November 2019|| 7 Lessons Failure Taught Me.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while.

Happy Mid-November!!!😀

And guess what?

It’s exactly 40 days to CHRISTMAS! 🎉🎉🎉




I don’t know about y’all but Christmas is about the most exciting season of the year for me.

I love the glam, the jollification, the merriment, and of course Christmas carols!  

Each Christmas season is a reminder of the purpose for our celebration – Jesus! And his presence in my life continues to give me so much joy. 

Now to today’s post…

The second quarter of this year was a particularly trying period for me.

I wrote an exam –important enough to define the next phase of my career– but unfortunately, I didn’t pass it. 😞

Like anyone else, I’ve faced a number of challenging situations in my lifetime, including:

…getting involved in a RTA that ultimately led to the removal of my two front teeth

…being denied a visa

…breaking up from a romantic relationship (of almost 5 years)

…losing most of my valuables (a laptop, 2 phones, an ipad, and gold jewelry) to a home theft in one day

…and “quitting” driving school out of frustration and embarrassment.


But failing a major exam was a first…and the experience was very traumatic. 

While in school, anytime I didn’t do so well on a test or exam, I had the opportunity to make up for it in the next block or semester. 

Thankfully after the initial shock, I was able to register and rewrite the exam and to the glory of God, I PASSED!!🙌

Now the experience has taught me a few things:


1. Success is a lifestyle while failure is an event.

Success is a continuous journey of progress. 

You’re not a failure if you don’t stop trying. 

The first few weeks after the result was out, I was so disappointed in myself and carried the shame of failure around like a burden.

Thank God for the comfort of the Holy-spirit, and the encouragement from loved ones, I was able to bounce back.  


2. Failure helps to foster empathy. 

When I failed the exam, a part of my ego was shattered. 

I was like…a whole me? How could I?  

Failure made me vulnerable enough to admit my mistakes. Now I have realized that failing an exam isn’t always about how smart a person is. 

I’m learning to empathize more when I see people struggling, and to be compassionate towards them. 


3. Failure helps you to upgrade your capacity.

In preparing to retake the exam, I became fully aware that was sufficient for yesterday’s success, may not be sufficient for tomorrow’s success. 

So I took a leave of absence from work, attended a revision course, and was able to devote more time to studying, and participating in group discussions. 

Failure teaches us that every goal requires new strategic plans and actions. 

4. You can’t always determine the result but you are always responsible for your preparation. 

Despite designing a vision board with the intention of drafting a 3 month study-plan earlier this year, I got carried away with the many events going on in my life. 

Sadly, my efforts to crash study didn’t work out as planned. And when it was time to write the exam, I wasn’t well prepared.


5. Failure is a part of the journey toward success. 

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm,” said Sir Winston Churchill.

In retrospect, I’m glad things happened the way they did. Failing the exam gave me the chance to learn what strategies worked and what strategies didn’t work.

It also opened up some opportunities for me as I was able to meet with like-minded doctors. 

Courageous people don’t stop trying, they keep learning. 

6. Failure is a filter to refine your priorities. 

That failure was also useful because it forced me to pay attention to the way I prioritized my goals.  

I was able to recognize that not everything happening around me is worth my focus and effort. 

I learnt to deliberately channel my time and energy to the things that were important to my success. 


7. Failure helps to build faith. 

Failure gets our attention. It sure got mine. 

God can use the failures we experience to humble us, remind us of our limitations, and teach us to depend on him. If we allow him.

After failing the exam, I had no one else to turn to but God. And he gave me the wisdom to navigate that season of my life. 

Failure made my faith in God to thrive.

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I hope the lessons from my experience will give you a bit of perspective, in whatever trying situation you’re going through. 

Cheers! 

PS: All images are from the WEB.

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Book Review|| Ask It

Author: Andy Stanley

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction



||How I came across the book 

A friend of mine shared a few e-books on a social media platform I belong to and this book was part of it. 

||Expectations

While in medical school, one of my friends, Tyn, introduced me to Pastor Andy Stanley’s sermons. He’s one of the most down-to-earth preachers I’ve listened to, so I knew the message in his book would be no different.

||Lessons

If you’re like most people, some of the decisions you wish you could unmake led to chapters of your life you wish you could go back and relive.

Some of our greatest regrets started with choices that we convinced ourselves were good ones.  

While nobody plans to mess up their lives, problem is that few of us plan not to.

You don’t sit around looking for reasons to do the right thing; it’s the bad decisions that require creative reasoning.

Asking the right question, exposes the irrationality of our excuses, reveals our true intent, penetrates the walls of rationalization behind which we are prone to hide and dismantles the arguments we use to keep the truth at arm’s length. 

The question that sets us up for success where it counts, is: What’s the wise thing to do?

What’s morally and culturally permissible is not always what’s best for us.

To foolproof your life, you must ask it of every invitation, every opportunity, every relationship. “What is the wise thing for me to do?”

These are evil days. If you don’t pay attention, you will end up paying a price for your carelessness. 

Your personal history is unique to you. And the sum of your past experiences predisposes you toward specific weaknesses and strengths in your relationships, finances, and career.

So every decision, invitation, and opportunity that comes your way needs to be filtered through this question: In light of my past experience, what’s the wise thing to do?

Chances are, there are places you have no business visiting because of your history—places that would have no impact on the average person, but the average person doesn’t share your experience with those environments. 

What’s wise in this season of life may be unwise in the next. And vice versa.

We only get one shot at every season of life. Whether or not we learned anything becomes evident in the seasons that follow.

If we don’t intentionally opt for wisdom, then we accidentally opt for foolishness.

The tragedy of being a fool is that eventually you’ll inflict harm upon someone else. There’s always collateral damage.

If there is one commodity we must learn to handle wisely, it is our time. Think about it. You can make more money, make new friends, take more trips, maybe even have another child. But your allotment of time is inflexible. You only get so much of it. 

Time not spent wisely simply goes away. And there is no way to recover a minute of it. There is no leftover. It can’t be saved up for later. 

Neglect has a cumulative effect physically, relationally, spiritually, professionally, financially, and emotionally.

As a follower of Christ, your values are constantly being challenged—challenged by another value system. 

If you aren’t on your guard, the culture will draw you into a lifestyle where your time is frivolously consumed rather than strategically invested.

So in the light of your past, your present, and your future hopes and dreams, what needs to change about the way you are spending your time? What do you need to stop doing? 

Our greatest moral regrets are always preceded by a series of unwise choices. Not wrong choices, not impermissible, not illegal, but unwise.

Relationships don’t stand still. They are always going somewhere, uphill or downhill. 

Everybody who has ever allowed things to go that far never intended them to go that far. That’s exactly why things went that far. 

It takes more than good intentions to cross the finish line in any area of life.

None of us plan—or intend—to get into trouble. To leave yourself no margin for error morally is about the most insensitive thing you can do to those you love.

There should be boundaries that are so far from the line of regret that, were we to cross one, we would suffer little or no consequences. 

Long after men and women come to grips with God’s forgiveness, those who have sinned sexually still wrestle to forgive themselves.

If you are single, you need to predecide how physically involved you should become in a dating context. You need to predecide your entertainment options.

If you don’t have your own personal standards, others will force theirs on you.

In the beginning, God didn’t just create the heavens and the earth. In the beginning, God created sex. It was his idea! He gave sex to us as a gift—a gift that comes with instructions.

When sex is enjoyed the way God originally intended, the result is intimacy.

Emotions can make it hard to see straight, think straight, decide straight. 

This is usually the case when love, lust, money, or a crisis is involved—these are not emotionally neutral environments.

Wise people know when they don’t know, and they’re not afraid to go to those who do know. 

We can convince ourselves that our private lives are nobody else’s business. Private decisions have public consequences.

You will never be all you’re capable of being unless you tap the wisdom of the wise people around you. 

Experience is a good teacher, especially if it is other people’s experience. There’s no point in learning something the hard way if someone else has already paid that price.

One of the primary reasons we don’t seek counsel from the wise people around us is that we already know what we are going to hear and we don’t want to hear it.

When we resist presenting our options to the wise people around us for fear of hearing what we don’t want to hear, we are fools. And in the end, we pay. Fools always pay.

Asking for help is not a reflection of your lack of wisdom, it is actually an evidence of wisdom. 

It is what you know and what you do with what you know that make the difference.

Wisdom begins with a proper understanding of who God is and who we are not.

Every time you make a wise decision, you are applying or surrendering to one of God’s principles. 

God desires that your life be a masterpiece that reflects his greatness and your uniqueness. But to create a masterpiece with our lives, we must submit ourselves to the hand of the Master.

In light of your past experience, your current circumstance, and your future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for you to do?

||Conclusion

No one rises above the need for wise counsel. No one. In fact, the more successful we become, the more we need it because there is usually more at stake in the decisions we make.


||Observations

This is a practical, easy-to-understand and authentic read. I like how the author doesn’t mince words. This is definitely a “say it as it really is” book. 

||Recommendations

Every young believer who wants to as much as possible, live a regret-free life, will benefit from this book.

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10 Days In Abuja (Part 1)

Hello Fam,

Welcome back to my blog.

One of my goals this year was to go on a proper vacation within Nigeria. 

Like, girl…live a little and have some fun. 

While I was an international medical student, I had the opportunity to experience the culture and cuisine of a few other countries, and that opened up a whole new world for me. 

Since my return, I’ve looked forward to experiencing the rich historical and diverse cultural heritage of my home country, Nigeria. 

And somewhere on my mental bucket list, I plan to tour the length and breadth of Nigeria hopefully before I clock 60. So help me God. 

One of the places I was hoping to visit this year, was the Erinjesha waterfall, a popular tourist site in Osun state. 

Image: Erinjesha Waterfall

Somehow life happened and going for that trip was no longer a priority. Still I craved some sort of vacation for this year.

So when HRH suggested that I come over to Abuja – primarily to visit his folks – I jumped at the idea.

Thankfully, I got a leave-of-absence from my workplace and had the opportunity to go on this trip, the highlights of which I’ll be sharing in a 3-part series. 

You Can Also Read: 

– My Nigerian Passport And Four Countries

This is Lagos

Enjoy!

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Abuja, is a beautiful city located right in the heart of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) of Nigeria. 

According to Wikipedia.org, it is the eighth largest and one of the fastest growing cities in the world. 

A city known for its ambience and class, Abuja is definitely a must-see for any first-time visitor to Nigeria. 


5 Things You Should Know About Abuja:


1. Abuja is a well-planned city.

In the whole of Africa, Abuja is the only capital city that was built from ground up. Which means, the city didn’t just happen, it was engineered. 

The Federal Government of Nigeria, relocated the capital city from Lagos to Abuja in 1991, because of its central location and the ability to attract people from most of the ethnic groups in Nigeria.

Most of the buildings and road networks in Abuja, were carefully planned from the onset which makes life easier in every way imaginable. 

2. Abuja has a high cost of living. 

Compared to other major cities across Nigeria, the standard of living in the heart of Abuja is quite expensive, from the cost of renting an apartment, to transportation to feeding. 

No wonder it’s easily assumed that it’s only the rich who can afford to rich there.

Many low-income/middle-income earners prefer to stay around Abuja suburbs like Gwagalada, Nyanya and Kubwa.

3. Abuja is beautiful.

Dotted with many plazas, gardens, parks and skyscraper buildings, the city of Abuja is a real beauty that boasts of some of the best architectural designs in the country.

To the average Nigerian, Abuja city is like mini-abroad. Everywhere is fancy and sparkling.




4. Abuja is home to many cooperate organizations, religious bodies and government agencies. 

As the capital city, most of national institutions, have their head offices located in Abuja. 

There are also a few notable organizations like ECOWAS who have their headquarters in Abuja.

5. Abuja has a low-crime rate.

Abuja is said to be one of the safest cities in Nigeria, as the security measures around the city are generally more efficient. 

If you’re looking for a serene environment to raise a family in Nigeria, Abuja is definitely a place to consider. 

(Credits: connectnigeria.com, buzznigeria.com )

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DAY 1: Trip to/Arrival in Abuja

Before my trip to Abuja, HRH and I discussed and made a well planned itinerary for the duration of my stay.

The initial plan was to travel by road (about 8 hours from Ibadan) but my mom would not have it. So she persuaded me to take a flight (and guess who paid for the fare?)

My flight was scheduled for 12:50 pm but for some reasons I did not get ready on time. 

Thankfully with my brother as my designated chauffeur, I still got to the airport in time. 

Although the last time I took a local flight was 2 years ago, I was able to check in without hassles.

My first irritation came as we were about to board. 

A rude airport official grabbed the bottle of water I’d just purchased from a shop in the waiting area from me.

Hian!!!

It made me really mad because there was an older woman also on the queue, who was holding a bottle of water and no one harassed her. 

That incident really pissed me off for the rest of the trip.

And just as I was entering the aircraft, a strong odor from the restroom greeted me, it was really disgusting. 

Arik Air can do better, please. 

Because I scheduled my trip during the festive season (a Muslim celebration), it appeared everyone and their kinsmen were traveling, so the aircraft was filled up.

Many of the families had small kids, and there was an especially fussy toddler whose tantrums were partly entertaining and partly a nuisance for the duration of the trip.

Our flight took off around 1:13 pm and we had a stopover of approximately 20 minutes at the Ilorin. 

We took off again some minutes after 2 pm and landed in Abuja just before 3 pm.

The rest of the trip was pleasant enough. 

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HRH was already at the airport awaiting my arrival and the first thing I did when I saw him was to rant about my ordeal during the trip.

You know na, some gists are best served hot.😉

Even as a returning visitor, I was still very impressed by the serene atmosphere I met on entering Abuja. 

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The trip from the Airport to my sister’s house lasted over an hour but was it was quite stress free.

On getting to her house, HRH dropped me off. After putting away away my luggage, I spent the rest of my evening unwinding and looking forward to many days of adventure ahead. 
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HRH: His Royal Highness. The Crown Prince of my heart.

Just so you know, this happened sometime in July. 😍🙈❤️

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(To be continued)

PS: Unless otherwise indicated, all images are from the WEB.

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October 2019|| The 6Ps Of Purpose.

Hello Fam😍,

It’s good to be back.

Although October is almost halfway gone, I still want to welcome you warmly into this amazing month filled with loads of goodness. 

God has been so good to me (and mine) this month and my heart is full of gratitude. 

There have been so many testimonies in the lives of friends and family, with things that seemed impossible becoming a reality because #GodDidIt

Anyway, back to the post.

Lately I’ve had cause to ponder on the brevity of life as we know it and what it actually means to live. 

Everyone born in time has something unique to offer their generation, sadly only a few do. 

PURPOSE is not what a lot of people have misconstrued it to be.

Some think purpose is all about being in the limelight all the time, like Celebrities and Politicians.

Others think purpose is reserved for a few people with special callings like Clerics and Soldiers.

Purpose simply means LIVING MEANINGFULLY. It is more about who you are than what you do.

Purpose is about bringing solutions to some of the diverse problems that plague humankind and enriching other people’s lives in a positive way.

It’s only by Living on Purpose that each of us can sincerely answer the question, “What am I here for?”

In this post I’ll be sharing some simple tips on how to live on purpose.

Enjoy! 

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1. PRAYER:

Prayer is not just the “Birthplace” of Purpose, it is also from where we draw the strength to live purposefully each day. 

In the absence of prayer, most of us would live aimlessly in this distracted world. 

Prayer gives us the clarity, focus and strength to persevere in each season of our lives. 

When we seek God’s guidance on what to do, he gives us a sense of direction. 

For me becoming a medical doctor was not by accident, Purpose led me here. 

My patients are drawn to me. I take time to listen to and empathize with them. I do my best to communicate everything I do to them. I’m patient in answering their questions and allaying their fears. 

And no matter how frustrating my job as a doctor gets, I know I’m doing it because someone still needs me. 

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What direction is God leading you to in this season?


2. POTENTIALS:

Each of us has been gifted with an ability to meet some specific needs around us.

No matter how little or insignificant your gift seems, it can make a difference in the world.

Some have natural talents that are easy to recognize like Singing, Acting or Dancing. 

Others discover their talents quite by chance then choose to improve on them e.g. Writing and Public speaking. 

I am good at organizing events. I’m the party planner in my family. I enjoy initiating and hosting get-to-gethers, not because I’m a social bee but for the sheer joy of planning them. 

Sometimes, I even generate and draft out ideas for programs on paper for the fun of it. 

That’s also why Routines and To-do-lists are my thing. I’m very good with detailed planning and I enjoy helping others with it. 

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What are you good at? What have others commended you for?

3. PASSION

As fuel is to fire, so is passion to purpose. 

Passion is what keeps you awake at 2 a.m, filling your head with exciting ideas that won’t stop coming.

Passion keeps you going when others get tired.  

Your Passion is what gives you the conviction that every kobo spent, every tear shed and every milestone reached, is worth the trouble.

Passion gets you talking even when there’s no one to listen. 

I’m passionate about Personal Development. 

It’s why I spend a lot of time alone, reflecting, brainstorming and encouraging myself to be my best so that I can give my best to others.

Transformed lives give me joy and I love to inspire people. I enjoy celebrating dreams that come through despite the obstacles encountered. 

It’s the major reason why I do the Accountability Challenge. I want to see people grow from where they are, to where they should be.  

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What are you passionate about?


4. PRIORITIES:

When you’re walking in purpose, your priorities can’t help but align. 

Your priorities determine where you invest most of your time, your money and your energy. 

Reading for me is more than a hobby, reading is a lifestyle. 

So I can’t help but love books. Books have changed my life. They have transformed me and given me the wings to fly. 

I’m a Bibliophile. I love to read. I buy books. I download them. I re-read old books. I review books on my blog. I recommend books to people and harass my friends to share new books with me. 

My philosophy is simple. To be better today, than I was yesterday. And that is why I read. 

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What are your priorities?


5. PRINCIPLES:

Principles serve as the core foundation for your Purpose. They are those things you cannot compromise on, no matter how difficult a situation is.

Your principles should guide you in every decision you make, whether about money, relationships or fame.

I value Integrity, Fairness and Responsibility. These principles reflect my core beliefs as a Christian. 

As much as possible, who I am on the inside is who I try to be on the outside. I’m open with my struggles. I don’t pretend to have it all together. And I’m quick to let go of influences that will likely lead me astray.

I try to be fair in my dealings with people no matter their age, ethnic group or socioeconomic status. I do my best to apologize when I’m wrong and forgive when I’m offended. 

I do my best to be responsible in my commitment to work, the church and to friends and family. I am considerate of other people’s feelings and I try not to let them down intentionally. 


What principles do you live by?


6. PLEASURE:

In the long run, your purpose will give you a sense of satisfaction no matter how physically or mentally demanding it is.

Writing makes me happy. It’s why I blog. It’s hardwork and takes time, but it is my gift to the world.
Anytime I get amazing feedbacks, I know that I’m doing what I really should be doing. 

I also enjoy chronicling my journey and the lessons I’m learning, so I keep journals. It has made such a remarkable impact on my growth that I decided to share this gift with others. And that was why I designed the Requine’s Journal. 

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What do you do that gives you pleasure?
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Which of these six points speak to you the most? Please leave a comment.

Cheers to a Purposeful October. 

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September 2019|| On Happiness, Health and Holiness.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while and I’m so glad to be back.

The month of August was exciting and full of adventure, and I’m hoping this month and beyond will even be better.

So this season, I’m focusing on these three things:

1. Happiness.

Happiness means different things to different people. 

Though some say happiness is overrated, we can’t underestimate the Power of being Happy.

Happiness is like Energy, it gives momentum to whoever experiences it. 

Happiness often comes to me in the simplest of ways…

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– Happiness is savoring the aroma of my 3-in-1 Nescafé coffee mix.
– Happiness is dancing to the “Baby Shark” song and ignoring the funny looks other grownups give me.  

– Happiness is realizing my mistakes and laughing at my own silliness while I make the necessary corrections.

– Happiness is not taking it too hard on myself when I fall short of a promise I made to myself or others. 

– Happiness is deliberating staying out of senseless arguments and avoiding people who enjoy endless drama.

– Happiness is not allowing someone to force their own insecurities on me or pressure me into making decisions I’m not comfortable with.  

– Happiness is being lost in a good mystery novel and ignoring the alarm bells telling me that my bladder is full and I need to go and pee.

– Happiness is smiling in front of the bathroom mirror and reminding myself of how much God loves me, despite my insecurities. 

What does Happiness mean to you?


2. Health. 

Sadly, in the last couple of months I was so busy taking care of other people’s health that I neglected mine. 

I don’t think I’ve used as many medications in my entire life as I have this year. At some point I became so ill that I received intravenous drugs, for the first time ever.

My diet was one area I particularly took for granted. 

Because of the busy nature of my job, I failed to pay attention to what I ate, how much I ate or what time I ate.

And just within a few months, I realized how much unnecessary weight I’d gained. It’s even now embarrassing to wear some outfits from 2 years back. 

Now I’m taking back responsibility for my health. 

So I ordered this nice, comfy mat for yoga and stretching exercises.

My New Exercise Mat

In addition, I commenced the Intermittent Fasting Regimen (using the 18/6 plan) after lots and lots of research. 

I also started keeping a food diary, it’s amazing to know how much calories each meal contains.

Generally, I feel better just knowing that I have been able to clean up my diet and I can say NO to junk food no matter the temptation. 

Some days are harder than others, but I’ll keep keeping on by God’s grace. 

What does living healthy mean to you?


3. Holiness.

I don’t know about you but it gets me sad, and sometimes angry when I see people disrespecting or outrightly mocking the things of God. 

Our generation finds it easy to hype secular things like entertainment, fashion and technology, while they make fun of anything said to be sacred or godly. 

Even people of faith are increasingly more reserved about expressing their beliefs for fear of being ridiculed.  

The Devil wants us to be Closet Christians- shy, embarrassed and easily intimidated. 

But here’s a secret. The Devil is scared. 

He knows that there is so much havoc believers can cause to his agenda, if we rise up to the occasion.

That is why he is out to stop us before we can stop him. 

But we have been commissioned to bring light to a dark world, hope to a hopeless world and healing to a hurting world.   

“You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.”

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I don’t know about you, but I’m done acting like a nice christian while the enemy oppresses, manipulates and destroys lives around me. 

It’s time for WARFARE!

And Holiness is a requirement for spiritual warfare, because if I am to be used of God, I have to be totally dedicated and devoted to him. 

– Holiness means obeying God’s specific instructions  when I’d rather do things my own way. 

– Holiness means trusting God’s direction even if it’s contrary to popular beliefs. 

– Holiness means keeping myself away from the profanity/perversion of this generation- my speech, attitude, work ethics, appearance etc must reflect God’s glory. 

September Mood.😄

What does Holiness mean to you?

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Enjoy the rest of September!

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August 2019|| A Trip Down Memory Lane.

Hey guys,

Welcome to August.

This month I’ve decided to do a bit of internal housekeeping by reevaluating my personal growth journey.

In the last few years, I’ve consistently kept memoirs (in form of diaries or journals) both in hard and electronic copies.

Recently, I went through some of them and I’ve simply been amazed about each phase of my journey. 

Through those pages, I saw myself grow from a timid, insecure lady to a confident and optimistic lady, who is ever ready to embrace challenges, make efforts, commit to bigger dreams and become all of who God has called her to be.

In this post, I’ll be sharing snippets of my journey through the last few years with you and I hope among other things that it encourages everyone out there on a similar journey of personal growth to journal their journey😉. 

Enjoy!

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2013:



“So I’m finally here in SVG. I got an apartment and share it with a lady from Botswana, she’s been nice to me and gave me dinner. Thank God for a safe trip,  for the prayers and wishes from friends and family. I believe God is the Oba Alasepe and he’ll perfect all that concerns me in this land. Amen.” (Feb 11, 2013). 

2013 was the year I consciously began my journey into becoming. 

I considered myself to be a caterpillar who was transforming into a butterfly. I was curious, daring and wide-eyed. 

It was also a turning point as I literally put on my “big girl” shoes. For the first time ever, I was miles away from home, and everything and everyone that was familiar, in pursuit of becoming a medical doctor. 

2014:

This was the year where I felt so much dissastifaction within me, I was tired of living small and being boxed up in a cage mentally. I just felt there was more to life than just sleeping, waking and eating.

That was also the year I got the courage to start this blog…as a form of outlet. 

Later that year, I experienced what seemed like a major tragedy that almost gave way to a post traumatic stress disorder but thank God for healing and restoration.

At the end of the year, this was my confession:

“Eunice Adeniran, you may feel limited but you have a limitless God. He cannot fail you. He is your refuge and underneath are his everlasting arms. It will end in praise!”

2015:



I would describe it as my “Big Bang Year” as my eyes began to open to certain realities of personal growth and responsibility.

I actively began to read life changing books and many things that seemed initially impossible became possible.

My walk with God also became more steadfast, and my personal devotion took on a more lively approach. 

As I went through the pages of my diary, I came across this song I learnt at a concert (TEHILA AFRICANA) which summed up a phase I was going through:

“When Jesus says No, I hope you understand,

When Jesus says No, he has a better plan.”

2016:

I started the year with a strong conviction as written in my journal:

“Year 2016 is the year of the word of the lord, the word profits me greatly. I’m sensitive to divine revelation, instruction and direction. 

I’m willing and obedient to God’s word. My heart is prepared to receive the word, it’s a good soil, fertile and fruitful.

Every aspect of my life responds to God’s word and profits greatly.”
Looking back, it’s an irony that 2016 was also that year where I had to second guess almost every decision I made. 

One major decision I made was coming out of a relationship I’d invested in for almost 5 years. The aftermath was almost devastating.  

It was also the year I graduated from medical school and the question “What Next?” became a constant buzz in my ears.

Thankfully, God in his mercies saw me through that season.


2017: 



I literally came ready for this year. 

Here’s an excerpt from my first journal entry:

“Hello 2017, I’m excited to meet you.

You are a gift and a blessing from God to me and I’m pretty determined to maximize all of the opportunities you bring my way.”

That year was a season of stretch for me as God taught me to embrace so multiple dimensions to my life. 

There were a couple of challenges along the line and even a cheap attempt on my life from Satan but the good Lord gave me victory. 


2018:


2018❤️

This was another very remarkable year for me. 

It was a season of blossoming relationships and upgrading my self-esteem. 

Like never before, I heard God speak with clarity and give me specific instructions concerning.

It was also an intense year (physically and mentally) for me as I was a House officer for the most part. 

The day Housejob ended was a testimony in itself.

Here’s an excerpt:

“The countdown ends.

God is good, he’s indeed the God of my testimony. 

I woke up grateful this morning. Nothing could spoil my joy, not Satan nor his cohorts.

I’m officially an MO. To God be the glory!!!”


***

That ends my trip down memory lane.

2019 has been an interesting year so far and I believe there’s still lots of goodness it has to offer. 

So here’s one more picture for your viewing pleasure

2019❤️

Have a pleasant AUGUST!

:::requ1ne:::

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JULY 2019|| On Adulting, Being Single and Living in Nigeria.

Hey guys,

Welcome to JULY. 

Disclaimer: This post is a RANT and it may or may not make much sense. 

For a while now I’ve been ruminating on each of these three topics in no particular order. And the more I think about them, the more questions I have begging for answers. 

I hope you my dear readers will shed some insight with me as I share my thoughts below. 

Thank you in advance. 

||On Adulting: 

About two years ago while jobless and becoming increasingly frustrated as I searched for one, I wrote this post 

Tbh, I’m still yet to figure out this whole Adulting thing. 

In fact, the older I get the more complicated the concept seems to be. 

As a kid I thought becoming an adult meant having my own space, making my own money, and just doing my own thing, but nothing could be further from the truth than that.

It’s an irony that everyone knows what I’m supposed to be doing with my adult life except me. 

In other words, my business is practically everybody’s business from parents to close relatives, to colleagues at work, to the society at large. 

Everyday I’m faced with choices of what to do with my money, my time and even my energy.

“Eunice, you must get a side hustle o.” 

“Why do I need a side hustle?”

“Because you need an extra source of income.” 

“What if I’m not interested in having an extra source of income?”

“Do you know how hard it is to survive in this Economy with just your salary?”

For some reasons, I’ve still not been able to convince myself about the side-hustle thing, as most of the popular options (i.e. hands-on skills like baking, sewing etc) do not interest me. 

So in recent times my focus has been on saving at all costs, and my dilemma is always whether to spend or not to spend money.

Should I buy a new pair of shoes or save the money to buy gas?

Should I buy soup ingredients that will last a few days with this N2000 or just buy a KFC takeout for dinner instead?

Should I invest all this money in mutual funds or spend part of it in buying Asoebi for my friend’s wedding?

And if I’m to be completely honest, my common sense doesn’t always win in this regard. 

Again, why does Adulting have to be this hard?

***

||On being single: 

This is another shocking realization for me. Being single is not always as rosy as it is portrayed to be. 

Or maybe I’ve been trying too hard at being optimistic as a single lady. 

Of course the freedom to “do me” most times is something I don’t take for granted. 

Still, why does my heart do flip-flops each time I come across a couple doing PDA?

And why did no one warn me that seeing faces of cute babies whether online or in real life will make my ovaries scream in expectation?

What about instances when the innocent smile of a gentleman causes my heart to melt into whipped ice cream ? 

Countless times, I’ve had to remind myself that my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and unwholesome thoughts cannot be entertained there. 

A number of times I even find myself reporting to a fellow believer, asking for prayers and encouragement because I can’t seem to concentrate with my raging hormones.

To be single is hard work, no wonder many people younger than me are running off to get married. 

And as for the married people that like to intimidate us with this annoying cliché “you’ll understand better when you’re married,” please what is your purpose in this life?

Why can’t we understand better now?

Do we have to earn marital wisdom through “trial and error?”

If I can’t wrap my head around taking care of just myself on some days, how do married couples manage to take care of themselves (their jobs, children, finance, inlaws, health etc) on a daily basis without going crazy?

What is the secret you people are not telling us?

And enough of trying to sugarcoat the truth, please tell us as it is. 

Let’s know if we’re truly mature enough to handle it. 

***

||On Living in Nigeria.

To live in any country can be challenging, but to live in a struggling third world country such as Nigeria is nothing short of exasperating.

Living in Nigeria demands a certain level of courage and doggedness that you don’t even know you have.

It’s only a few months to 2020 and we are no where near achieving the 24 hour/day electricity supply promised by our founding fathers. 

Shall we talk about the despicable state of many of our major roads? 

Or the constant nightmare of encountering highway marauders despite the numerous security checkpoints?

And while our political leaders and law enforcers are a far cry from the ideal, the average nigerian citizen is also as corrupt as they come.

We believe the only way to get even is by cheating a system that has woefully failed us. 

So we don’t mind being dubious about our tax returns.

We falsify academic results to get appointment letters and refuse to pay for electricity, water supply or waste disposal, if we can help it. 

Our attitude to work whether in the private or public sector is so nonchalant. 

The aim of the average Nigerian employee is to do as little as possible but get the highest benefit. 

An average Nigerian doesn’t mind shunting the queues whether in the banking hall, on the highway or in the supermarket.

How do we solve a problem like Nigeria? Where do we even begin from?

Should we all just leave and forget about this annoying country?

***

*PDA: Public Display Of Affection.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

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HouseJob Chronicles: Memoirs of an Ex-Houseofficer (5)

1. Can we meet you?

I’m Adeniran Eunice, a graduate of All Saints University, Saint Vincent and The Grenadines. 


2. What was your most favorite posting, and why?

Internal medicine a.k.a Netflix and chill. 

I liked almost everything minus the consultant ward rounds, A and E calls, outpatient clinics and the every day morning reviews. 


3. What was your least favorite posting, and why?

Paediatrics. 

Too much tension in that department, it was as if I was walking around egg shells so I was always stressed out.


4. Your best call ever?

The calls I didn’t do (either sold or simply helped)😃😀


5. Your worst call ever?

Labor ward calls….arrrgh!!!


6. Nicest Chief(s) to work with:

Dr. Sule (Obstetrics/Gynecology). He was the coolest, calmest and the most collected of all.


7. Life lessons from House job:

i. When you get what you want make sure you want what you get.

ii. God can be trusted even when life makes no sense. 

iii. Life not only takes time, life takes effort. 


8. What are you thankful for?

God’s protection over my life as a resident outside the hospital facility, and over my health during the Lassa fever scare, despite being in close contact with a patient that eventually tested positive. 


9. Your most embarrassing moment?

The day a consultant made me cry because I came late for morning review. 


10. Rate your HouseJob Experience on a scale of 1-5:

3/5


11. Call food, Yay or Nay?

Nay. I’ll eat a home-cooked meal any day. 


12. Longest day of Housejob?

Every day as a Team A member during my Paediatric Posting. Surviving each day was a testimony. 


13. Happiest day during Housejob:

The last day of Housejob, which happened to be a day before my next call 😂. Indeed, I serve a living God.


14. New skills learnt?

Practically everything from securing an IV access to inserting a urinary catheter to scrubbing in for surgery.  

15. Any regrets?

Not taking a single vaginal delivery (but I’m a pro, now😄)


16. Most admirable consultant:

Dr. Nwafulume, simply because I was given the rest of the day off, the day we lost one of our colleagues.


17. Most likely specialty and why?

Psychiatry. For the love of mental health.


18. Most unlikely specialty. Why?  

Obstetrics and Gynecology. I detest the smell of perineal blood and waiting on labor patients is such a nightmare for me. 

19. Unforgettable patients: 

i. One of my very first patients as a House officer, who was managed as a case of ruptured typhoid ileitis. His recovery was nothing short of the miraculous. 

Like Deby said, Truly we (doctors) treat but it is God who heals.

ii. Another unforgettable patient was a young woman we managed during my surgery rotation who passed on due to complications. I’m still in touch with one of her sons, and each encounter is a sad reminder.  

iii. I once assisted in resuscitating a “Jane Doe” in the Emergency Room, who was involved in a RTA that involved multiple casualties. She couldn’t have been more than six years old, sadly she did not survive. To the best of my knowledge, no parents or caregivers came forward to claim the body (or maybe they were involved in the accident as well). 


20. Something to miss about Housejob: 

My friends. 

21. If not medicine, what?

Probably, Clinical Psychology.


22. What next after Housejob?

The Medical Officer life, then hopefully Residency. 


23. More important as an Houseofficer, skill or stuff?

Both are equally important.

But if you must find the balance, choose skill over stuff, ‘cos after HJ you’re mostly O.Y.O.


24. Favorite mantra? 

“We don’t complain, we give thanks.”


25. Shout out to (tag 3 HOs):

3 is a joke right?? Of Course it is. 

I want to appreciate all my colleagues that made my Housejob experience an awesome one. 

From @DrChimereze, the first person to show me my way around FMCL, to my unforgettable Flatmates @Emeka and @Osas, who treated me like a lady throughout our stay together, to my rotation partners @Vicky, @Comfy, @Tony, and @Nonso, who had my back always throughout our one-year-ride, to my amazing friends-turned-sisters @Sarah and @Debyo, to my one in a million sugar partner @DrM, my dearest @SPO, the ever friendly @Efosa_M.D, the easy going @DrAmeh, @KingJosh, and @DrFortune, thank you, thank you and thank you very much!!!

***

Editor’s Note: 

And the series Housejob Chronicles is officially a wrap. I hope you enjoyed each post. Don’t forget to send me an email at lolade1512@gmail.com if you have specific questions about Housejobs in Nigeria. 

Thank you for reading,

:::requ1ne:::
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Book Review|| Money Won’t Make You Rich

The problem is not in how much you earn but in how much you spend. To the extent to which you’re able to reduce your expenses, you’re able to accumulate wealth – Sunday Adelaja





Author: Sunday Adelaja. 

Genre: Christian, Personal Finance.

||How I came across the book

On a visit to one of my friends last year, I stumbled on the title and decided it’s a must read.

||Expectations 

While I’m familiar with the Author’s name, it was my first time reading any of his books…so I had my fingers crossed about what to expect. 

||Lessons

A lot of good lessons to be honest…let me highlight a few without copying out the entire book…lol.


What Money is:

– Money is a good slave but a bad master.

– Money is a reward for the production of goods and services. 

– Money moves in the direction of value. The more value you add, the more money you’ll make. 
– If money means to us more than a piece of paper, we are depending too much on it.


What Money is NOT:

– Money is not the same as wealth. If you could have all the comfort that wealth brings, you won’t need money. 

– Every money that comes your way has a source. In actual sense there’s no free money.


Money vs Wealth:

– Wealth is not a miracle, it must be created. It is wickedness to desire what you did not work for.

– Wealth is not a matter of gamble or chance. Lottery is a fool’s way of making money.

– Wealth does not come by working harder or longer, it comes by applying the right principles.

– Income does not determine wealth, knowledge does.

– Knowing the secrets of wealth creation is more important than any monetary handout.

– One principle of wealth creation is to seek to resolve problems and give good service.


On Saving & Investments:

Fools waste money, the mediocre spend money while the wise invest money.

– Savings always add up if we are committed to it.

– Your savings plan should be simple and definite.

– Concentrate on having more assets and investments than you have liabilities.

– Gain takes time. Don’t be in a hurry to reap the benefits of your investments.


On Discipline, Budgeting and Lending:

– Money doesn’t tame desires, only discipline does.

– Personal Integrity is measured by how much you are able to hold on to the promises you make daily to yourself.

– Any amount we put aside from our salary is the only amount we actually get.

– Develop a budget and live by it. A good budget brings order, plan, and focus to your finances. 

– Budgets help you keep your expenses in check. They remove unexpected expenditure from your life.

– Never lend out what you’re not ready to lose or donate. You’re not a bank. 

On Greed and Contentment: 

Greed is the enemy of contentment. It makes you want something so badly that you are willing to violate the rights of others to get it. 

– Greed makes us want more than we can handle. 

– Money will not make you happy, value makes you happy. 

– Godliness with contentment means having a deep gratitude and appreciation to God for what you currently have. 

The Rich vs The Poor: 

True millionaires shun get-rich-quick schemes!

– Rich people have an investment mindset while the poor have a consumer mindset. 

– The rich acquire more assets while the poor acquire more liabilities. 

– The rich are accountable for their money while the poor spend carelessly.

– Successful people love work, the poor only believe in luck.

– The rich do not really work for money, their money works for them. 

– The rich take note of opportunities but the poor overlook them.

– True millionaires live below their means. They would rather live without than buy things on credit.

– A true millionaire knows how to maximize time, talent and resources.

– While the poor are obsessed with having more money, the rich often trust in their own riches rather than God. 

The Christian and Money:

– God is not a philanthropist on a poverty eradication campaign, he is a businessman who entrusts wealth to his faithful stewards. 

– God wants to meet our needs, not satiate our greed. If we measure our lives only by our possessions, we have no more hope than an unbeliever. 

– Money will destroy us if that’s all we are seeking. Money is just a means, not an end.

– God’s kingdom principles apply to money as much as they apply to anything else. 

– God wants us to be rich so we can carry out his purposes, which includes reaching out to the unsaved.

– When God blesses us with money, let us remember it’s God’s.

– If we are not faithful with little, God cannot entrust us with much.

– We can’t blame God for being poor if we refuse to make use of the opportunities he brings our way.

– When you have money working for you, you have the time and opportunity to work for God. 

– A believer should be content living with little as well as with much. 


Personal Finance Rules:

– Do not take a loan if you don’t have a capital that exceeds the loan.

– Never spend on what you can do without.

– Save at least 10 times of whatever you spend on pleasure. 

– The quality of your life is the quality of your thinking, you cannot make a lot of money if you think you can’t.

On Financial Knowledge and Opportunities:

Prayer will not save you from financial ignorance, knowledge will.

– Financial knowledge is like a magnet that attracts more riches. 

– Never stop learning. Continuous Education is the minimum requirement for achieving success.

– Opportunity comes when it comes, and often unexpectedly. We cannot guarantee opportunities, but we can guarantee our preparedness.

– The amount of money people make is a direct result of the amount of knowledge they have.


On Hardwork, Vision and Fulfilling Your Calling:

Master your field. If you’re casual about life, you’ll remain a mediocre.

– Every time you meet a need, you fulfill your calling.

– You alone have the ability to share the knowledge you have gained, for no one else has lived your life.

– Each individual was uniquely designed to meet another individual’s need. No man was created an island.

– Hard work should be enjoyed not endured. Only after you’ve worked hard, should you make time to relax.

– Great people become great by discovering other people’s problems and providing solutions to them.

– What gives us ultimate joy is not the profit of our labor but our contribution to mankind.

– Vision leads to provision. Money flows in the direction of vision. 

– People who achieve success in life never postpone or procrastinate with their vision.

– Don’t compare yourself with others. Compare yourself with your calling and destiny.


On little beginnings and overcoming obstacles:

– Just like a ladder, the higher you go, the more effort it takes to acquire success.

– Those who can minimize the distance between decision and real action are those who become great. 

– The person who does the barest minimum while expecting to accomplish the maximum, is setting himself up for failure. 

– An excellent spirit causes you to go the extra mile. 

– The best way to attack fear is to go ahead and do what you’re afraid of doing.

– Problems can be powerful tools that push people into discovering new ideas and hidden potentials.

The Three Laws of Money:

The first law of money is multiplication.

The second law of money is retention.

The third law of money is investment.


||Conclusion

If you do not already know what you need money for, then you really do NOT need it.


||Challenges

This was a moderately voluminous read and I think in trying to emphasize some points, the writer was quite repetitive. 

While he made many great points, I do not agree with everything he wrote (maybe because I’m yet to get to that level of financial understanding). 

||Recommendations

A good roadmap for every young believer commencing the journey into personal finance.  
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I hope you enjoyed this review. 

:::requ1ne:::

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JUNE 2019|| Mid-Year Review, Reflections And Resolutions.


Hello Fam,

It’s the middle of the year already and God has been indeed faithful.

I’m not exactly where I’d hoped to be (in some aspects of my life) but I celebrate where I am at the moment because it can only get better. 

Amen and Hallelujah. 🙌

Here’s a recap of the post I wrote at the beginning of the year 5 things to do in 2019.

I still need to TRUST God more (not just in words, but through my actions), there are many unrealized goals I have to work towards, and I certainly have to do better with taking stock and giving thanks.   

||REVIEW

(Randomly picked and edited most of these questions from online articles)

1. How would you describe the year so far?

Emm…Interesting (for lack of a better word). 

It’s been that kind of unforgettable year, not in a “big-bang” way, but in a “what else now?” kind of way.

2. What accomplishment(s) are you most proud of?

– Producing, Marketing & Selling a number of the Requine’s Journals and the sincere feedbacks I got from some of my customers (on ways to make the product even better). 

– Finally taking vaginal deliveries and repairing minor lacerations (this time last year it was only a dream).  

3. What major lessons have you learnt in this half-year?

Several. 

i) My life is shaped by my thoughts. A negative mindset will trigger negative actions which will trigger negative outcomes. 

ii) God speaks and the devil speaks, my responsibility is to decide whose voice I listen to.

iii) Success is a spectrum; there’s no total failure – there are only strategies that don’t work at a particular time, in a particular place and with a particular set of people.

iv) I’ve been graced for this season of my life and God is equipping me for the next season already.

v) What I bring to the table determines how I’m valued. To increase my value, I must increase my contributions. 

vi) I have nothing to prove but everything to improve. 

vii) There are always helpers to my destiny, it is my responsibility to pray them in.

viii) Success is attractive and inspires others to succeed. No one argues with results, it is self-proven.

ix) Nothing beats the reassurance that God is for me and with me. He knows what I need even before I ask him.

x) Every blessing is a responsibility, ditto answered prayers.

4. How are you different now than you were 6 months ago?

Physically fatter (sadly😞), a couple of thousands richer (thankfully) and a whole lot wiser.

5. What new relationships have you fostered?

Quite a number, especially with some of my colleagues at work. 

6. In what areas do you feel stuck?

– My current job is pretty demanding (physically and mentally) and I’m really looking forward to a better job opportunity. I can’t continue like this tbh…

– I’m also not getting the most out of my 2019 goals which is really discouraging.


7. What are you most grateful for?

– The gift of Life.

– The gift of Health: Physical and Mental.

– The gift of Men (Friends, Family and Colleagues).

||REFLECTIONS

Looking back to the beginning of this year I was pretty excited even without knowing what the year had to offer. 

2019 has indeed been an interesting year because everything isn’t going exactly according to my plan, but God is reminding me that it’s not up to me to make things happen. 

“Commit your way unto the Lord, TRUST also in him, and HE WILL bring it to pass.” Ps 37:5


I’ve had some exciting moments like getting a job and moving to another town, rekindling some old relationships and fostering new ones, and finding a place of worship where I fit right in.

I’ve also had a couple of challenges like meeting up with the demands of my job, on and off health issues, and experiencing joy in the midst of pain and disappointment.

Then I’ve suffered a few bouts of depression as well…feelings of frustration about being left behind in life, but thankfully I’m back on my feet.  

Partaking of DDK’s Ignition Intensive Series (an online coaching program) was definitely a mind blowing and defining experience for me.

Also, I’ve spent more time, effort and money on self-care (hairdo, beauty products etc) than in previous years. 

Lastly, I’ve read over a dozen books this year including:

Model Marriage (Deg-Heward Mills)

Jumpstart Your Leadership (John C. Maxwell)

For Married Women Only (Tony Evans)

Exploring The Secrets Of Success (Bishop David Oyedepo)

WORDS (Kenneth Hagin)

The Smart Money Woman (Arese Ugwu) 
 
Secrets of An Irresistible Woman (Michelle Mckiney Hammond)


||RESOLUTIONS

Going forward, I have decided to make the most of the remaining months of this year by prioritizing where I currently am over where I think I should be because when all is said and done, 

The best time to live is NOW. 

Henceforth, I choose to:

1) Find joy in the simple things. 

2) Live in the moment everyday. 

3) Be a blessing wherever I find myself.

4) Not stress myself over the things I CANNOT control. 

5) Stop believing the lies of satan that “I’m not enough.” 

So help me God.

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Cheers to a Fantastic Month!!!

:::requ1ne:::

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