had to be deliberate with his priorities, so do we. We will have to be dedicated to being disciplined. We will have to make it our mission to stay on mission.

The Son of God could not meet all the needs around him. He had to get away to pray. He had to eat. He had to sleep. He had to say NO.

If Jesus had to live with human limitations, we’d be foolish to think we don’t. He did not try to do it all. And yet, he did everything God asked him to do.

Stewarding my time is not about selfishly pursuing only the things I like to do. It’s about effectively serving others in the ways I’m best able to serve and in the ways I am most uniquely called to serve.

Setting priorities is an expression of love for others and for God.

God does expect us to say no to a whole lot of good things so that we can be freed up to say yes to the most important things he has for us.

Don’t think it rude if some people have less availability for you than you have for them.

Unless we’re God, none of us deserves to be the priority for everyone else all the time

2. The need for Margin:

Margin is the space between our load and our limit.

Planning for margin means planning for the unplannable. It means we understand what’s possible for us as finite creatures and then we schedule for less than that.

3. Limit the use of electronic devices/social media:

If you don’t want to be dependent on your digital devices, make an effort to get by without them.

We cannot have meaningful relationships with thousands of people.

We cannot really know what is going on in the world. We cannot be truly here and there at the same time.

The biggest deception of our digital age may be the lie that says we can be omni-competent, omni-informed, and omni- present. We cannot be any of these things.


We must choose our absence, our inability, and our ignorance— and choose wisely. The sooner we embrace this finitude, the sooner we can be free.

4. Rest:

God gives us Sabbath as a gift; He also offers us Sabbath as a test; it’s an opportunity to trust God’s work more than our own.

The Bible commends hard work and it also extols the virtue of rest. Both have their place. The hard part is putting them in the right places.
Idleness is not a mere indulgence or vice. It is necessary to getting anything done. We can’t run incessantly and expect to run very well.

You can borrow time, but you can’t steal it. There must be times when I won’t work; otherwise I won’t rest.

BUSYNESS AS IT SHOULD REALLY BE:

If you have creativity, ambition, and love, you will be busy. We are supposed to disciple the nations. We are supposed to work with our hands.

We are supposed to love God with our minds. We are supposed to have babies and take care of them.

It’s not a sin to be busy. It’s not wrong to be active.

The antidote to busyness of soul is not sloth and indifference. The antidote is rest, rhythm, death to pride, acceptance of our own finitude, and trust in the providence of God.


The busyness that’s bad is not the busyness of work, but the busyness that works hard at the wrong things. It’s being busy trying to please people, busy trying to control others, busy trying to do things we haven’t been called to do.

We were made to cultivate the Garden of God, to replenish the earth and subdue it. We were made to be busy.

One of the reasons we struggle so mightily with busyness is because we do not expect to struggle.


Effective love is rarely efficient. People take time. Relationships are messy. If we love others, how can we not be busy and burdened at least some of the time?

We won’t all care about every issue in the same way, but there are some issues we should all care about, some issues that should at least prick our hearts and prompt us to pray.


We have different gifts and callings. We have to be okay with other Christians doing certain good things better and more often than we do.

The church—gathered in worship on Sunday and scattered through its members throughout the week—is able to do exponentially more than any of us alone.

WHAT MATTERS THE MOST:

Sitting at the feet of Jesus, whether corporately or individually, never just happens. We must make learning from him and taking time to be with him a priority.

Leftovers are what we give to God when we don’t keep first things first.

A few unhurried minutes are better than a distracted hour, and a consistent habit is better than a sporadic burst of fits and starts.

Few things demonstrate our devotion to Christ more than making time with him a priority each day.

Starting each day with eternity makes our petty problems and long to-do lists seem less significant. By sitting at the feet of Jesus, we will grow more like him—more patient, more loving, more thoughtful.

We must not forget that our circle of influence will definitely be smaller than our circle of concern.


The only thing more important than ministry is being ministered to
. Making consistent time for the Word of God and prayer is the place to start because being with Jesus is the only thing strong enough to pull us away from busyness.

We won’t say no to more craziness until we can say yes to more Jesus. Until then, we will keep choosing busyness over blessings.


Conclusion:

This was a really eye opening read for me. Busyness in and of itself is not a sin, but mindless busyness is.
As Christians our ultimate goal should be on fruitfulness hence the need for a healthy margin and setting priorities.

Recommendations:

I recommend this book for every 21st century believer who wants to live a life of trusting rather than hustling, and live focused in a distraction world.

Cheers!

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Musings 1.9|| MOOD

Maybe I’m not in the mood to write,

Maybe I’m not in the mood to rant,

Maybe I’m just here to whine,

So that I can have words that rhyme.

Sometimes my mind goes on a break,

The creative part of me hibernates,

Sometimes it’s so hard to try,

And a part of me wants to resign.

Maybe it’s okay not to write,

Maybe it’s okay not to rant,

Maybe I just have to unwind,

And allow my creative side to decide.

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@Requ1ne (2018)

Musings 1.8|| Farewell.

I’ll be lying to say I’m not attracted to a certain somebody,

Or that I’m not excited at the thought of a lifetime together;

But my heart and I know that is NOT the direction we’re headed.

To the sweetheart that will never be-

It’ll be foolishness to promise you my undying love,

And wickedness to hold on to that which belongs to someone else.

So I let go,

Of the sweetdreams that dwell in my heart,

And the mushy feelings I’ve allowed to linger.

For I belong to mine.

And you belong to yours.

Whoever and Wherever they may be.


Farewell.


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Musings 1.7|| Naija!

A few minutes ago, I stepped out of the house to run an errand. 

It was close to midday and the sun was shining in its glory.

Still it took me a while to locate my destination.

Having been to that neighborhood a couple of times,

I was embarrassed to see business openings I was noticing for the first time.

More weird was that the AEDC outlet I visited, was being powered by a generator.

Naija, I hail thee!
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*AEDC: Abuja Electricity Distribution Company

Musings 1.6|| The Little Things.

On Saturday, I got a text at 7:16 a.m.

With an energy I didn’t know I had, 

I jumped out of bed and sorted out my laundry.

But the guy didn’t show up until much later in the day.

Today, I did not to wait for motivation to find me,

 I picked up my toothbrush and went to look for it.

Sometimes, motivation lives inside my bathroom.

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