November 2019|| 7 Lessons Failure Taught Me.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while.

Happy Mid-November!!!😀

And guess what?

It’s exactly 40 days to CHRISTMAS! 🎉🎉🎉




I don’t know about y’all but Christmas is about the most exciting season of the year for me.

I love the glam, the jollification, the merriment, and of course Christmas carols!  

Each Christmas season is a reminder of the purpose for our celebration – Jesus! And his presence in my life continues to give me so much joy. 

Now to today’s post…

The second quarter of this year was a particularly trying period for me.

I wrote an exam –important enough to define the next phase of my career– but unfortunately, I didn’t pass it. 😞

Like anyone else, I’ve faced a number of challenging situations in my lifetime, including:

…getting involved in a RTA that ultimately led to the removal of my two front teeth

…being denied a visa

…breaking up from a romantic relationship (of almost 5 years)

…losing most of my valuables (a laptop, 2 phones, an ipad, and gold jewelry) to a home theft in one day

…and “quitting” driving school out of frustration and embarrassment.


But failing a major exam was a first…and the experience was very traumatic. 

While in school, anytime I didn’t do so well on a test or exam, I had the opportunity to make up for it in the next block or semester. 

Thankfully after the initial shock, I was able to register and rewrite the exam and to the glory of God, I PASSED!!🙌

Now the experience has taught me a few things:


1. Success is a lifestyle while failure is an event.

Success is a continuous journey of progress. 

You’re not a failure if you don’t stop trying. 

The first few weeks after the result was out, I was so disappointed in myself and carried the shame of failure around like a burden.

Thank God for the comfort of the Holy-spirit, and the encouragement from loved ones, I was able to bounce back.  


2. Failure helps to foster empathy. 

When I failed the exam, a part of my ego was shattered. 

I was like…a whole me? How could I?  

Failure made me vulnerable enough to admit my mistakes. Now I have realized that failing an exam isn’t always about how smart a person is. 

I’m learning to empathize more when I see people struggling, and to be compassionate towards them. 


3. Failure helps you to upgrade your capacity.

In preparing to retake the exam, I became fully aware that was sufficient for yesterday’s success, may not be sufficient for tomorrow’s success. 

So I took a leave of absence from work, attended a revision course, and was able to devote more time to studying, and participating in group discussions. 

Failure teaches us that every goal requires new strategic plans and actions. 

4. You can’t always determine the result but you are always responsible for your preparation. 

Despite designing a vision board with the intention of drafting a 3 month study-plan earlier this year, I got carried away with the many events going on in my life. 

Sadly, my efforts to crash study didn’t work out as planned. And when it was time to write the exam, I wasn’t well prepared.


5. Failure is a part of the journey toward success. 

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm,” said Sir Winston Churchill.

In retrospect, I’m glad things happened the way they did. Failing the exam gave me the chance to learn what strategies worked and what strategies didn’t work.

It also opened up some opportunities for me as I was able to meet with like-minded doctors. 

Courageous people don’t stop trying, they keep learning. 

6. Failure is a filter to refine your priorities. 

That failure was also useful because it forced me to pay attention to the way I prioritized my goals.  

I was able to recognize that not everything happening around me is worth my focus and effort. 

I learnt to deliberately channel my time and energy to the things that were important to my success. 


7. Failure helps to build faith. 

Failure gets our attention. It sure got mine. 

God can use the failures we experience to humble us, remind us of our limitations, and teach us to depend on him. If we allow him.

After failing the exam, I had no one else to turn to but God. And he gave me the wisdom to navigate that season of my life. 

Failure made my faith in God to thrive.

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I hope the lessons from my experience will give you a bit of perspective, in whatever trying situation you’re going through. 

Cheers! 

PS: All images are from the WEB.

:::requ1ne:::    

❤❤❤

Musings 1.6|| The Little Things.

On Saturday, I got a text at 7:16 a.m.

With an energy I didn’t know I had, 

I jumped out of bed and sorted out my laundry.

But the guy didn’t show up until much later in the day.

Today, I did not to wait for motivation to find me,

 I picked up my toothbrush and went to look for it.

Sometimes, motivation lives inside my bathroom.

:::requ1ne:::

Musings 1.5|| Memo To Me


Sitting to my right was an enthusiastic dancer, and to my left, a young mushy couple. 

Worship was good but there was hardly room for me to dance or stretch my legs.

Stealing a glance backwards, I spotted an empty seat close to the edge.

If only…

Then the word of the Lord came unto me saying:

“Dear daughter, If you don’t like your seat, change it.”

I contemplated for no more than a few seconds.

And the rest of the service was bliss. 

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::

Dear October|| Last Moments

Hey bro,


You can’t imagine how excited I am to be writing to you.

This letter is a feeble attempt to capture all the challenges, lessons and memories, of my 30 days of existence. 

By the time you are old enough to understand its importance, I’ll be long gone. Now, don’t cry dear.

There are many things I would love to share with you, that time and space won’t allow. 

These few nuggets from my limited experience however, should guide you in having a smoother ride in your journey through life:

Don’t let life happen to you. I can’t overemphasize this. Take the bull by the horns and happen to life.

Pray as if your life depends on it, because trust me, it does. A prayerless existence is a powerless existence. 

– We live in a cynical world, where hopelessness and discouragement rule. If you don’t want to be a victim like many others, dare to believe. To believe is to live.

Live thankful. Show gratitude for the little things. It’s a sure path to increase.

If God says it, he means it. So you better believe it and receive it.

Let praise be your weapon. For everytime the enemy tries to harass you, let a praise song be your come-back. 

Distraction is a subtle tool of the enemy. The more he gets your attention, the farther you move away from God’s purpose for your life.

Happiness is a choice. If you choose happiness, it will choose you too. 

Getting tired is valid, because life gets hard. But staying tired is a choice because God is always ready to strengthen you, even at your lowest.

 
***

Allow me to share snippets of my last moments with you:

1. Last meal: Boiled yam with egg sauce

2. Last drink: Dubic malt

3. Last hangout: Sleepover at Deby’s

4. Last song I danced to: Hallelujah by Funbi

5. Last sermon: Doubtlessly Anointed (Pastor Move)

6. Last game I played: Ehm…Duolingo?

7. Last article I wrote: Musings 1.4|| The best place to be 

8. Last book I read: Firebrand by Debola Deji-Kurumi 

9. Last chore I did: Laundry

10. Last friend I chatted with: Peter aka SPO

***

I pray that the Lord guides your steps in all you do.
May testimonies abound in your life everyday. 
You will do far greater exploits than any of your predecessors.

Cheers to a beautiful existence!

Your Big Sister,
😍😍😍

September.

:::requ1ne:::

BOOK REVIEW|| The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People 

Author: Stephen R. Covey

Genre: Self-help, Non-Fiction



How I came about the book
A few years back, a friend read this book via kindle and what he shared was so amazing that I decided it was a must read. Last year, I bought a copy at a roadside bookstand in Lagos. It took all of N1500, and the book was worth every penny.

Expectations
From what my friend had shared, I knew reading this book was going to impact me in every way.
I especially looked forward to becoming a better version of me and I wasn’t disappointed.


Observations
Can I just say that this book is deep?
And not in the spiritual sense of it.

A lazy mind cannot grasp its many insights.

Lessons
Talk about the mind-blowing lessons in this book. 

It’s not hype. It’s real. 

To keep it simple, I have put the lessons under some sub-headings.


On Habits, Principles & Perspectives:

  • -A habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire.
  • -There is no short-cut to success, the price must be paid and the process followed.
  • -Principles are like lighthouses, they are natural laws that can not be broken.
  • -Principles don’t die. They are bigger than people or circumstances.
  • -If you’re not sure people trust you, you should ask yourself if you are trustworthy.
  • -Private victories precede public victories. Every time.
  • -Making and keeping promises to ourselves is more important than making and keeping promises to others.

We are what we continously do, Excellence then is not an act but a habit (Aristotle).

On Responsibility:

  • -Responsibility is the ability to choose your response.
  • -Between what happens to us (the stimulus) and our response to it, is our greatest power- the freedom to choose.
  • -Until we can say we are who we are today because of the choices we made yesterday, we cannot choose otherwise.
  • -Many people wait for something to happen before they do something.
  • -If you wait to be acted upon, you will be acted upon.
  • -“Proactive people focus their efforts in the circle of influence. Reactive people focus their efforts in the circle of concern.”
  • -Not to acknowledge a mistake, is a mistake in itself.

That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly. Heaven knows how to put a proper price on its goods. (Thomas Paine).

On Effectiveness:

  • -Success in one area does not compensate for failure in another area of life.
  • -Delegation to time is efficiency, but delegation to people is effectiveness.
  • -To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination.
  • -Effectiveness deals less with how much effort we put but on whether we are putting it in the right direction.
  • -Effective people are not problem-minded but opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems.
  • -Not every problem that arises is important.
  • -We must beware lest we focus on winning the battle that we lose the war.

On Vision & Values:


  • -Your mission statement is your constitution, the solid expression of your vision and values.
  • -Having a sense of vision about what you’re trying to be not only gives you long-term satisfaction but also short-term excitement.
  • -By identifying where you want to be, you discover where you are.

On Discipline & Time-Management:



  • -Discipline is the ability to do something even when you don’t want to do it.
  • -Not all urgent matters are important, and not all important matters are urgent. It takes wisdom to know the difference.
  • -To say YES to what is important we have to say NO to what is not important.
  • -The key is not to prioritize our schedules, but to schedule our priorities.
  • -Some important activities are more important than others.
  • -When your values control your schedule and not vice-versa, you’re flexible enough not to feel guilty when you don’t meet up to a particular schedule.

On Relationships & Loyalty:

  • -Look at the weaknesses of others with compassion, not accusation.
  • -Our most constant relationships require our most constant deposits.
  • -A quick fix is a mirage. Building and Repairing relationships take time.
  • -To make an emotional deposit, what is important to another person must be as important as that person is to you.
  • -We must be sensitive enough not to project our own intentions and interests on the behaviors of others.
  • -To do unto others what you want them to do to you, is to make them feel as good as you would want them to make you feel by doing the things they would love, not necessarily what you’d love.
  • -It’s better not to make a promise than to make a promise that you can’t keep.
  • -One way to show integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present. When you defend those who are absent, you retain the trust of those present.
  • -Relational problems are a great opportunity to build relationships.
  • -Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.
  • -No man’s success should be achieved at the expense or exclusion of another’s.

On Communication:

  • -Conflict resolution is not about my way or your way but a better way.
  • -Unexpressed feelings never die, they are buried alive and often wreck havoc in future.
  • -Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. You not only have to be empathic, you have to be confident.
  • -We must take time to know a problem before we offer advice.
  • -Empathic listening is listening with the intent to understand.
  • -Communication is 10% of words, 30% of sounds and 60% of body language.
  • -It’s not enough to listen with our ears, we must also learn to listen with our eyes and our hearts.
  • -In an effort to understand others, we listen, and by listening, we learn.
  • -The best way to look at people’s problems is through their eyes.

On Self-Care and Personal Development

  • -Self investment is the single most powerful investment anyone can make.
  • -We can’t live without eating, but we don’t live to eat.
  • -Your physical health affects your mental health; your spiritual health affects your social health.
  • -Improvement in one habit affects productivity in others.
  • -That which we persist in becomes easier.
  • -Many of us think we don’t have enough time to exercise. We don’t have time not to.
  • -A good exercise program is the one you can do in your own home and that will build your body in endurance, flexibility and strength.
  • -The person who doesn’t read is no better than the person who can’t read.
  • -The law of the harvest governs life- eventually we all reap what we sow.
  • The world shapes human behavior but Christ changes human nature.

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Teilhard de Chardin.

Challenges
The book is such a long read that if you’re not determined, you’ll get bored after a few pages.
Secondly, the author made to really emphasize some points over and over which wasn’t necessary in my opinion.

Because I had a hardcover copy I was not able to read it on the go. So I to had to create time at home for it.

Who should read the book?
You already know the answer? *winks*
Everyone.
Whether you’re trying to be an effective student, parent, employee or boss, this book will make you sit up.

Recommendation
I’ll give the book a rating of 4.5/5
Just because it took me all of 3 months at least, to finish it.

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I hope you enjoyed this review.
Have you read this book?

Pls share your thoughts.

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

BOOK REVIEW|| FERVENT

Author: Priscilla Shirer

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about the book
Similar to the book UNSTOPPABLE, it was from a library of books shared by an amazing sister in our TFSA group.

Expectations
If you’ve watched The Movie, WAR ROOM then you are already familiar with the amazing Priscilla Shirer who acted the main character in the movie.

For some reasons, I’m yet to watch the movie but was pretty excited about reading the book.

And can I just say this? I LOVE(D) THE BOOK.

Every page I turned was loaded.

I’ve read it twice already and look forward to a third read.


 

Observations
The book was an easy read.
The writing format was personal.
It was as though the author was speaking to me directly.

The crux of the book was PRAYER.
It is not a book that cajoles you to pray.
It is a book that compels you to pray.

“We simply don’t have the luxury of playing nice with prayer, not if we want things to change.”

You don’t even have a choice.

For every page you turn…

You Read.

You Meditate.

You Pray.

Then Repeat.

The enemy starts failing when we start praying!

Lessons
The lessons in this book are just too numerous and it’ll be a great disservice for you to think you can make do with the few snippets I’ll share here:

1- Prayer is the portal that brings the power of heaven down to earth. Fervent prayer is fueled by passion and fed by faith!

2- The battles the enemy wages has a personality to them, an intimate knowledge of who you are and the precise pressure points where you can most easily be taken down.

3- Satan is not God. And he is not God’s counterpart or peer. They’re not even on the same playing field. His influence, authority, and power don’t even touch the fringe of what our Lord is capable of doing. Satan and God are not mates, period.

4- Prayer: It’s how we keep our whole selves engaged and alert, trusting God for the right things, confident He’s giving them, able to sense His direction about what to do and then to take action accordingly.

5- Expect prayer to expose where you’re still resisting God—not only resisting His commands but resisting the manifold blessings and benefits He gives to those who follow him.

6- Instead of convicting you for the purpose of restoration, as God’s Spirit does, Satan condemns you for the purpose of destroying and humiliating you. There’s nothing bad in your life the devil won’t try to make worse!

7- Focus protects your goals and dreams from being consumed in small bites, stolen right out from under your nose in twenty-minute segments of compromise.

8- There is something you can’t see working underneath the surface, controlling and manipulating what you can see. Praying with precision is key. When we pray about the places where we seriously suspect the enemy is at work—that’s how we keep our prayers focused, not only on particular situations but on biblical truths that are consistent with maintaining victory in the midst of them.

9- One of the enemy’s strategies is to make you mourn who you wish you were rather than celebrate who you really are. His primary tools are Insecurity and Self doubt.

10- Prayer is a reminder to yourself, as well as a declaration to the enemy, that you know he’s there. That you’re on to him.

11- Prayer makes us aware of all the resources and strength and protection that God has already placed on our side.

12- Stop at the place where you first recognize the scent of temptation in the air. And before you touch it, remember where it’s been, where it came from and who’s behind it- SATAN!

13- God’s purpose in giving you Sabbath spaces amid your full, productive life is to help you be uninhibited in your devotion, service, and worship of Yahweh.

14- Prayer—fervent, strategic prayer—can change things. Even unchangeable things. Even things as unchangeable as real-life scenes from your past—what you did, what you didn’t do, why you did it, why you didn’t.

15- Expect your fervency to lead you to a place of rest. Because God is the One who’s fighting for you. And He will surely prevail.


Let me just stop here….you all need to get this book!

Challenges

It’s easy to forget the great lessons in the book if you don’t put them to practice immediately. To maximize this book, you can share it with a friend, prayer partner or members of your small Christian group so you each other accountable.

Who should read the book?

Everyone.

Especially, you reading this review.

Yes, YOU.

Trust me when I say your life CANNOT remain the same afterwards.


I’m a living witness.

PS: A lazy christian will not benefit from the book.

Conclusion

FERVENT literally forces your spiritual eyes to open.

You begin to notice things.

Familial Patterns, Self destructive Habits or Carnal Feelings that you might have hitherto taken for granted.

Recommendation

This book is pure Gold and I recommend it for:

Every Sister who wants to make a difference,

Every Daughter who wants to know the truth,

Every Wife who wants to live in peace,

Every Mother who wants to walk in victory,

And,

Every believer with a burden to intercede, both male and female.

And if you are thinking of going on a few days personal retreat, FERVENT is definitely a choice book to take along.

It will also help to make (or buy) Scripture flash cards and keep a Prayer journal while reading this book. You’ll be glad you did.

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I hope you enjoyed this review.

Have you read FERVENT? 

If yes, please share your thoughts.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

BOOK REVIEW|| U N S T O P P A B L E

Author|| Christine Caine

Genre|| Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about the book

A wonderful sister-girl from The Fabulous Sistership Academy (TFSA) put together by our amazing mentor, Coach E, shared a library of e-books in the group and this happened to be one of them. 

I so much enjoyed reading it that I recommended it in my small group bible study and we took time to read it together.

Expectations
Tbh, I didn’t  know what to expect the first time I read this book. I assumed it was like any other good christian book I’d come across. How wrong I was. This book was much more. I look forward to reading it again in the near future.

Observations

It was an easy book for me to read. I love good stories.  Many vivid stories were weaved into the chapters of the book, and I practically related with every given scenario.

Lessons

Wow. Where do I even start from? Let me just share a few of the insights:

God has plucked you out of eternity, positioned you in time, and given you gifts and talents to serve him in this generation. Your race is now. This is your time in history. You’ve been handed the baton of faith and entrusted to carry it forward as you run your part in God’s divine relay.

In the divine relay, every believer is called to run, and the only spectators are those already in heaven’s grand stand.

Ready is a tricky word when it comes to following Jesus and doing his will. Because there is a huge difference between feeling ready and actually being ready.

When God calls us and sends us, we are ready whether we feel like we are or not.

If you want to know your part in bringing light and hope and healing into this fractured world, do something. Do anything. But don’t just stand there.

Find a need that needs filling and fill it. Find others who are running and run with them. Ask God to move your heart and open your eyes to other runners who might hand off batons to you.

When we offer our “not enough” to God he will multiply it into his “more than enough.”

Most God given dreams take longer than we think to realize, cost more than we ever thought we’d have to pay, and are far more painful to birth than we ever imagined.

Together we reflect more of God than any of us can do alone.

We are only unstoppable because Christ in us is unstoppable

Challenges
I won’t call it a challenge per se, but the book is not one to be read at a glance or while you are distracted.
It requires that you set some quality time apart to read, and reflect on the lessons from the book.

Who should read the book?
Any purpose-minded believer who wants to play their part in this relay race called Life.

Conclusion
This is a CALL-TO-ACTION book. It has helped me to understand that God doesn’t waste any season/relationship (whether good or bad) in my life, and that every phase I pass through is in preparation for another.



Recommendations
I’m recommending this book for young believers and anyone who wants to DO PURPOSE.

Did you enjoy this book review?

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

PS: All images are from the web. 

Housejob Chronicles- Coping Mechanisms!

Hello Everybody,

It’s CHRISTMAS!!


And I’m glad even though it doesn’t really feel like Christmas around me.

While everyone else was busy planning special activities for this Yuletide season, my routines were pretty much the same.

Sleep, wake up, go to work, sleep, wake up, go to work…” 

Everything else from cooking to cleaning get lumped into each day. 

I’ve really missed my very organized self. 😢

There are days I don’t even have the time to eat one proper meal. No kidding.

On such days I’m doubly thankful for Coca-Cola. 


It’s an essential tool for preventing hypoglycemic shock.😉

So my birthday was a couple of days ago and among other things, I’m thankful for God’s MERCY. He is the reason I’m still STANDING.


The latter part of this year has been trying for me spiritually (erratic with no functional church, dusty bible syndrome et al),  but his MERCIES kept me. So the song on replay for my birthday was this:

I won’t even lie, my last few postings have been increasingly hectic. I just switched from Orthopaedic to Neurosurgery, and every other day there’s at least one RTA patient waiting for me in the Emergency ward. 

At several points, I almost broke down (Physically and Mentally) and there were days I found myself in tears (I know, “too much water” in my tear glands..haha). In the midst of all that, God has been teaching me some vital lessons for this season which I’d like to share:  

1. PRAY MORE, NOT LESS.

This sounds obvious right? if only you know how hard it can get. 

Everyday feels like a marathon as I try to race against time (I can still hear my Reg’s voice, “IPR starts by 7:00am”. Yet I’m in the hospital till after 10 p.m. on some days even when I’m not on CALL but that’s no excuse not to have a quality time with GOD (my Father): who is the Source and Centre of it all. 

From my experience, the less I pray, the more irritable, tired, anxious, distracted and restless I get.

Pray as if your life depends on it, because it does.

I’m learning among other things, to:

– Pray for MYSELF, my COLLEAGUES, other CO-WORKERS and especially my PATIENTS.

– Pray for the WISDOM, COURAGE and STRENGTH to face the challenges that each day brings. 

– Pray for the PATIENCE to deal with trying circumstances, irate patients, annoying co-workers and every other kind of evil that the enemy wants to bring my way.

– Pray that I’m a BLESSING to my Team and not a BURDEN to them. I don’t want to be labeled as a Lazy, Undisciplined, or Disorganized Doctor. 

*IPR: Intern’s Pre-round.

2. TAKE CARE OF YOU, SO YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF OTHERS.

This is soooo important. 

I recall one day, I was so physically exhausted while running some errands, that some nurses around took time to lecture me about the importance of taking proper care of myself. 

When all is said and done, there will always be patients. But I’ll only be here for a season. 

Wisdom teaches me that to give my best, I have to build stamina. Because I can’t give what I don’t have. 

So these days, when I find myself getting worked up, I take a break. 

When I’m hungry, I eat. When I’m tired, I rest. 

A hungry Doctor, is an angry Doctor. A sleepy Doctor, is a snappy Doctor. It’s that simple.

3. CONNECT WITH YOUR SUPPORT NETWORK. 

Your Friends and Family are especially important during this Housejob phase. 

It’s easy to become so consumed with the work that you don’t have the time to reach out to others. 

I know this because I’ve been there. 

It’s even more tough when you have a significant other who is not in the same location with you. 

So here’s a suggestion that works for me (It’s called the PTCV Principle):

  • Pray for them always.
  • Text whenever you miss them.
  • Call when you have the chance. 
  • Visit when there’s the opportunity.

4. DON’T JUST COUNT THE DAYS, MAKE THE DAYS COUNT.

Housejob isn’t beans. I’m sure you know that by now.

And if you’re like most people, you just want it to END already. So you can move on with your life. 

Before you know what’s happening, the days have turned into weeks, the weeks into months and the year is over.

Of course you don’t want that year to be spent merely seeing patients that are anicteric, acyanotic, afebrile, not pale , well hydrated and without pedal edema. 😅

That’s why you must be INTENTIONAL about everything you do on a daily basis. 

I’m often reminded that if I want to make a difference, the time is NOW.

5. LIVE. LOVE. LAUGH. LEARN.

No matter how tough a day is, you can always find time and creative ways to enjoy it. For me that includes:

  • Reading a good book.
  • Eating a good meal. 
  • Listening to uplifting music.
  • Hanging out with friends 
  • Watching a funny movie 

And of course connecting with patients and co-workers

You don’t know how much you have in common with others until you’re willing to have casual conversations with them. 

I’ve made a number of acquaintances with people who speak my local dialect, share my first name or birthday, similar beliefs and the likes. 

It’s an AMAZING something!

***

Again, it’s MERRY Christmas from me to you.

I hope y’all don’t forget the REASON for the celebration- Christ’s BIRTH!

Here’s my all-time favorite Christmas song: 

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

OCTOBER|| C O U R A G E


It’s a few days into October already and all I can say is, God is good!

While meditating on what theme this month would be about, one word that stood out in my heart, was COURAGE. And I believe God was giving me a gentle reminder, that when everything else fails (my plans and what-not), I can look up to him and remain courageous.

Here are a few synonyms for the word COURAGE:
“bravery, pluckiness, valor, fearlessness, intrepidity, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness, grit, hardihood, heroism, gallantry”

And I’ll go with the first, BRAVERY

the admirable quality of being able to confront frightening things. It takes bravery for a knight to battle a dragon, but it also takes bravery for a shy child to walk into a new classroom.
(Vocabulary.com)

It’s little wonder that the song in my heart for this season just happens to be:

||WORSHIPYou make me brave (Amanda Cook)

And it’s one of my favorite songs ever! I remember having it on repeat for sometime last year.

||WORD– Lamentations 3:22-24 GNB

“The LORD ‘s unfailing love and mercy still continue, Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise. The LORD is all I have, and so I put my hope in him.” 

I especially love the line that reads,

Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise
. How reassuring that is! 

I still don’t know all God has in stock for me this season but I’m stepping out of the shadows of fear, discouragement and doubts and embracing his promises by faith.

And Amen to that!
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In a nutshell, here’s what I’ve been upto:

|| My Ankara crafts and designs exhibition (As Promised)



My trainer, Niyot of Beracah House of Fashion, who is also a longtime friend did such a great job and I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn through her. Moving forward, I think I’ll be focusing on the Ankara book covers and see what designs I can come up with.

|| Still Learning

Spanish and Igbo!

|| Recent Reads:

Anthills of the Savannah (Chinua Achebe)
This was my first time reading any Chinua Achebe’s book. I’d attempted “There was a Country” earlier this year but found it difficult to continue with it. Not too long ago, I picked up this title, but I wasn’t enjoying the plot, so I dropped it. Eventually, one bored evening I summoned up courage and jumpstarted it (i.e. started reading right from the middle) and I was so intrigued that I read until the end. I found the book compelling, thought-provoking and with a melodramatic ending.

I heard that song before (Mary Higgins Clark)
I totally loved this book (although I’m sure I’ve read it before but totally forgot the plot), the writer kept me guessing until the very end. It had the right amount of suspense that kept me glued till the last page. If you’re a fan of mystery/crime/suspense books, I totally recommend that you read this one.

And then there were none (Agatha Christie)
I first read this book a couple of years ago, I had an idea about the plot but forgot how it ended, so I decided to read it again. So it was the Judge after all, what a twist!

|| Currently Reading:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)

Principles and Values become more evident when we think of how short life is.

||Re-reading (For my Small Group Bible-study):

UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)

Some start for the gold but end up with the bronze. Some start for the gold but do a poor exchange and can not continue. Some start for the gold but drop the baton and are disqualified. Some start for the gold and not only win the race, but break a record doing so.

|| Recent Adventure: A Mini-vacay!

So yours sincerely took a few days off to spend in Lagos. Yaaaas!!!
You know how I feel about the city already (You can read about my previous experiences here and here). This time around though, I was not constrained by a lack of “cash” or “time” nor any urgent business to take care of. I wanted to not just pass through Lagos, but actually savor it all over like a first-timer.

The summary of my stay was: Sightseeing, Window-shopping (plus some micro-shopping…lol), People-watching, Reading novels, Eating and Sleeping. I eventually stayed more indoors than outdoors, and found it kinda boring, thanks to EKEDC…😑🙄

I went off to visit one of my friends (@Tyn) and enjoyed every moment of it. Also went on a date with my sister to watch the movie, FLATLINERS (a Sci-Fi/Medical Thriller/Horror combo). The plot wasn’t too bad, in my opinion. Definitely PG material.

Then I ran into one of my seniors from Unilorin, Eyitayo, at the Palms Mall (saw him last in 2010…haha), I started “gisting” my sis how he is such a prominent figure on FB, and a kind-of-social activist etc. He is someone I actually respect (from a distance) and it was an honor to see him again, howbeit for a few minutes.

Finally, I got to ride in an Uber, then a BRT bus for the first time ever and I enjoyed both (for different reasons). Lagos is such a lovely place tbh, I just don’t see myself living there. But who knows, ehn?😉


Enjoy the lovely views!


To wrap up the post, here are my

|| 9 Intriguing Lessons [plus 1 Life Changing Discovery] from 2017:

1. Social media is overrated. I know it sounds cliché, but I’m only beginning to understand that phrase. I’ve now realized that Facebook (which was the social media platform I used the most) is not that important. I used to think it was impossible for me to do without Facebook in a day until I actually put some structure to my social media time and now I have days when I completely forget to log in. It’s amazing isn’t it? Ever wondered what we all did before the advent of social media?

2. Not everything that is happening will continue to happen. “Time” and “Chance” happens to all men. If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, have you ever wondered what happened to the likes of Mr. Biggs and Tantalizers? My sentiments exactly.

3. Time alone doesn’t make things better, deliberate actions do. Thanks to the Mother Hen (Remi Owadokun) for this. If something is bad and you do nothing about it, it will only get worse.

4. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness, but choosing not to remember. Choosing not to remember an offense is quite different from forgetting it, as if it never happened. I so needed that closure. Phew!

5. What you do is more important than what you know. We have many “knowers” but far too few “doers.” Memo to me. Noted!

6. To every stage in life, there is a backstage and to every scene there’s a behind-the-scene. Truth!

7. Others are different from you, and so are you from others. Our unity lies in our individual uniqueness and not in our uniformity (or conformity).

8. (More than your phones, wallets, money, relationships etc) The enemy targets your joy, don’t let him steal it!

9. The Nigerian Police may (or may not) be your friend. Not all policemen are unkind, rude or wicked. Ditto Lawyers, Nurses, Doctors etc Having a preconceived mindset can be harmful.

10. I don’t like bread. In fact, I’ve never liked it, and I’m only just realizing that. So I’ve only been tolerating bread all my life?! Well, it’s better late than never.

|| Inspiration from around the web:

1. On Adulting, Rounding Up My Housemanship Year and Future Plans

2. Why I Shut Down My Instagram Account (Cutting back to move forward)
3. What it means to be a Christian doctor

4. Preparation: A lesson from Hurricane Irma

5. Nothing to prove

Ps: Still on the job search, if you’ve been praying, please pray harder! 🙏🏾
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*EKEDC: Eko Electricity Distribution Company

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❤️❤️❤️

Chronicles of a Student-Doctor #2

CHAPTER 2: ENT (EAR, NOSE & THROAT) POSTING

Welcome to Otolaryngology (also called Otorhinolaryngology) department.

More than anyone else, we are concerned about what happens to your Ear, Nose and Throat. This is because we understand how those relatively unimportant parts of the human body can cause such great discomfort whenever something is out of place. You can count on us to do all we can to help you get better.

(Image-credit: WEB)

I resumed to ENT clinic with little or no knowledge about what it actually involved, asides Ear infections. Well, I had an unfortunate episode of Otitis Externa (Outer Ear Infection) few months after I got into medical school. Initially, I thought it was no big deal and I could manage by myself until the pain became so unbearable that I couldn’t even attend classes. I had no choice but to see a Doctor. Of course, the relief I got after some days of treatment (with antibiotics and corticosteroids) was priceless. I’ve never since taken my ears for granted.

My experience in ENT was great. Not only did I learn more about that specialty of medicine, I was also able to pick up some valuable life-lessons as well.

We had outpatient clinic on Tuesdays and Surgery on Thursdays. My amiable Preceptor, Dr. Thomas, had a private practice as well, and we went there every other day in the week.

 

(Photo-credit: WEB)

 

After my first few days, I got the hang of using an OTOSCOPE and stating my differentials based on what I saw inside a patient’s ears.

 

(Photo-credit: WEB)

 

I also learnt how to perform the Weber and Rinne tests (to check for conductive or sensorineural hearing loss) with the aid of a tuning fork.

Youtube link. (All Access Medicine)
Most of the patients were student-friendly, so I clerked a good number of them.

 

(Photo-credit: WEB)

 

In the clinic, a typical day is spent examining, listening to, reassuring, prescribing medications and giving patients bits of advice about their health. The Doctor would always caution the patients against using Q-tips (cotton buds) in removing excess wax from their ear canals; but advised them to make use of drops of olive oil (or hydrogen peroxide), to soften the hardened wax, thereby facilitating its removal by the Doctor himself. (Yeah, we saw lots of wax-impacted ears and it was unbelievably gross). Impacted earwax can be superimposed with bacterial infection, so if you have an ear discharge that gives off an offensive smell or your ear itches you repeatedly, please see a doctor. 

 

(Image-credit: WEB)

 

Soon enough, all the forms of Otitis (Externa, Media and Interna), Tinnitus, Allergic Rhinitis, Acute Bronchitis, Vertigo, Nystagmus, Hyper/Hypothyroidism, GERD, Sinusitis etc, became common terms and relatively easy diagnoses for me to make.
Some surgical procedures I saw were: Tonsillectomy,  Turbinate reduction, Bilateral Antral Wash-out (BAWO), Lingual frenectomy, Thyroidectomy and Tracheostomy.

 

TEAM ENT (Preceptor flanked by some Ortho Students)

 

The Ortho folks in X-ray protective Gears.
On a particular clinic day, I got to watch the Audiometric technicians at work. It was an insightful experience.

Audiometry is the science of measuring hearing acuity, with the help of an audiometer. Results of audiometric tests are used to diagnose hearing loss or certain diseases of the ear” (WIKI).

 

(Photo-credit: WEB)

 

While most of the cases were mild, I remember a devastating case in particular, a patient presented with advanced-stage Oropharyngeal cancer. What really struck me however was my Preceptor’s display of Empathy; Despite the strong offensive odor coming from the patient’s mouth, which we all (including the nursing staff) found repulsive, the Doctor actually went ahead to touch the patient and speak words of comfort to him, without as much as a nose-mask. He taught us an important life-lesson that day, everyone needs someone to show them some care, no matter how hopeless the situation seems.


Another highlight for me, was when we had the opportunity to accompany our preceptor to give a lecture in one of the other medical schools on the island. That was my first time there and I had a great experience. I also had the opportunity of seeing some parts of the island I wasn’t familiar with.
Towards the end of my posting, the Preceptor also took us to an all-expense paid lunch in one of Vincy’s finest restaurants. And we had so much fun that I wish we didn’t have to leave.

 

(Photo-credit: http://www.panoramio.com)

Image: Cobblestone Inn, Kingstown, SVG (free advert, lol).
Then the icing on the cake for me was when he shared with us that in considering a choice of specialty, each of us should ask ourselves these basic questions:

1. What area of medicine do I like? (Interest)


2. What area of medicine am I good at? (Strength)


3. What area of medicine is needed in my immediate environment? (Need)

I have since kept these thoughts and pondered over them. I know they would come handy sometime in the near future.

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So would I like to specialize in ENT? Your guess is as good as mine, I’d rather not. Maybe it’s because of the thought of doing surgeries…hehe, no thank you!

By the way, please note that these commonly used drugs can be toxic to your ears. Always consult your Physician for concerns about side-effects of the medications you use.
Thank you for reading!

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