July 2020||HEALING.

Hello Fam,

Welcome to the second half of 2020.

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And what a year it’s been!

Nevertheless, we don’t complain, we give thanks because God CAN be trusted. 

One of the things this year has reminded me of, is that moving on after a crisis is easier said than done.

The truth is that no one wants to be in a state of continuous despondency, but healing is a process and it takes time. 

In a bid to help, people can indirectly put pressure on someone to heal quickly.

From experience, the deeper the hurt the longer the process of recovery.

“Just move on” is a nice cliché but it it’s not as helpful as it sounds.

How do you expect someone to just move on from a place of confusion, betrayal or loss?

While we must be careful not to glorify our pain, the focus should not be on “Moving On” but on “Getting Well.”  

A person who has not healed completely will not be able to function optimally.

There are several people who are carrying pains from years ago on their shoulders.

A lot of these people end up hurting others, either consciously or unconsciously, sometimes creating a cycle of abuse.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the process of healing.

When it comes to emotional trauma, rather than tell people to get well soon, just tell them to get well (no matter how long that takes).

Another common assumption people make, especially in this part of the world, is that whatever happens (whether good or evil) it’s the will of God.

There’s nothing further from the truth.

The scripture says,

“…God is light, and there is no darkness at all in him.”

1 John 1:5 GNB



When something terrible happens to someone, it’s not unusual for people to make blanket statements like “Maybe God allowed it for a reason…yen, yen, yen.”

It’s even more annoying when they ask victims to consider worst case scenarios.

For example, a couple has had a miscarriage, rather than just offering them words of comfort, you hear things like “God probably has a reason for taking the life of the baby; who knows maybe the baby would have had a congenital malformation.” 

That’s such a terrible feedback to give to someone who is hurting.

As far as God’s children are concerned, anything that involves loss, hurt, betrayal, hatred, conflict, confusion or despair is NOT the will of God.

This passage puts things in perspective,

The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life — life in all its fullness.

John 10:10 GNB


The enemy’s job description is to steal, to kill and to destroy: whether it’s your business, your health, your relationships, or your possessions.

The bottom line is this, Satan loves to wreck good things! That is his modus operandi. 

So the next time, something terrible happens to you, don’t blame God (and don’t allow people to indirectly blame God on your behalf), rather FACE THE DEVIL AND REBUKE HIM!

Another understanding I have from the light of scriptures is that, God can use evil circumstances to bring about his purposes, but God does not orchestrate evil.

This story in the bible explains it briefly,

His disciples asked him, “Teacher, whose sin caused him to be born blind? Was it his own or his parents’ sin?” Jesus answered, “His blindness has nothing to do with his sins or his parents’ sins. HE IS BLIND SO THAT GOD’S POWER MIGHT BE SEEN AT WORK IN HIM.

John 9:2‭-‬3 GNB


Look at that. Although the man was born blind, God decided to use his life as an avenue to show forth his glory.

HEALING is God’s will.

RESTORATION is God’s will.

VICTORY is God’s will. 

Let me conclude with this verse,

We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28 GNB


No matter the kind of crisis a believer faces, God will work things out for their good.

Keep believing.

Have an amazing new month!



JUNE 2020|| HOPE

Vulnerability can either be the most risky or the most rewarding action to take. 

Sometimes it leaves you misunderstood or even more confused than ever. 

Other times you end up as an unprepared client in an unsolicited therapy session. 

But the most painful outcome is to become the victim of a shameful story gone viral.

For years, I struggled with the concept of opening up to others while going through a tough time. 

My modus operandi was to suffer in silence.  It didn’t help that I was also battling with depression. 

Only those who have dealt with MDD* can truly understand the sense of helplessness and despair that comes with it. 

Doesn’t it appear selfish to want to open up to people who are also dealing with their own hurt and pain? Sometimes in greater ways than you can imagine. 

Where do you draw the line between trying to cope and asking for help?

The world as we know it today is in ruins. This particular year, 2020, has been especially devastating for a lot of people. 

Amidst the uncertainty of the current pandemic, people still have to battle with illnesses, loss of jobs, heartbreak, crime and all kinds of abuse.

The world is hurting we know, but it doesn’t invalidate any individual’s pain.

How can a patient who is comatose and on life support be aware that the building is on fire?

The truth is that being in a vulnerable state makes you feel like a nuisance. You never know when you’re disturbing others. 

Some people truly want to help but their resources of time, energy, prayers and words of encouragement are limited. So there’s no true help outside God, only his resources are unlimited. 

Everyone needs help. Everyone needs healing. Everyone needs HOPE. 

To be vulnerable is to be human. To help the vulnerable is to be STRONG, not in yourself but in the Lord. 

It’s good to share our vulnerable moments with people, even if it’s for them to identify with our humanity.

We laugh. We dance. We sing. We love. We celebrate.

But we also cry. We get hurt. We feel betrayed. We face rejection. We experience disappointments. We know what it means to feel hopeless & helpless. 

No one has it all together. We are in this together.

May was a month of premium tears, I cried everyday (save three). Someday, I will share my story.

I trust God that in this month of June, our hearts will be filled with his joy. 

“Rejoice in the Lord, always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4, NKJV)



*MDD: Major Depressive Disorder. 

FEBRUARY|| 4 Secrets To Waiting Well.

Hey Friends,

It’s February already.

Whether you’re waiting by the bus stop to get a cab, or waiting for a friend at a designated place; Whether you are waiting to get an admission offer into college, or waiting for your PhD thesis to be approved, waiting always comes with mixed feelings.







And the morbid fear of worst case scenarios. What if I never get married?  What if I never have a baby?

Waiting can be tough, and I would know because I’ve been out of a paid job for a while now (49 days to be exact!).

Like for most people, job hunting has its share of dread (what if I spend all my savings and go broke?) and anticipation (maybe there’s a job offer in my spam folder).

Since I was in a similar phase of life [i.e. Pre-Housejob placement], not too long ago, I now know that it is unnecessary, in fact a total waste of time to stress myself over my current lack of employment.

Because it’s only a phase and it will pass. Still this is easier said than done.

So what are the secrets to waiting well?


Has God said it? Then he will do it.

Numbers 23:19 GNB

God is not like men, who lie; He is not a human who changes his mind. Whatever he promises, he does; He speaks, and it is done.

Hebrews 10:35‭-‬36 GNB

Do not lose your courage, then, because it brings with it a great reward. You need to be patient, in order to do the will of God and receive what he promises.


Since you’re certain that your miracle is on the way, why not show your gratitude in advance?

Philippians 4:4‭, ‬6 GNB

May you always be joyful in your union with the Lord. I say it again: rejoice! Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart.


It’s funny how we can be so consumed about our own desires that we ignore the obvious needs around you.

You don’t have a job, yet? Pray for your friends who do and ask God to strengthen them physically and mentally, and give them the wisdom to do their work in such a way that will glorify him.

Still awaiting your college acceptance letter? Then tutor your neighbor’s son after school or make dinner for the family.

Now that you’re available, endeavor to make yourself available.

I tell myself, “You can’t be jobless and still be useless.”

Galatians 6:2 GNB Help to carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ.

Philippians 2:4 GNB And look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own.

Hebrews 13:16 GNB Do not forget to do good and to help one another, because these are the sacrifices that please God.


You know how a PC gets stuck after it’s been in use for a few hours, and you have to refresh a particular application, or reboot the entire system?

So is your Waiting Season.

God doesn’t waste our waiting periods, he uses them to train us.

With God, Waiting time is Training time.

Revisit the things you’ve already learnt that will make you better equipped when your waiting is over.

Trusting God for a life partner?
Now is the time to develop yourself mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

Trusting God for the fruit of the womb?
Now is the time to invest in godly parenting books, and even volunteer to babysit your friends’ kids.

No matter what you’re trusting God for this season, I bring you this word of encouragement, it will come to pass. 

Ephesians‬ ‭3:20-21‬ ‭GNB‬‬

“To him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of: to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time, for ever and ever! Amen.”

Here’s my prayer for you this month, listen and be blessed!

Have a Testimony-Filled February!



Musings 1.3|| “Not today, Satan!”

A couple of weeks ago, my old phone fell and broke its screen,

Normally, I would have been devastated 
But I reminded myself that “God sees”

There has been a power outage in my neighborhood for 2 days,
My initial response would have been despair

But I remind myself that “God knows”

Today, I boiled tomatoes to prepare stew, but burnt the entire pot instead,

It hurt so much that I wanted to stay in bed and cry

The devil whispered that God doesn’t care enough about me

I simply asked satan to “Get behind me.”



Welcome back.
About this time 4 years ago, I had just entered into med school. It was a different but remarkable experience for me.
Looking back in time, I had lots of questions; WHAT? WHEN? HOW?

My days were full of anticipations and expectations about the future.
My career and marital status were of primary concern to me…hehe.
Thank God for where he has brought me to and the values I’ve gathered over the years.
In a lot of ways, my life is better than I had imagined it would be.

“Life is better experienced than imagined.”

Today, I’m thankful for TOMORROW. I have hope about a good future because I believe God has already taken care of it.


I came across this passage recently and I find it so comforting and reassuring.

“I am your God and will take care of you until you are old and your hair is grey.I made you and will care for you;I will give you help and rescue you”.

Isaiah 46: 3-4 GNB

3 helpful tips to embrace tomorrow:
1. Pray, don’t fret.
2. Plan by Faith.
3. Be courageous, life is an adventure.


“Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass”.

Psalm 37:5
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Stay fervent.

Between THEN & NOW…

For a while now, the 25th of every month comes with an “unusual” impression in my mind. 

For some reasons, without any prior prompting I begin to feel uneasy and then I check my calendar. 

Lo and behold, it’s the 25th. Good grief.

More often than not, the 25th takes me back…down memory lane.

Of what was…and what could have been. 

If only…

And sometimes, it’s tempting to return to the past, my past.

That part of me that was left behind. 

The tiny, almost lifeless hope that longed for something that seemed beyond reach. 

The dreams I had. The future I had envisioned. The life I had designed by/for myself…

I particularly remember one December morning of the same date, how I sat in front of the TV in tears, with my soul naked and bare, as I tried to numb the pain in my mind with some junk food.

Oh, what pitiful condition I was in that Christmas morning. Of all days. 

I’d been depressed and frustrated for sometime. So I shed tears after tears, with no one to console me. I tried to pray too but that only brought more tears. 

There are days I really want to forget all about it, put a key to the lock and say goodbye FOREVER.

But some memories haunt and others hurt still. Crushed hopes and wasted dreams can hardly be recovered.

And there are days I’m not just sure, if the right thing I did was really the right thing to do…

In all of these, I’ve come to reflect on God’s grace that has brought me thus far between THEN and NOW. 

Here I am still…healing, learning and growing. As I mark yet another 25th on my calendar.

And today, I’m reminded of the lyrics of this song that was my favorite years back:


Along life’s roads 

There will be sunshine and rain,

Roses and thorns,

Laughter and pain,

And ‘cross the miles,

You will face mountains so steep,

Deserts so long and valleys so deep.

Sometimes the Journey is gentle,

Sometimes the cold winds blow,

But I want you to remember, 

I want you to know…

You’ll never walk alone, 

As long as you have faith,

Jesus will be right beside you all the way…

And you may feel you’re far from home,

But home is where he is,

And he’ll be there down every road,

You’ll never walk alone.


I’m rest assured that through this Journey, I will never WALK ALONE. 

And I’m also reminded of this part of the scriptures that I love so much:

Psalm 25:1-5 (GNB)

“To you, O Lord I offer my prayer;

in you, my God, I trust. Save me from the shame of defeat; don’t let my enemies gloat over me!

Defeat does not come to those who trust in you, but to those who are quick to rebel against you.

Teach me your ways, O Lord; make them known to me.

Teach me to live according to your truth, for you are my God who saves me. I always trust in you.”

I know that as I continue to trust God with my PAST, PRESENT and FUTURE, I won’t be defeated. And like the Psalmist, my enemies will not gloat over me. But I will rejoice over them instead. Amen.

Thank you for reading,


Your Dream Is Not Bigger Than Mine…

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Your dream is not bigger than mine, 

My dream is not bigger than yours. 
Your dream is what it is, yours…

To be the President, a great scientist or business tycoon.
My dream is what it is, mine…

To travel the world, care for the poor or become a nun.
The size of a dream is not determined by its loftiness,

but by the size of the hearts behind it. 
So your dream is not bigger than mine,

And my dream is not bigger than yours.

Keep your dream alive,

The world needs it.
~Requ1ne~ (2016)



Good things come to those who wait,

Good things come and they won’t fail;

Good things come to those who pray,

Good things come so do not faint;

Good things come to people of faith,

Good things come to them and stay;

Good things come with joy and peace,

Good things come with much relief;

Good things come you wait and see,

Good things come, be still and know;

Good things come, O child of God,

Good things come, it won’t be long;

Good things come in God’s own time,

Good things come, right on time!

@REQUINE (2014)


FRIEND“Hi. How are you doing?”

ME“Oh…I’m doing great, thanks.”

FRIEND: “That’s good to know.”

Isn’t that the pattern in a lot of our daily random conversations (especially social media ones)?

Well for me, it is. My automatic response is always that of expected optimism. At least, initially. For the friend that takes the pain to ask a second or third time during the conversation, you might hear something like: 

“All is well” or “God is faithful”. Still trying to sound optimistic.

Sometimes I go on to vaguely mention something I’m dealing with at the moment, like school stress. And the friend tries to give some basic encouragement/support, which is usually soothing. 

There are some of my friends however that I’m more comfortable at being vulnerable with, that often get to hear the real gist of whatever is going on in my life right then.

The truth is, at any given time, many of us are faced with at least one challenge or the other. It could be minimum, medium or maximum in quantity; minor, moderate or major in quality. Challenges are inevitably part of our lives. From the difficulties at work or in our studies, to the strains we experience in relating with others, to issues with Money or Health or Family, the list of challenges is never ending.

I was faced with lots of them last year, and I’ve experienced a few this year already. I’ve learnt, and I’m still learning, to embrace the challenges, hand them completely over to God, and rely on his promises according to the Scriptures (Romans 8:28).


Too often, a lot of people try to shy away from this reality by hoping, and sometimes praying for a challenge-free ride as they embark on new jobs, projects, relationships and the likes. No one wants to experience anything but bliss and lifelong happiness. We were naturally wired for that. However, since we all live in a fallen world, with all sorts of imperfect people, including you and me, we need to grasp the fact that: There will ALWAYS be Challenges! 

Challenges are like broken pieces of a picture puzzle, which must be repaired and put back together to obtain a perfect picture. 

Another thing I picked up last year was, that it is the will of God for us to succeed at a given venture, doesn’t mean there won’t be circumstances that will try our faith. As believers we shouldn’t lose hope when faced with obstacles that seem to impede our progress. Challenges are opportunities for us to strive and thrive, rise and soar! If we keep our faith, we will always emerge victorious.   

So prepare your mind for unusual challenges this year in anticipation of the definite Victory that is found in Christ.