Whether you’re waiting by the bus stop to get a cab, or waiting for a friend at a designated place; Whether you are waiting to get an admission offer into college, or waiting for your PhD thesis to be approved, waiting always comes with mixed feelings.
And the morbid fear of worst case scenarios. What if I never get married? What if I never have a baby?
Waiting can be tough, and I would know because I’ve been out of a paid job for a while now (49 days to be exact!).
Like for most people, job hunting has its share of dread (what if I spend all my savings and go broke?) and anticipation (maybe there’s a job offer in my spam folder).
Since I was in a similar phase of life [i.e. Pre-Housejob placement], not too long ago, I now know that it is unnecessary, in fact a total waste of time to stress myself over my current lack of employment.
Because it’s only a phase and it will pass. Still this is easier said than done.
So what are the secrets to waiting well?
Has God said it? Then he will do it.
Numbers 23:19 GNB
God is not like men, who lie; He is not a human who changes his mind. Whatever he promises, he does; He speaks, and it is done.
Hebrews 10:35-36 GNB
Do not lose your courage, then, because it brings with it a great reward. You need to be patient, in order to do the will of God and receive what he promises.
Since you’re certain that your miracle is on the way, why not show your gratitude in advance?
Philippians 4:4, 6 GNB
May you always be joyful in your union with the Lord. I say it again: rejoice! Don’t worry about anything, but in all your prayers ask God for what you need, always asking him with a thankful heart.
3. REACH OUT
It’s funny how we can be so consumed about our own desires that we ignore the obvious needs around you.
You don’t have a job, yet? Pray for your friends who do and ask God to strengthen them physically and mentally, and give them the wisdom to do their work in such a way that will glorify him.
Still awaiting your college acceptance letter? Then tutor your neighbor’s son after school or make dinner for the family.
Now that you’re available, endeavor to make yourself available.
I tell myself, “You can’t be jobless and still be useless.”
Galatians 6:2 GNB Help to carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ.
Philippians 2:4 GNB And look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own.
Hebrews 13:16 GNB Do not forget to do good and to help one another, because these are the sacrifices that please God.
You know how a PC gets stuck after it’s been in use for a few hours, and you have to refresh a particular application, or reboot the entire system?
So is your Waiting Season.
God doesn’t waste our waiting periods, he uses them to train us.
With God, Waiting time is Training time.
Revisit the things you’ve already learnt that will make you better equipped when your waiting is over.
Trusting God for a life partner?
Now is the time to develop yourself mentally, emotionally, financially, and spiritually.
Trusting God for the fruit of the womb?
Now is the time to invest in godly parenting books, and even volunteer to babysit your friends’ kids.
No matter what you’re trusting God for this season, I bring you this word of encouragement, it will come to pass.
Ephesians 3:20-21 GNB
“To him who by means of his power working in us is able to do so much more than we can ever ask for, or even think of: to God be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus for all time, for ever and ever! Amen.”
Here’s my prayer for you this month, listen and be blessed!
To wrap up the series- Housejob chronicles, some of my FMCL colleagues will be sharing their housejob experiences on this platform.
1. Can we meet you?
I’m AIMIEN Emmanuel Efosa, a graduate of the College of Medicine, Ahmadu Bello University Zaria (2017)
2. What was your favorite posting, and why?
The posting brought about a sense of responsibility for work in me. It really put me on my toes.
Because I gave it my all, there was minimum distraction with unproductive activities. Then I learnt a lot of skills and the importance of proper documentation.
Surgery taught me that productivity always gets the praises compared to activity. And working smart pays than working hard.
The appreciation and great feedback from my chiefs (senior colleagues) also helped to boost my self confidence.
3. What was your least favorite posting, and why?
In one of the teams I worked in, my immediate chief was rather condescending.
That experience brought down my self confidence and left me emotionally and mentally drained.
I ended up not giving my best.
It was difficult to mentally surmount the challenge of condescension from the chief because I had not built a mental defence or bulwark before hand and that’s because I wasn’t expecting such to happen.
It’s important to built mental defenses at the workplace before hand and never assume everyone will treat you with respect.
4. Best call ever
My last call(s) in ObGyn posting!!!
5. Worst call ever
My first SCBU call (Christ!!!)
6. Nicest chief(s) to work with
– Dr Ogbuefi (SR Paed): She was a great team leader, carried us along, deferred to our clinical judgement a number of times and complimented us accordingly.
– Dr Amode (SR ObGyn): I loved his clinical acumen and skills, he was brilliant yet down to earth. He had a way of carrying his junior colleagues along in patient management. He had good social skills as well.
– Dr Ogunmola Toba (MO, Medicine): One of the most approachable Chiefs, working with him was stressless, he was not snobbish, and he attended to even the most trivial requests.
7. FavoriteConsultant, and why?
Dr Awani Kingsley (Consultant, Gen Surg): He pushed me to give my best by setting an environment that kept me out of my comfort zone.
8. Most likely specialty, and why?
I found the posting fun, in an adventurous way.
The Low mortality rate compared to Internal medicine is also a plus.
Then I think surgery is pretty easy, stuff wise.
9. Most unlikely specialty, and why not?
My paediatric posting experience is still a nightmare.
The specialty is also pretty demanding, time consuming and the stuff is voluminous.
10. Life-lessons from Housejob:
1- Never (even if you are to blame for a patient’s loss or you are lacking in skill) lose your confidence!
2- Never step out of your home without asking God to guide you through the management of your patients.
3- Be patient with yourself, your colleagues and your patients.
11. Most embarrassing moment:
(This one still dey fresh for my mind😱)
I was asked to remove a patient’s urethral catheter.
I was sure to deflate the catheter balloon totally, which I did. I removed the catheter afterwards: guess what?!
The catheter came out with an inflated balloon.
My SR screamed “bóbòyí“.
Took me a while to regain my clinical confidence.
12. What are you thankful for?
– The gift of men: At all times and strategic places, I had colleagues who were willing to help me improve on my clinical skill and knowledge. I can never forget Dr Ebidame Stella who upped my confidence and showed me how to do episiorrhaphy; she even had me done one under her supervision. Drs Muluh Idris, Ameh Emmanuel, Nwachukwu Chinaza, Demide Esther, Amadi Saleh and Ayua Comfort.
For the kind gestures and levelling high my self esteem, I want to say thank you to everyone with whom I had a great time with during housejob – most especially, Dr Deborah Okonji and Dr Ubong Ekaete.
– For Exceeding Grace, the Spirit of Excellence and Divine Strength to execute all and beyond that which were required of me.
– The great remarks I got from my senior colleagues (Regs, SRs and Consultants). These remarks are nothing but pedastals on which I stand to do more and better; giving my absolute best.
– Never having an extra-call 😄🙌
13. Longest day ever:
Any day of Dr Awani’s call!!!
14. Happiest day(s) ever:
– Days when patients express their satisfactions for services I rendered.
– Days when I hear the cry of a new born baby
– Days when patients say “I have never been given so much attention in my life like you’ve given me today”
– Days when I see those children pulling out of surgery and doing well post-op.
– Days when I hear “Discharge that patient today” 🙌😅
15. Something to miss about Housejob:
– I will miss everyone I worked with – my immediate colleagues, senior colleagues, nurses (especially the A/E and scrub nurses) and other health care workers.
– Patients and workers in FMC will miss me (I’m replaceable, but there can never be another Efosa in FMC Lokoja 😎)
16. Rate your housejob experience on a scale of 1-5:
4/5 (It was awesome!)
17. Call food, Yay or Nay?
*Nay (Who call food epp?🤔)
18. Anynew skills learnt?
Several… Suprapublic cystotomy (SPC), Urethral Vein Catheterization (UVC) and a handful of others.
19. Unforgettable patient(s):
Too many to mention all…
1. 11-year-old M.I of blessed memory. Died from advanced stage Neuroblastoma
2. 3 year-old V.J whohad stage IV Wilm’s tumor
3. V.J with metastatic ovarian cancer
4. 30+ year old H.B– who had triplet gestation; and gave birth to the three alive and still doing well.
5. J.S who had Metastatic breast ca.
6. R.I: typhoid ileal perforation. Stormy post-op period – post-op pyrexia, AKI, etc. She pulled through and is doing very fine today.
7. A young man who had necrotizing fasciitis with brachiocephalic vein erosion. No, I can never forget this particular patient…resuscitation was PRN.
20. Any regrets?
21. Favorite mantra(s):
– For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
– Where there is a will, there is a way.
– Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
– We will all be great and the beautiful part is, we will all know ourselves
– “last last, we go dey alright”
22. Special shoutout to my favorite HOs:
23. What NEXT after Housejob?
I’ll just go about doing good (Acts 10.38), exploits (Daniel 11.32), manifesting and expressing my Sonship in Christ (Romans 11.37); and taking possession of the corners of the earth (Psalms 2:8)
24. What’s more important for a House Officer, skill or stuff?
None can take the place of the other.
In the setting where one has to be chosen, go for skill during HJ; you can always acquire stuff later.
25. If NOT medicine, what?
26. Thank you for sharing your Housejob experience.
Thanks for having me.
Dr. Efosa was more than a colleague at work, he was, and is still a friend and a brother; readily helpful, jovial and very generous.
He loves God and is passionate about Medicine. He believes clinical knowledge and skills are no replacement for empathy and compassion.
Good music, good movies, good friends (virtual or physical), and wifi/data are a must have for him, while he isn’t working.
You know that moment your body is like “that’s it, I’m not doing again.”
Then it totally shuts down.
Without warning. Well maybe a few warnings you ignored, because you were too BUSY taking care of other things except yourself.
I’m not here to reprimand you.
I’m actually here to offer some perspective and encouragement when you find yourself in that situation.
Feeling sick can be frustrating, but we must learn to make the most of every moment in life, including moments of illness.
||MY SICK-LEAVE STORY
So yours truly went on her much anticipated 1-week leave and I actually traveled out of Lokoja, whoop!
It was a breath of fresh air to spend some days with my cousin’s family in the lovely town of Benin-city.
On getting back, I looked forward to maximizing the remaining days of my leave. But this life ehn…
Long story short, my body broke down. insert *real tears*
And guess who the culprit was?
If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, you can appreciate the following facts:
Malaria can do you STRONG thing.
If you’re not familiar with what Malaria is, please read this.
Naija mosquitoes are NOT your friends.
After trying to shake off the sickness for a day, I borrowed myself sense and went to purchase an antimalarial drug from a drugstore. When the chemist told me that COARTEM was N1800, I was like “For ordinarymalaria?” 😳😑
Treating Malaria is expensive.
Prevention is indeed CHEAPER than cure.
Prior to completing the course of my treatment however, I was low-key depressed because of the limitations Malaria had imposed on me. I was indoors and in bed most of the time, and having a poor appetite did not help.
I know this sounds childish but I was also angry at God for allowing me to fall sick while I was supposed to be on my leave flexing. Then this realization dawned on me:
I can be SICK and CHEERFUL. A sick body is NO EXCUSE for a foul mood.
I repented and decided to look on the bright side. So I have come up with some creative ways to stay SANE while sick.
[PS: This post is NOT meant for those with critical illnesses that need the maximum support to get by.]
1. BE THANKFUL.
Among other things, you can be thankful for life, access to healthcare facilities and for medications that work.
2. HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.
I know that sickness is no fun, but it takes a cheerful spirit to find humor in unusual situations. The scripture says “a merry heart doeth good like medicine.” Proverbs 17:22a
A compulsory bedrest is a time to get some perspective about life. Mentally RESET. Dump any emotional baggage you’re holding on to. Forgive those who have hurt you. Let God do a deep cleansing in you.
4. KEEP A JOURNAL.
Being on the sick bed can also be a great opportunity to chronicle your life’s journey. It’s fun, and relatively stress free.
5. LISTEN TO MUSIC.
While whatever meds you’re on is providing healing for your body, let some inspiring songs lift your soul from the dumps.
6. READ A BOOK.
Whether for recreational or motivational purposes, reading a book is a wonderful way to momentarily forget how sick you are and live in a different world.
7. ASK FOR HELP.
Many of us hate to be burdensome while sick. But the scripture encourages us “to bear one another’s burdens and fulfill the law of Christ.” (GALATIANS 6:2) Allow others to help you through your trying time, and learn to do the same when there’s an opportunity.
8. REACH OUT TO OTHERS.
Now that you have the time, make that phone call you’ve been postponing, get in touch with that friend you’ve been too busy to contact. You can be sick and still be a BLESSING.
9. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR HEALTH.
Some of us live in denial for so long that we ignore the warning signals of an illness, and when we eventually crumble we blame everyone except ourselves. A time of sickness is a reminder that you should take care of your body so that your body can take care of you.
I saved the best for the last. If you’re a believer, by all means pray for the restoration of your health.
Healing is the children’s bread. That is, you have a right to good health because you’re a child of God.
In the scriptures, there is provision for divine healing as well as divine health, and I’ve benefitted from both.
You have no excuse not to pray while you’re sick.
Sickness is a moment of vulnerability and also a reminder that, of yourself, you’re not strong enough.
Here’s a Promise God gave to me at the beginning of this year,
[I] will keep you safe from all hidden dangers and from all deadly diseases. PS 90:3 GNB
With that, what more ASSURANCE do I need? So when satan tries to suggest all forms of weird diseases to me, I literally chase him away with that verse.
I HOPE YOU FIND THE TIPS HELPFUL. So how do you stay sane while you’re sick?
Often, when I remember what growing up was like… I just smile. The playing, acting, eating, singing, sometimes arguing or even fighting together.
Now that we are all grown and mature, let’s just say things are not as they used to be, still we try to have fun as much as our schedules, time and distance permit.
BROTHER TAG @OSESE
1. He (26 moons and 6 dawns)
2. A lot of things…he is jovial, nice, musical, allows me to eat from his plate (even when he is frowning), teaches me a lot of handy stuff around the house, chauffeurs me around town, dashes me money (what more can a little sister ask for 😄) etc
3. He says we look alike…😂😂 [I can’t think of anything else]
4. Random stuff…gisting, hanging out, throwback songs, kid games like Name, Animal, Place or Things (my favorite😅)
5. BC, Egbonsky, Goldenbrother, Smat, Nirankeyz…
6. He doesn’t joke with FOOD, like seriously, dude can like to eat…maybe it’s just a guy thing sha.
7. Plenty memories…primary school days, traveling in the car backseat and singing our lungs out, that late night trip to former Wonderland (Abuja)
SISTER TAG @OSEBI
1. I (57 moons and 6 dawns)
2. Brainy, Black & Beautiful, mouthed, our family tailor (sorry, fashion designer ☺️), allows me to use her makeup and wear her clothes whenever I like…😉
3. My look-alike in shape, size, height, face (minus the glasses), lots of similarities in thinking (Women rights and feminism topics), life goals (family, career, vacations), creative writing, event planning etc
4. Same as OSESE
5. P, Princo, Cindy
6. She can sleep for Africa…no controversy (sorry babe, couldn’t help it😘)
7. Play acting as little girls, late night convos as adults
Again, I’m thankful for my siblings…their support in times of distress is of immense value. Family is not a right but a privilege…and I do not take mine for granted.
Love you bro and sis❤️❤️❤️
What are you thankful for today?
Spanish phrase for the day:
Me gusta cocinar- I like to cook
I hope you all are eager to partake of all that God is set to do this season (in your life, nation and globally)…because I AM.
There’s just so much I’m trusting God for right now, and I believe there are endless possibilities awaiting me as each day unfolds.
One of the scriptures I currently find encouraging is,
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will act.” Ps 37:5
I saw this on the blog of someone I admire greatly (Hola doctora!😀), and I decided to adapt it for this post.
a) FERVENT (Priscilla Shirer):
“That’s why you and I need to be praying—to keep the truth about our real identity in constant, unbroken focus before us.”
“Truth—God’s standard and viewpoint about us—must come first in our hearts and minds if we want to be effective in
battle against the enemy.”
b) WHEN GOD WHISPERS YOUR NAME (Max Lucado):
“Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.”
“God forgets the past. Imitate him. Sacrilege is to feel guilt for sins already forgiven.”
“Don’t ask God to do what you want, ask God to do what is right.”
“You’ll never forgive anyone more than God has already forgiven you.”
“To see sin without grace is despair. To see grace without sin is arrogance”
c) LIONESS ARISING (Lisa Bevere):
-The lioness rises to gather strength, greet/groom others, hunt, move the young to safety, confront the enemies that threaten the pride and walk alongside her king.
-The lioness has something which is fierce, wild at the same time beautiful.
d) PASSING IT ON (Myles Munroe): “Finishing well is more important than starting well.”
“One of the most difficult decisions a leader has, is to surrender the reins of power to another.”
“Knowing when to leave is so essential that it’s better for a leader to leave too early than too late.”
e) INNOVATION AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP (Peter F. Drucker):
– Entrepreneurship is neither a science or an art, it is a practice.
– Innovation is the specific tool for entrepreneurs the means by which they exploit change as an opportunity for a different service or business.
– Not everyone who starts a new venture is an entrepreneur. An Entrepreneur has to have special characteristics over being New Or Small. Your business venture does not have to be small or new to make you an entrepreneur.
– An Entrepreneur doesn’t have to be a business owner, capitalist, or employer.
– People who need certainty are unlikely to make good entrepreneurs.
f) AMERICANAH (Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie):
I read the preview copy last year, and bought this recently. Interesting and intriguing read, Chimamanda has a way of putting the obvious in a not-so-obvious way.
I could actually relate with this part, even with Vincentians, it’s never “Sorry” but “Are you okay?”
Nigerians on the other hand, will expect you to tell them “sorry” even when you’re not responsible for their misfortunes.
g) THE BOOK OF ISAIAH :
I recently came across this passage and I thought of my beloved country Nigeria, as I turned it into a prayer:
17 “Those who will rebuild you are coming soon, and those who destroyed you will leave. 18 Look around and see what is happening! Your people are assembling — they are coming home! As surely as I am the living God, you will be proud of your people, as proud as a bride is of her jewels. 19 “Your country was ruined and desolate — but now it will be too small for those who are coming to live there. And those who left you in ruins will be far removed from you. (Isaiah 49:17-19 GNB)
2. ❤️Playing: Nothing. Once upon a time, it was CANDY CRUSH, but those days are long gone.
3. ❤️Watching: Nothing ATM. Last watched YELLOW BIRD (last weekend), and in my opinion, it’s booooring….with a CAPITAL B.
4.❤️Listening to: ITESTIFY (by Ada).
Recently discovered it on my playlist and it’s been a recurring song in my spirit. Surely, this month I TESTIFY.
5.❤️ Working on: learning Spanish (courtesy of Fluencia and Duolingo) and Igbo languages (courtesy of Igbovillagesquare on YouTube). It’s been fun all the way.
6. ❤️Eating: Besides real food, lots of GoldenMorn and different kinds of Sausage rolls (Gala, Meaty, Beefie😭😂)
7. ❤️Wanting: Many things….especially a new pair of shoes (maybe silver sandals), a friend’s wedding is coming up this month and there’s nothing to rock my iro and buba with…yet.
8. ❤️Needing: More of God. More of his wisdom. More of his strength. More of his grace.
9. ❤️Loving: The strong, fervent, and godly woman I am becoming.
10. ❤️ Thinking: of passing the MDCN exams in peace and not in pieces……the workload seems overwhelming, but God dey.
11. ❤️Feeling: Blessed to be part of my immediate family. So I ran away from Lagos last weekend, to be with my homeys and how refreshing it was.
The ancient city of Ibadan was welcoming as usual.
The highlight was an evening outing, after a road trip through a part of the city, while singing our favorite hymns and recalling poems/nursery rhymes…of course we took several snap shots (plus a professional studio shoot), followed by a lovely dinner.
And yours sincerely had a big cheese burger that was so yummy….
12. ❤️Celebrating : The publishing of my first book, MY FEGGO DIARIES. It’s basically a memoir about the highs and lows, of my experiences in a Nigerian boarding house.
It is now available for download on Okadabooks app (Googleplay and App Store). I’ll appreciate your reviews and feedbacks.
13. ❤️ Grateful for: The new MONTH.
it is my desire to make MELODY to the Lord with my heart continually, in anticipation of all the testimonies that await me. Like the scripture says,
“addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,”
Ephesians 5:19-20 ESV
I decided to dig out 20 of my favorite hymns (in no particular order) and share with you all. You can look up their verses/tunes on the Internet. I hope you’re blessed by them.
What are some of your favorite hymns?
Have a melodious March,
Ps: Thanks to all who supported and contributed to my blog challenge, 26 BLESSINGS AND COUNTING. I’ll be completing the skipped days at a latter time, which will be communicated accordingly.
It’s a fresh new week with lots of opportunities to make a difference.
Today I’m thankful for Me.
We often have several reasons why we admire and appreciate other people.
For instance, I appreciate my mum a lot. She is one of the most caring persons I know. She is always concerned about my welfare even in seemly insignificant matters.
My dad on the other hand, is really good with dates. No Anniversary or Birthday in the family passes him by. He would call to let you know he remembers. And it’s one of the things I admire about him.
Each of my siblings and close friends have something unique about them too. Things I feel I may never measure up to and I’m learning not to compare and contrast all the time.
I appreciate people who are outstanding, caring, organized, intelligent, diligent, disciplined, courageous, confident, and passionate among other sweet things.
I especially admire those who have gone against the tide to become everything God has called them to be; people who have refused to be ordinary and are not afraid to step out and make a difference. These are the kind of people that inspire me.
Sometime last year, I began to reflect on some of the things I admire about myself and I came up with a few:
1. My name.
I believe in the unique meaning of names and how they can influence a person; I know mine isn’t an ordinary one.
The name Eunice is of greek origin and it means “Good Victory” or “Happily victorious“.
I’m literally in love with my own name. I know I can’t be defeated come what may. I’m a WINNER all the time.
So when people want to call me by my middle (ethnic) name, I’m like, NO, just call me Eunice, thanks!!!
2. Being petite.
What’s there not to love about my figure and stature? I see being petite as an advantage in many ways especially because I’m able to fit into any social setting without necessarily looking out of place.
The major challenge is getting the right size of clothes sometimes and especially, SHOES!!! I use a small 37 and it’s not the easiest to find in a Nigerian market but I’m still thankful!
3. Quiet Nature.
I bet a few of my friends will beg to disagree with this one…especially those who have seen my “other side” haha.
But everyone who has met me really knows how quiet I can be, when I want to, which is most of the time.
I like myself for that.
Silence doesn’t bother me. It never has and it probably never will. I believe it’s a gift and I’m thankful for it.
We live in a world where most people are busy talking and always eager to be heard, with only a few taking the time to actually listen. My quiet nature allows me to be contemplative, observant and retrospective…and I believe those qualities are…well, awesome.
4. Ready student.
Forget the fact that I’m done with medical school. I still feel like a fresher in the school of life. The more I learn, the more things I know I have to learn.
I’m thankful for the privilege to grow and improve upon myself constantly. My philosophy is: To be better today than I was yesterday.
5. Trust in God.
Above everything else, I’m thankful for my relationship with God. The 25th of September, 2005, was a day that changed my life forever. It’s my faith in God that makes all the difference when it comes down to it. I’m glad I was able to make that decision to give my Life to Christ and the sweet fellowship I now enjoy with him is incomparable.
He guides my thoughts, words and choices. Whatever inspiration I have to reach out to others through this platform and in real life, comes from him.
Here’s one of my favorite scriptures: “I will give thanks and praise to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”
Psalm 139:14 AMP
So what do you admire about yourself?
And what are you thankful for today?
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