JULY 2019|| On Adulting, Being Single and Living in Nigeria.

Hey guys,

Welcome to JULY. 

Disclaimer: This post is a RANT and it may or may not make much sense. 

For a while now I’ve been ruminating on each of these three topics in no particular order. And the more I think about them, the more questions I have begging for answers. 

I hope you my dear readers will shed some insight with me as I share my thoughts below. 

Thank you in advance. 

||On Adulting: 

About two years ago while jobless and becoming increasingly frustrated as I searched for one, I wrote this post 

Tbh, I’m still yet to figure out this whole Adulting thing. 

In fact, the older I get the more complicated the concept seems to be. 

As a kid I thought becoming an adult meant having my own space, making my own money, and just doing my own thing, but nothing could be further from the truth than that.

It’s an irony that everyone knows what I’m supposed to be doing with my adult life except me. 

In other words, my business is practically everybody’s business from parents to close relatives, to colleagues at work, to the society at large. 

Everyday I’m faced with choices of what to do with my money, my time and even my energy.

“Eunice, you must get a side hustle o.” 

“Why do I need a side hustle?”

“Because you need an extra source of income.” 

“What if I’m not interested in having an extra source of income?”

“Do you know how hard it is to survive in this Economy with just your salary?”

For some reasons, I’ve still not been able to convince myself about the side-hustle thing, as most of the popular options (i.e. hands-on skills like baking, sewing etc) do not interest me. 

So in recent times my focus has been on saving at all costs, and my dilemma is always whether to spend or not to spend money.

Should I buy a new pair of shoes or save the money to buy gas?

Should I buy soup ingredients that will last a few days with this N2000 or just buy a KFC takeout for dinner instead?

Should I invest all this money in mutual funds or spend part of it in buying Asoebi for my friend’s wedding?

And if I’m to be completely honest, my common sense doesn’t always win in this regard. 

Again, why does Adulting have to be this hard?

***

||On being single: 

This is another shocking realization for me. Being single is not always as rosy as it is portrayed to be. 

Or maybe I’ve been trying too hard at being optimistic as a single lady. 

Of course the freedom to “do me” most times is something I don’t take for granted. 

Still, why does my heart do flip-flops each time I come across a couple doing PDA?

And why did no one warn me that seeing faces of cute babies whether online or in real life will make my ovaries scream in expectation?

What about instances when the innocent smile of a gentleman causes my heart to melt into whipped ice cream ? 

Countless times, I’ve had to remind myself that my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and unwholesome thoughts cannot be entertained there. 

A number of times I even find myself reporting to a fellow believer, asking for prayers and encouragement because I can’t seem to concentrate with my raging hormones.

To be single is hard work, no wonder many people younger than me are running off to get married. 

And as for the married people that like to intimidate us with this annoying cliché “you’ll understand better when you’re married,” please what is your purpose in this life?

Why can’t we understand better now?

Do we have to earn marital wisdom through “trial and error?”

If I can’t wrap my head around taking care of just myself on some days, how do married couples manage to take care of themselves (their jobs, children, finance, inlaws, health etc) on a daily basis without going crazy?

What is the secret you people are not telling us?

And enough of trying to sugarcoat the truth, please tell us as it is. 

Let’s know if we’re truly mature enough to handle it. 

***

||On Living in Nigeria.

To live in any country can be challenging, but to live in a struggling third world country such as Nigeria is nothing short of exasperating.

Living in Nigeria demands a certain level of courage and doggedness that you don’t even know you have.

It’s only a few months to 2020 and we are no where near achieving the 24 hour/day electricity supply promised by our founding fathers. 

Shall we talk about the despicable state of many of our major roads? 

Or the constant nightmare of encountering highway marauders despite the numerous security checkpoints?

And while our political leaders and law enforcers are a far cry from the ideal, the average nigerian citizen is also as corrupt as they come.

We believe the only way to get even is by cheating a system that has woefully failed us. 

So we don’t mind being dubious about our tax returns.

We falsify academic results to get appointment letters and refuse to pay for electricity, water supply or waste disposal, if we can help it. 

Our attitude to work whether in the private or public sector is so nonchalant. 

The aim of the average Nigerian employee is to do as little as possible but get the highest benefit. 

An average Nigerian doesn’t mind shunting the queues whether in the banking hall, on the highway or in the supermarket.

How do we solve a problem like Nigeria? Where do we even begin from?

Should we all just leave and forget about this annoying country?

***

*PDA: Public Display Of Affection.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤️❤️❤️

FEBRUARY|| 4 Secrets To Waiting Well.

Hey Friends,

It’s February already.

Whether you’re waiting by the bus stop to get a cab, or waiting for a friend at a designated place; Whether you are waiting to get an admission offer into college, or waiting for your PhD thesis to be approved, waiting always comes with mixed feelings.

Tension.

Hope.

Apprehension.

Faith.

Doubt.

Expectations.

And the morbid fear of worst case scenarios. What if I never get married?  What if I never have a baby?

Waiting can be tough, and I would know because I’ve been out of a paid job for a while now (49 days to be exact!).

Like for most people, job hunting has its share of dread (what if I spend all my savings and go broke?) and anticipation (maybe there’s a job offer in my spam folder).


Since I was in a similar phase of life [i.e. Pre-Housejob placement], not too long ago, I now know that it is unnecessary, in fact a total waste of time to stress myself over my current lack of employment.

Because it’s only a phase and it will pass. Still this is easier said than done.

So what are the secrets to waiting well?

1. REMEMBER.

Has God said it? Then he will do it.

Numbers 23:19 GNB

God is not like men, who lie; He is not a human who changes his mind. Whatever he promises, he does; He speaks, and it is done.

Hebrews 10:35‭-‬36 GNB

Do not lose your courage, then, because it brings with it a great reward. You need to be patient, in order to do the will of God and receive what he promises.

2. REJOICE.

Since you’re certain that your miracle is on the way, why not show your gratitude in advance?

Philippians 4:4‭, ‬6 GNB

May you always be joyful in your union with the Lord. I say it again: rejoice! Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart.

3. REACH OUT

It’s funny how we can be so consumed about our own desires that we ignore the obvious needs around you.

You don’t have a job, yet? Pray for your friends who do and ask God to strengthen them physically and mentally, and give them the wisdom to do their work in such a way that will glorify him.

Still awaiting your college acceptance letter? Then tutor your neighbor’s son after school or make dinner for the family.

Now that you’re available, endeavor to make yourself available.

I tell myself, “You can’t be jobless and still be useless.”

Galatians 6:2 GNB Help to carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ.

Philippians 2:4 GNB And look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own.

Hebrews 13:16 GNB Do not forget to do good and to help one another, because these are the sacrifices that please God.

4. REFRESH.

You know how a PC gets stuck after it’s been in use for a few hours, and you have to refresh a particular application, or reboot the entire system?

So is your Waiting Season.

God doesn’t waste our waiting periods, he uses them to train us.

With God, Waiting time is Training time.

Revisit the things you’ve already learnt that will make you better equipped when your waiting is over.

Trusting God for a life partner?
Now is the time to develop yourself mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.

Trusting God for the fruit of the womb?
Now is the time to invest in godly parenting books, and even volunteer to babysit your friends’ kids.

No matter what you’re trusting God for this season, I bring you this word of encouragement, it will come to pass. 

Ephesians‬ ‭3:20-21‬ ‭GNB‬‬

“To him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of: to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time, for ever and ever! Amen.”

Here’s my prayer for you this month, listen and be blessed!

Have a Testimony-Filled February!

:::requ1ne:::

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Musings 1.4|| The best place to be.

Today, I was in Church for the first time since a couple of Sundays. 

One Sunday, I was on a road trip.

For two Sundays in a row, I was at work. 

For the next few Sundays, I had to catch-up with chores

Or was just too lazy to leave my house. 

I attend a church where they “sing and dance” too much

No matter how overwhelmed you were before service,

You can’t leave feeling the same.

An atmosphere of joyful worshippers,

Testimonies of God’s faithfulness,

And a Sermon that builds your Faith.

These and more, are reasons I’m glad I was in church today.

Old picture but present mood.

:::requ1ne:::

Book Review|| When God whispers your name 

Author: Max Lucado

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about this book?
A friend shared it among a library of other amazing e-books.


Expectations
This was one of the first books written by Max Lucado that I read.
So I didn’t know what to expect based on the title alone.

Lessons & Reflections
There were so many points to pick from this book, but I’ve highlighted a few practical lessons:

||On Discipleship and Transformation

– The sign of a true disciple is not a long face. And a solemn christian isn’t neccessarily a good christian. Jesus’ faith made him likeable and not detestable.

– Christ became like us, so we can become like him.



Because of calvary, we are free to choose.

– God looks for more ways to get us home than to keep us out.

– God forgets the past. Imitate him. Sacrilege is to feel guilt for sins already forgiven.

– The Holyspirit is the presence of God in our lives, carrying out the work of Jesus.

– The holy spirit helps us in three dimensions: Inwardly via the fruits of the spirit, Upwardly via intercession and Outwardly via manifestations of his gifts

– The Holyspirit is at the centre stage of any evangelical gathering. He helps both the preacher to teach and the listener to be converted.

– The first miracle recorded of Jesus was that he turned water into wine. What a happy guy he was! Jesus lived as a likeable and approachable person. We all can emulate him.

– Christianity is not a do-it-yourself curriculum that majors in our part and minors in God’s part.

– The problem of sin can’t be fixed by a new policy or government, it can only be solved by God. The society may renovate but only God can recreate.

– Confession is telling God you did the thing he saw you do.

– The holiness of God illuminates the sinfulness of man.

– We have been bought by the blood of Christ and we can never be sold again.

||On Passion and Making impact

– Jesus purpose was not to show off but to show up.

– Changing direction in life is not tragic, but losing passion is

– For every hero in spotlights, there are dozens in the shadows.

– Heroes do not always know when they are heroic. Historic moments are hardly acknowledged when they happen.

||On Faith and Trust

– Don’t ask God to do what you want, ask God to do what is right.

– Faith in the future begets power in the present.

– Even though you may not understand how God works, you know he does. God is doing a good work in you and he’ll be finished when Jesus comes again.

– There is more to life than meets the eye. Faith is trusting what the eye can’t see.

– Faith is the grit in the soul that puts the dare inside our dreams.

– God doesn’t help those who help themselves, he helps those who ask for help.

– God isn’t just near us, above us or around us, he is in us.

– When we stand still, we get out of God’s way. If you don’t know what to do, it’s best to just sit tight and let him do his thing.

– Grumbling about tomorrow will never change it. Grumbling never pays the bills or makes things better.

– It’s not enough to invite God into my heart, I must invite him into my circumstances.

– God wants us to know that when the world goes wild, he stays calm.

– When we are in a tight corner, God’s job is to fight while our job is to trust. How? By praying and waiting. Nothing more is necessary, nothing more is needed.

– Only in asking do we receive and only in seeking do we find.

||On Greed, Affluence and Giving

– Greed is the practice of measuring our lives by our possesions. Greed equates a person’s worth to a person’s purse. It is not defined by what something costs, it’s measured by what it costs you.
If anything costs your faith or family, the price is too high.

– The rich fool’s sin wasn’t that he planned for his future. His sin was that his plans didn’t include God.

– God’s foremost rule of finance: we own NOTHING.

– We can choose to go without a dollar before we take a dishonest one.

– Jesus doesn’t criticize affluence, he criticizes arrogance.

– God hasn’t kept the future a secret. One look at the cemetery should remind us, everyone dies. One visit to a funeral should remind us, nobody takes anything along.

– When you give, you’re making a confession that God owns it all anyway.

– You don’t give for God’s sake; he doesn’t need your money. You give for your sake. Though the gift is to God, the benefit is yours.

||On Anger, Revenge and Forgiveness

– Anger is a malignant tumor of the spirit.

– Just like the cricket, anger has a way of increasing it’s volume until it’s the only sound we hear. The louder it gets the more desperate we become.

– Revenge is natural, not spiritual. Getting even is the rule of the jungle, giving grace is the rule of the kingdom. Judgement is God’s job. To assume otherwise is to assume that he can’t do it. Revenge is irreverent.

– When we focus on the betrayal of others, we ignore the loyalty of God.

– To forgive someone is to admit our limitations. We know in part but God knows the full picture.

– Forgiveness is not saying the person who hurt you is right but stating that God is fair and he will do what is right.

– Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.

– You’ll never forgive anyone more than God has already forgiven you.

– If God can tolerate our mistakes, we must learn to tolerate the mistakes of others.

– To see sin without grace is despair. To see grace without sin is arrogance.

– Our greatest need is forgiveness, so God sent us a savior.

||On Choices and Growth

– We can’t choose our ancestors but we can choose our mentors. Your parents may have given you genes but God gives you grace. You can’t alter your past but you can alter your reaction to it.

– The past does not have to be your prison. You have a say in your life. You have a choice in the path you take.

– Growth is the goal of a christian. When a christian stops growing, help is needed.

– You deepen your prayer life by praying and not by preparing to pray. Better to pray awkwardly than not to pray at all.

– It’s hard to be affirming when you’re affirmation-starved. It’s hard to be forgiving when you feel guilty. It’s hard to be thoughtful when you’re full of worries.

– Real change is an inside job and the heart of the matter is always the matter of the heart.

– You can’t fix an inside problem from the outside. You don’t silence life’s alarms by pretending they aren’t screaming.

– Alarms serve a purpose. They signal a problem. Sometimes it’s out there. Most times it’s in here. So before you peek outside take a good look on the inside.

||On Contentment and Longing for home

– The only ultimate disaster that can befall us, is to feel ourselves to be home on earth. As long as we are aliens, we cannot forget our true homeland.

– Unhappiness on earth cultivates a hunger for heaven. By gracing us with a deep dissatisfaction, God holds our attention.

– We are not happy here because we are not supposed to be happy here, we are not home yet. We are not made for this place, but there’s a place made for us.

– Rest on this earth is false rest. Beware of those who urge you to find happiness here; you won’t find it.

– Those moments of reflective happiness are appetizers for the dish that is to come.

– Anything anyone imagines about heaven is inadequate. No one has come close.

– Lower your expectations of earth. This is not heaven, so don’t expect it to be.

– Contentment is a difficult virtue because nothing on earth can satisfy our deepest longing. We long to see God and our hearts will only be at peace when we see him.

– We can’t be satisfied on earth, not because we are greedy but because we are hungry for something only God can satisfy. Longing is part of life. It’s only natural to long for home while on a journey.

– We often forfeit our patience for eagerness as we demand in this world only what the next world can give.

– When it comes to heaven, one view of the peak will justify the pain of the path.

There’s power in a name. It can either hurt or heal the bearer. Especially when the name comes from the lips of God. He has saved a special name for each of us…because the future is so promising that it demands a new title.

Challenges

Like I mentioned earlier, the title of this book doesn’t do much justice to its content, or maybe it’s just me that feels that way.

Conclusion
Reading this book was fascinating because it reminded me of many truths I had already known. I really love Max Lucado’s style of writing. It’s so beautiful.

Recommendations
You need to read this book if you haven’t. That’s all I’ve got to say 😄
Cheers!
:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

Book Review|| School of the Spirit

Author: Roberts Liardon

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about the book

I was gifted a hardcopy by a sister from my campus fellowship more than eight years ago (and only got to complete it this year 🙈).

Expectations

Somehow I expected the book to be “deep” (with lots of biblical rhema and theological stuff), so I was surprised by how easy to understand it was.

Observations
A very candid, eye-opening and practical read.

PS: If you don’t want to hear the truth don’t read this book!

Lessons

(If given the chance, I’ll share every single lesson I highlighted. But no spoilers, okay?)

⁃ The Spiritual life is a COMMAND and not a suggestion.

⁃ Lessons won’t do you any good unless they are acted upon.

⁃ Majority of us christians lead substandard spiritual lives. We rely more on our senses and feelings than the Holy Spirit’s leading.

⁃ All things begin with GOD. In the beginning, God created…So God should always take the priority in all things.

⁃ The price for a life in the spirit, is OBEDIENCE. You must be willing to pay this price day and night. You either receive God’s instructions or reject them!

⁃ Sin and Glory do not mix. Sin must give way for God’s glory to be manifest.

⁃ No sin can be hidden from God. It’s foolishness to try to do so.

⁃ If you are not growing in the spirit, you’re sliding back. There’s no neutral ground.

⁃ God wants us to live, but we must continually choose life everyday.

⁃ To live below what God expects of us is to be disrespectful of him. To not make use of the provision he has made available for us is to be disrespectful of him.

⁃ A strong spirit is not a gift, it’s something you have to discipline yourself to build.

⁃ The outward anointing is good but strength of character is better.

⁃ Joseph and Samson were both called of God, anointed of God and known of God. Sadly that’s where the similarities ended, because one developed his spirit while the other didn’t.

⁃ When there’s a strong anointing and a weak spirit, you have a schizophrenic Christian life.

⁃ Your body has no conscience, it only has wants. The body mainly craves for three things: Sex, Food and Comfort.

Anointing does not resist the devil. You can be anointed and still fall into temptation.

⁃ You need a strong spirit to control a weak flesh. If you don’t tell your body what to do, your body will tell you what to do.

⁃ The ANOINTING demonstrates the great power of God through us, while our CHARACTER demonstrates the transforming power of God in us.

⁃ Whatever degree you go into God’s word is the degree to which it will provide you with strength and understanding. If you go in shallow, you’ll live superficially. If you go in deep, you’ll live like a STRONG christian.

⁃ It is whatever is in you that manifests when pressure comes. If there’s no word in your heart, you are going to sin against the Lord.

⁃ The word cleanses, regenerates, renews, strengthens and builds.

⁃ If you think you’re too busy to pray, remember the devil is also busy, seeking whom to devour.

⁃ We were created to be led. If God’s Spirit isn’t leading you, something/someone else is. You never stop following, you just change guides.

⁃ God never leads you into anything that is second-rate, he always want what is the best for his children at all times.

⁃ God never has a PLAN B. With God you can put all your eggs in one basket.

⁃ We are responsible for developing our spirits to the point where we can hear God for ourselves.

⁃ If you want to be supernatural, you must learn to be led.

⁃ God is not a violater of the human will. He respects it. The devil however loves to violate the human will and that’s why he takes men captive.

⁃ Your will is the door you decide to close or open. It is your ability to choose.

⁃ The goal of the enemy in the battle for your soul is your will.

⁃ God always tells us what to do but gives us the freedom to obey or disobey.

⁃ You don’t need to be educated to be a great tool in the hands of God. Education is only a means to an end, it is not the goal. Christ is.

⁃ You don’t need to be more EDUCATED to be more OBEDIENT. The opposite is true for many people.

⁃ Imaginations are good but can become monsters, if they are not submitted to God.

⁃ If we are not free from the past, we cannot live in the present or reach for the future.

⁃ A carnal Christian is a person who has a born again experience but is not living it. A person who is born again but lives in the flesh does not scare the devil.

⁃ If you meditate on God’s word long enough you’ll notice a change in your thinking pattern.

⁃ Your body is the vessel through which the gospel is carried to the nations.

⁃ Your body is your responsibility, what it does or does not do, is your responsibility.

⁃ If you leave your body to itself, it’ll do what it wants, when it wants, with whom it wants without feeling guilty.

⁃ The first requirement to being led by the Holyspirit is spiritual hunger. It makes all the difference.

⁃ There has to be a deep yearning for more of God deep down in your spirit regardless of whether he ever does a miracle or not.

⁃ If you do not hunger after the things of God, when the things of God do come, you won’t recognize them.

⁃ Hunger causes you to go to the furthest point to get satisfied.

⁃ People who are hungry don’t ask where the food came from. They just eat.

⁃ Just as Physical hunger recognizes physical food, Spiritual hunger knows spiritual food.

⁃ Spiritually hungry people are spiritually aggressive people. If you are not aggressive enough, then you’re not hungry enough.

⁃ Christianity was born of the spirit and operates on spiritual principles- principles that transcend the laws of the natural universe.

⁃ A person who lives in the spirt knows spiritual principles and uses spiritual weapons.

⁃ To walk in the spirit means to take authority over situations. When you’re caught between a rock and a hard place, don’t touch it in the natural, learn to touch it first in the spirit.

⁃ When you operate in the world of the spirit you can control natural circumstances for the glory of God.

⁃ Your future depends on your knowledge and ability to be operate in the spirit on behalf of your family, career, society and church.

⁃ In the realm of the spirit everything hinges on FAITH in God.

⁃ You never get to the point where you have too much faith. You can always use more.

⁃ Religion is the enemy of faith. It is having a form of godliness but denying its true power. Religion chokes faith by trusting in the seen rather than the unseen.

⁃ Faith is expectancy. It’s released by our words and actions. Faith does you no good unless it’s used.

⁃ The person who lives by faith radiates expectancy, you hear it in their voice; you see it in their countenance; you sense it in their presence. The faith of the believer has a tinge of excitement to it.

⁃ It is the nature of a believer to believe. To live is to believe, to believe is to live.

⁃ We don’t need to be mature or deep in the spirit when we approach God; we only have to be real.

– Buddha was. Mohammed was. But Jesus is. He lives even NOW.

⁃ God’s word speaks to us in the present. The Bible is a living book.

⁃ Carnality and Spirituality are realms of life. You can’t get rid of either one, but the one must dominate the other.

⁃ If you live by the flesh, the natural laws of the universe will have power over you. Facts will direct your decisions, Fear will influence what you do, Feelings will dictate how you react to circumstances.

⁃ Walking in the spirit is a CHOICE, a conscious decision- not an anointing.

⁃ Living in the spirit doesn’t mean you become weird or spooky. You simply become spiritually minded.

⁃ The more spiritual you are, the more relatable you should be. Spirituality is attractive. The Holy Spirit draws people. His presence attracts them.

⁃ Praying in tongues strengthens your spirit. But you don’t have to pray loud for you to pray strong.

⁃ You can’t live in the realm of the spirit without encountering devils, but the devil is no match for a believer who walks in the spirit.

⁃ Just because you’re jumping for joy now doesn’t mean you won’t have war tomorrow.

Like Prayer, Praise is a WEAPON of warfare.

⁃ We are not in an imaginary world, the world of the spirit is REAL.

⁃ With the Holyspirit, the proof usually comes after the fact.

⁃ God never shows you anything for your entertainment. Everything he tells/shows you is for a purpose.

⁃ However God deals with you, be confident that he does deal with you and rejoice in it.

⁃ When God shows you danger, he does it in a sense of warning- not a sense of fright. You will never be left without a sense of his security and peace.

⁃ It is better to follow God’s written word than to wait for a prophetic word. When you can hear God by yourself, you don’t need someone else to tell you what God said.

⁃ The Holyspirit flows to the degree we let him. He is a gentle spirit.

⁃ Never make a decision on a fleece, else you’ll get fleeced.

⁃ Obedience carries a high price tag. It requires that you deny yourself daily.

⁃ Life in the spirit is an EVERYDAY ADVENTURE that gives you power, protection and authority.

⁃ The world needs the message of truth. Every child of God must play his or her part in spreading it.

⁃ To live a life outside the spirit is to live a mediocre life.

Challenges
Like I earlier stated, this is a very practical book that forces you out of your comfort zone. The lessons are of a lifetime and I need to keep coming back to them, so I won’t forget.

Who should read this book?
Everyone who didn’t come to this LIFE to play (pun intended).

Recommendations
To the new believer curious about life in the spiritual realm.
To the growing believer willing to pay the price for obedience.
To the mature believer who wants to deepen his/her walk with God.

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Have you read this book? Please share your experience.

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
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HouseJob Chronicles: Financial Wisdom 101

Well, this series was supposed to be all fun but this particular post may take on a serious tone.

Let’s talk about that thing called SALARY!

I know my salary is my business and your salary is your business, but when all is said and done, you can be a great doctor and still be broke.

That’s why I’d like to share some of the insight I’ve acquired, mostly by experience with you.

Since I’m no expert, this post is as good for me as it is for any Newbie House Officer.

That said, let’s dig in.

Now that you have a job, it feels like you have finally arrived.

It is not funny when a few months into HouseJob you start going broke left and right, and just as you finish clearing one debt, another one accumulates.

Here are a few tips that have helped me stay financially sane:

1. BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND


Sounds cliché, right?

Trust me on this one, your salary can develop invisible wings and fly away overnight.

As a doctor, you should have clear-cut SALARY GOALS.

And the best time to decide that is before you earn your first salary!

What are your immediate Post House-Job plans?

*Port abroad?

*Write Primaries for residency in Nigeria?

*Take a well-deserved trip to Dubai?

*Get married?

*Buy a Car?

Whatever it is, you’ll probably need a substantial amount to follow through.

The average Naija Houseofficer has a “take-home” of 100k (minus taxes and other deductions).

So what will you do with all that money?

Spend it all? Or Save some of it?

What will be your Spending:Saving Ratio?

50:50?

20:80?

10:90?

60:40 is comfortable and works well for me.

So find out what works for you, and make it work.

2. HAVE A BUDGET

Maybe you never had a budget as a medical student because pocket money was not an issue.

Now that you’re earning your own pay, it’s wise for you to have a basic budget.

It’s hard to plan a budget, it’s even harder to follow through.

The goodnews is that a budget should serve as your guide and not your master.

Before that alert hits your phone, get a pen/notepad and write out your budget.

* How much goes for feeding/groceries?

* How much for utilities? transport? rent?

* How about emergencies?

Having a budget may not make sense to you initially, but soon you’ll realize its importance.

3. BE GENEROUS BUT APPLY WISDOM


Here in Nigeria, doctors are a big deal as far as an average family is concerned.

In some families, a doctor is seen as a beacon of hope to alleviate all forms of financial distress.

While there is nothing wrong with meeting some of the financial needs of your loved ones, don’t throw caution to the wind and think you can solve every money related problem that arises.

You’re not the GREAT Provider.

It is even more tricky for guys, when “baes” of different sizes and shapes are involved.

Bros, your name is not Santa Claus. Receive sense in Jesus’ name!

Before you became a doctor, there were needs. Now that you’re a doctor, there are needs.

God forbid that you lose your medical license or fall ill, there will still be needs.

Wisdom, is profitable to direct.

4. BEWARE OF 419

Everyone wants to get richer and doctors are no exception.

Doctors are easy targets to scammers in the name of investors.


If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, you’ll know that Passive Income is the trending thing.

I’m no expert in the world of Multilevel marketing or Cryptocurrency, but I’ve seen people put in a whole lot of money with zero returns.
It can be devastating.

My point is, don’t say YES to every invitation to invest. Double check any idea you’re being offered and do your home work before you launch in.

May you not fall a victim of 419. Amen.

5. DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY.

When all is said and done, your present salary is not enough to fulfill all your future dreams.

It’s very tempting to want to save to the last kobo and live like a peasant during housejob.

That however is unwise.

You’re not in this world to suffer. 

You worked hard for this money (remember the many years you spent studying tirelessly in school), so you deserve to enjoy it.

Flex a little. Shop for some new clothes or shoes. Go on a mini-vacation. Give yourself a treat from time to time.

Don’t WORRY about the future. After all, no one is guaranteed of tomorrow.

Save what you can. Give what you can. Invest what you can.

And spend the rest like a boss.

6. MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING.

You know this.

I know this.

We all know this.

But for some weird reason(s), we like to think/act the opposite. 

As if everything depends on money.

You worth much more than your pay check. Remember this. 

So even if you don’t earn enough, to save, invest or spend as you like-the value of your life is definitely more important to God than your salary.  

***

For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it. Ecclesiastes 7:12 KJV

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

APRIL|| DISCOVER

Hey friends, 

It’s EASTER!

And coincidentally (or not) it’s APRIL FOOLS DAY



but we’re not FOOLS and we are not FOOLED.

“He is no fool, who trades what he cannot keep, to gain what he cannot lose.” (Jim Elliot)


We know that Christ is risen and for this we rejoice!

His resurrection is not a myth, it is the TRUTH.

I hope you let that truth sink in for a moment.

***

So moving into the new month vibes.

The theme|| DISCOVER

Image credit: WEB

So I put together a customized reverse acronym (whatever it’s actually called):

D- Dig Deeper

I- Inspire more

S- Serve selflessly

C- Communicate sincerely

O- Open up about struggles

V- Verbally affirm others

E- Excel at work and life

R- Rest in God’s promises

I just can’t wait to experience all the goodness God has embedded into the month.

WORD:

“O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusted in him.” (Psalm 34:8)

SONG

CURRENTLY READING:

  • School of the Spirit (Robert Liardon)
  • Preparing for marriage (John Piper)
  • The Purpose driven life (Rick Warren)

MEMO TO ME:

In line with the theme, DISCOVER, I’m reminding myself of some important things like:

My Personal Philosophy


My Core Values


My Principles


I am so convinced that:

My likes and dislikes,

My strengths and weaknesses,

My experiences and relationships,

My achievements and failures,

All that I was, 

All that I am,

All that I will be, and

All that I’ll never be…

tell a BEAUTIFUL story. 

So do yours.

Until you believe that, you’ll keep living in other people’s dream world.

So APRIL is a time for me to…

Retreat. Reflect. Refresh.

So I can DISCOVER more of what God has deposited into me, and effectively serve my generation with my unique gifts and skills. 



So help me God.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

BOOK REVIEW|| FERVENT

Author: Priscilla Shirer

Genre: Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about the book
Similar to the book UNSTOPPABLE, it was from a library of books shared by an amazing sister in our TFSA group.

Expectations
If you’ve watched The Movie, WAR ROOM then you are already familiar with the amazing Priscilla Shirer who acted the main character in the movie.

For some reasons, I’m yet to watch the movie but was pretty excited about reading the book.

And can I just say this? I LOVE(D) THE BOOK.

Every page I turned was loaded.

I’ve read it twice already and look forward to a third read.


 

Observations
The book was an easy read.
The writing format was personal.
It was as though the author was speaking to me directly.

The crux of the book was PRAYER.
It is not a book that cajoles you to pray.
It is a book that compels you to pray.

“We simply don’t have the luxury of playing nice with prayer, not if we want things to change.”

You don’t even have a choice.

For every page you turn…

You Read.

You Meditate.

You Pray.

Then Repeat.

The enemy starts failing when we start praying!

Lessons
The lessons in this book are just too numerous and it’ll be a great disservice for you to think you can make do with the few snippets I’ll share here:

1- Prayer is the portal that brings the power of heaven down to earth. Fervent prayer is fueled by passion and fed by faith!

2- The battles the enemy wages has a personality to them, an intimate knowledge of who you are and the precise pressure points where you can most easily be taken down.

3- Satan is not God. And he is not God’s counterpart or peer. They’re not even on the same playing field. His influence, authority, and power don’t even touch the fringe of what our Lord is capable of doing. Satan and God are not mates, period.

4- Prayer: It’s how we keep our whole selves engaged and alert, trusting God for the right things, confident He’s giving them, able to sense His direction about what to do and then to take action accordingly.

5- Expect prayer to expose where you’re still resisting God—not only resisting His commands but resisting the manifold blessings and benefits He gives to those who follow him.

6- Instead of convicting you for the purpose of restoration, as God’s Spirit does, Satan condemns you for the purpose of destroying and humiliating you. There’s nothing bad in your life the devil won’t try to make worse!

7- Focus protects your goals and dreams from being consumed in small bites, stolen right out from under your nose in twenty-minute segments of compromise.

8- There is something you can’t see working underneath the surface, controlling and manipulating what you can see. Praying with precision is key. When we pray about the places where we seriously suspect the enemy is at work—that’s how we keep our prayers focused, not only on particular situations but on biblical truths that are consistent with maintaining victory in the midst of them.

9- One of the enemy’s strategies is to make you mourn who you wish you were rather than celebrate who you really are. His primary tools are Insecurity and Self doubt.

10- Prayer is a reminder to yourself, as well as a declaration to the enemy, that you know he’s there. That you’re on to him.

11- Prayer makes us aware of all the resources and strength and protection that God has already placed on our side.

12- Stop at the place where you first recognize the scent of temptation in the air. And before you touch it, remember where it’s been, where it came from and who’s behind it- SATAN!

13- God’s purpose in giving you Sabbath spaces amid your full, productive life is to help you be uninhibited in your devotion, service, and worship of Yahweh.

14- Prayer—fervent, strategic prayer—can change things. Even unchangeable things. Even things as unchangeable as real-life scenes from your past—what you did, what you didn’t do, why you did it, why you didn’t.

15- Expect your fervency to lead you to a place of rest. Because God is the One who’s fighting for you. And He will surely prevail.


Let me just stop here….you all need to get this book!

Challenges

It’s easy to forget the great lessons in the book if you don’t put them to practice immediately. To maximize this book, you can share it with a friend, prayer partner or members of your small Christian group so you each other accountable.

Who should read the book?

Everyone.

Especially, you reading this review.

Yes, YOU.

Trust me when I say your life CANNOT remain the same afterwards.


I’m a living witness.

PS: A lazy christian will not benefit from the book.

Conclusion

FERVENT literally forces your spiritual eyes to open.

You begin to notice things.

Familial Patterns, Self destructive Habits or Carnal Feelings that you might have hitherto taken for granted.

Recommendation

This book is pure Gold and I recommend it for:

Every Sister who wants to make a difference,

Every Daughter who wants to know the truth,

Every Wife who wants to live in peace,

Every Mother who wants to walk in victory,

And,

Every believer with a burden to intercede, both male and female.

And if you are thinking of going on a few days personal retreat, FERVENT is definitely a choice book to take along.

It will also help to make (or buy) Scripture flash cards and keep a Prayer journal while reading this book. You’ll be glad you did.

***
I hope you enjoyed this review.

Have you read FERVENT? 

If yes, please share your thoughts.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

HouseJob Chronicles- A day in the life of a Naija Intern.

Hello friends, 

Here’s a post showing what a typical stress free day looks like for me as a medical house officer in Nigeria. 

Enjoy!

***

Today was a good one.

Let’s call it the typical FRIDAY SYNDROME


So I’ll join Millions of People across the globe to scream


T.G.I.F

Yaaas! (Image credit: WEB)

Although I have to be at the hospital tomorrow, work is going to be flexible (hopefully), since it’s a non-working day.


Tbh, I never imagined housejob could be this hard.

There are days I love my job 100%.

Other days, not so much.

Occasionally, I get lowkey depressed.

Talk about the physical and mental stress, whether sensible or otherwise.


HouseJob in Naija takes a special kind of grace I tell you.

Anyway, TODAY started on a relatively good note.

When I woke up- which was around 5:30 a.m- the power was out as usual, and with the intensity of Lokoja heat, I had no choice but to get out of bed asap.

I was able to take my bath, brush my teeth, journal some thoughts in my diary, and reheat yesterday’s dinner (white rice and stew) for lunch- all in record time!

LUNCH PACK…Issa Lifesaver!
My dad called while I got dressed, a few minutes after I stepped out of the house, got on the first motorbike I saw and was at the hospital before 7 a.m.

Of the 15 patients- that are split over 6 wards-being managed by my team (Endocrinology Unit), I saw 6 while my partner, Dr. M, (who is definitely more hardworking than I am) saw the remaining 9 patients.

Meet Dr. M

By 8 a.m, I joined other interns, residents and consultants, for our weekly departmental House Officer’s presentation.

Today’s topic was CNS Toxoplasmosis by one of my favorite colleagues, Dr. Tony. It lasted about 2 hours. 

I’m not proud to say I didn’t concentrate during the presentation, because I was chatting on one hand, and making a to-do-list/shopping list on the other. 

Following the presentation, my team had a pre-consultant ward round. 

The team is made up of 2 House officers (Interns), 2 residents, 1 senior resident, and 2 consultants.

Thankfully, the Consultant ward round didn’t hold, as the consultant who was to do the round got called for an important meeting. 

Still wardround lasted about 3 hours. We had to take blood samples, update treatment sheets, check drug charts and the likes. At some point, I had to sneak off to have lunch (because I can’t come and go and kill myself). 

The goodnews was that we discharged 3 of our patients, which is a MIRACLE.

We were done before 2 p.m. While the rest of my team left for home/to run personal errands, I stayed behind.

Not too long after, there was a call that one of our patients with DMFS was out of surgery and my team should start him on the Glucose-Potassium-Insulin (GKI) regimen. 
It took a while to get through to one of my senior colleagues and I even got into an altercation with an otherwise-usually friendly colleague, that got me both angry and hurt. I tried to make the person understand I was only joking but I guess it was a costly one.

Maybe, I play too much. #Lessonlearnt

Eventually left the hospital around 5 p.m. after setting an iv access and constituting the GKI regime together with my Partner.



Dr. M, walked me to the hospital gate, then I went across the road to a nearby supermarket for my typical weekly shopping. It was surprising when moments later two of my cousins (who were visiting a relative at the hospital) walked in too. Let’s just say I was wowed when all my groceries were paid for by one of them.

On leaving the supermarket, my favorite bike man picked me up (he charges only N50 instead of the usual N60 or even N70). The distance between the hospital and where I leave, is roughly 5 minutes by bike. 


When I got home, I briefly went to purchase a bag of pure water from a small shop on the street. 

After which I prepared indomie (with boiled egg) for dinner, had a bath, and ate as I chatted with friends PRN. 


I plan to take a nap shortly after publishing this post.

My plan for the rest of this evening is to: tidy up the kitchen, write in my prayer journal, probably practice Spanish on my Duolingo app, go through a presentation I have in 2 weeks and catch up on social media. 

So far, it’s been a good day and I really look forward to having a refreshing weekend even though I’m on call tomorrow. 😑

I know this feeling…hahaha (Photo-credit: WEB)
Again,

We don’t COMPLAIN, We give THANKS!

For life, for strength, for health, for joy unspeakable, for peace in the midst of several storms, for unmerited favor, for victory…for God’s uncountable blessings.

Thank God for housejob.

It’s a fulfillment of one of the scriptures God laid in my heart during my waiting season, last year:

And he has been faithful through it all.

***

Cheers to a fantastic weekend,
:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

BOOK REVIEW|| U N S T O P P A B L E

Author|| Christine Caine

Genre|| Christian, Non-Fiction

How I came about the book

A wonderful sister-girl from The Fabulous Sistership Academy (TFSA) put together by our amazing mentor, Coach E, shared a library of e-books in the group and this happened to be one of them. 

I so much enjoyed reading it that I recommended it in my small group bible study and we took time to read it together.

Expectations
Tbh, I didn’t  know what to expect the first time I read this book. I assumed it was like any other good christian book I’d come across. How wrong I was. This book was much more. I look forward to reading it again in the near future.

Observations

It was an easy book for me to read. I love good stories.  Many vivid stories were weaved into the chapters of the book, and I practically related with every given scenario.

Lessons

Wow. Where do I even start from? Let me just share a few of the insights:

God has plucked you out of eternity, positioned you in time, and given you gifts and talents to serve him in this generation. Your race is now. This is your time in history. You’ve been handed the baton of faith and entrusted to carry it forward as you run your part in God’s divine relay.

In the divine relay, every believer is called to run, and the only spectators are those already in heaven’s grand stand.

Ready is a tricky word when it comes to following Jesus and doing his will. Because there is a huge difference between feeling ready and actually being ready.

When God calls us and sends us, we are ready whether we feel like we are or not.

If you want to know your part in bringing light and hope and healing into this fractured world, do something. Do anything. But don’t just stand there.

Find a need that needs filling and fill it. Find others who are running and run with them. Ask God to move your heart and open your eyes to other runners who might hand off batons to you.

When we offer our “not enough” to God he will multiply it into his “more than enough.”

Most God given dreams take longer than we think to realize, cost more than we ever thought we’d have to pay, and are far more painful to birth than we ever imagined.

Together we reflect more of God than any of us can do alone.

We are only unstoppable because Christ in us is unstoppable

Challenges
I won’t call it a challenge per se, but the book is not one to be read at a glance or while you are distracted.
It requires that you set some quality time apart to read, and reflect on the lessons from the book.

Who should read the book?
Any purpose-minded believer who wants to play their part in this relay race called Life.

Conclusion
This is a CALL-TO-ACTION book. It has helped me to understand that God doesn’t waste any season/relationship (whether good or bad) in my life, and that every phase I pass through is in preparation for another.



Recommendations
I’m recommending this book for young believers and anyone who wants to DO PURPOSE.

Did you enjoy this book review?

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

PS: All images are from the web.