I’m Adeniran Eunice, a graduate of All Saints University, Saint Vincent and The Grenadines.
2. What was your most favorite posting, and why?
Internal medicine a.k.a Netflix and chill.
I liked almost everything minus the consultant ward rounds, A and E calls, outpatient clinics and the every day morning reviews.
3. What was your least favorite posting, and why?
Too much tension in that department, it was as if I was walking around egg shells so I was always stressed out.
4. Your best call ever?
The calls I didn’t do (either sold or simply helped)😃😀
5. Your worst call ever?
Labor ward calls….arrrgh!!!
6. Nicest Chief(s) to work with:
Dr. Sule (Obstetrics/Gynecology). He was the coolest, calmest and the most collected of all.
7. Life lessons from House job:
i. When you get what you want make sure you want what you get.
ii. God can be trusted even when life makes no sense.
iii. Life not only takes time, life takes effort.
8. What are you thankful for?
God’s protection over my life as a resident outside the hospital facility, and over my health during the Lassa fever scare, despite being in close contact with a patient that eventually tested positive.
9. Your most embarrassing moment?
The day a consultant made me cry because I came late for morning review.
10. Rate your HouseJob Experience on a scale of 1-5:
11. Call food, Yay or Nay?
Nay. I’ll eat a home-cooked meal any day.
12. Longest day of Housejob?
Every day as a Team A member during my Paediatric Posting. Surviving each day was a testimony.
13. Happiest day during Housejob:
The last day of Housejob, which happened to be a day before my next call 😂. Indeed, I serve a living God.
14. New skills learnt?
Practically everything from securing an IV access to inserting a urinary catheter to scrubbing in for surgery.
15. Any regrets?
Not taking a single vaginal delivery (but I’m a pro, now😄)
16. Most admirable consultant:
Dr. Nwafulume, simply because I was given the rest of the day off, the day we lost one of our colleagues.
17. Most likely specialty and why?
Psychiatry. For the love of mental health.
18. Most unlikely specialty. Why?
Obstetrics and Gynecology. I detest the smell of perineal blood and waiting on labor patients is such a nightmare for me.
19. Unforgettable patients:
i. One of my very first patients as a House officer, who was managed as a case of ruptured typhoid ileitis. His recovery was nothing short of the miraculous.
Like Deby said, Truly we (doctors) treat but it is God who heals.
ii. Another unforgettable patient was a young woman we managed during my surgery rotation who passed on due to complications. I’m still in touch with one of her sons, and each encounter is a sad reminder.
iii. I once assisted in resuscitating a “Jane Doe” in the Emergency Room, who was involved in a RTA that involved multiple casualties. She couldn’t have been more than six years old, sadly she did not survive. To the best of my knowledge, no parents or caregivers came forward to claim the body (or maybe they were involved in the accident as well).
20. Something to miss about Housejob:
21. If not medicine, what?
Probably, Clinical Psychology.
22. What next after Housejob?
The Medical Officer life, then hopefully Residency.
23. More important as an Houseofficer, skill or stuff?
Both are equally important.
But if you must find the balance, choose skill over stuff, ‘cos after HJ you’re mostly O.Y.O.
24. Favorite mantra?
“We don’t complain, we give thanks.”
25. Shout out to (tag 3 HOs):
3 is a joke right?? Of Course it is.
I want to appreciate all my colleagues that made my Housejob experience an awesome one.
From @DrChimereze, the first person to show me my way around FMCL, to my unforgettable Flatmates @Emeka and @Osas, who treated me like a lady throughout our stay together, to my rotation partners @Vicky, @Comfy, @Tony, and @Nonso, who had my back always throughout our one-year-ride, to my amazing friends-turned-sisters @Sarah and @Debyo, to my one in a million sugar partner @DrM, my dearest @SPO, the ever friendly @Efosa_M.D, the easy going @DrAmeh, @KingJosh, and @DrFortune, thank you, thank you and thank you very much!!!
And the series Housejob Chronicles is officially a wrap. I hope you enjoyed each post. Don’t forget to send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have specific questions about Housejobs in Nigeria.
I have met a number of people who say things to suggest that friends and friendships are simply…overrated.
They claim they don’t have friends and don’t need them anyway.
They tend to make several excuses to prove those points. They usually keep busy by focusing on themselves, their families, career, ministry, or one social cause or the other.
I’m talking about those who have been afflicted one way or the other by “supposed” friends. I know that is such a sad experience to have and it often prevents future friendships from budding.
In two of my previous posts, Friends, Friendships & Friendliness (2015) and TRUE FRIENDS MAKE A DIFFERENCE (2016), I think I have made a good case for the importance of having (the right kind of) friends.
I’m happy to say that I still hold on to those beliefs, and I’m yet to have an experience with a friend that has left a sore taste in my mouth (not that I want to).
Today, I’m thankful for the beautiful friends God has blessed me with.
The truth is that I’m not really good at making friends.
Let’s just say I’m a bit awkward in social gatherings. But the few friends that I’ve had and that stayed, are as beautiful as they make them.
My med school days are some of the best highlights of the friendships I’ve had. And I miss that.
Everything from get-togethers to sleep overs, to casual hangouts and being treated to restaurants or with take outs (the jolly days of Chinese and Subway 😰, thankfully our Naija also has KFC franchises all over the country), or just staying home to watch movies or play games or talk about life…which is my most favorite thing to do.😉
I have had friends who made my hair at no cost, took me shopping for groceries or paid for my fares out of their benevolence, when I was wanting financially.
I even had a friend who would make me meals and bring it over when I had nothing to eat; the same friend once babysat me all through the night when I was sick and did all the running around because I had to travel to another island for a VISA biometric capturing, the next day. What a huge relief it was for me.
Towards the end of my stay in SVG, I left the apartment I was living in. Two lovely ladies took me into theirs, housed and fed me for a couple of days. I’m not exaggerating when I say they literally doted on me throughout my stay. It was like being waited upon in a 5-star hotel, with room service. I had such a cozy experience.
From there I moved into another friend’s apartment and stayed with her until I eventually left the island. She also went the extra mile to take good care of me. I have been so blessed with such friends and I will always remember them for good.
I’m especially thankful for friends of the same faith. There’s nothing as wonderful as having sweet fellowship with your christian friends.
I belong to a Small Bible Study Group, made up of a few friends and it’s one of the best experiences I’ve had in my christian walk. It’s such a privilege to study God’s word and discover some deep truths together. More so we hold each other accountable based on what we learn and our lives have been imparted remarkably.
Since returning to Nigeria, my friends have rallied around as much as time, distance and our schedules permit. Shoutout to,
-My sweetheart, Funbex (who with her husband), hosted me in her lovely home (not minding our marital status difference 😄),
-My wonderful Wanimi, who went out of her way to help my family give me a befitting (surprise) welcome home party,
-My amiable Walopxy, one of my faithful girlfriends who has stayed all these years, checking on my wellbeing every now and then, because she’s caring like that. May the flames of our friendship burn for many years to come!
Drs. Bunmi and Ify, who made my experience at LUTH worthwhile in every way.
Derayo, our paths have divinely crossed again. Lord B, it’s a blessing to finally meet you.
And to, Ibksinging, Wiseguy, and Tdeemc, the gentlemen who on separate occasions, treated me to the Lagos hospitality.
Of course, Uncle B (my friend from jand😅) who paid me a visit in IB.
And to the others (Ayoigbala, Barrysome, Dr. DJ, Niyot) who have kept in touch, even though we’ve not visited…I appreciate you in every way.
For my friends in the Diaspora, Asholly, Ede et al, thank you for checking on me PRN. 😘
Thanks to you all for the all kindness you have shown to me.
What joy it is to have friends walking in purpose and committed to serving God all the days of their lives. That has been my TESTIMONY.
Let me just share a few nuggets with you from my little wealth of experience (I’m by no means a scholastic authority on this subject):
1. Friendship is NOT always about you.
Yes, we must never forget that. Sometimes we are too carried away by our own needs that we are often blind to the needs of others. Sadly, I’ve found myself making this particular mistake more times than I’d like to admit.
It is true that there are benefits to every friendship but if you make the friendship about you ALL the time, you’ll lose out eventually.
It’s not always about what you like, what you want, what you need…it’s about them too.
Selfishness is something that rips friendships apart more than distance or time. One good way to nip it in the bud is to pray for your friends and then check on them, especially when you feel they are acting detached because you don’t know what’s really going on behind the scenes.
It’s cheap emotional blackmail to whine and complain all the time that your friends don’t keep in touch, when you never bother to text, call or visit them either.
There was a time I accused a friend of forgetting to call me on my birthday, and guess what? The said friend had actually been on admission in a hospital. How selfish of me.
If you however have a friend that is only around when they are in need and soon disappears after, please run! run!! run!!!
2. Your FRIENDS are different from you, don’t try to change them.
I’m a chronic phlegmatic, cool as cucumber, hardly ruffled on the outside but acutely sensitive to the atmosphere around me.
Bottomline: I’m an INTROVERT with bold letters.
My point is, I’m wired differently from my next door neighbor, Sally Jones who seems all over the place, the typical extrovert, blasting music from dawn to dusk, laughing hysterically at anything and everything that seems funny, and lives for the FUN of it.
And that’s okay.
A good attempt at self discovery, will help you appreciate the intricate yet complementary differences seen in others.
I love to watch others have fun even when I’m not participating (or particularly enjoying it) and when it’s time to have my own kind of fun (books, animations, writing), which is boring to most of my friends anyway, I simply excuse myself.
It’s NOT okay for your friends to be anything but themselves when they are around you.
Now when it comes to values and principles that you live by (like integrity, honesty, diligence, discipline), ensure your friends have similar values.
If they don’t help to build you, please leave them.
3. When it HURTS, it’s alright to say so.
Here is one we often take for granted. Like any two smooth surfaces in motion experience friction, friends will occasionally rub off each other in ways that unintentionally hurt. The mistake we make is to keep such hurts inside until our hearts get scarred and the next best option is for us to drift apart.
Only God knows how many friends destined for greatness have been cut asunder by the seeds of bitterness.
I’m not suggesting that you go on nagging about every petty thing your friend does wrong, but you can learn how to communicate effectively when you’re not pleased about a situation.
Granted it might sting your friend at first (most friends assume they give their best), but a good friend will appreciate the feedback and you both can confront the issue and adjust accordingly .
By God’s grace, as I keep learning and becoming wiser, although I’m a long way from becoming the kind of friend I want (need) to be, I’ve certainly grown and my friendships have blossomed and gotten richer over the years.
Also remember that there are several categories of friends, old friends, new friends, special friends, casual friends, close friends, distant friends…no one size fits all.
Every friend is there for a reason and will be needed at one season of your life or the other; as the saying goes,
“A friend in need, is a friend indeed.”
Here are some biblical verses about friendships:
“Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” (MSG)
Proverbs 18:24 “Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” (MSG)
“Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious-don’t get infected. (MSG)
“Better a nearby friend than a distant family.” (MSG)
“You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another.” (MSG)
“By yourself you are unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst.” ( MSG)
To my many lovely friends, I say thank you for the beautiful experiences I’ve had. I do not take the bond between us for granted.
So what are you thankful for today?
Spanish Phrase for the day:
Nostros bebemos leche – We drink milk.
It’s been a very loooooooong hiatus (pls grab your dictionary) and I’ve almost forgotten what it feels like to be here.
Maybe some of you have been wondering why I’d gone AWOL in the last couple of weeks….
Special shoutout to my personal person, Dr. T of Tamie’s alcove, who was kind enough to ask me in particular. ☺️😘
Ahhh…life has been happening. And just when I think the drama is about to end, a new one begins.
What can I say? God is FAITHFUL.
So my theme song for Melodious Marchwas “I TESTIFY” by Ada. Of course at the time, I had no idea of the challenges that awaited me during the month but I could sense the mighty hand of God working quietly behind the scenes…my testimony therefore is in three folds:
1. A Narrow Escape:
A couple of days to the end of March, the enemy made a very cheap, but unsuccessful attempt on my life, via a motorcycle accident.
Like I never expected it…
It was a lovely and gay Monday morning, and I was feeling especially elated that day. You see, the evening before, my sister (who was on a short visit to Lagos) and I, had attended an awesome worship service at JoshuaVille (Mainland) and I was yet to recover from the experience.
It was in that jolly mood that I wished my sister a safe trip and I left for LUTH.
A few minutes down the road the accident occurred, one moment I was walking, the next moment I was flat on my face. The shock of it all…it felt like an out-of-body experience. In fact, at some point, I wanted to laugh…by then sympathizers had gathered and I found myself being taken to the Emergency room. It was on getting there that I had a release from my trance-like state, and soon enough the tears flowed.
2. Through Pain and Tears:
Thankfully the injuries I sustained from the accident were mostly superficial…chiefly skin lacerations. It was an irony to find myself- a doctor in the role of a rather helpless patient.
The weeks that followed were spent in significant physical and psychological distress. I consumed lots of medications, had a good number of wound dressings and found myself in the dental centre more times than I cared about. To further complicate matters, I was sleeping poorly, eating and drinking shabbily, and suffering from mood swings.
What had initially appeared to be a transient phase was fast becoming a frustrating experience for me. I felt (permit me to say) quite angry with God for bringing such distress my way at such an inconvenient time…the MDCN exams were just around the corner.
If only I knew…
3. Way-Maker, Miracle-Worker and Promise-Keeper:
So it was that at some point, I considered not taking the exams, because my situation seemed hopeless. There were days when I had neither the energy nor the willpower to even study. I also missed a couple of revision classes and there was so much to cover.
Thank God for the support of good friends, like Dr. Ify (Chief of PQs) and Dr. Bunmi (my OSCE tutor)…
(These ladies MUST make Heaven😘😘😘)
Along with the encouragement of other well wishers and my ever-praying parents, I was able to move from a state of despondence to a state of dependence on God.
Needless to say, I passed the exams. And all I can say is… BABA NA YOU BIKO!
“[I] thank the LORD, who has not let [My] enemies destroy [Me]. [I] have escaped like a bird from a hunter’s trap; the trap is broken, and [I am] free! [My] help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth.”
Psalms 124:6-8 GNB
The next part of the story is how I transited from being a patient to becoming a caregiver for another, and so my Easter break was practically spent within the four walls of a hospital (Naija hospitals are just one kind), but I won’t bore you with the details sha.
It’s a fresh new week with lots of opportunities to make a difference.
Today I’m thankful for Me.
We often have several reasons why we admire and appreciate other people.
For instance, I appreciate my mum a lot. She is one of the most caring persons I know. She is always concerned about my welfare even in seemly insignificant matters.
My dad on the other hand, is really good with dates. No Anniversary or Birthday in the family passes him by. He would call to let you know he remembers. And it’s one of the things I admire about him.
Each of my siblings and close friends have something unique about them too. Things I feel I may never measure up to and I’m learning not to compare and contrast all the time.
I appreciate people who are outstanding, caring, organized, intelligent, diligent, disciplined, courageous, confident, and passionate among other sweet things.
I especially admire those who have gone against the tide to become everything God has called them to be; people who have refused to be ordinary and are not afraid to step out and make a difference. These are the kind of people that inspire me.
Sometime last year, I began to reflect on some of the things I admire about myself and I came up with a few:
1. My name.
I believe in the unique meaning of names and how they can influence a person; I know mine isn’t an ordinary one.
The name Eunice is of greek origin and it means “Good Victory” or “Happily victorious“.
I’m literally in love with my own name. I know I can’t be defeated come what may. I’m a WINNER all the time.
So when people want to call me by my middle (ethnic) name, I’m like, NO, just call me Eunice, thanks!!!
2. Being petite.
What’s there not to love about my figure and stature? I see being petite as an advantage in many ways especially because I’m able to fit into any social setting without necessarily looking out of place.
The major challenge is getting the right size of clothes sometimes and especially, SHOES!!! I use a small 37 and it’s not the easiest to find in a Nigerian market but I’m still thankful!
3. Quiet Nature.
I bet a few of my friends will beg to disagree with this one…especially those who have seen my “other side” haha.
But everyone who has met me really knows how quiet I can be, when I want to, which is most of the time.
I like myself for that.
Silence doesn’t bother me. It never has and it probably never will. I believe it’s a gift and I’m thankful for it.
We live in a world where most people are busy talking and always eager to be heard, with only a few taking the time to actually listen. My quiet nature allows me to be contemplative, observant and retrospective…and I believe those qualities are…well, awesome.
4. Ready student.
Forget the fact that I’m done with medical school. I still feel like a fresher in the school of life. The more I learn, the more things I know I have to learn.
I’m thankful for the privilege to grow and improve upon myself constantly. My philosophy is: To be better today than I was yesterday.
5. Trust in God.
Above everything else, I’m thankful for my relationship with God. The 25th of September, 2005, was a day that changed my life forever. It’s my faith in God that makes all the difference when it comes down to it. I’m glad I was able to make that decision to give my Life to Christ and the sweet fellowship I now enjoy with him is incomparable.
He guides my thoughts, words and choices. Whatever inspiration I have to reach out to others through this platform and in real life, comes from him.
Here’s one of my favorite scriptures: “I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”
Psalm 139:14 AMP
So what do you admire about yourself?
And what are you thankful for today?
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I’m sooooo EXCITED and highly EXPECTANT about this Month. I remember this time last year when I did the series: A NOVEMBER TO REMEMBER.
How time flies.
I’m thankful for the journey so far, all of God’s blessings towards me and every lesson I have learnt along the way.
So here are a few things that have recently happened/what-I-look-forward-to in November:
1. Scripture for the MONTH: 2 Kings 20:9a (GNB)
Yes and AMEN, because my God is a Miracle-Worker and a Promise-Keeper. I have every reason to TRUST him for what he says he will do.
I received this clear WORD in my SPIRIT on the first of this Month- GOD CAN AND GOD WILL.
And seeing how amazing he is, just a few weeks ago as I was unpacking an old box, I came across one of my prayer requests over 2 years ago:
It was such a HUGE TESTIMONY, talk about ANSWERED PRAYERS! And for me that was A SIGN that God will certainly make good every promise he made as regards the present and my future.
And that’s why it’s advisable to keep A PRAYER JOURNAL and I’m thankful for my PrayerJournal APP which I need to learn to use more often.
2. Song for the Month: WE SERVE A MIGHTY GOD (Positive Media)
Tbh, the song literally gives vibes to my body. I can’t keep still while it is playing. Btw, a Trinidadian sang it and it’s really beautiful, so Yoruba folks pls just chill. Tenkiu! 😉
3. Currently reading the following Books :
i. The Complete Book of Questions (Gary Poole). I have answered 500 questions so far. It’s quite an enlightening read, I’ll recommend you read it with other friends. I downloaded the free PDF version. Here are the first five questions:
and my answers to them:
ii. Me and My Big Mouth! (Joyce Meyer). I borrowed a hard copy from a friend and it’s an eye-opening book too.
Here are some lessons I’ve gleaned:
” We are instructed to talk to and not to talk about our problems.” ” Extremes are the devil’s playground, if he cannot get a believer to totally ignore the truth, he’ll get him to be one sided and out of balance.” “Confession is a means of speaking God’s promises into existence.”
“Thankful people are too busy being grateful for what they have, that they have no time to complain about the things they don’t have.”
“Complaining not only robs the joy of the speaker, but it also quenches the hope of the hearers.”
iii. ANXIOUS FOR NOTHING (John MacArthur). This is another deep book about what a Christian should focus on, instead of worrying endlessly. It’s really been a great resource during this phase I’m in. Here are a few lessons from the book:
” Worry is unnecessary. God doesn’t just create life, he sustains it.”
“Worry is unable to accomplish anything. You may worry yourself to death but never to a longer life.”
“To worry is needless because of God’s bounty, senseless because of his promise and useless because of its potency to achieve nothing.”
“Providing and Planning for tomorrow is taking responsibility but worrying about it, is sin.”
“The best way to avoid worrying is through prayer, followed by right thinking and right doing.”
4. Still studying the book of REVELATON with the help of Matthew Henry’s commentary.
I’m now on the 19th chapter. My favorite so far has been:
Have you let the savior in? If not, what are you waiting for? 🙂
5. Adventures: It’s been one adventure or the other in the last few weeks…I attended a mega concert of African worship, TEHILLAH AFRICANA and it was an awesome experience, followed by a Christian Talent Show that turned out unexpectedly as per the final winners, and most recently, I tried Karaoke for the very first time, with my friends. We did the song- The Heart of Worship (Matt Redman). Unfortunately, I can’t upload our video clip. Sorry😅🙈.
I’m hopeful that there will be more wonderful adventures this month.
6. Projects: So this last month, I completed and entered two stories, for National & International prizes respectively. While I’m not counting too much on the outcome, I’m a bit hopeful that one of them at least gets picked.
– Then I wrote about my Sojourn in SVG (Part 1) here, pls read.
– I’m still working on MY FEGGO DIARIES book. I look forward to getting it publishedthis month. My amazing friend Z (email@example.com) was kind enough to help with cover design samples for the book. You may contact him for the cover design for your book(s) at a token fee. 😉
7. Culinary Skills: My skills have remarkably improved in recent times. Yours sincerely single-handedly made Pizzas for a sale at an event.
I recently attempted baking bread for the first time too, but sadly the yeast wasn’t enough, so it flopped badly…solid rock bread 😓. I look forward to investing more of my time this month polishing more of those skills.
8. SPANISH 101: So yours sincerely has started learning Spanish via YouTube, thanks to a friend’s suggestion. I’m so looooooving it. I didn’t even realize how relatively easy the language is plus a huge BONUS is that my Neighbor is from Cuba. So therefore, I get to practice as often as I want to. Buenos para mí.
9. Another friend told me she was taking some free courses at Edx.org and I decided to check it out. I registered for these three courses:Think 101, Behavioral Medicine: A key to better health and Inclusive Leadership Training, and what an amazing experience it’s been. You can sign up for free here.
10. A few of us volunteered at a community health fair the other Saturday, and I got to play “The Doctor” for real and no longer Student-doctor. Haha. My Medical School Journey was certainly a dream come true.
I was able to take a quick selfie…
11. BE INSPIRED:
a) Looking for what to listen to? You can subscribe to these Podcasts.
– Your Move With Andy Stanley, and
– Enjoying Everyday Life with Joyce Meyer.
You’ll be glad you did.
b) Looking for what to read on BLOGSPHERE? Why not try these:
1.. Omooba’s Blog: Omooba is a wonderful Christian lady who is both an Artist and a Writer. She recently started a new blog. You can check her old blog www.omoobaa.wordpress.com too. She’s refreshingly inspiring.
2. Lola Opatayo’s Blog: The lady writes dramatic, seat-grabbing fictionlike no other. You don’t want to miss out, so visit her blog.
3. Eziaha’s Blog: For Practical Spiritual Truths, Mind-blowing ideas, Awesome Encouragement and daily/weekly Motivation, Coach E’s blog is where to visit. She’s awesome both in WORDS and DEEDS. How do I know this? I know because I’ve had an ENCOUNTER with her…lol.
PS: Do you have a friend or family member who is interested in studying Medicine in the Caribbean? Kindly ask them to visit www.studymedcaribbean.com or like their Facebook page.
PPS: Hopefully, next month will come with a new series December Diary, and the focus will be on how I’m adjusting to life in Nigeria. #Anticipate
“Our love is forever, cos Christ is our pillar.” –Tomiisin & Simeon.
Meet the soon-to-be couple:
My good friend Oluwatomiisin, and her fiancé Simeon will be tying the knot in a few days.
Tomiisin is one of the most amiable persons I’ve met. I’ve known her for over a decade, as we attended the same secondary school (FGGC OYO). In school she was easily liked by everyone, students and staff alike. She was a cheerful and well-behaved student. She was also God-fearing and a committed leader in the school chapel. And that’s where we became friends. Today we’ve come a long way thankfully despite the growing time and distance.
About 3 years ago, I got to know Simeon, who Tomiisin introduced to me as “Noble“. We still haven’t met yet, but we have maintained social contacts. I see him as a nice and diligent young man, and our conversations have been cordial. I remember he was trying to convince me at some point that I should become a Paediatrician so that I can take care of their kids in the future…😅
How They Met:
The pair met at the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife about 6 years ago. Tomiisin who was a student of Joseph Ayo Babalola University (JABU) at the time was spending the break with her cousins at OAU. According to her, she had gone with them to study (in preparation for her 1st semester exams) at a lecture theatre (ODLT II) one fateful day, when she met him.
They got talking casually. Then became friends who grew fond of each other. As days turned into weeks and months, their friendship progressed into interest, and blossomed into love. Thus the relationship was birthed.
Over the years, the two remained committed to each other not just in thoughts, but through their words and actions. Their relationship was initially characterized by late-night calls, chats, and a number of catch-up visits in between. One time Tomiisin told me of how her fiancé came all the way from Lagos to pay her a surprise visit in Ikeji-Arakeji, where her school was located.
Thankfully, as the relationship grew, the distance became less since my friend had the privilege of serving (and eventually getting a job) in Lagos state, where her fiancé worked.
Of course like in every relationship they had their own unique challenges, but through honest conversations and faith in God, and the encouragement and support from godly parents, siblings, mentors and friends, they overcame such.
I admire their togetherness, strength, courage and determination to face the world together. It takes faith to commit one’s heart and future to another person.
Here’s what they think of each other:
Simeon- She’s a Sweetheart_ 😘
Tomiisin- He’s a darling_ 😍
Today I celebrate a friendship that has persevered, a relationship that has endured challenges and a dream that has become a reality.
Yours is a beautiful love story and I hope it inspires all of us that desire a story as beautiful as it is.
The video clip is a token of my love and admiration to you both.
“Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively”.
– Ecclesiastes 4:9
Congratulations Tomiisin and Simeon, may your home be blessed, fruitful and established in Christ.
Yeah, it’s a new word I recently learnt that combines- friends + readers.
I’m back from my short break. I had to pause blogging, and face my book (the Nigerian way of saying one is studying) for a while so I could prepare for the exam I had last Friday.
So technically speaking, I’m done with med school, whoop! whoop!! 😅🙃🤓
The feeling I have is beyond what I can adequately describe at the moment; Thankful, Excited, Relieved, Skeptical, Hopeful….it’s a whole lot of MIXED feelings.
But mehn, I gatz to TESTIFY. God is good.
Moving on, I have to keep you up-to-date with my Medical School Journal series, and round it up very soon I hope.
Before then, let me do a little house-keeping.
It’s June and it’s being a beautiful month so far. I almost can’t believe it’s mid-year already, how awesome God is. I still remember the way 2016 started, with all the declarations, expectations, plans and so forth. It’s just like yesterday you know….
So like I said, Everything about June has been on point:
1. The timely WORD. Philippians 4:13 [AMP].
I’m at a phase of my life where decisions must be weighed and made, because so many things are at stake.
How do I balance taking risks with caution?
How do I balance my faith with common sense?
How do I face the larger and unknown world by myself?
Am I really ready for life?
2. The timely SONG. Oceans (where feet may fail).
I love the idea of having a song in my spirit at every phase of life I find myself in. This song is just it at the moment. Every single verse speaks volume to me.
It’s been an insightful read so far. I never thought Genesis could be that deep. Currently on CHAPTER 24, the story of how Abraham’s servant found REBEKAH for Isaac. The Holyspirit helps to bring the word of God alive in my spirit. And what more, it is so timely for this phase of my life.
Thankfully, I can study the bible with the help of these two bible commentaries on my Bible study App.
There’s nothing like being FED on the WORD and being LED by the SPIRIT of God on a daily basis. I’m still learning how to cultivate the habit of MEDITATION. I mean literally chewing on and digesting the WORD of God. There is no lack where the word abounds.
4. Listening to JOYCE MEYER‘sPODCAST series.
The teachings have been on point. I’m so loving what I’ve learnt. She recently taught on how focusing on developing Good HABITS can easily get rid of the bad ones. I was literally wowed.
5. Currently reading:
A. AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN (ANTHONY ROBBINS).
Hmmmn…I’m still not done yet, taking the book in a sip at a time.
B. THE DATING MANIFESTO (LISA ANDERSON).
Eye-opening and mind-blowing. You can’t read it and remain the same!
ZOE- This brother is an AWESOME package, whether we’re praying, playing or studying, he’s always just on point literally. Infact, I’m short of words…
OLUWATOYIN- My friend of 6 years plus and still counting. In describing her recently, I said she turned my life around a complete 180 degrees, that’s without even trying to. She’s all of these and more:
T– Tenacious. When she’s DETERMINED, she’s hyper-DETERMINED! She’s a Goal-getterper excellence.
O– Outstanding. God-factor ✅ Brains ✅ Fashion ✅ Personality ✅ Domestication ✅. My dear friend is a completelycomplete woman in Christ!
Y– Youthful. Energetic babe. Always singing and smiling, wining and dining…living life on the FAST & FABULOUS lane. She’s one of the reasons I appreciate non-conservative people. My friend can really be a SANGUINE like that.
I– Inspiring. This one is a no-brainer. From simply doing chores, to studying or singing, I love to watch my friend cos there is a lot to learn. TY challenges me to do better.
N– Nice. I’m not kidding, she’s at least 3 times Nicer than I am. I know cos we’ve lived together for almost 3 years. The way she cares for and relates with People is so amazing. She’s an easily likable person.
That is all for now folks.
I’ll keep trusting God for the rest of JUNE and beyond. I’ll give updates of what is happening with/around me from time to time.
So I decided to take a break from my Medical School Journal series and do this random post. I’m aware that a good number of folks (including myself) enjoy reading blogposts about day to day events. I’ve had an exciting MAY so far, and I will be sharing some of the things I’ve done/learnt with y’all.
15 funfacts about the month of MAY:
1. The WORD for the month- Ecclesiastes 3:12. Sweet!
2. The SONG for the month- You Make Me Brave (Amanda Cook & Bethel Music). It’s such a sensational song.
i. AWAKEN THE GIANT WITHIN (Anthony Robbins). Since starting the book, I’ve been getting NEW ideas and rekindling some old ones. It’s a book that will definitely add PASSION to your dreams. I recommend it.
ii. CHASING SUPERWOMAN (Susan M. DiMickele). I loooove this book. It addresses issues like combining motherhood with spirituality and career. And I love the honesty with which the author writes about her personal experiences. I recommend it too.
5. Alsoreading this devotional for Ladies and Mothers by the very amazing Eziaha, one of my favorite bloggers. You can download it for free here.
6. I have also been studying the book of GENESIS and now on the 7th chapter, the famous story of NOAH AND THE ARK. I’ve enjoyed it so far.
7. Just completed my 3rd week of psychiatry posting. The experience has been an adventurous one. You will be able to read about it later as featured in my Medical School JournalSeries.
Last Sunday’s Sermon- SEASONS OF MY LIFE was both epic and timely. My Pastor is such a blessing. You can download the PDF version here.
9. On Sunday evening, a friend from church took us on a ride to the countryside and we had soooooooo much fun. I’ll let the PHOTOS speak!
10. On Monday which was work-free, I was home with friends watching the second season of Funke Akindele’sJENIFA’S DIARY, an unusual combination of comedy and commonsense. You can watch the movie trailer here.
11. That evening, I and my wonderful friend Ede, went on a date to mark her birthday (which was belated). She is one woman of substance and value I admire, she blogs here.
12. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday flew quickly and aside work-related matters, were quite uneventful. However, I still had some FUN.
13. On Friday evening, my friends and I had a Biblestudy on ANGER. I was thankful for the teaching because I’ve had struggles in that area in recent times. One of the passages we went through was the story of Jonah (Chapter 4) which we found quite hilarious. The main character, ProphetJonah seemed to be seriously vexing at GOD, like some of us do sometimes. But God is always JUST and in this account, he patiently showed Jonah the errors of his thinking.
One of my friends pointed out that ANGER is of 3 major components: the SOURCE, the FUEL andthe DIRECTION. Pride fuels anger while Prayer dissipates it. I’m trusting God to breakdown every STRONGHOLD of anger that is limiting me in anyway. Phew!
14. On Saturday, I attended this program organized by a group of young Christian ladies tagged “THE WOMAN IN ME” and it was such a BLESSING. The speakers were A-W-E-S-O-M-E! Inparticular, the teaching on communication was on point. One major take-home lesson for me was this: I’m not only responsible for what I say, I’m also responsible (to an extent) for what my hearer understands. I discovered a lot of negligence on my part and with God’s help I’m determined to do better.
15. So today is Mother’s Day, and I join millions of folks to celebrate all present and potential Mothers across the globe. I know womanhood and especially motherhood, is a huge responsibility. I’m passionate about women becoming all of what God has called us to be. This VIRTOUS Woman is who I aspire to become:
I look forward to enjoying every single day the rest of this month. I hope you do too.
What would it be like to live in a world where you are without at least one person, to call a true friend? It’s hard to process that, it’s really hard!
I’ve come across a few folks who say they don’t have any friends. Maybe because they believe there are too many fake people around, or because they don’t really have the time to keep friends or because they just don’t give a damn! Well, I feel sorry for them because they don’t realize what they are actually missing.
“Friendship is a beautiful garden to be cultivated and explored. Its leaves blossom when we tenderly nurture it with affection and love.” (Requine, 2016)
For the most part of last year, I enjoyed the benefits of having some great and amazing friends in my life. People of like minds that I could talk to, share ideas with, get advice from and be encouraged by. Sometimes we prayed, played or argued. Other times they cautioned or corrected when I erred. The year made some of the fondest memories I’ve had in my lifetime. I wrote this post Friends, Friendships & Friendliness last November. Through some of my friends’ recommendations, I was blessed by amazing books, movies, lots of music and messages!
I’m grateful to God for all the beautiful friends he places at strategic moments of my life. I’m where I am today partly because of the kind of company I’ve kept over the years. Concerning my choice of friends, I haven’t had any regret or unfortunate incident. I always feel blessed, thinking and talking about this. I mean I’ve heard tales of Friendships-gone-sour; but thankfully, I’ve never been a victim of being stabbed in the back by a friend.
By virtue of my temperament (PhlegMel), I’m prone to be easily influenced by others. Thank God for steady, worded, faith-practicing, spirit-filled, growing & prayerful Christian friends, whose influences have greatly been to my advantage. I just can’t thank God enough. This has been my testimony, Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)– Iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. TRUE FRIENDS REALLY MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE!
Towards the end of last year, two of my very good friends changed their location. It dawned on me that I shouldn’t take the people God has placed in my life for granted, because they won’t always be there.
Last year also, my relationship with a friend (Let’s call her Sally Sanguine), almost hit the rocks, but for God’s divine intervention. I strongly sense in my spirit that it was the enemy’s intention to destroy our divinely-planned friendship for mere misunderstanding on both sides. It took a lot of forbearance, patience and prayers to stay put. If not we would have added to the growing statics of friendships-gone-sour.
In the light of that experience, I learnt that it’s not enough to be a good friend, I had to make conscious effort not to become a bad friend. When God started to show and deal with me on the issues of my being annoyingly critical of others, and that I was harbouring sins like envy and jealousy in me, I was shocked. I had to struggle with a lot of emotions and there were times I wept sore. It was pathetic. But thank God I was able to confess and let go of the offenses. Today, my friend and I have a more cordial relationship, void of malice or bitterness. And many good things have happened between us since.
Friendship, like most other relationships demands a level of commitment. If you keep taking from more it more than you’re depositing into it, the friendship will go bankrupt!
Be a TRUE friend this year. Don’t just receive, Give.