August 2020|| Strength

Hey Guys,

Welcome to a beautiful new month.

 

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It’s been a year of highs and lows, but I am thankful not just for the gift of life but also for the gift of strength.

This season, God has been teaching me what it means to rely on his strength.

If I am being honest, there are still days I find myself triggered by the words or actions of people around me, that I end up in tears.

Whenever this happens, I become frustrated with myself because I feel God must be disappointed with me.

I somehow feel responsible for not having sufficient strength, since the scripture says, “he that faints in the day of adversity, his strength is small.” (Proverbs 24:10).

Then one day, God said to me

“Eunice,
It’s normal to get tired, but that’s not an excuse to give up. It’s only a reminder to renew your strength.

Strength is exhaustible, whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, that is why it must be renewed.

So I am asking you to trust my promises and my process, because it’s in the place of TRUST, that your strength is renewed.”

What an encouragement that was!

The Holyspirit also gave me an insight using the analogy of a phone battery.

There are days I charge my battery to full capacity, then use my phone all day, to play music, take pictures, chat with friends, watch movies and browse. At some point my battery gets drained and I have to plug and recharge it.

There are other days I charge my phone to full capacity, but I only receive a few phone calls and messages. On such days, my phone battery remains relatively full.

In the same vein, when it comes to our spiritual battery, there are days we have to pray multiple times, confess lots of scriptures, speak in tongues every couple of hours and listen to as many sermons and songs as possible, just to get through the day.

Everytime we start to feel overwhelmed by doubt, fear, or discouragement, we need to plug in to God’s strength and recharge.

Going to God in our time of need is a sign of trust. God is such a sweet and caring Father, and he’s always ready to help us.

Remember, his strength is inexhaustible.

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
(Hebrews 4:16)

Shalom!

:::requ1ne:::
♥️♥️♥️

July 2020||HEALING.

Hello Fam,

Welcome to the second half of 2020.

Source: Pinterest

And what a year it’s been!

Nevertheless, we don’t complain, we give thanks because God CAN be trusted. 

One of the things this year has reminded me of, is that moving on after a crisis is easier said than done.

The truth is that no one wants to be in a state of continuous despondency, but healing is a process and it takes time. 

In a bid to help, people can indirectly put pressure on someone to heal quickly.

From experience, the deeper the hurt the longer the process of recovery.

“Just move on” is a nice cliché but it it’s not as helpful as it sounds.

How do you expect someone to just move on from a place of confusion, betrayal or loss?

While we must be careful not to glorify our pain, the focus should not be on “Moving On” but on “Getting Well.”  

A person who has not healed completely will not be able to function optimally.

There are several people who are carrying pains from years ago on their shoulders.

A lot of these people end up hurting others, either consciously or unconsciously, sometimes creating a cycle of abuse.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the process of healing.

When it comes to emotional trauma, rather than tell people to get well soon, just tell them to get well (no matter how long that takes).

Another common assumption people make, especially in this part of the world, is that whatever happens (whether good or evil) it’s the will of God.

There’s nothing further from the truth.

The scripture says,

“…God is light, and there is no darkness at all in him.”

1 John 1:5 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/1jn.1.5.GNB

GOD DOES NO EVIL. 

When something terrible happens to someone, it’s not unusual for people to make blanket statements like “Maybe God allowed it for a reason…yen, yen, yen.”

It’s even more annoying when they ask victims to consider worst case scenarios.

For example, a couple has had a miscarriage, rather than just offering them words of comfort, you hear things like “God probably has a reason for taking the life of the baby; who knows maybe the baby would have had a congenital malformation.” 

That’s such a terrible feedback to give to someone who is hurting.

As far as God’s children are concerned, anything that involves loss, hurt, betrayal, hatred, conflict, confusion or despair is NOT the will of God.

This passage puts things in perspective,

The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life — life in all its fullness.

John 10:10 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.10.10.GNB

The enemy’s job description is to steal, to kill and to destroy: whether it’s your business, your health, your relationships, or your possessions.

The bottom line is this, Satan loves to wreck good things! That is his modus operandi. 

So the next time, something terrible happens to you, don’t blame God (and don’t allow people to indirectly blame God on your behalf), rather FACE THE DEVIL AND REBUKE HIM!

Another understanding I have from the light of scriptures is that, God can use evil circumstances to bring about his purposes, but God does not orchestrate evil.

This story in the bible explains it briefly,

His disciples asked him, “Teacher, whose sin caused him to be born blind? Was it his own or his parents’ sin?” Jesus answered, “His blindness has nothing to do with his sins or his parents’ sins. HE IS BLIND SO THAT GOD’S POWER MIGHT BE SEEN AT WORK IN HIM.

John 9:2‭-‬3 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.9.2-3.GNB

Look at that. Although the man was born blind, God decided to use his life as an avenue to show forth his glory.

HEALING is God’s will.

RESTORATION is God’s will.

VICTORY is God’s will. 

Let me conclude with this verse,

We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/rom.8.28.GNB

No matter the kind of crisis a believer faces, God will work things out for their good.

Keep believing.

Have an amazing new month!

:::requ1ne:::

❤️❤️❤️

JUNE 2020|| HOPE


Vulnerability can either be the most risky or the most rewarding action to take. 

Sometimes it leaves you misunderstood or even more confused than ever. 

Other times you end up as an unprepared client in an unsolicited therapy session. 

But the most painful outcome is to become the victim of a shameful story gone viral.

For years, I struggled with the concept of opening up to others while going through a tough time. 

My modus operandi was to suffer in silence.  It didn’t help that I was also battling with depression. 

Only those who have dealt with MDD* can truly understand the sense of helplessness and despair that comes with it. 

Doesn’t it appear selfish to want to open up to people who are also dealing with their own hurt and pain? Sometimes in greater ways than you can imagine. 

Where do you draw the line between trying to cope and asking for help?

The world as we know it today is in ruins. This particular year, 2020, has been especially devastating for a lot of people. 

Amidst the uncertainty of the current pandemic, people still have to battle with illnesses, loss of jobs, heartbreak, crime and all kinds of abuse.

The world is hurting we know, but it doesn’t invalidate any individual’s pain.

How can a patient who is comatose and on life support be aware that the building is on fire?

The truth is that being in a vulnerable state makes you feel like a nuisance. You never know when you’re disturbing others. 

Some people truly want to help but their resources of time, energy, prayers and words of encouragement are limited. So there’s no true help outside God, only his resources are unlimited. 

Everyone needs help. Everyone needs healing. Everyone needs HOPE. 

To be vulnerable is to be human. To help the vulnerable is to be STRONG, not in yourself but in the Lord. 

It’s good to share our vulnerable moments with people, even if it’s for them to identify with our humanity.

We laugh. We dance. We sing. We love. We celebrate.

But we also cry. We get hurt. We feel betrayed. We face rejection. We experience disappointments. We know what it means to feel hopeless & helpless. 

No one has it all together. We are in this together.

May was a month of premium tears, I cried everyday (save three). Someday, I will share my story.

I trust God that in this month of June, our hearts will be filled with his joy. 

“Rejoice in the Lord, always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4, NKJV)

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
    ❤️❤️❤️

*MDD: Major Depressive Disorder. 

April 2020||A Love Letter 

IMAGE CREDIT: Pinterest.

Hello April,

What a delight you are!
You’re like a treasure hidden in a large cave surrounded by mighty giants.

Having you has been such a rewarding experience for me. 

You’re as sweet as the sunrise- its rays bursting out with hope as each new day unfolds.

Your are so sincere and kind, and every moment spent with you is priceless. 

My darling April, you’ve taught me many things; how to be patient with the faults of others, gracious towards those who are suffering and generous with my gratitude. 

I can’t thank you enough for coming into my life, especially at such a time like this. 

You gave me reasons to smile despite my fears, and proved to be a safe haven in the midst of life’s storms. 

April, you’re a gift that I’ll cherish for the rest of my days. 

I love you now and forever. 

_____________

PS: This symbolic love letter is in celebration of Christ’s life, death, resurrection and anticipated return. In this trying time, he remains our hope for the future.

:::requ1ne:::

       ❤ 

March 2020|| UNCENSORED.  

Hey guys,

The long-awaited March is upon us.

For some of us, January was just a trial month.  

There was so much pressure to write down new year resolutions, set realistic goals, and put up vision boards. 

By February, while some of us had barely settled in, the wave of disappointments began to hit. 

For some, the disappointments were mild and far apart, so they were able to bounce back.  

For others, the disappointments were so overwhelming that they just settled back to their old system of life. 

February was an especially rough month for me. 

I experienced my first episode of burnout this year, and on two different occasions I just couldn’t make it to work.

On a particular day, I was so overwhelmed that I was beside myself crying uncontrollably.  

Thank God I was home alone. 

Apart from the mental exhaustion, I was also physically drained. 

There were days I was so tired at the end of my workshift, that I stayed back at the hospital for some minutes, to regain my stamina before heading home.  

To add to the stress, two of my work buddies got job offers elsewhere, at the same time.

One moment we were together cracking jokes and smiling the stress away, and the next moment they were leaving.

I was devastated. 

To some, maybe it’s an exaggerated response, but these guys were my PLUG: the major reason I looked forward to going to work on most days.

The thought of not having them around anymore was rather distressing.

As if that wasn’t bad enough, the workload at the hospital where I work significantly increased, with an increase in the frequency of shifts per doctor.

Sighs. 

Plus I had a couple of personal challenges to also deal with. 

Like I didn’t see all of that coming. 

When I say I barely made it out of February alive, I’m not even kidding. 


Thankfully, when I thought I was at the end of my rope, the Holy Spirit minstered to me through this scripture:  

“Rejoice not against me, O mine enemy: when I fall, I shall arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord shall be a light unto me.”
Micah 7:8 KJV

And this has been my WEAPON in the battle against depression.

No matter how many times the enemy strikes, I won’t stop fighting back!

I hope the rest of this year will be an enjoyable experience. 

But no matter what happens, God is good and he can be TRUSTED. 

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

  ❤❤❤ 

Book Review|| BECOMING 

Author: Michelle Obama

Genre: Autobiography/Memoir





||How I came across the book

As the book went viral, a good friend who knows my love for books recommended it and sent me a copy. 

||Expectations

If I’m being honest, before reading this book, I didn’t pay so much attention to Michelle Obama as a person. 

||Lessons

Michelle Obama: If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice. I have tried my best to speak the truth and shed light on the stories of others who are often brushed aside.


On Owning Your Story:

Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.

– So many of us go through life with our stories hidden, feeling ashamed or afraid when our own truth doesn’t live up to some established ideal. We grow up with messages that tell us there’s only one way to be American-or anything else. That is, until someone dares to start telling that story differently.

– To make impact you must know your own voice and not be afraid to use it.

On Failure, Self-doubt and Success:

– Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It is a vulnerability that breeds self-doubt and is then escalated by fear. 

– There’s no hurrying a bus ride. You get on and either choose to endure it or enjoy it. So it is with life. 

– With every steady accomplishment the doubts about our competence ebbs away.

– The noise doesn’t go away but the most successful people in life have figured out how to live with it. 

– To succeed you must lean on those who believe in you, have faith in your story and push onward with your goals. 

– Most successful people in life know how to manage a state of constant calibration, tweaking one area of life in hopes of bringing steadiness to another.


On the difference between men and women, and navigating motherhood:

– Men are not innately smarter than women, they are simply emboldened, floating on an ancient tide of superiority buoyed by the fact that history has never told them anything different.

– There’s no real formula for motherhood. No single approach is 100% right or wrong. Knowing the balance for your unique needs is what matters.

– There are tradeoffs every working mother has to make to maintain enough energy for life at home. 

– Home is wherever we don’t feel the need to prove a point to anyone.


On Inspiration, Hope and Hardwork:

– In life there are truths we face and the ones we ignore, but ignoring the truth doesn’t change it from being true.
– It hurts to live after someone else has died. But death reminds us that there’s no time to waste time.

– The future is promising not to those who make plans, but to those who believe.

– A person who sees his opportunities as endless doesn’t waste time trying to figure out if they will ever dry up.

– Inspiration on its own is shallow; you always have to back it up with hard work.  


On Resilience, Preparation and Vulnerability:

– To make impact you must be strategic about how you apportion your time and energy. 

– When we unbury our past struggles, we help to steady others who still struggle. But when we hide our past struggles, those in a similar journey suffer in silence, pain and loneliness. 

– Sometimes the right decisions will cost us more than we bargained for. 

– We often don’t know what exactly life would throw our way – whether rain or sunshine, our responsibility is to always live prepared.

– It is possible to be more in charge of our own happiness than we have allowed ourselves to be.

– Set your own rules. Those that truly matter will stick to it. 


On Priorities, Uncertainties and Perspectives:

– The adventures that life brings our way often force us to hold on tighter to our priorities. 

– Sometimes we are too obsessed with life as it should be, that we are discontent with life as it is. 

– The uncertainty life brings our way can serve either as a fuel or as a threat. When life seems out of control, the best we can do is focus on things we can control. 

– People who understand how fortunate they have been, have an obligation not to be complacent. 

– When you put in the right effort to a cause, even if you don’t end up winning, you’ve made progress. Sometimes that’s all that matters.

– We often prematurely assume we know all there is to know about life, whereas we don’t yet know a thing.

– Sometimes no one takes responsibility for looking out for you unless you push for it.

– No matter how exhausted we feel, there are people making more sacrifices than we are.

– For most things in life, it’s a matter of perspective, how we decide to look at what is right in front of us. 


On Confidence, Criticisms and Purposeful Living: 

– Authentic confidence has to come from within. 

– Authenticity focuses more on going deep than broad.

– To make a difference you must be intentional about your dreams.

– Everything we do matters. So we must be intentional the most about the little things. The world always needs an example, maybe that example could be us. 

– If you don’t work at defining yourself people will incorrectly define you.

– No matter how enormous your responsibilities are, if you consider yourself blessed, you’ll live with gratitude. 

– At all times our focus shouldn’t just be to do the proper thing, but to do the human thing.

– There are pieces of public life that can significantly strip away part of your identity. But if you keep your focus, your public office will align with your purpose. 

– The critics will always be there. Judgemental people will always have their opinions. No matter who we try to please, there will always be those who won’t be pleased. 

– Some people want us to fail whether what we are doing is right or wrong.

– We are constantly being watched by people and regardless of what we choose, we are bound to disappoint someone.


On Leadership, Opportunities, and Perseverance:

– With a garden you never know for sure what will or won’t happen- whether anything, in fact, will grow. Sometimes all we can do is to put our faith into the effort, trusting that with the sun, rain and time, something half-decent will push up through the dirt. 

– Each time something goes awry in a garden, as in life, we must make small adjustments and focus on the bigger picture. 

– We can choose to use the power we find inside a situation we didn’t choose, to our own advantage. 

– A leader is supposed to stand out without overshadowing others, to blend in but not fade away. 

– Dominance, even the threat of it is a form of dehumanization. It’s the ugliest kind of power.

– Life teaches us to be always prepared and to sometimes imagine worst case scenarios, before we take certain decisions. 

– As life gets busier, there are many details that can’t be planned for. No matter how much planning we do, we can’t be sufficiently prepared for everything life decides to throw our way. 

– If you’re the first woman at something, your legacy should be not to be the only one. 

– Every woman should feel the ease and get the encouragement to speak and be heard. 

– As a woman, even without brute force, you can find ways to be strong. 

– Life teaches us that progress and change often happen slowly. We plant seeds of change, the fruit of which we may never see. 

– To make a long lasting impact, it’s important to connect your message to your image.

– The truth is that the future will arrive with its own surprises, some joyous, others unspeakably tragic.

– The more we understand purpose, the more emboldened we become to speak honestly and directly about our Assignment.  

– In the world we live in, we must learn to be resolute, to keep our feet pointed in the direction of progress. 


On Becoming:

– Becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim, it’s a forward motion, a means of evolving, continuously reaching toward one’s better self. The journey doesn’t end. It’s a process, many steps along a path. 

– Becoming requires equal parts of patience and rigor. Like children we must wake up each day believing in the goodness of things, in the magic of what can be.

– We need to remain both tough and hopeful, to acknowledge that there’s more growing to be done.


||Conclusion


Michelle Obama:

I am an ordinary person who found herself on an extraordinary journey. In sharing my story, I hope to help create space for other stories and other voices to be heard. For every door that’s been opened to me, I’ve tried to open mine to others. And here’s what I have to say, finally: Let’s invite one another in. Maybe we can better embrace the ways we are the same. It’s not about being perfect. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there’s grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become. 


||Observations

I found this book to be brilliant, inspiring and mind-blowing. I love the author’s unique perspective about life and thorough enjoyed how she weaved the stories from her childhood and from her tenure as the First Lady into the book.

||Recommendation

For Wives, Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Female Executives and Every Woman in her journey to becoming. 

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Did you enjoy this book review?

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤️❤️❤️

January 2020|| A Letter To 2020

Dear 2020,

I’m glad to finally meet you.

There are so many great things I’ve heard about you. 

I’ve been told of how special you are, not just because you’re brand new and full of potentials, but because you’re the beginning of a whole new decade. 

This for me is very significant. 

Just like they say, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step: so does the journey of the next decade, it begins with YOU!

So I want to thank you in advance for all the exciting opportunities you’ll be bringing my way because I’m ready to embrace them.

I’m committed to learning, growing and serving with my strengths. 

I’m not going to hold myself back, because of the things I cannot yet do or the things that I don’t yet have. 

I’m going to focus on the possibilities around me, and what I can give rather than what I can get.

2020, I make a promise to you that I’ll be a better friend, lover, sister, daughter, medical practitioner, blogger, writer and any other role that will define me. So help me God. 

I know that you are my year of good things, and you are so full of glad tidings from home and abroad. So I can’t wait to do life with you, 2020.

Cheers to the beginning of a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.

Your new best friend,

Hello, 2020❤️

:::requ1ne:::

   ❤❤❤ 

December 2019| Gratitude List 

Hello fam,

December is here!!!
💃💃💃

Who else is as excited as I am?

I love, love, love December because it’s such a joyful, bubbling and lively month.

Not only does it shower in the most significant event in the history of mankind – CHRISTMAS; it also doubles as my birth month!

🎉🎉🎉

Any other December born in the house? (PS: Say hello, I may have something for you😉)

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So in light of this season, I want to share 10 things I’m particularly grateful for, over the past year (in no particular order):


1. SUPPORT.

I’m super thankful for my support systems.

I have an amazing family who love me for who I am and respect my decisions even when they are not the usual.

I’m also blessed with a lot of wonderful friends, who encouraged, counseled, prayed for, and cheered me on this year. 

I experienced some tough seasons but I had a tribe that stood by me. 

There was a time the enemy even suggested suicide but the prayers of godly friends frustrated his plans. 

A special shoutout to the amazing @SarahO: Thanks for all you did and still do. You’re God-sent. May you never lack help as you journey through life in Jesus’ name. Amen!


2. GOD.

Can I just take a moment to gush about God?

*insert tongues*

He is indeed a present help in time of trouble. 

Looking back at the year, there were so many instances God showed up for me.

My health was one major area the enemy tried to attack.

I remember going for a particular procedure, and the doctors were like…but you’re so young na and you’re already doing this?

I started to feel sad but the word of the Lord comforted me. What satan was after was my life but he didn’t succeed. 

Truly, I’m the one God helped and I’ve come to worship him. 



3. FAVOR.

I don’t know about you but I can testify that God’s favor is real.

The day I was called to resume at my place of work, someone else had turned down the offer at the last minute. It was almost unbelievable. 

Then to add icing to the cake, God took care of my accommodation for 6 whole months! Just like that. 

Everything that happened in that season of my life was simply a result of God’s favor. 


4. TEACHERS. 

My growth this year has been quite significant.  

Sometimes, I look at myself like “Na you be dis?”

I’m really thankful for the teachers in this season of my life.  

God will specially bless Coach Debola-Deji Kurumi aka DDK for me!

From Doability Coaching, to Ignition Intensive, to Acceleration Intensive and now to the Immerse Inner Circle!

Indeed it’s the EPIC YEAR. 

I also honor God in the lives of my pastors- Pastor Move and Dr. Pastor Paul Enenche.  It’s such a privilege to be fed and nurtured by God, through their ministries.

I do not take this for granted.

5. HRH

I’m specially thankful to the one with the key to that door.

For your smiles, your prayers, your gifts, your patience, your kindness and for being a safe place to be. 

It’s been an unusual year for us but God’s mercies kept us. 

Thank you for not giving up on me, and on us. 
6. HOPE.

When there is life, there is hope. And where there’s hope there’s life. 

Despite the  seemingly hopeless situations I experienced this year, each new day brought something to look forward to. 

I’m thankful for yesterday’s testimonies, today’s realities and tomorrow’s expectations. 
7. PROGRESS.

I’m thankful for Progress, both the obvious and the not-so-obvious.

I may not be exactly where I want, but I’m definitely not where I was.

There are some goals I couldn’t reach, but I won’t trade them for the lessons I’ve learnt. 
8. ANSWERED PRAYERS. 

2019 is full of testimonies not just in my life, but in the lives of friends.

It’s been a year of beautiful and handsome babies!!!😍😍😍

God even blessed a friend with a set of twins! 

Truly, he answers prayers.


9. CONTRIBUTION.

As challenging as it is sometimes, I’d be lying to say that I don’t enjoy my job. 

Well, maybe not all the time..lol.

More than anything, I see my job as a privilege and a responsibility.

Getting great feedback from my patients/their caregivers always gives me pleasure.

And I’m super thankful I had the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of people again this year.  


10. ME.

What can I say of this vibrant, phenomenal, resilient and super amazing woman?

Eunice Ololade Adeniran, you’re my favorite person ever!
I thank God for the gift of you. 

Thank you for not giving up even when life pushed you down.

Thank you for growing, for leaving your comfort zone and camping on stretch street. 

Thank you for staying strong in faith, through the doubts and discouragements of everyday life. 

Above all, thank you for not disappointing the Father, for expressing his love and faithfulness through your words and deeds to the people he has sent you to. 

I am super proud of you, babe!😘

Cheers. 

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So what are you thankful for?😊

:::requ1ne:::

    ❤❤❤

November 2019|| 7 Lessons Failure Taught Me.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while.

Happy Mid-November!!!😀

And guess what?

It’s exactly 40 days to CHRISTMAS! 🎉🎉🎉




I don’t know about y’all but Christmas is about the most exciting season of the year for me.

I love the glam, the jollification, the merriment, and of course Christmas carols!  

Each Christmas season is a reminder of the purpose for our celebration – Jesus! And his presence in my life continues to give me so much joy. 

Now to today’s post…

The second quarter of this year was a particularly trying period for me.

I wrote an exam –important enough to define the next phase of my career– but unfortunately, I didn’t pass it. 😞

Like anyone else, I’ve faced a number of challenging situations in my lifetime, including:

…getting involved in a RTA that ultimately led to the removal of my two front teeth

…being denied a visa

…breaking up from a romantic relationship (of almost 5 years)

…losing most of my valuables (a laptop, 2 phones, an ipad, and gold jewelry) to a home theft in one day

…and “quitting” driving school out of frustration and embarrassment.


But failing a major exam was a first…and the experience was very traumatic. 

While in school, anytime I didn’t do so well on a test or exam, I had the opportunity to make up for it in the next block or semester. 

Thankfully after the initial shock, I was able to register and rewrite the exam and to the glory of God, I PASSED!!🙌

Now the experience has taught me a few things:


1. Success is a lifestyle while failure is an event.

Success is a continuous journey of progress. 

You’re not a failure if you don’t stop trying. 

The first few weeks after the result was out, I was so disappointed in myself and carried the shame of failure around like a burden.

Thank God for the comfort of the Holy-spirit, and the encouragement from loved ones, I was able to bounce back.  


2. Failure helps to foster empathy. 

When I failed the exam, a part of my ego was shattered. 

I was like…a whole me? How could I?  

Failure made me vulnerable enough to admit my mistakes. Now I have realized that failing an exam isn’t always about how smart a person is. 

I’m learning to empathize more when I see people struggling, and to be compassionate towards them. 


3. Failure helps you to upgrade your capacity.

In preparing to retake the exam, I became fully aware that was sufficient for yesterday’s success, may not be sufficient for tomorrow’s success. 

So I took a leave of absence from work, attended a revision course, and was able to devote more time to studying, and participating in group discussions. 

Failure teaches us that every goal requires new strategic plans and actions. 

4. You can’t always determine the result but you are always responsible for your preparation. 

Despite designing a vision board with the intention of drafting a 3 month study-plan earlier this year, I got carried away with the many events going on in my life. 

Sadly, my efforts to crash study didn’t work out as planned. And when it was time to write the exam, I wasn’t well prepared.


5. Failure is a part of the journey toward success. 

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm,” said Sir Winston Churchill.

In retrospect, I’m glad things happened the way they did. Failing the exam gave me the chance to learn what strategies worked and what strategies didn’t work.

It also opened up some opportunities for me as I was able to meet with like-minded doctors. 

Courageous people don’t stop trying, they keep learning. 

6. Failure is a filter to refine your priorities. 

That failure was also useful because it forced me to pay attention to the way I prioritized my goals.  

I was able to recognize that not everything happening around me is worth my focus and effort. 

I learnt to deliberately channel my time and energy to the things that were important to my success. 


7. Failure helps to build faith. 

Failure gets our attention. It sure got mine. 

God can use the failures we experience to humble us, remind us of our limitations, and teach us to depend on him. If we allow him.

After failing the exam, I had no one else to turn to but God. And he gave me the wisdom to navigate that season of my life. 

Failure made my faith in God to thrive.

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I hope the lessons from my experience will give you a bit of perspective, in whatever trying situation you’re going through. 

Cheers! 

PS: All images are from the WEB.

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Book Review|| Ask It

Author: Andy Stanley

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction



||How I came across the book 

A friend of mine shared a few e-books on a social media platform I belong to and this book was part of it. 

||Expectations

While in medical school, one of my friends, Tyn, introduced me to Pastor Andy Stanley’s sermons. He’s one of the most down-to-earth preachers I’ve listened to, so I knew the message in his book would be no different.

||Lessons

If you’re like most people, some of the decisions you wish you could unmake led to chapters of your life you wish you could go back and relive.

Some of our greatest regrets started with choices that we convinced ourselves were good ones.  

While nobody plans to mess up their lives, problem is that few of us plan not to.

You don’t sit around looking for reasons to do the right thing; it’s the bad decisions that require creative reasoning.

Asking the right question, exposes the irrationality of our excuses, reveals our true intent, penetrates the walls of rationalization behind which we are prone to hide and dismantles the arguments we use to keep the truth at arm’s length. 

The question that sets us up for success where it counts, is: What’s the wise thing to do?

What’s morally and culturally permissible is not always what’s best for us.

To foolproof your life, you must ask it of every invitation, every opportunity, every relationship. “What is the wise thing for me to do?”

These are evil days. If you don’t pay attention, you will end up paying a price for your carelessness. 

Your personal history is unique to you. And the sum of your past experiences predisposes you toward specific weaknesses and strengths in your relationships, finances, and career.

So every decision, invitation, and opportunity that comes your way needs to be filtered through this question: In light of my past experience, what’s the wise thing to do?

Chances are, there are places you have no business visiting because of your history—places that would have no impact on the average person, but the average person doesn’t share your experience with those environments. 

What’s wise in this season of life may be unwise in the next. And vice versa.

We only get one shot at every season of life. Whether or not we learned anything becomes evident in the seasons that follow.

If we don’t intentionally opt for wisdom, then we accidentally opt for foolishness.

The tragedy of being a fool is that eventually you’ll inflict harm upon someone else. There’s always collateral damage.

If there is one commodity we must learn to handle wisely, it is our time. Think about it. You can make more money, make new friends, take more trips, maybe even have another child. But your allotment of time is inflexible. You only get so much of it. 

Time not spent wisely simply goes away. And there is no way to recover a minute of it. There is no leftover. It can’t be saved up for later. 

Neglect has a cumulative effect physically, relationally, spiritually, professionally, financially, and emotionally.

As a follower of Christ, your values are constantly being challenged—challenged by another value system. 

If you aren’t on your guard, the culture will draw you into a lifestyle where your time is frivolously consumed rather than strategically invested.

So in the light of your past, your present, and your future hopes and dreams, what needs to change about the way you are spending your time? What do you need to stop doing? 

Our greatest moral regrets are always preceded by a series of unwise choices. Not wrong choices, not impermissible, not illegal, but unwise.

Relationships don’t stand still. They are always going somewhere, uphill or downhill. 

Everybody who has ever allowed things to go that far never intended them to go that far. That’s exactly why things went that far. 

It takes more than good intentions to cross the finish line in any area of life.

None of us plan—or intend—to get into trouble. To leave yourself no margin for error morally is about the most insensitive thing you can do to those you love.

There should be boundaries that are so far from the line of regret that, were we to cross one, we would suffer little or no consequences. 

Long after men and women come to grips with God’s forgiveness, those who have sinned sexually still wrestle to forgive themselves.

If you are single, you need to predecide how physically involved you should become in a dating context. You need to predecide your entertainment options.

If you don’t have your own personal standards, others will force theirs on you.

In the beginning, God didn’t just create the heavens and the earth. In the beginning, God created sex. It was his idea! He gave sex to us as a gift—a gift that comes with instructions.

When sex is enjoyed the way God originally intended, the result is intimacy.

Emotions can make it hard to see straight, think straight, decide straight. 

This is usually the case when love, lust, money, or a crisis is involved—these are not emotionally neutral environments.

Wise people know when they don’t know, and they’re not afraid to go to those who do know. 

We can convince ourselves that our private lives are nobody else’s business. Private decisions have public consequences.

You will never be all you’re capable of being unless you tap the wisdom of the wise people around you. 

Experience is a good teacher, especially if it is other people’s experience. There’s no point in learning something the hard way if someone else has already paid that price.

One of the primary reasons we don’t seek counsel from the wise people around us is that we already know what we are going to hear and we don’t want to hear it.

When we resist presenting our options to the wise people around us for fear of hearing what we don’t want to hear, we are fools. And in the end, we pay. Fools always pay.

Asking for help is not a reflection of your lack of wisdom, it is actually an evidence of wisdom. 

It is what you know and what you do with what you know that make the difference.

Wisdom begins with a proper understanding of who God is and who we are not.

Every time you make a wise decision, you are applying or surrendering to one of God’s principles. 

God desires that your life be a masterpiece that reflects his greatness and your uniqueness. But to create a masterpiece with our lives, we must submit ourselves to the hand of the Master.

In light of your past experience, your current circumstance, and your future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for you to do?

||Conclusion

No one rises above the need for wise counsel. No one. In fact, the more successful we become, the more we need it because there is usually more at stake in the decisions we make.


||Observations

This is a practical, easy-to-understand and authentic read. I like how the author doesn’t mince words. This is definitely a “say it as it really is” book. 

||Recommendations

Every young believer who wants to as much as possible, live a regret-free life, will benefit from this book.

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