August 2020|| Strength

Hey Guys,

Welcome to a beautiful new month.

 

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It’s been a year of highs and lows, but I am thankful not just for the gift of life but also for the gift of strength.

This season, God has been teaching me what it means to rely on his strength.

If I am being honest, there are still days I find myself triggered by the words or actions of people around me, that I end up in tears.

Whenever this happens, I become frustrated with myself because I feel God must be disappointed with me.

I somehow feel responsible for not having sufficient strength, since the scripture says, “he that faints in the day of adversity, his strength is small.” (Proverbs 24:10).

Then one day, God said to me

“Eunice,
It’s normal to get tired, but that’s not an excuse to give up. It’s only a reminder to renew your strength.

Strength is exhaustible, whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, that is why it must be renewed.

So I am asking you to trust my promises and my process, because it’s in the place of TRUST, that your strength is renewed.”

What an encouragement that was!

The Holyspirit also gave me an insight using the analogy of a phone battery.

There are days I charge my battery to full capacity, then use my phone all day, to play music, take pictures, chat with friends, watch movies and browse. At some point my battery gets drained and I have to plug and recharge it.

There are other days I charge my phone to full capacity, but I only receive a few phone calls and messages. On such days, my phone battery remains relatively full.

In the same vein, when it comes to our spiritual battery, there are days we have to pray multiple times, confess lots of scriptures, speak in tongues every couple of hours and listen to as many sermons and songs as possible, just to get through the day.

Everytime we start to feel overwhelmed by doubt, fear, or discouragement, we need to plug in to God’s strength and recharge.

Going to God in our time of need is a sign of trust. God is such a sweet and caring Father, and he’s always ready to help us.

Remember, his strength is inexhaustible.

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
(Hebrews 4:16)

Shalom!

:::requ1ne:::
♥️♥️♥️

July 2020||HEALING.

Hello Fam,

Welcome to the second half of 2020.

Source: Pinterest

And what a year it’s been!

Nevertheless, we don’t complain, we give thanks because God CAN be trusted. 

One of the things this year has reminded me of, is that moving on after a crisis is easier said than done.

The truth is that no one wants to be in a state of continuous despondency, but healing is a process and it takes time. 

In a bid to help, people can indirectly put pressure on someone to heal quickly.

From experience, the deeper the hurt the longer the process of recovery.

“Just move on” is a nice cliché but it it’s not as helpful as it sounds.

How do you expect someone to just move on from a place of confusion, betrayal or loss?

While we must be careful not to glorify our pain, the focus should not be on “Moving On” but on “Getting Well.”  

A person who has not healed completely will not be able to function optimally.

There are several people who are carrying pains from years ago on their shoulders.

A lot of these people end up hurting others, either consciously or unconsciously, sometimes creating a cycle of abuse.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the process of healing.

When it comes to emotional trauma, rather than tell people to get well soon, just tell them to get well (no matter how long that takes).

Another common assumption people make, especially in this part of the world, is that whatever happens (whether good or evil) it’s the will of God.

There’s nothing further from the truth.

The scripture says,

“…God is light, and there is no darkness at all in him.”

1 John 1:5 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/1jn.1.5.GNB

GOD DOES NO EVIL. 

When something terrible happens to someone, it’s not unusual for people to make blanket statements like “Maybe God allowed it for a reason…yen, yen, yen.”

It’s even more annoying when they ask victims to consider worst case scenarios.

For example, a couple has had a miscarriage, rather than just offering them words of comfort, you hear things like “God probably has a reason for taking the life of the baby; who knows maybe the baby would have had a congenital malformation.” 

That’s such a terrible feedback to give to someone who is hurting.

As far as God’s children are concerned, anything that involves loss, hurt, betrayal, hatred, conflict, confusion or despair is NOT the will of God.

This passage puts things in perspective,

The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life — life in all its fullness.

John 10:10 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.10.10.GNB

The enemy’s job description is to steal, to kill and to destroy: whether it’s your business, your health, your relationships, or your possessions.

The bottom line is this, Satan loves to wreck good things! That is his modus operandi. 

So the next time, something terrible happens to you, don’t blame God (and don’t allow people to indirectly blame God on your behalf), rather FACE THE DEVIL AND REBUKE HIM!

Another understanding I have from the light of scriptures is that, God can use evil circumstances to bring about his purposes, but God does not orchestrate evil.

This story in the bible explains it briefly,

His disciples asked him, “Teacher, whose sin caused him to be born blind? Was it his own or his parents’ sin?” Jesus answered, “His blindness has nothing to do with his sins or his parents’ sins. HE IS BLIND SO THAT GOD’S POWER MIGHT BE SEEN AT WORK IN HIM.

John 9:2‭-‬3 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.9.2-3.GNB

Look at that. Although the man was born blind, God decided to use his life as an avenue to show forth his glory.

HEALING is God’s will.

RESTORATION is God’s will.

VICTORY is God’s will. 

Let me conclude with this verse,

We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/rom.8.28.GNB

No matter the kind of crisis a believer faces, God will work things out for their good.

Keep believing.

Have an amazing new month!

:::requ1ne:::

❤️❤️❤️

JUNE 2020|| HOPE


Vulnerability can either be the most risky or the most rewarding action to take. 

Sometimes it leaves you misunderstood or even more confused than ever. 

Other times you end up as an unprepared client in an unsolicited therapy session. 

But the most painful outcome is to become the victim of a shameful story gone viral.

For years, I struggled with the concept of opening up to others while going through a tough time. 

My modus operandi was to suffer in silence.  It didn’t help that I was also battling with depression. 

Only those who have dealt with MDD* can truly understand the sense of helplessness and despair that comes with it. 

Doesn’t it appear selfish to want to open up to people who are also dealing with their own hurt and pain? Sometimes in greater ways than you can imagine. 

Where do you draw the line between trying to cope and asking for help?

The world as we know it today is in ruins. This particular year, 2020, has been especially devastating for a lot of people. 

Amidst the uncertainty of the current pandemic, people still have to battle with illnesses, loss of jobs, heartbreak, crime and all kinds of abuse.

The world is hurting we know, but it doesn’t invalidate any individual’s pain.

How can a patient who is comatose and on life support be aware that the building is on fire?

The truth is that being in a vulnerable state makes you feel like a nuisance. You never know when you’re disturbing others. 

Some people truly want to help but their resources of time, energy, prayers and words of encouragement are limited. So there’s no true help outside God, only his resources are unlimited. 

Everyone needs help. Everyone needs healing. Everyone needs HOPE. 

To be vulnerable is to be human. To help the vulnerable is to be STRONG, not in yourself but in the Lord. 

It’s good to share our vulnerable moments with people, even if it’s for them to identify with our humanity.

We laugh. We dance. We sing. We love. We celebrate.

But we also cry. We get hurt. We feel betrayed. We face rejection. We experience disappointments. We know what it means to feel hopeless & helpless. 

No one has it all together. We are in this together.

May was a month of premium tears, I cried everyday (save three). Someday, I will share my story.

I trust God that in this month of June, our hearts will be filled with his joy. 

“Rejoice in the Lord, always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4, NKJV)

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
    ❤️❤️❤️

*MDD: Major Depressive Disorder. 

14 Ideas For Self-love on February 14th.

Hello Fam,

Today’s post is a special edition.

Self-love is to be cultivated, whether you are single or attached to someone. 

Even if you have been married for years, it’s great to be able to allocate time to nurturing your soul, body and spirit. 

While true self-love is an every moment affair, February 14th is a day to remind us all about its importance.

If you are single, looking for love and feeling down about being without a date on valentine’s day, you may be inclined to believe that you are the most unlucky person in the world. 

So instead of thinking of how you can have a great time by yourself, you are already stuck in self-pity.

Ask yourself these questions. 

– Do I have an affection for myself? 

– Do I celebrate my small wins or am I always critical about every decision I take? 
– Am I devoted to myself?

– Do I spend enough time/money/energy to take care of myself? 

– What do I appreciate about myself? 

My skin?

My voice?

My weight?

My personality?

My talents?

Self love is about learning to fall in love with everything that makes you, you. 
Many people expect others to love them unconditionally without loving themselves first. 

To put Selflove into practice, it must be reflected in your attitude, words and actions.

Here are 14 ideas for selflove on February 14th:

1. A candle-lit dinner for one.

Complete with wine, background music, scented flowers and of course Dessert!!! 

This is an opportunity for you to get to know you. 

Learning to be comfortable in your own company helps to boost your self-confidence.

2. Karaoke.

And it doesn’t have to be in a club. 

Why not inside your bedroom? 

It doesn’t matter whether you know how to sing or dance, or not.

Create a playlist. 

Get silly. And have fun.

3. Lunch date for one.

If the idea of setting up a candle lit dinner seems rather too fancy, then go on a lunch-date or maybe a solo-picnic. 

Whatever you can afford. 

Take time to spend time with yourself. 

Hang out with your spirit, soul and body. 

Get to know your likes, your dislikes, your passions/interests, what keeps you going on tough days etc. 

4. Write a letter to yourself and list out every amazing quality you can think of. 

Many of us are way too critical about ourselves. We simply don’t know how to appreciate our efforts. 

5. Medical check up:

February 14th is an especially good day to have your body checked. 

That doctor’s office visit you’ve been postponing for the last one year, how about you make it today?

6. Mental reset:

February 14 is definitely a good day to let go of negative energy and be healed of painful memories. 

Decide today to leave that abusive relationship and cut out from an environment that is continually toxic to your mental health. 

7. Pamper your body: 

An important aspect of self-love, is self-care.

Whether it’s a pedicure, new hairdo, body massage, face scrub, or simply painting your finger nails, give your body a treat it will thank you for. 

8. Watch a fun movie. 

You don’t have to go to a cinema. 

Just set up one right in your living room or on your bed complete with a pack of buttered popcorn (or hotdogs) and drink. 

And it doesn’t have to be a romantic movie.

9. Start the day with Personal reflection. 

Personal reflection helps you to acknowledge and show gratitude for the things you have. 

It also boosts your self esteem by helping you to gain clarity and focus on the things that truly matter. 

10. Buy yourself a gift: 

Whether it’s a bouquet of scented flowers, some bars of chocolate or a customized mug, February 14 is a good day to splurge on yourself!

11. Take a morning/an evening walk.

It’s such a simple gesture that doesn’t take much from you but gives you the opportunity to observe and appreciate the scenery around you. 

12. Make an anonymous donation:

Maybe you’ve been considering this for a while. Why not do it today?

13. Check up on an old friend. 

The dividends of your self-love can also extend to others. 

Be the reason that someone gets to smile today. 

14. Find time to pray!!!

Self love is incomplete if your spiritman is not refreshed. 

Having Fellowship with God is an everyday affair and February 14th should be no exception.

Also it’s a good opportunity to show appreciation to the greatest lover of all times, who loves us all unconditionally -Jesus.

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Which of these is your favorite? Do you have other selflove ideas for today?

Please share.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤❤❤ 

Book Review|| BECOMING 

Author: Michelle Obama

Genre: Autobiography/Memoir





||How I came across the book

As the book went viral, a good friend who knows my love for books recommended it and sent me a copy. 

||Expectations

If I’m being honest, before reading this book, I didn’t pay so much attention to Michelle Obama as a person. 

||Lessons

Michelle Obama: If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice. I have tried my best to speak the truth and shed light on the stories of others who are often brushed aside.


On Owning Your Story:

Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.

– So many of us go through life with our stories hidden, feeling ashamed or afraid when our own truth doesn’t live up to some established ideal. We grow up with messages that tell us there’s only one way to be American-or anything else. That is, until someone dares to start telling that story differently.

– To make impact you must know your own voice and not be afraid to use it.

On Failure, Self-doubt and Success:

– Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It is a vulnerability that breeds self-doubt and is then escalated by fear. 

– There’s no hurrying a bus ride. You get on and either choose to endure it or enjoy it. So it is with life. 

– With every steady accomplishment the doubts about our competence ebbs away.

– The noise doesn’t go away but the most successful people in life have figured out how to live with it. 

– To succeed you must lean on those who believe in you, have faith in your story and push onward with your goals. 

– Most successful people in life know how to manage a state of constant calibration, tweaking one area of life in hopes of bringing steadiness to another.


On the difference between men and women, and navigating motherhood:

– Men are not innately smarter than women, they are simply emboldened, floating on an ancient tide of superiority buoyed by the fact that history has never told them anything different.

– There’s no real formula for motherhood. No single approach is 100% right or wrong. Knowing the balance for your unique needs is what matters.

– There are tradeoffs every working mother has to make to maintain enough energy for life at home. 

– Home is wherever we don’t feel the need to prove a point to anyone.


On Inspiration, Hope and Hardwork:

– In life there are truths we face and the ones we ignore, but ignoring the truth doesn’t change it from being true.
– It hurts to live after someone else has died. But death reminds us that there’s no time to waste time.

– The future is promising not to those who make plans, but to those who believe.

– A person who sees his opportunities as endless doesn’t waste time trying to figure out if they will ever dry up.

– Inspiration on its own is shallow; you always have to back it up with hard work.  


On Resilience, Preparation and Vulnerability:

– To make impact you must be strategic about how you apportion your time and energy. 

– When we unbury our past struggles, we help to steady others who still struggle. But when we hide our past struggles, those in a similar journey suffer in silence, pain and loneliness. 

– Sometimes the right decisions will cost us more than we bargained for. 

– We often don’t know what exactly life would throw our way – whether rain or sunshine, our responsibility is to always live prepared.

– It is possible to be more in charge of our own happiness than we have allowed ourselves to be.

– Set your own rules. Those that truly matter will stick to it. 


On Priorities, Uncertainties and Perspectives:

– The adventures that life brings our way often force us to hold on tighter to our priorities. 

– Sometimes we are too obsessed with life as it should be, that we are discontent with life as it is. 

– The uncertainty life brings our way can serve either as a fuel or as a threat. When life seems out of control, the best we can do is focus on things we can control. 

– People who understand how fortunate they have been, have an obligation not to be complacent. 

– When you put in the right effort to a cause, even if you don’t end up winning, you’ve made progress. Sometimes that’s all that matters.

– We often prematurely assume we know all there is to know about life, whereas we don’t yet know a thing.

– Sometimes no one takes responsibility for looking out for you unless you push for it.

– No matter how exhausted we feel, there are people making more sacrifices than we are.

– For most things in life, it’s a matter of perspective, how we decide to look at what is right in front of us. 


On Confidence, Criticisms and Purposeful Living: 

– Authentic confidence has to come from within. 

– Authenticity focuses more on going deep than broad.

– To make a difference you must be intentional about your dreams.

– Everything we do matters. So we must be intentional the most about the little things. The world always needs an example, maybe that example could be us. 

– If you don’t work at defining yourself people will incorrectly define you.

– No matter how enormous your responsibilities are, if you consider yourself blessed, you’ll live with gratitude. 

– At all times our focus shouldn’t just be to do the proper thing, but to do the human thing.

– There are pieces of public life that can significantly strip away part of your identity. But if you keep your focus, your public office will align with your purpose. 

– The critics will always be there. Judgemental people will always have their opinions. No matter who we try to please, there will always be those who won’t be pleased. 

– Some people want us to fail whether what we are doing is right or wrong.

– We are constantly being watched by people and regardless of what we choose, we are bound to disappoint someone.


On Leadership, Opportunities, and Perseverance:

– With a garden you never know for sure what will or won’t happen- whether anything, in fact, will grow. Sometimes all we can do is to put our faith into the effort, trusting that with the sun, rain and time, something half-decent will push up through the dirt. 

– Each time something goes awry in a garden, as in life, we must make small adjustments and focus on the bigger picture. 

– We can choose to use the power we find inside a situation we didn’t choose, to our own advantage. 

– A leader is supposed to stand out without overshadowing others, to blend in but not fade away. 

– Dominance, even the threat of it is a form of dehumanization. It’s the ugliest kind of power.

– Life teaches us to be always prepared and to sometimes imagine worst case scenarios, before we take certain decisions. 

– As life gets busier, there are many details that can’t be planned for. No matter how much planning we do, we can’t be sufficiently prepared for everything life decides to throw our way. 

– If you’re the first woman at something, your legacy should be not to be the only one. 

– Every woman should feel the ease and get the encouragement to speak and be heard. 

– As a woman, even without brute force, you can find ways to be strong. 

– Life teaches us that progress and change often happen slowly. We plant seeds of change, the fruit of which we may never see. 

– To make a long lasting impact, it’s important to connect your message to your image.

– The truth is that the future will arrive with its own surprises, some joyous, others unspeakably tragic.

– The more we understand purpose, the more emboldened we become to speak honestly and directly about our Assignment.  

– In the world we live in, we must learn to be resolute, to keep our feet pointed in the direction of progress. 


On Becoming:

– Becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim, it’s a forward motion, a means of evolving, continuously reaching toward one’s better self. The journey doesn’t end. It’s a process, many steps along a path. 

– Becoming requires equal parts of patience and rigor. Like children we must wake up each day believing in the goodness of things, in the magic of what can be.

– We need to remain both tough and hopeful, to acknowledge that there’s more growing to be done.


||Conclusion


Michelle Obama:

I am an ordinary person who found herself on an extraordinary journey. In sharing my story, I hope to help create space for other stories and other voices to be heard. For every door that’s been opened to me, I’ve tried to open mine to others. And here’s what I have to say, finally: Let’s invite one another in. Maybe we can better embrace the ways we are the same. It’s not about being perfect. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there’s grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become. 


||Observations

I found this book to be brilliant, inspiring and mind-blowing. I love the author’s unique perspective about life and thorough enjoyed how she weaved the stories from her childhood and from her tenure as the First Lady into the book.

||Recommendation

For Wives, Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Female Executives and Every Woman in her journey to becoming. 

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Did you enjoy this book review?

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤️❤️❤️

November 2019|| 7 Lessons Failure Taught Me.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while.

Happy Mid-November!!!😀

And guess what?

It’s exactly 40 days to CHRISTMAS! 🎉🎉🎉




I don’t know about y’all but Christmas is about the most exciting season of the year for me.

I love the glam, the jollification, the merriment, and of course Christmas carols!  

Each Christmas season is a reminder of the purpose for our celebration – Jesus! And his presence in my life continues to give me so much joy. 

Now to today’s post…

The second quarter of this year was a particularly trying period for me.

I wrote an exam –important enough to define the next phase of my career– but unfortunately, I didn’t pass it. 😞

Like anyone else, I’ve faced a number of challenging situations in my lifetime, including:

…getting involved in a RTA that ultimately led to the removal of my two front teeth

…being denied a visa

…breaking up from a romantic relationship (of almost 5 years)

…losing most of my valuables (a laptop, 2 phones, an ipad, and gold jewelry) to a home theft in one day

…and “quitting” driving school out of frustration and embarrassment.


But failing a major exam was a first…and the experience was very traumatic. 

While in school, anytime I didn’t do so well on a test or exam, I had the opportunity to make up for it in the next block or semester. 

Thankfully after the initial shock, I was able to register and rewrite the exam and to the glory of God, I PASSED!!🙌

Now the experience has taught me a few things:


1. Success is a lifestyle while failure is an event.

Success is a continuous journey of progress. 

You’re not a failure if you don’t stop trying. 

The first few weeks after the result was out, I was so disappointed in myself and carried the shame of failure around like a burden.

Thank God for the comfort of the Holy-spirit, and the encouragement from loved ones, I was able to bounce back.  


2. Failure helps to foster empathy. 

When I failed the exam, a part of my ego was shattered. 

I was like…a whole me? How could I?  

Failure made me vulnerable enough to admit my mistakes. Now I have realized that failing an exam isn’t always about how smart a person is. 

I’m learning to empathize more when I see people struggling, and to be compassionate towards them. 


3. Failure helps you to upgrade your capacity.

In preparing to retake the exam, I became fully aware that was sufficient for yesterday’s success, may not be sufficient for tomorrow’s success. 

So I took a leave of absence from work, attended a revision course, and was able to devote more time to studying, and participating in group discussions. 

Failure teaches us that every goal requires new strategic plans and actions. 

4. You can’t always determine the result but you are always responsible for your preparation. 

Despite designing a vision board with the intention of drafting a 3 month study-plan earlier this year, I got carried away with the many events going on in my life. 

Sadly, my efforts to crash study didn’t work out as planned. And when it was time to write the exam, I wasn’t well prepared.


5. Failure is a part of the journey toward success. 

“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm,” said Sir Winston Churchill.

In retrospect, I’m glad things happened the way they did. Failing the exam gave me the chance to learn what strategies worked and what strategies didn’t work.

It also opened up some opportunities for me as I was able to meet with like-minded doctors. 

Courageous people don’t stop trying, they keep learning. 

6. Failure is a filter to refine your priorities. 

That failure was also useful because it forced me to pay attention to the way I prioritized my goals.  

I was able to recognize that not everything happening around me is worth my focus and effort. 

I learnt to deliberately channel my time and energy to the things that were important to my success. 


7. Failure helps to build faith. 

Failure gets our attention. It sure got mine. 

God can use the failures we experience to humble us, remind us of our limitations, and teach us to depend on him. If we allow him.

After failing the exam, I had no one else to turn to but God. And he gave me the wisdom to navigate that season of my life. 

Failure made my faith in God to thrive.

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I hope the lessons from my experience will give you a bit of perspective, in whatever trying situation you’re going through. 

Cheers! 

PS: All images are from the WEB.

:::requ1ne:::    

❤❤❤

October 2019|| The 6Ps Of Purpose.

Hello Fam😍,

It’s good to be back.

Although October is almost halfway gone, I still want to welcome you warmly into this amazing month filled with loads of goodness. 

God has been so good to me (and mine) this month and my heart is full of gratitude. 

There have been so many testimonies in the lives of friends and family, with things that seemed impossible becoming a reality because #GodDidIt

Anyway, back to the post.

Lately I’ve had cause to ponder on the brevity of life as we know it and what it actually means to live. 

Everyone born in time has something unique to offer their generation, sadly only a few do. 

PURPOSE is not what a lot of people have misconstrued it to be.

Some think purpose is all about being in the limelight all the time, like Celebrities and Politicians.

Others think purpose is reserved for a few people with special callings like Clerics and Soldiers.

Purpose simply means LIVING MEANINGFULLY. It is more about who you are than what you do.

Purpose is about bringing solutions to some of the diverse problems that plague humankind and enriching other people’s lives in a positive way.

It’s only by Living on Purpose that each of us can sincerely answer the question, “What am I here for?”

In this post I’ll be sharing some simple tips on how to live on purpose.

Enjoy! 

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1. PRAYER:

Prayer is not just the “Birthplace” of Purpose, it is also from where we draw the strength to live purposefully each day. 

In the absence of prayer, most of us would live aimlessly in this distracted world. 

Prayer gives us the clarity, focus and strength to persevere in each season of our lives. 

When we seek God’s guidance on what to do, he gives us a sense of direction. 

For me becoming a medical doctor was not by accident, Purpose led me here. 

My patients are drawn to me. I take time to listen to and empathize with them. I do my best to communicate everything I do to them. I’m patient in answering their questions and allaying their fears. 

And no matter how frustrating my job as a doctor gets, I know I’m doing it because someone still needs me. 

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What direction is God leading you to in this season?


2. POTENTIALS:

Each of us has been gifted with an ability to meet some specific needs around us.

No matter how little or insignificant your gift seems, it can make a difference in the world.

Some have natural talents that are easy to recognize like Singing, Acting or Dancing. 

Others discover their talents quite by chance then choose to improve on them e.g. Writing and Public speaking. 

I am good at organizing events. I’m the party planner in my family. I enjoy initiating and hosting get-to-gethers, not because I’m a social bee but for the sheer joy of planning them. 

Sometimes, I even generate and draft out ideas for programs on paper for the fun of it. 

That’s also why Routines and To-do-lists are my thing. I’m very good with detailed planning and I enjoy helping others with it. 

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What are you good at? What have others commended you for?

3. PASSION

As fuel is to fire, so is passion to purpose. 

Passion is what keeps you awake at 2 a.m, filling your head with exciting ideas that won’t stop coming.

Passion keeps you going when others get tired.  

Your Passion is what gives you the conviction that every kobo spent, every tear shed and every milestone reached, is worth the trouble.

Passion gets you talking even when there’s no one to listen. 

I’m passionate about Personal Development. 

It’s why I spend a lot of time alone, reflecting, brainstorming and encouraging myself to be my best so that I can give my best to others.

Transformed lives give me joy and I love to inspire people. I enjoy celebrating dreams that come through despite the obstacles encountered. 

It’s the major reason why I do the Accountability Challenge. I want to see people grow from where they are, to where they should be.  

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What are you passionate about?


4. PRIORITIES:

When you’re walking in purpose, your priorities can’t help but align. 

Your priorities determine where you invest most of your time, your money and your energy. 

Reading for me is more than a hobby, reading is a lifestyle. 

So I can’t help but love books. Books have changed my life. They have transformed me and given me the wings to fly. 

I’m a Bibliophile. I love to read. I buy books. I download them. I re-read old books. I review books on my blog. I recommend books to people and harass my friends to share new books with me. 

My philosophy is simple. To be better today, than I was yesterday. And that is why I read. 

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What are your priorities?


5. PRINCIPLES:

Principles serve as the core foundation for your Purpose. They are those things you cannot compromise on, no matter how difficult a situation is.

Your principles should guide you in every decision you make, whether about money, relationships or fame.

I value Integrity, Fairness and Responsibility. These principles reflect my core beliefs as a Christian. 

As much as possible, who I am on the inside is who I try to be on the outside. I’m open with my struggles. I don’t pretend to have it all together. And I’m quick to let go of influences that will likely lead me astray.

I try to be fair in my dealings with people no matter their age, ethnic group or socioeconomic status. I do my best to apologize when I’m wrong and forgive when I’m offended. 

I do my best to be responsible in my commitment to work, the church and to friends and family. I am considerate of other people’s feelings and I try not to let them down intentionally. 


What principles do you live by?


6. PLEASURE:

In the long run, your purpose will give you a sense of satisfaction no matter how physically or mentally demanding it is.

Writing makes me happy. It’s why I blog. It’s hardwork and takes time, but it is my gift to the world.
Anytime I get amazing feedbacks, I know that I’m doing what I really should be doing. 

I also enjoy chronicling my journey and the lessons I’m learning, so I keep journals. It has made such a remarkable impact on my growth that I decided to share this gift with others. And that was why I designed the Requine’s Journal. 

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What do you do that gives you pleasure?
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Which of these six points speak to you the most? Please leave a comment.

Cheers to a Purposeful October. 

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September 2019|| On Happiness, Health and Holiness.

Hello Fam,

It’s been a while and I’m so glad to be back.

The month of August was exciting and full of adventure, and I’m hoping this month and beyond will even be better.

So this season, I’m focusing on these three things:

1. Happiness.

Happiness means different things to different people. 

Though some say happiness is overrated, we can’t underestimate the Power of being Happy.

Happiness is like Energy, it gives momentum to whoever experiences it. 

Happiness often comes to me in the simplest of ways…

Quotesvalley.com


– Happiness is savoring the aroma of my 3-in-1 Nescafé coffee mix.
– Happiness is dancing to the “Baby Shark” song and ignoring the funny looks other grownups give me.  

– Happiness is realizing my mistakes and laughing at my own silliness while I make the necessary corrections.

– Happiness is not taking it too hard on myself when I fall short of a promise I made to myself or others. 

– Happiness is deliberating staying out of senseless arguments and avoiding people who enjoy endless drama.

– Happiness is not allowing someone to force their own insecurities on me or pressure me into making decisions I’m not comfortable with.  

– Happiness is being lost in a good mystery novel and ignoring the alarm bells telling me that my bladder is full and I need to go and pee.

– Happiness is smiling in front of the bathroom mirror and reminding myself of how much God loves me, despite my insecurities. 

What does Happiness mean to you?


2. Health. 

Sadly, in the last couple of months I was so busy taking care of other people’s health that I neglected mine. 

I don’t think I’ve used as many medications in my entire life as I have this year. At some point I became so ill that I received intravenous drugs, for the first time ever.

My diet was one area I particularly took for granted. 

Because of the busy nature of my job, I failed to pay attention to what I ate, how much I ate or what time I ate.

And just within a few months, I realized how much unnecessary weight I’d gained. It’s even now embarrassing to wear some outfits from 2 years back. 

Now I’m taking back responsibility for my health. 

So I ordered this nice, comfy mat for yoga and stretching exercises.

My New Exercise Mat

In addition, I commenced the Intermittent Fasting Regimen (using the 18/6 plan) after lots and lots of research. 

I also started keeping a food diary, it’s amazing to know how much calories each meal contains.

Generally, I feel better just knowing that I have been able to clean up my diet and I can say NO to junk food no matter the temptation. 

Some days are harder than others, but I’ll keep keeping on by God’s grace. 

What does living healthy mean to you?


3. Holiness.

I don’t know about you but it gets me sad, and sometimes angry when I see people disrespecting or outrightly mocking the things of God. 

Our generation finds it easy to hype secular things like entertainment, fashion and technology, while they make fun of anything said to be sacred or godly. 

Even people of faith are increasingly more reserved about expressing their beliefs for fear of being ridiculed.  

The Devil wants us to be Closet Christians- shy, embarrassed and easily intimidated. 

But here’s a secret. The Devil is scared. 

He knows that there is so much havoc believers can cause to his agenda, if we rise up to the occasion.

That is why he is out to stop us before we can stop him. 

But we have been commissioned to bring light to a dark world, hope to a hopeless world and healing to a hurting world.   

“You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.”

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:14-16‬ ‭MSG‬‬
http://bible.us/97/mat.5.14-16.msg

I don’t know about you, but I’m done acting like a nice christian while the enemy oppresses, manipulates and destroys lives around me. 

It’s time for WARFARE!

And Holiness is a requirement for spiritual warfare, because if I am to be used of God, I have to be totally dedicated and devoted to him. 

– Holiness means obeying God’s specific instructions  when I’d rather do things my own way. 

– Holiness means trusting God’s direction even if it’s contrary to popular beliefs. 

– Holiness means keeping myself away from the profanity/perversion of this generation- my speech, attitude, work ethics, appearance etc must reflect God’s glory. 

September Mood.😄

What does Holiness mean to you?

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Enjoy the rest of September!

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August 2019|| A Trip Down Memory Lane.

Hey guys,

Welcome to August.

This month I’ve decided to do a bit of internal housekeeping by reevaluating my personal growth journey.

In the last few years, I’ve consistently kept memoirs (in form of diaries or journals) both in hard and electronic copies.

Recently, I went through some of them and I’ve simply been amazed about each phase of my journey. 

Through those pages, I saw myself grow from a timid, insecure lady to a confident and optimistic lady, who is ever ready to embrace challenges, make efforts, commit to bigger dreams and become all of who God has called her to be.

In this post, I’ll be sharing snippets of my journey through the last few years with you and I hope among other things that it encourages everyone out there on a similar journey of personal growth to journal their journey😉. 

Enjoy!

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2013:



“So I’m finally here in SVG. I got an apartment and share it with a lady from Botswana, she’s been nice to me and gave me dinner. Thank God for a safe trip,  for the prayers and wishes from friends and family. I believe God is the Oba Alasepe and he’ll perfect all that concerns me in this land. Amen.” (Feb 11, 2013). 

2013 was the year I consciously began my journey into becoming. 

I considered myself to be a caterpillar who was transforming into a butterfly. I was curious, daring and wide-eyed. 

It was also a turning point as I literally put on my “big girl” shoes. For the first time ever, I was miles away from home, and everything and everyone that was familiar, in pursuit of becoming a medical doctor. 

2014:

This was the year where I felt so much dissastifaction within me, I was tired of living small and being boxed up in a cage mentally. I just felt there was more to life than just sleeping, waking and eating.

That was also the year I got the courage to start this blog…as a form of outlet. 

Later that year, I experienced what seemed like a major tragedy that almost gave way to a post traumatic stress disorder but thank God for healing and restoration.

At the end of the year, this was my confession:

“Eunice Adeniran, you may feel limited but you have a limitless God. He cannot fail you. He is your refuge and underneath are his everlasting arms. It will end in praise!”

2015:



I would describe it as my “Big Bang Year” as my eyes began to open to certain realities of personal growth and responsibility.

I actively began to read life changing books and many things that seemed initially impossible became possible.

My walk with God also became more steadfast, and my personal devotion took on a more lively approach. 

As I went through the pages of my diary, I came across this song I learnt at a concert (TEHILA AFRICANA) which summed up a phase I was going through:

“When Jesus says No, I hope you understand,

When Jesus says No, he has a better plan.”

2016:

I started the year with a strong conviction as written in my journal:

“Year 2016 is the year of the word of the lord, the word profits me greatly. I’m sensitive to divine revelation, instruction and direction. 

I’m willing and obedient to God’s word. My heart is prepared to receive the word, it’s a good soil, fertile and fruitful.

Every aspect of my life responds to God’s word and profits greatly.”
Looking back, it’s an irony that 2016 was also that year where I had to second guess almost every decision I made. 

One major decision I made was coming out of a relationship I’d invested in for almost 5 years. The aftermath was almost devastating.  

It was also the year I graduated from medical school and the question “What Next?” became a constant buzz in my ears.

Thankfully, God in his mercies saw me through that season.


2017: 



I literally came ready for this year. 

Here’s an excerpt from my first journal entry:

“Hello 2017, I’m excited to meet you.

You are a gift and a blessing from God to me and I’m pretty determined to maximize all of the opportunities you bring my way.”

That year was a season of stretch for me as God taught me to embrace so multiple dimensions to my life. 

There were a couple of challenges along the line and even a cheap attempt on my life from Satan but the good Lord gave me victory. 


2018:


2018❤️

This was another very remarkable year for me. 

It was a season of blossoming relationships and upgrading my self-esteem. 

Like never before, I heard God speak with clarity and give me specific instructions concerning.

It was also an intense year (physically and mentally) for me as I was a House officer for the most part. 

The day Housejob ended was a testimony in itself.

Here’s an excerpt:

“The countdown ends.

God is good, he’s indeed the God of my testimony. 

I woke up grateful this morning. Nothing could spoil my joy, not Satan nor his cohorts.

I’m officially an MO. To God be the glory!!!”


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That ends my trip down memory lane.

2019 has been an interesting year so far and I believe there’s still lots of goodness it has to offer. 

So here’s one more picture for your viewing pleasure

2019❤️

Have a pleasant AUGUST!

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The Girl’s Guide|| Beauty Care Corner.

Hey Ladies,

Welcome back to the Girl’s Guide.

In this post I’ll be reviewing and rating some of the beauty products (and toiletries) I currently use and also recommending a few of them.

I’d love your feedbacks and recommendations. 

PS: This is NOT a sponsored post by the way.

Enjoy! 

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1. Kotex panty liners* 




Price: N330 – N350

Rating: 4/5

I’ve tried other brands but I always come back to this. It’s feather-light and fits into my underwear easily plus the fragrance is so mild that you’d hardly notice it. 

2. Always ultra sanitary pads* 




Price
: N650 – N700

Rating: 4.5/5

This is one of the oldest products I’ve used (over 15 years), it’s a bit pricey compared to others but the quality is super.

I especially like how the brand comes in different packages (wingless, heavy flow etc) designed for individual comfort. 

I should become an Always Ambassador someday…lol. 

#TeamAlways


3. Joy body lotion*


Price: N/A

Rating: 4/5

Decided to try this product last year after randomly picking it off the shelf of a store and I’ve had no regrets. 

I enjoy how soft and soothing it feels on my skin, and it works well for my complexion too.


4. Vaseline blue seal 

Price: N180 – N250

Rating: 4/5

This is another product I’ve used for many years. 

As someone who has a dry skin that whitens out easily, it’s not enough to use a lotion to moisturize my skin, I also have to use an oil based ointment to coat it.

5. Izzi body mist* 

Price: N830 – N850

Rating: 4.5/5

I started using this product about 2 months ago and I absolutely love it. 

It comes in different fragrances and leaves you sweet and fresh all day.


6. Nivea deodorant*

Price: N/A

Rating: 4/5

I’m quite particular about the brand of deodorant I wear because a person’s smell is often the first thing I notice about them (I assume it’s the same for most people too).

For me “you smell nice” is a compliment not an insult.

I like this particular deodorant spray because it’s mild on the nostrils, yet the fragrance lasts almost an entire day. 


7. Sure antiperspirant

Price: N/A

Rating: 3.5/5

I used to be a sworn lover of antiperspirant roll-ons until late last year when I began to react (?contact dermatitis) to a particular brand, so these days I use them sparingly. 

This product has a sweet feminine fragrance that helps you feel refreshed. 


8. Oriflame foot cream


Price: N3500

Rating: 2.5/5

Earlier this year I noticed I was having calluses on my heels because I wasn’t paying so much attention to foot care.

Not long after someone marketed this product to me and it found it really effective though I wish it wasn’t so expensive.

I love the balmy sensation the lotion gives my feet but I don’t care much for the grainy feel it has. 


9. Beauty formula detox cleanser*

Price: N1000 – N1200

Rating: 4/5

This is one of the top beauty products I’ve used this year. 

I picked it off the shelf a few months ago, because I was repeatedly having annoying breakouts on my face which I attributed to work-related stress. 

And this face cleanser worked wonders. I love everything from its fragrance to the gentle, soft, feel on my skin. 

The major downside to this product for me is that it makes my face dry out before the next morning. 


10. Active Woman body spray 

Price: N900 – N1000

Rating: 4/5

I started using this product over a year ago and I enjoy its soft feminine fragrance which is so unlike many other brands that are not as gentle on the nostrils. 


11. Efactory foot soak 



Price: N830 – N850

Rating: 3/5

This is another product that has really helped in my foot care journey.  

It soothes and softens my soles until they feel as new as a baby’s. 


12. Motflix baby wipes 

Price: N440 – N470

Rating: 3/5

Baby wipes have been my thing for a while now, I chiefly use them to wipe off the makeup on my face after a long day.

I am still trying out different brands to see which one suits my skin best. 

I tried this product for the first time because it was pocket friendly compared to the ones I’ve used in the past. 

The only downside was the flap on the lid that wore off quickly so the wipes dried out after some time..arrrgh. 


13. Above oil sheen hair spray

Price: N900 – N1100

Rating: 3/5

I’ve been using this oil based hair spray for a while now.

It helps to keep my hair shining and prevents my scalp from drying out too quickly especially when I’m wearing braids.

My only challenge with the product is that it stings my nose so I end up coughing practically every time I use it.


14. Enchanteur romantic deo spray 


It turned out I’ve changed my mind about this product 🙈😂


Price: N/A

Rating: 2.5/5

Something made me buy this product, I can’t tell what it was. 

As it turns out I’m not a fan of the fragrance cos it’s neither here nor there.

The other day I wore it at work, and a colleague entered my office and teased me about the “powerful scent” so I’ve used it sparingly since then. 


15. Soulmate hair cream

Price: N/A

Rating: 1.5/5

This hair cream is said to have anti-dandruff properties, but I found it disappointing after using the product for a while then took out my hair to discover lots and lots of dandruff. Sighs.

I also didn’t enjoy the greasiness and yellowish spots the cream left in my hair. 

I’ve officially switched to using natural Shea butter as my hair cream, and hopefully I’ll review that some other time. 


16. Extra hold styling gel spray

Price: N/A

Rating: 2.5/5

This product both styles and conditions the hair. 

I especially use it when I twist out my natural hair cos it keeps it moisturized.

17. Premier body soap*

Price: N/A


Rating
: 4/5

Dis soap ehn, na the best Naija brand, take am or leave am. 

On a serious note, of all the toilet soaps I’ve tried, Premier soap has topped the chart and it’s not just about the lasting fragrance, I’ve also noticed that it is sensitive for my skin type.

18. Closeup herbal toothpaste 

Price: N300-350

Rating: 3/5

My mum started to promote this brand back home and I simply followed suit. I like it because it doesn’t leave an aftertaste and it removes at least 70% of the plaque on my teeth.

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PS: All * products are highly recommended and quoted prices are subject to change. 

Have you used any of these products? 

What beauty products do you currently use and recommend? Please let me know in the comments box.

Thank you for reading!

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