HouseJob Chronicles: What School Did You Finish From?

Hey folks,

First of all, this post is long over due. I’ve being working on the draft since like forever and even abandoned it at some point, cos no time.

So I have had a crazy few days post-leave. I’m so stressed out that I could use another break! Lol.

My face during Intern’s Pre-round…lol

I’m just glad I got to publish this, at last!

The post is especially for, but not limited to the Foreign Trained Doctors (FTDs).

My “brothers and sisters” from the diaspora, welcome back to REAL LIFE- Naija Version!

I’m sending you thousands of cyber hugs that will last you through the first few months of your House Job at least.


If you’ve passed through the MDCN hurdles already, you’d have observed that the system is NOT ready to welcome you with open arms. I’m not even kidding…

If you’re one of those patriotic FTDs (I’m not one btw🙄), who returned with high hopes of contributing your skills and expertise to the expansion of Naija’s health sector; I’m sorry to burst your bubble:

Whatever fancy reasons you had for returning to Naija, no one cares.

It is a sad reality.

But for what it’s worth, there are some great moments too. Like having patients discharged after spending days/weeks in the hospital or hearing an uncooperative patient Left Against Medical Advice (LAMA)…lol. I should do a separate post on that.

Anyhow.

So once you start your house job, expect to feel intimidated by your seniors. Naija doctors love to move STUFF. Eeesh!!

The million-dollar question that got my fellow interns tongue-tied, like we weren’t expecting it…lol! 

It wasn’t a funny scenario but I can laugh it off now.

The “Ogas” at the top love to deliberate on which is the best medical school in Naija, so they keep setting baits for house officers in form of questions, sane or otherwise.

Whether you are foreign trained or locally, you’ll experience this at some point or the other, although the former seem to be more at the receiving end.

Having passed through the initiation process of getting asked the same question multiple times, I have a few tips for upcoming House Officers:


1. OWN your identity.

You’re a MEDICAL DOCTOR, with a CERTIFICATE and a LICENSE.

So wear it like a cape. Be PROUD of it, because it’s who you are.

Embrace it. Love it. Live it.


If you schooled abroad, it was your decision, your money (whether sponsored or not) and your experience. Ditto if you were locally trained.

Even if studying Medicine was a mistake, it was the best mistake of your life.
Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you on it.
2. You have NOTHING to prove.

You heard that right.

There’s NOTHING to prove to anybody.

Not your skills. Not your knowledge. Not your personality.

What you know was enough to get you to this level. And if you build on your knowledge and skills, you can (and will) get better.

Remember, your senior colleagues (Regs, SRs, Consultants) did not get all their medical expertise during their housemanship year.

They earned it with time. Life takes time. 

So while there’s always room for improvement, you have NOTHING to prove.



Remember this.

3. Do it with JOY!

When all is said and done, what really matters is the impact you made wherever you find yourself.

So whatever you do, do it with EXCELLENCE. And COURAGE. And JOY.

Give the kind of care you would like to receive.


Put in your very best at all times, even when it’s hard. It’s okay to feel out of place sometimes but don’t let anyone (not even yourself) hold you back.

***

Image: http://www.eunicesmiles.wordpress.com

I’ve asked myself this question a couple of times, and tried to answer it as sincerely as possible:

My answer is YES.

And to add to that, given similar circumstances in the current Naija, I’d still study abroad and maybe the very school I attended. Tenkiu!



Cheers!

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Disclaimer: All images unless otherwise tagged, were obtained from the WEB.

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Housejob Chronicles- 7 Rules For The Naija House Officer!

DISCLAIMER: Shebi you know I’m barely “3 weeks” into this Housejob thing? These are strictly self-made rules o! You don’t need to take them “hook, line and sinker.” Thanking you!😅


***
Dear New Naija House Officer,

Congratulations!

I’m so glad you made it.

You worked so hard to get here, spent countless late nights studying in medical school and slaying all the GIANT exams along the way. 

However, there are new hurdles to cross and your “Housemanship” is one of them.

As a newbie Naija house officer, I’ve put together some really simple suggestions to help you get started and maximize the Housejob experience.

1. Apply yourself. I can’t over emphasize this one. 

And it’s a phrase one of my consultants used while having a conversation with me.



Don’t just count your days, make your days count.

Housejob can be so stressful that you’re in a hurry to complete it. If you’re not careful you’ll just keep counting each day that comes without making the most of it.  

2. Don’t be a fraud i.e. Avoid synthesizing stuff that don’t exist. 

Sadly, I have been a victim and it wasn’t funny. The pressure to impress the “Ogas” can be so real, that you begin to generate values for your patient’s vitals, randomly state their clinical status and so on. 

Don’t say/write what you don’t know, even if it makes you look stupid sometimes. Trust me, you will find yourself in such shoes someday. Let your MOTTO be: “Integrity over Impression.”

Whatever you do be you, but always be a PLUS wherever you go.

{Tip: Have a small notepad and a wristwatch to document everything you do for a patient even when you don’t have access to the case note.}

3. Know your lane and respect others.

You’ll meet many nurses, lab scientists, attendants etc and often the respect you give them, is the respect you get back.
Forget the stereotype rumors you’ve heard. There are nice people (doctors, nurses, security etc) everywhere. And nobody is out to get you if you do what you ought to do well.

4. There’s such a thing as “Hierarchy syndrome.” Don’t be caught in the web.

It’s safer to be on the sidelines. Don’t let anyone belittle or intimidate you. Respect your seniors, but don’t fear them. It only destroys your self-esteem.
Sometimes you really want to help your patient but you can’t do much, because you have some “Ogas” at the top that are ready to ridicule you whether for doing nothing, doing too little or doing too much.

5. Learn all you can, while you possibly can.

From unit posting to unit posting, you’ll be surprised at how quickly the time flies. If you don’t make a conscious effort to learn, you won’t learn a thing. The goal of Housejob is for you to gain a level of independence in medical practice. And achieving that goal largely lies on you.

6. Remember, PATIENTS first. They are the priority of any healthcare institution, and they should be your priority too. 

That’s the reason you’re there in the first place.

So in whatever decision you make, ask yourself “what are my patient’s needs and how can I help to fulfill them“?

7. Just chill, in the end you’ll be alright.

Oh, there’ll be tough days but there’ll also be the not-so-tough ones. Don’t let anyone trick you into believing that everyday you will be called upon to resite IV lines at 1:00 am or to prepare a patient for surgery at 10:00 pm. 

There are days you’ll have few to no patients on the ward, canceled surgeries, missed appointments and so on. When such days come, enjoy them! 

***

As a closing thought, here’s an adapted thought from a fellow blogger (Omooba):

“Don’t let yourself get distracted. FOCUS is a slippery thing. You are going to live long. You are not going to spend even up to a quarter of your life doing HouseJob. Give it your time, and mind. The less things you entertain in your life at a time, the better the overall quality.”

I’ll be honest with you, there are things you love that just have to give up for a while, to be able to maximize this new phase. It might hurt at first, but it’ll be worth it in the end.
So don’t forget the first rule, APPLY YOURSELF!

Here’s wishing you an “extension” and “extra call” free, housemanship year.

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
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A November To Remember: New Beginnings.

Hey People,

GOD is good.

It’s a new SEASON.

And I have a new SONG.

I remember almost too clearly, this time about 10 years ago.

I was through with secondary school, and seriously stressing over gaining an admission into the University.
Nigerians living in Nigeria, can relate to this.

First, I had to sit for the “Almighty” University Matriculation Exam known as JAMB, which I thankfully passed at one sitting, after much prayers…lol.

Next came the Post-UME exam (to streamline the number of candidates applying to a particular institution). My dad traveled with me and we spent the night at a Family friend’s place.

On the day of the exam, I was so nervous on seeing the THOUSANDS of candidates that came from all over the country for it.

I kept praying and praying and praying…lol.

We Nigerians pray about anything and everything, because every Success is a Breakthrough, be it Academic, Marital or Financial.

To cut the story short, I was admitted that year (although for a different course than I applied for), but I was thrilled nonetheless and so was my family.

It was as if I’d won a LOTTERY…lol.

Again, only in Nigeria.

Anyway, I had to move to a new city which was a whole new experience for my “young and naive” self, especially those first few weeks on campus.

I literally gawked at everything happening around me, exhibiting the typical “Freshers’ Syndrome” 😂

So Many Fears.

How will I cope with this or that? I thought.

But not only did I survive, I thrived. The rest, they say is History.

10 years later, I find myself in a similar situation but on a grander scale.

My dream of getting a HOUSE JOB finally came to pass. And I feel like a “Fresher” all over.

I had to move to a new city, and leave everyone dear to me (Family, Friends, Church) several miles behind.

My parents are the real MVP.

They were as involved now as they were then. They took the pain to get the necessary contacts to ensure I settle down on time.

While I’m emotional about the big move, I’m thankful for this opportunity and I anticipate all the adventures that come with it.

Thanks to everyone that prayed, advised or encouraged me while I was “hunting” for a job..lol.

Your prayers have been ANSWERED.

God bless you!
***
So the song for this season:

You’re Love, You’re Light, You’re LORD over everything.

And here’s one of my favorite scriptures of all times:

“I rely on your constant love; I will be glad, because you will rescue me. I will sing to you, O LORD, because you have been good to me.”


(Psalms 13:5-6 GNB)

Currently Reading:

– The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)

– Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men (Myles Munroe)

– The Meaning of Marriage (Timothy Keller with Kathy Keller)

New Read:

– The Purpose driven Life (Rick Warren)

***

“When you get what you want, be sure you want what you get.”

This is my Story. This is my Song…lol.

Naija Housejob wahala has finally started. 

There’s so much to do and to learn. And these first few days have been challenging. 

But I know God will order my steps and grant me the wisdom to deal with every circumstance that comes along.

So just in case I am MIA,  know that I’m in that phase of life where I am barely trying to place one foot in front of the other.

I know that this too will pass.

Again God is good.

Cheers to a great November,

Throwback to med school days!
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READY-TO-TRAVEL LIST: What’s in your bag?


In the past few weeks, I’ve had to take one short trip after the other, and while I enjoy the adventure (people-watching, sight-seeing, exposure to different culture, and trying out new cuisines) that typically comes with traveling, packing (and especially unpacking), for a trip can be overwhelming.

Thankfully, with special credits to my mum, I now have what I call my “READY-TO-TRAVEL LIST.”

And in this post, I’ll be sharing with you how I organize the list, some of my travel bag’s contents and general tips in making your trip more comfortable.

In my opinion, it’s better to be over-prepared for a trip than to be under prepared for it.

PS: This post is not intended for those who love to travel really light. I’m a “comfort-first” type of traveler so I like to travel with as many necessities as possible, plus a few extras.


And by the way, I will focus more on the female traveler but guys can pick up some useful tips as well.

Enjoy!

***

FIRST THINGS FIRST.

1. The Occasion for your trip:

Simple enough right? but forgetting to pack one or two very important items is easier than you think.

For instance, you don’t want to leave behind any of your credentials or forget to pick out a formal attire while traveling for an interview.

The reason for your trip should determine a good percentage of the contents of your luggage.

2. The Duration of your trip:

How long will the entire trip last? A few days, a week or more?

This will help you with simple logistics like how much cash you need to hold for your upkeep, to the number of clothes and toiletries you should take along.

3. The Mode of Transportation:

It’s also important to consider whether you’ll be traveling by car, bus, train, plane or boat, if it’s by public or private means, and if you’re traveling alone, or in a group, with friends/family or strangers.

Knowing the details of how you’ll get to where you are going, helps you to plan what size/number of luggages to carry and how to secure them.

If you’re traveling by plane for instance, you know that carrying extra luggage will cost you an arm and a leg, plus some contents (eg over 100ml of liquid/gel products) may be confiscated as carry-on luggage. 

4. The type of Luggage:

You need to also determine the type of luggage that will be efficient (in terms of size) and also convenient (in terms of carriage) for your trip.

For a short trip you can use any (or more) of the following: A handbag, a back pack, a small traveling (duffel) bag, or a suitcase.

5. The Destination:

Where you are going will also determine to some extent, what you should put in your luggage.

For instance, If you are going on a vacation to a temperate climate like Europe, you need to go with coats, mufflers and solid boots. If on the other hand, your destination is a warm climate (e.g. Barbados), you will need sunglasses, hats, and some cozy slippers.

Also where you’ll be staying (whether at a hotel, a friend’s house, a hostel, or with distant relatives) will determine some of the items to take along.

The last time I went for a camp meeting, I had to go with my own everything (from bed-sheet to toothpaste), but that wasn’t the case when I spent a few days in Lagos, because my sister had most of the items already.

HOW TO ORGANIZE YOUR TRAVEL-LIST:

The rule of thumb is to have a list ready, before you put the first item into your traveling bag or box. That’s the only guarantee that you don’t leave something remotely important behind.

I typically organize my list into three categories:

i. Toiletries


This includes your personal care products like toothbrush/toothpaste, soap/sponge (and a soap case if you like), body lotion, roll-on, body-spray/perfume*.

You can put most of the items listed in a toilet bag.

Other items to consider are: hair-spray/gel, hair brush/comb, toilet roll, plastic bag, small towel and a shower cap.

*if you’re going on a really short trip, you can even spray your clothes in advance instead. I do that a lot.

ii. Clothing/Foot wears

Night gown/Pajamas, Wrapper, Handkerchiefs

Bathroom slippers, Sandals/Flats/Heels as needed*

Underwear (Bras, Pants, Shorts) multiplied by the number of days you’ll spend. It’s always good to pack an extra or two, just in case you stay an extra night.

Attires: Everything you’ll wear especially for the main occasion of your trip eg Casual wears for a picnic, Traditional outfit for a wedding ceremony etc

*I like to be as specific as possible, so I write out the details of each footwear eg Nude flats, Black heels etc

iii. Essentials

Sufficient cash/ATM card: Trust me, you don’t want to be stranded on an out-of-town trip😂

Make-up (Powder, lipstick, gloss etc)

– Face wipes, hand sanitizer, hand lotion, hand tissue, lip balm etc

Accessories (Wrist-watch, jewelry, handbags etc)

Gadgets (Power bank, phone chargers, iPod, headphones etc)*

Snacks/Drinks (Chococolate, Plantain chips, Biscuits, Gala are easy to chew without getting messy). It’s more cost effective to buy the items before your trip. A bottle of water and pack of chewing gum are “must-haves” for my road trips.

Note pad/Journal and pen (to write with), Bible/Non-fiction Book/Novel (to read)

Torch (Naija factor)

Medications (if necessary)

And don’t forget to take a plastic bag to put your dirty laundry.

*Safety first, if it’s a short trip and especially by public transport, you don’t need to take all your gadgets (tab, laptop) along.

ACTION TIME:

After you’ve prepared your list, put ALL the items in a single place (on your bed preferably), then begin to transfer each one into your bag(s). Tick each item off your list until you’re done packing. 

Remember to use a padlock or a good lock combination for your luggage if you’re traveling by public means. And don’t forget to “pee” before leaving your house. I bet Nigerians will understand…lol. 😉😅

That’s how I organize my luggage for a short trip.

Did I miss anything?

***

So how do you prepare for a short trip? Do you make a list or not?

Cheers!

:::requ1ne:::
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TO BE A KID AGAIN…

At a quarter to 30, with most of my contemporaries already married, about to marry, or with one or more kids to care for, here I am in my parents’ house, boasting of being the deputy administrator of household affairs, a title that exists only in my imagination.

“U-U, what’s for dinner?”

Eba and Egusi soup” I reply, rolling my eyes as I stroll towards the kitchen.

It’s because you’re still in this house. 

I’ll leave when it’s time.

While some half my age are already earning their pay, I’m here excited to be dashed 2k by my dad to buy the data I needed to publish what you’re now reading.

Arrant nonsense! Please grow up. My mind tells me.

Thank you, my daddy is not complaining. 

I applied to a place recently but was rejected, I called my mom on my way home, tearing up like a toddler. 

Are you for real? At your age, shoe size and marital status??

Lemme jaare. Is it a crime to cry? I know Jesus loves me.

I’ve been mood swinging for a few days, I know it’s between PMS and Satan’s tactics yet can’t help but feel dejected. 

COME ON, SNAP OUT OF IT ALREADY…YOU ARE AN A-D-U-L-T!!!

 *sighs* That was blunt. Oh, to be a kid again.

Please someone should explain to me what this Adulting thing is really about. 

Because I’m beginning to think it’s some cheap form of blackmail. 

I don’t even know if I know what it means to be ready for it. 

What defines an adult? 

Is it about the many responsibilities that life randomly throws your way? Or is there more to it?

Do share your thoughts.

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OCTOBER|| C O U R A G E


It’s a few days into October already and all I can say is, God is good!

While meditating on what theme this month would be about, one word that stood out in my heart, was COURAGE. And I believe God was giving me a gentle reminder, that when everything else fails (my plans and what-not), I can look up to him and remain courageous.

Here are a few synonyms for the word COURAGE:
“bravery, pluckiness, valor, fearlessness, intrepidity, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness, grit, hardihood, heroism, gallantry”

And I’ll go with the first, BRAVERY

the admirable quality of being able to confront frightening things. It takes bravery for a knight to battle a dragon, but it also takes bravery for a shy child to walk into a new classroom.
(Vocabulary.com)

It’s little wonder that the song in my heart for this season just happens to be:

||WORSHIPYou make me brave (Amanda Cook)

And it’s one of my favorite songs ever! I remember having it on repeat for sometime last year.

||WORD– Lamentations 3:22-24 GNB

“The LORD ‘s unfailing love and mercy still continue, Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise. The LORD is all I have, and so I put my hope in him.” 

I especially love the line that reads,

Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise
. How reassuring that is! 

I still don’t know all God has in stock for me this season but I’m stepping out of the shadows of fear, discouragement and doubts and embracing his promises by faith.

And Amen to that!
***
In a nutshell, here’s what I’ve been upto:

|| My Ankara crafts and designs exhibition (As Promised)



My trainer, Niyot of Beracah House of Fashion, who is also a longtime friend did such a great job and I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn through her. Moving forward, I think I’ll be focusing on the Ankara book covers and see what designs I can come up with.

|| Still Learning

Spanish and Igbo!

|| Recent Reads:

Anthills of the Savannah (Chinua Achebe)
This was my first time reading any Chinua Achebe’s book. I’d attempted “There was a Country” earlier this year but found it difficult to continue with it. Not too long ago, I picked up this title, but I wasn’t enjoying the plot, so I dropped it. Eventually, one bored evening I summoned up courage and jumpstarted it (i.e. started reading right from the middle) and I was so intrigued that I read until the end. I found the book compelling, thought-provoking and with a melodramatic ending.

I heard that song before (Mary Higgins Clark)
I totally loved this book (although I’m sure I’ve read it before but totally forgot the plot), the writer kept me guessing until the very end. It had the right amount of suspense that kept me glued till the last page. If you’re a fan of mystery/crime/suspense books, I totally recommend that you read this one.

And then there were none (Agatha Christie)
I first read this book a couple of years ago, I had an idea about the plot but forgot how it ended, so I decided to read it again. So it was the Judge after all, what a twist!

|| Currently Reading:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)

Principles and Values become more evident when we think of how short life is.

||Re-reading (For my Small Group Bible-study):

UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)

Some start for the gold but end up with the bronze. Some start for the gold but do a poor exchange and can not continue. Some start for the gold but drop the baton and are disqualified. Some start for the gold and not only win the race, but break a record doing so.

|| Recent Adventure: A Mini-vacay!

So yours sincerely took a few days off to spend in Lagos. Yaaaas!!!
You know how I feel about the city already (You can read about my previous experiences here and here). This time around though, I was not constrained by a lack of “cash” or “time” nor any urgent business to take care of. I wanted to not just pass through Lagos, but actually savor it all over like a first-timer.

The summary of my stay was: Sightseeing, Window-shopping (plus some micro-shopping…lol), People-watching, Reading novels, Eating and Sleeping. I eventually stayed more indoors than outdoors, and found it kinda boring, thanks to EKEDC…😑🙄

I went off to visit one of my friends (@Tyn) and enjoyed every moment of it. Also went on a date with my sister to watch the movie, FLATLINERS (a Sci-Fi/Medical Thriller/Horror combo). The plot wasn’t too bad, in my opinion. Definitely PG material.

Then I ran into one of my seniors from Unilorin, Eyitayo, at the Palms Mall (saw him last in 2010…haha), I started “gisting” my sis how he is such a prominent figure on FB, and a kind-of-social activist etc. He is someone I actually respect (from a distance) and it was an honor to see him again, howbeit for a few minutes.

Finally, I got to ride in an Uber, then a BRT bus for the first time ever and I enjoyed both (for different reasons). Lagos is such a lovely place tbh, I just don’t see myself living there. But who knows, ehn?😉


Enjoy the lovely views!


To wrap up the post, here are my

|| 9 Intriguing Lessons [plus 1 Life Changing Discovery] from 2017:

1. Social media is overrated. I know it sounds cliché, but I’m only beginning to understand that phrase. I’ve now realized that Facebook (which was the social media platform I used the most) is not that important. I used to think it was impossible for me to do without Facebook in a day until I actually put some structure to my social media time and now I have days when I completely forget to log in. It’s amazing isn’t it? Ever wondered what we all did before the advent of social media?

2. Not everything that is happening will continue to happen. “Time” and “Chance” happens to all men. If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, have you ever wondered what happened to the likes of Mr. Biggs and Tantalizers? My sentiments exactly.

3. Time alone doesn’t make things better, deliberate actions do. Thanks to the Mother Hen (Remi Owadokun) for this. If something is bad and you do nothing about it, it will only get worse.

4. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness, but choosing not to remember. Choosing not to remember an offense is quite different from forgetting it, as if it never happened. I so needed that closure. Phew!

5. What you do is more important than what you know. We have many “knowers” but far too few “doers.” Memo to me. Noted!

6. To every stage in life, there is a backstage and to every scene there’s a behind-the-scene. Truth!

7. Others are different from you, and so are you from others. Our unity lies in our individual uniqueness and not in our uniformity (or conformity).

8. (More than your phones, wallets, money, relationships etc) The enemy targets your joy, don’t let him steal it!

9. The Nigerian Police may (or may not) be your friend. Not all policemen are unkind, rude or wicked. Ditto Lawyers, Nurses, Doctors etc Having a preconceived mindset can be harmful.

10. I don’t like bread. In fact, I’ve never liked it, and I’m only just realizing that. So I’ve only been tolerating bread all my life?! Well, it’s better late than never.

|| Inspiration from around the web:

1. On Adulting, Rounding Up My Housemanship Year and Future Plans

2. Why I Shut Down My Instagram Account (Cutting back to move forward)
3. What it means to be a Christian doctor

4. Preparation: A lesson from Hurricane Irma

5. Nothing to prove

Ps: Still on the job search, if you’ve been praying, please pray harder! 🙏🏾
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*EKEDC: Eko Electricity Distribution Company

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SEPTEMBER||S H O W E R S 🌧🌧🌧

Cocoa Building, Ibadan

Hey People,

Welcome to September.

The ninth month of the year and naturally speaking , the ninth month is a time to bring forth that which was conceived.

Supernaturally, it is the season of visitation and manifestation, where expectations are divinely brought to pass.

September is a month of FRUITFULNESS, INCREASE and ABUNDANCE.

And that’s why I’m so excited about the theme:
  

||S H O W E R S||

Which I got from the title of the popular hymn,

Showers of Blessings 

So this particular line stood out

“Mercy-drops round us are falling,
But for the SHOWERS we plead.”

Then God gave me this understanding,

For everything we obtain by God’s mercies,
We can obtain even MORE through his blessings!

And y’all know the conditions for his blessings? TRUST and OBEDIENCE. And in my christian journey, I have come to understand that they both go hand in hand.
It’s who we trust (totally) that we obey completely. The question is, how much am I (are we) willing to TRUST God? Because that’s what this month is about…

SHOWERS (Surplus, Abundance, Provision, Saturation, Sprinkling, Spraying, Engulfing, Flooding, Overwhelming...I could go on) of Blessings, through Trust and Obedience!!

So help me (us) God. Amen.

Let’s jump right into the September train, shall we?

❤️WORD

I believe strongly in the efficacy of God’s word and that there is a WORD for every season.
So this word right here came as NEEDED…

“He has set the right time for everything. He has given us a desire to know the future, but never gives us the satisfaction of fully understanding what he does.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 GNB

❤️WORSHIP

Equally amazing is this song,

Wonderful Wonder (Nathaniel Bassey)

which is also befitting for this season because my God is AWESOME like that.

❤️Currently Reading:

1. Innovation And Entrepreneurship (Peter F. Drucker)

It is not good enough to offer the same product or the same service at a lower cost. There has to be something that distinguishes it from something that already exists.

2.  Concerning Spiritual Gifts (Kenneth E. Hagin)

The fruit of the Holy Spirit is for HOLINESS, whereas the baptism of the Holy Spirit is for POWER.

3. Out Of Control And Loving It (Lisa Bevere)

Don’t be upset because you see other people’s blessings as a deduction from God’s ability to bless you. It did not come from your account but his, and he is unlimited.

4. The Power Of A Praying Wife (Stormie Omartian)

A wife can’t put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it.

5. The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)

If our feelings control our actions, it’s because we’ve abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

6. A Novel: The Witness (Dee Henderson) 


It’s a Christian Fiction with just enough suspense to keep me interested. I’ve deliberately slowed down on turning the pages except during my “free time” so that I can get MORE important things (like drafting this blog post) done. I remember those days when I would stay up all night to finish reading novels. [Singing: I’ve been changed, healed, freed, delivered…😅]

7. The book of JEREMIAH (I’m on Chapter 25)

❤️Still learning:
– Spanish [via Duolingo and Memrise]
– Igbo [via Ife Igbo Learner and Igbo Basic app]

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Here are a few things I’ve been up to lately, asides sitting home and getting fat (the scale says I now weigh 55kg😫😱, and to think I was around 50 kg this time last year):

On Managing Distractions
Some weeks back while reviewing my schedule and trying to re-organize my priorities, I discovered how easily distracted I  am in between tasks. One moment I’m trying to complete a task, the next moment I’m flipping through my emails. Needless to say, lots of tasks take double/triple the time required to complete them. I’m learning to sit through what I’m doing at the moment before getting started on another, it’s a painfully slow process, but I’ll get there soon by God’s grace. 

From “To-Do Lists” to “Done Lists” and “Not-To-Do Lists”
Also, I’m gradually shifting away from having To-Do-Lists at the start of each day, to making Done-Lists (never knew that existed until recently) at the end of the day.
I also came across the idea of a Not-To-Do List recently, and discovered I mentally had such in place already (just added the last one, because checking emails are forever a distraction *sighs*)

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–  Skills Acquisition: Ankara crafts and designs
It’s been a long summer of learning how to make different accessories with the Ankara fabric and it’s almost a wrap. I’ll come up with pictures when the class is over. 

– I recently went to see the Banana Island Ghost Movie with my homeys. 

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I’d give it a rating of 2.5/5 ⭐️⭐️ There were a few comic scenes and some not too funny ones. 


Most importantly it was a lovely evening hanging out with my folks and I had an overfill of popcorn, soda and hotdog [no wonder I’m getting FATTER!😩🙄]

I’m FREE: After a few episodes of late night panic attacks following the home-theft incident I wrote about here,

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I can finally sing, I’m free! Because here is what God’s word says:

“You need not fear any dangers at night or sudden attacks during the day”
Psalms 91:5 GNB

– Lastly, The Job search is still on. My dream job is yet to locate me😉. So y’all should keep me in your prayers! Thank you!

Inspiration from around the web

– 7 important life lessons in my late twenties

Define your busy

5 Proven Methods for gaining self discipline

– On Parenting
Cheers,
:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

MEMOIRS OF A MUSHIN GIRL.

PS: This post was inspired by Nedoux’s I LIVE HERE.

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Disclaimer: I no be Lagos pikin o (i.e. I was neither “born” nor “bred” there). Infact I’ve never really been a fan of Lagos, and I don’t think I’m ready to change my mind yet😁. So y’all should take my observations/conclusions with a pinch of salt (and pepper😜). Tenkiu!


Story-behind-the-Story:
Like some of you know, yours sincerely was a short-term guest (and tourist) in the famous city of Lagos for about 3 months, because of the MDCN remedial program for FTDs which took place at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital (LUTH). While my stay wasn’t an entirely rosy one, it sure had its perks.
Since LUTH provided limited accommodation for those who registered for the program, I had to make alternative arrangement. For the first few weeks, I stayed with my cousin’s family in Ebutte-Meta, but the commute (especially after closing hours) took its toll on me. So I was all determined to find a place to rent around LUTH (i.e. Surulere-Idiaraba-Mushin axis) which proved even more challenging than I expected.

House hunting
anywhere is not an easy task, but unlike my SVG experience, the Naija house agents I came across were quite “mouthed” (i.e. smooth talkers with little integrity, unfortunately).
I didn’t even know there was such a thing as viewing fee- where you paid the agent a certain amount just for showing you an apartment (whether you want to rent the place or not. Like seriously?!). One guy requested for a whole 5K as viewing fee and I was like, “Mba, I think I’ll pass.” 

I had to make calls upon calls, visited a couple of places (including stuffy wannabe guest houses, *rolls eyes*) before finding an apartment (thanks to a contact from an old friend), that was remotely affordable and suitable for the purpose of my stay. Thus began my sojourn in the neighborhood called M-U-S-H-I-N

And looking back, I have no regrets (except that I didn’t really get to explore other areas in Lagos, because “no time” and “no money”).

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Living in Mushin.

Mushin
, a closely-knit community, largely known for its history of violence ranging from local gang clashes to political uproars, is one of the few neighborhoods in Lagos, that the average (educated, upper middle-class) Lagosian, wouldn’t consider living in (as a first choice, anyway).
When compared to its immediate neighbors like Surulere and Yaba, Mushin is but a REFINED (or should I say, GLORIFIED) slum. One of the things I admire about the community though, is that the streets if narrow, are relatively well-planned and the roads are fairly accessible.
A friend of mine who has lived in Lagos for a while, expressed his concerns about my safety in that neighborhood. Thankfully, throughout my stay I did not have an unfortunate experience.

Mushin is quite densely populated, with buildings literally filling up every inch of land in the community. My street, Kosobameji (which is a 3-minute walking distance by the way), apart from the residential buildings, had at least 5 Churches, 2 Mosques, 4 Schools and 10 Shops; and is just a mere fraction of the Mushin Community. Other streets were interconnected to ours in such a way, that there were multiple routes to get to the Main Street (LUTH road), which eventually joined the dual-carriage Mushin main road.
My roommate and I shared a storey building (that sits on about half a plot) with 5 other families. That’s the smallest compound I’ve ever lived in. Thankfully, we had a cordial relationship with our neighbors, most of the time. We simply had to contribute to paying for the prepaid card for electricity, as well as the waste disposal fee, and took turns washing the gutter. 
Mushin is everything from hilarious to sometimes utterly ridiculous. There were days I enjoyed the bustling LIFE, and other days I wondered how I found myself in such a place in the first place.

Highlights of my stay in MUSHIN:

LAGOS, Nigeria.

Call-To-Prayer:
The early morning call-to-prayer by Muslim clerics that unfailingly usher you into the day (doesn’t help that there are multiple mosques in the area), plus the subsequent calls till late evening. The good thing though, was that I learnt the specific times Muslims pray every day (5 a.m, 6 a.m, 1 p.m,  4 p.m, 7 p.m, and 8 p.m) and tried to adjust accordingly.

Street Football:

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Sunday afternoon in Mushin, is a time for anyone and everyone to participate in a local game of football whether as players, fans or mere observers. The annoying thing though, is that the entire street is converted into a playing field; so pedestrians and motorists have to maneuver their way through, to avoid getting hit.

Owambe:


Owambe
(a slang for Partying) in Mushin, is on a different level. It basically consists of late evening drinking, dining and dancing, that extends from the host’s compound to the front of his neighbor’s compound (for lack of space), often rendering the street inaccessible to motorists and passers by. And I don’t think anyone needs to obtain their neighbors’ permission before doing such.
I recall how surprised I was the first time, when I met people partying right in front of our gate, only to discover that the celebrant wasn’t even from the compound.

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Street Food:
On moving to Mushin, fried yam/sweet potatoes, fried plantain and akara, became my favorite things to snack on, because there were food stalls on every street corner. It’s perhaps the only thing I really miss about Mushin.

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Street food in Naija is a MUST for any foreigner to experience. 

Water Vendors/Borehole Madam:

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On days when there was no electricity to pump water into the house, we hired Water Vendors (locally called Abokis) to supply us with water and although the unit cost was cheap (N25 per fetch), it quickly added up to about N1000 at the end of a week, which was expensive.
A number of times, I had to go to the neighborhood borehole (less than 2-minute walking distance from my apartment) to buy water from this thick, black, never-smiling Madam (whose name I didn’t know). I was always intrigued by the number of people, both young and old, who were her daily customers and wondered how much sales she actually made every day.

“Akape” Story:
This is still the funniest experience as regards my stay in Mushin. One early morning (around past six), I had to go in search of painkillers, so an Okada guy took me to an open drugstore, where I found one sleepy Baba seated.
After telling him what I wanted, he offered me a clear plastic bag containing about 10 tablets, of different colors, shapes and sizes; popularly called “Akape” by the locals. This was from someone with little or no medical knowledge about the drug interactions of what he had prescribed.
When I asked what the pills were for, he said they could work for all kinds of pain (and in my mind I was like 😱😱😱). I quickly asked for known drugs like Diclofenac and Ibuprofen. Thankfully he had the former, so I double-checked its expiring date, paid for it and left. My mistake according to another Doctor-friend, was not buying the “Akape” for a proper analysis of the drug mix. I’ve heard that some local chemists would sometimes prescribe everything from anti-hypertensive meds to anti-thyroid meds for simple cases of Malaria.

Lights out:
Perhaps the most challenging issue with my stay in Mushin was the initial absence of electricity in the neighborhood, when my friend and I moved in. For a whole week, the light barely blinked and there were nights I cried myself to sleep.
Most nights we had to keep the window and door to our apartment wide-open to allow for proper ventilation, and there were nights we actually slept off…like that! Thankfully, we did not experience any incidence of theft.

Mosquitos, Rats and Cockroaches
were our regular companions in the apartment. The first two I could tolerate, the last I absolutely detested. Cockroaches are just plain irritating…ugh!

Kids at Play:
One of the families living in my compound had four kids, all boys! And these lads loved to play (sing and shout) all day, everyday, sometimes right up to our window/doorstep. A number of times, I actually had to step out of the apartment to reprimand them because I was either trying to sleep or to study. It took an extra caution on my part not to actually SPANK one of the kids, which would have been terrible because my hands ain’t exactly “Child-Friendly.” 😂😂😂

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If you enjoyed reading this, you might also enjoy THIS IS LAGOS!

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

*FTDs- Foreign Trained Doctors.

I RELEASE YOU!

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From the prison of my heart
And clutches of my thoughts,

I release you..

From what should have been
And what cannot be,

I release you..

From my unmet needs
And endless expectations,

I release you..

From my deepest longings
And saddest sighs,

I release you..

From what you don’t see, what you don’t hear
And what you don’t know,

I release you..

I know you don’t want to be here,
you’re free to fly as a bird,

I release you.

(Requine2015, “Therapeutic Tears“)

MONDAYS ARE FOR MOTIVATION!

A MEMO to me and everyone who needs some motivation…

Because life sometimes happens to all of us, and we need a boost every now and then

Here are 5 tips to inspire you: 

1. Dear Sister (brother or friend), why wait for another to validate you?

2. Be Confident, Stay Attractive.

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3. You’re BEAUTIFUL, act like it!


4. If you can dream it, you can live it



5.  You’re strong enough to do all you’ve been called to do


:::requ1ne:::

❤️❤️❤️