OCTOBER|| C O U R A G E


It’s a few days into October already and all I can say is, God is good!

While meditating on what theme this month would be about, one word that stood out in my heart, was COURAGE. And I believe God was giving me a gentle reminder, that when everything else fails (my plans and what-not), I can look up to him and remain courageous.

Here are a few synonyms for the word COURAGE:
“bravery, pluckiness, valor, fearlessness, intrepidity, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness, grit, hardihood, heroism, gallantry”

And I’ll go with the first, BRAVERY

the admirable quality of being able to confront frightening things. It takes bravery for a knight to battle a dragon, but it also takes bravery for a shy child to walk into a new classroom.
(Vocabulary.com)

It’s little wonder that the song in my heart for this season just happens to be:

||WORSHIPYou make me brave (Amanda Cook)

And it’s one of my favorite songs ever! I remember having it on repeat for sometime last year.

||WORD– Lamentations 3:22-24 GNB

“The LORD ‘s unfailing love and mercy still continue, Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise. The LORD is all I have, and so I put my hope in him.” 

I especially love the line that reads,

Fresh as the morning, as sure as the sunrise
. How reassuring that is! 

I still don’t know all God has in stock for me this season but I’m stepping out of the shadows of fear, discouragement and doubts and embracing his promises by faith.

And Amen to that!
***
In a nutshell, here’s what I’ve been upto:

|| My Ankara crafts and designs exhibition (As Promised)



My trainer, Niyot of Beracah House of Fashion, who is also a longtime friend did such a great job and I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn through her. Moving forward, I think I’ll be focusing on the Ankara book covers and see what designs I can come up with.

|| Still Learning

Spanish and Igbo!

|| Recent Reads:

Anthills of the Savannah (Chinua Achebe)
This was my first time reading any Chinua Achebe’s book. I’d attempted “There was a Country” earlier this year but found it difficult to continue with it. Not too long ago, I picked up this title, but I wasn’t enjoying the plot, so I dropped it. Eventually, one bored evening I summoned up courage and jumpstarted it (i.e. started reading right from the middle) and I was so intrigued that I read until the end. I found the book compelling, thought-provoking and with a melodramatic ending.

I heard that song before (Mary Higgins Clark)
I totally loved this book (although I’m sure I’ve read it before but totally forgot the plot), the writer kept me guessing until the very end. It had the right amount of suspense that kept me glued till the last page. If you’re a fan of mystery/crime/suspense books, I totally recommend that you read this one.

And then there were none (Agatha Christie)
I first read this book a couple of years ago, I had an idea about the plot but forgot how it ended, so I decided to read it again. So it was the Judge after all, what a twist!

|| Currently Reading:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Stephen R. Covey)

Principles and Values become more evident when we think of how short life is.

||Re-reading (For my Small Group Bible-study):

UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)

Some start for the gold but end up with the bronze. Some start for the gold but do a poor exchange and can not continue. Some start for the gold but drop the baton and are disqualified. Some start for the gold and not only win the race, but break a record doing so.

|| Recent Adventure: A Mini-vacay!

So yours sincerely took a few days off to spend in Lagos. Yaaaas!!!
You know how I feel about the city already (You can read about my previous experiences here and here). This time around though, I was not constrained by a lack of “cash” or “time” nor any urgent business to take care of. I wanted to not just pass through Lagos, but actually savor it all over like a first-timer.

The summary of my stay was: Sightseeing, Window-shopping (plus some micro-shopping…lol), People-watching, Reading novels, Eating and Sleeping. I eventually stayed more indoors than outdoors, and found it kinda boring, thanks to EKEDC…😑🙄

I went off to visit one of my friends (@Tyn) and enjoyed every moment of it. Also went on a date with my sister to watch the movie, FLATLINERS (a Sci-Fi/Medical Thriller/Horror combo). The plot wasn’t too bad, in my opinion. Definitely PG material.

Then I ran into one of my seniors from Unilorin, Eyitayo, at the Palms Mall (saw him last in 2010…haha), I started “gisting” my sis how he is such a prominent figure on FB, and a kind-of-social activist etc. He is someone I actually respect (from a distance) and it was an honor to see him again, howbeit for a few minutes.

Finally, I got to ride in an Uber, then a BRT bus for the first time ever and I enjoyed both (for different reasons). Lagos is such a lovely place tbh, I just don’t see myself living there. But who knows, ehn?😉


Enjoy the lovely views!


To wrap up the post, here are my

|| 9 Intriguing Lessons [plus 1 Life Changing Discovery] from 2017:

1. Social media is overrated. I know it sounds cliché, but I’m only beginning to understand that phrase. I’ve now realized that Facebook (which was the social media platform I used the most) is not that important. I used to think it was impossible for me to do without Facebook in a day until I actually put some structure to my social media time and now I have days when I completely forget to log in. It’s amazing isn’t it? Ever wondered what we all did before the advent of social media?

2. Not everything that is happening will continue to happen. “Time” and “Chance” happens to all men. If you’re a Nigerian living in Nigeria, have you ever wondered what happened to the likes of Mr. Biggs and Tantalizers? My sentiments exactly.

3. Time alone doesn’t make things better, deliberate actions do. Thanks to the Mother Hen (Remi Owadokun) for this. If something is bad and you do nothing about it, it will only get worse.

4. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness, but choosing not to remember. Choosing not to remember an offense is quite different from forgetting it, as if it never happened. I so needed that closure. Phew!

5. What you do is more important than what you know. We have many “knowers” but far too few “doers.” Memo to me. Noted!

6. To every stage in life, there is a backstage and to every scene there’s a behind-the-scene. Truth!

7. Others are different from you, and so are you from others. Our unity lies in our individual uniqueness and not in our uniformity (or conformity).

8. (More than your phones, wallets, money, relationships etc) The enemy targets your joy, don’t let him steal it!

9. The Nigerian Police may (or may not) be your friend. Not all policemen are unkind, rude or wicked. Ditto Lawyers, Nurses, Doctors etc Having a preconceived mindset can be harmful.

10. I don’t like bread. In fact, I’ve never liked it, and I’m only just realizing that. So I’ve only been tolerating bread all my life?! Well, it’s better late than never.

|| Inspiration from around the web:

1. On Adulting, Rounding Up My Housemanship Year and Future Plans

2. Why I Shut Down My Instagram Account (Cutting back to move forward)
3. What it means to be a Christian doctor

4. Preparation: A lesson from Hurricane Irma

5. Nothing to prove

Ps: Still on the job search, if you’ve been praying, please pray harder! 🙏🏾
___

*EKEDC: Eko Electricity Distribution Company

:::Requ1ne:::
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I CHOOSE…


Solitude is a gift I’ve learnt to treasure. It’s my favorite place away from the noise and sights, voices and crowds, vying for my attention. 

I don’t blame the world for being flashy, I blame myself for being  vulnerable.

On some days I feel like hiding from real life and just staying by myself, feeding on what is edifying rather than the junk society tries to force down my throat.  

Sadly, we live in an age of information, with little transformation. Cultural Influence creeps on us so subtly that we are hardly aware of being conformed to it. 

This season I’ve spent chunks of time in sober reflection…thinking through some decisions I made in the past and those which I’m currently making.

I’m reminded again that everyday is a choice, every thought a seed, and every action a step towards purpose.

The future doesn’t just happen, I have to CHOOSE it.

Growth is not automatic. It takes process, commitment and consistency.

Knowledge is not enough, the correct application of it is what matters. 

The easiest thing to do in life is to just be, and live by the choices of others passed on to us.

But today, I choose.

I choose to choose.

I choose joy over sadness…
I choose peace over anxiety…
I choose health over illness…
I choose discipline over indulgence…
I choose gratitude over murmuring…
I choose confidence over self-criticism…
I choose clarity over confusion…
I choose fruitfulness over frustration…
I choose victory over defeat…


I choose light over darkness…
I choose the word over the world…

I choose wisdom.

I choose life.

I choose Christ.

:::requ1ne:::
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SEPTEMBER||S H O W E R S 🌧🌧🌧

Cocoa Building, Ibadan

Hey People,

Welcome to September.

The ninth month of the year and naturally speaking , the ninth month is a time to bring forth that which was conceived.

Supernaturally, it is the season of visitation and manifestation, where expectations are divinely brought to pass.

September is a month of FRUITFULNESS, INCREASE and ABUNDANCE.

And that’s why I’m so excited about the theme:
  

||S H O W E R S||

Which I got from the title of the popular hymn,

Showers of Blessings 

So this particular line stood out

“Mercy-drops round us are falling,
But for the SHOWERS we plead.”

Then God gave me this understanding,

For everything we obtain by God’s mercies,
We can obtain even MORE through his blessings!

And y’all know the conditions for his blessings? TRUST and OBEDIENCE. And in my christian journey, I have come to understand that they both go hand in hand.
It’s who we trust (totally) that we obey completely. The question is, how much am I (are we) willing to TRUST God? Because that’s what this month is about…

SHOWERS (Surplus, Abundance, Provision, Saturation, Sprinkling, Spraying, Engulfing, Flooding, Overwhelming...I could go on) of Blessings, through Trust and Obedience!!

So help me (us) God. Amen.

Let’s jump right into the September train, shall we?

❤️WORD

I believe strongly in the efficacy of God’s word and that there is a WORD for every season.
So this word right here came as NEEDED…

“He has set the right time for everything. He has given us a desire to know the future, but never gives us the satisfaction of fully understanding what he does.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 GNB

❤️WORSHIP

Equally amazing is this song,

Wonderful Wonder (Nathaniel Bassey)

which is also befitting for this season because my God is AWESOME like that.

❤️Currently Reading:

1. Innovation And Entrepreneurship (Peter F. Drucker)

It is not good enough to offer the same product or the same service at a lower cost. There has to be something that distinguishes it from something that already exists.

2.  Concerning Spiritual Gifts (Kenneth E. Hagin)

The fruit of the Holy Spirit is for HOLINESS, whereas the baptism of the Holy Spirit is for POWER.

3. Out Of Control And Loving It (Lisa Bevere)

Don’t be upset because you see other people’s blessings as a deduction from God’s ability to bless you. It did not come from your account but his, and he is unlimited.

4. The Power Of A Praying Wife (Stormie Omartian)

A wife can’t put pressure on her husband to be something, but she can pray for him to become it.

5. The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People (Stephen Covey)

If our feelings control our actions, it’s because we’ve abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

6. A Novel: The Witness (Dee Henderson) 


It’s a Christian Fiction with just enough suspense to keep me interested. I’ve deliberately slowed down on turning the pages except during my “free time” so that I can get MORE important things (like drafting this blog post) done. I remember those days when I would stay up all night to finish reading novels. [Singing: I’ve been changed, healed, freed, delivered…😅]

7. The book of JEREMIAH (I’m on Chapter 25)

❤️Still learning:
– Spanish [via Duolingo and Memrise]
– Igbo [via Ife Igbo Learner and Igbo Basic app]

***

Here are a few things I’ve been up to lately, asides sitting home and getting fat (the scale says I now weigh 55kg😫😱, and to think I was around 50 kg this time last year):

On Managing Distractions
Some weeks back while reviewing my schedule and trying to re-organize my priorities, I discovered how easily distracted I  am in between tasks. One moment I’m trying to complete a task, the next moment I’m flipping through my emails. Needless to say, lots of tasks take double/triple the time required to complete them. I’m learning to sit through what I’m doing at the moment before getting started on another, it’s a painfully slow process, but I’ll get there soon by God’s grace. 

From “To-Do Lists” to “Done Lists” and “Not-To-Do Lists”
Also, I’m gradually shifting away from having To-Do-Lists at the start of each day, to making Done-Lists (never knew that existed until recently) at the end of the day.
I also came across the idea of a Not-To-Do List recently, and discovered I mentally had such in place already (just added the last one, because checking emails are forever a distraction *sighs*)

Photo credit: WEB

–  Skills Acquisition: Ankara crafts and designs
It’s been a long summer of learning how to make different accessories with the Ankara fabric and it’s almost a wrap. I’ll come up with pictures when the class is over. 

– I recently went to see the Banana Island Ghost Movie with my homeys. 

Photo Credit: WEB

I’d give it a rating of 2.5/5 ⭐️⭐️ There were a few comic scenes and some not too funny ones. 


Most importantly it was a lovely evening hanging out with my folks and I had an overfill of popcorn, soda and hotdog [no wonder I’m getting FATTER!😩🙄]

I’m FREE: After a few episodes of late night panic attacks following the home-theft incident I wrote about here,

Image credit: WEB
I can finally sing, I’m free! Because here is what God’s word says:

“You need not fear any dangers at night or sudden attacks during the day”
Psalms 91:5 GNB

– Lastly, The Job search is still on. My dream job is yet to locate me😉. So y’all should keep me in your prayers! Thank you!

Inspiration from around the web

– 7 important life lessons in my late twenties

Define your busy

5 Proven Methods for gaining self discipline

– On Parenting
Cheers,
:::requ1ne:::
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A W E S O M E || AUGUST

 

I’m so excited to be writing this POST. There’s so much to say that I’m afraid of just blabbing…and well, it’s a long read, so grab a seat if you can.
The 13th of July was the Induction Ceremony for FTDs by the Medical And Dental Council Of Nigeria (MDCN).
So officially, yours sincerely is now a bonafide, licensed, certified and registered Doctor (even though the license is “provisional” pending the completion of my internship, yada, yada…🙄)


The event took place in Abuja (the capital of Nigeria) and it was all shades of lovely. The highlights were the induction lecture by the Guest Lecturer, Prof. Lovett Lawson, and the keynote address by the Honorable Minister of Health, Prof Isaac Adewole, who was the Special guest of Honor.
Afterwards we took the Hippocratic Oath, received our provisional licenses and were served with refreshments.
And to add to the spice of the event, my entire family were present and that doubled as a family getaway (i.e. a mini-vacay), the first we’ve had in years…and oh, it was refreshing!

#Family
#FamilyDinner

 

I remember this time about 5-6 years ago, when getting into medical school was my “biggest” prayer point…I was so obsessed about it, that I fantasized and day-dreamed of it till it became a reality, and now I can boldly say that every tear, every disappointment, every joy, every victory….everything about that journey was worth it!

God MAKES dreams come true! (Psalm 37:5)

So moving on, I’ve tagged this month-

A W E S O M E ||A U G U S T
And according to Dictionary.com the word AWESOME implies:

inspiring an overwhelming feeling of reverence, admiration or fear.

And I just can’t shake off the feeling that it’s exactly what I’m to expect this season. I believe God is going to do something  amazing that will leave me in awe of him.

That said, Let’s roll!

  • WORSHIP SONG

More of you (SINACH)

  • SCRIPTURE FOR THE SEASON

Matthew 7:7-8 AMP

“Ask and keep on asking and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking and you will find; knock and keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who keeps on asking receives, and he who keeps on seeking finds, and to him who keeps on knocking, it will be opened.”

  • Reading

1. FERVENT (Priscilla Shirer):

I’m re-reading this for my Small Group Bible Study and I’ve been blessed all over again.

“We simply don’t have the luxury of playing nice with prayer, not if we want things to change. If all we’re doing is flinging words and emotions in all directions without any real consideration for the specific ways the enemy is targeting us and the promises of the God that apply to us, we’re mostly just wasting our time.”

2. UNSTOPPABLE (Christine Caine)

“Our response should be to reach for Jesus in our moments of trials and allow his strength to make us into Champions. Champions understand that God uses every trial and obstacle as spiritual workout to build our strength and endurance.”

3. THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE (Stephen Covey)

“We see the world not as it is, but as we have been conditioned to see it. The way we see things is the source of the way we think or act.”

4. OUT OF CONTROL AND LOVING IT (Lisa Bevere)

“God isn’t interested in using us, he wants to transform and conform us to his image. It grieves him when we allow him only limited access into our lives, the areas we hold back from God eventually become our downfall.”

5. INNOVATION AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP (Peter F. Drucker)

“A new business must start with the assumption that its product/service may find customers in markets no one thought of. Rather than dismiss the unexpected as an exception, entrepreneurs need to look at them carefully as distinct opportunities.”

6. THE BIBLE: The book of JEREMIAH


  • Still Learning

Spanish language (Duolingo and Memrise)
According to Duolingo, I’m now about 4% proficient in Spanish language (7 months and counting since I started learning actively).

Estoy Contento!!!

Memrise has been kind enough to give me a breakdown of the words I learn weekly

Igbo language
Learning the Igbo language hasn’t been as easy as I thought, coupled with the lack of consistency on my part (there are days I even forget I’m supposed to be learning it…smh😅). I’ve tried video tutorials and Igbo language apps, and they’ve not been as effective as I wanted.
My dear Igbo kindreds in the house, what are your suggestions for a non-native speaker to learn your language, biko (short of hiring a tutor)?

  • Recently Completed

StoryTeller By Design (An Online Writing Course)
So I took another creative writing course recently and learnt more about the importance of my tone, style, clarity and authenticity in writing, the best part was the commitment I had to make at the end of the course:

  • Summer Activities

Summer so far has been pleasant. Thank God for the experiences each new season brings. So lately here are the things I’ve been doing:

Home tutoring
Throughout summer, I’ll be tutoring an elementary pupil who has a really poor grasp of English and academically behind for his age. Despite these challenges I believe I’ve been graced for this phase of the journey, and there will be remarkable improvement at the end of summer.

Ankara crafts and designs
Finally, I get to do something I’ve been looking forward to, and is actually fun plus keeps me occupied for the time being. There’s hardly any limit to what can be decorated with an Ankara fabric. Here are a few of my crafts with the skill I’ve acquired:

Notebook, Phone pouch and Bracelet

Studying:
I’ve been going through selected topics in General Surgery, Internal Medicine, Obstetrics and Gynecology, Pediatrics and then reviewing my History Taking and Physical Exam skills.

Job Hunt:


The story of my life!!

  • Currently Loving

FoodNetwork : So I have a new favorite channel (sorry Disney and Nickelodeon 🙋), and it’s the FoodNetwork. Their shows give so much inspiration to the creative mind. I especially enjoy how they make the art of cooking look so appealing rather than a mere chore. And thanks to them, “my kitchen” (well my mum’s) has been quite busy in recent times.

 

Making Pizza from scratch with my homeys for the first time, a few days back, was one of my best moments this year. Not only was it a memorable experience working in the kitchen as a team (which is rare), the Pizza tasted so nice that we had second and third helpings.

  • Random Everything

1. Highlights from my Journal of Goodness: The habit of journaling is such an eye opener. I was amazed by the little things I chronicled on a daily basis for a whole month that I’d otherwise have taken for granted. Things like:

– receiving cash gifts (made close to 5K last month from “dash” alone)
– visits from friends and other acts of hospitality,
– random calls and texts that made my day,
– hanging out with family (whether praying, gisting or making dinner)
– unexpected kind and encouraging words,
– feedback (likes, comments) and even new subscribers on the blog!!!

With that experience I hope to cultivate the habit of appreciating the little things people do for me and also cultivate active ways to “pay it forward”!

2. Home Theft Incidence (and a few tips to prevent window-robbery):
So a couple of days back, someone (or more) stole from our house via a window in the bedroom I sleep in (with two others at that time), and made away with some electronic devices, cash etc
It was especially painful for me, because I was up at night to do a couple of things, and on getting back to bed, I heard some sounds (and assumed it was our dog patrolling the compound) and also saw a flash light across the dresser (and assumed someone left a device there that was blinking). If only I’d gotten up to check…

Long story short, it wasn’t until the next morning when I saw my bag on the floor and the window wide open that I began to connect the dots and raised an alarm. It was a rather sad incident for all of us that day and I’d be lying if I say I’ve not been a little paranoid since. Sleeping at night in recent times has been quite challenging as I’m still trying to adjust to NOT getting up to check every weird sound I hear😱
One night in particular, I was so distressed at the thought of another theft that I could barely close my eyes for HOURS, so I literally prayed myself to sleep. Thank God for the comfort of the scriptures- Proverbs 3:24 (GNB):


It’s still my prayer that somehow the thieves would get caught and be brought to justice or the Holyspirit himself would arrest them, cause them to repent and make a restitution. Either way, we WIN! 💃💃💃
For my Nigerian audience (living in Nigeria), these tips might be of help:
1- DO NOT leave your electronic gadgets charging close to a window (except you live in an upstairs apartment)
2- ALWAYS have a flash light nearby when you sleep (that way you can quickly investigate if you notice anything odd)
3- KEEP all money (or better still your handbags/purses/wallets) and other valuables safely tucked away in a locked closet or random non-conspicuous place (eg under the bed, inside a bucket etc 😉)
4- Items like mopping sticks, rakes and other sharps are enablers for these predators and if possible should NOT be left lying about in the compound.

3. My New Muse:
I recently started crushing on this game PhatGal and though I’m yet to get a good hang of it, I can say it’s an interesting one. So check it out on GooglePlay store.


4. 8 Casual, Weird or Not-So-Weird, Things About Me:

(1. I’ve traveled via the 4 major means of transportation ✈️🚉⛴🚗 . Flying is the best! 

(2. Brushing my teeth every night is one of my most favorite things to do 👄

(3. I’m the girl who enjoys eating other people’s food (especially my mum’s) just because… 🍲

(4. I don’t know how to/ have never played chess before in my life and I’m not bothered 💆

(5. If wishes were horses, I’ll eat fried plantain every day and with every meal (or not) 🍛

(6. I sometimes sing/talk to myself while walking down the street and it’s never boring 💁

(7. I’m a confirmed bathroom “worshipper” and “dancer”, don’t judge  👯

(8. Between Watching a Movie or Reading a Novel of the same plot? Well you know the answer already…

5. Inspirations From Around The Web:

1. Pregnancy Lessons Lisa Bevere Taught Me

2. When God Doesn’t Answer Your Prayer

3. How To Stay Motivated To Keep Blogging

4. Respecting God’s boundaries

5. Make Vision Boards Work For You

6. For Your Husband

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Have an AWESOME August, y’all!
:::requ1ne:::
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HELLO JULY!!!

Hola!


Welcome to JULY.

What’s the rush though?

2017 is going really FAST *sniffs*

And for some reasons I have started to feel like I’m actually older than I really am. 😒😟

Maybe my staying mostly indoors has something to do with it, because thanks to MDCN, yours sincerely has been living a pretty domesticated life lately.
Like I’m almost always home all day, everyday, and I have actually started reading articles for stay-at-home mums (just because), only that I’m neither married nor with kids yet. Sigh.
So my domestic roles cut across being a personal trainer to my parents (in our amateur morning stretching exercises 😂😂😂), 

#FitFam Squad

to helping to plan and prepare Family Meals (because I love Food Time Tables),

and also playing the House Doctor, especially prescribing antimalarial drugs (because if it looks like and feels like Malaria, it’s likely Malaria, right? I know WHO now recommends testing before treating Malaria, but with the ceaseless rainfall and relentless mosquitoes at home, there’s no time to waste time).


Just so you know, in the last week of June, I was also a victim to what I suspected to be Malaria and it rendered me almost useless to myself and those around me. I stayed in bed for days and even suffered a bout of depression (not clinically ofcourse). It was while recuperating that I wrote this poem LIFE 101.

Sickness of any type is especially frustrating for me because not only is it distressing, I also find it depressing and distracting. Bottomline is I don’t like to be sick, because it puts me out of CONTROL. Medical doctor or not, Sickness is Terrible!
Anyway, I’m so thankful I’m back on my two feet without having to go into the Emergency room. Hallelujah!

Now let’s roll into the JULY VIBES!

1. Song on replay:

Love me too much (Travis Greene)

2. Scripture for the month:

Habakkuk 2:2-3

Picture Perfect Scripture!

This is a much needed WORD for my season of wait! 

3. Currently reading:

The four loves (C.S Lewis)

“Friendship can be a school of virtue but also a school of vice. It makes good men better and bad men worse.”

Lioness Arising (Lisa Bevere)

“If God has spoken, believe him. Go where he asks you to go; listen to what he says to you. Follow this lion as he leads, and trust the “knowing” even when others might not understand.”

Unstoppable (Christine Caine)

“Faith is always one generation from extinction and we are the ones entrusted with carrying the baton for this generation and handing it off to the next.”

Innovation & Entrepreneurship (Peter F Drucker)
“Innovators should not be rewarded for failure but certainly not to be penalized for trying. An innovation is expected to start small but end big.”

Passing It On (Myles Munroe)
“Mentoring has more to do with association than with instruction.”

The Bible: The book of 2 Kings

Elisha!!! Powerful in death as in life!
– 

– The 30-31-30 Devotional by Eziaha.
In one word, the devotional is DEEP! You need to read it to understand what I’m saying. God bless Coach E as always! Pls download the FAB E Reader App here and look up the devotional too, even if it’s the free version.
4. Still learning:
Spanish and Igbo languages.

5. Just completed:

An 8-week StoryCrafting Course Online, and I’m so glad I participated.

Among other things the course has helped me to pay a closer attention not only to what I write, but also how I write. Another class is coming up soon, so if you’re interested you can check out this link.

6. Recent Adventure:

So I bashed my Dad’s car while driving into our compound one sunny afternoon 😂😂😂
insert *Tony Tetuila’s You don hit my car*

Thank God nothing was broken and no one was injured!
My parents were kind enough to laugh it off, and everyone began to recount their bashing experiences too…lol

7. New Muse

I started keeping a Goodness Journal from the first of July. 


This beautiful journal is a gift from my mum and I love how colorful it looks.
So basically it’s like A Book Of Remembrance for every good deed done (or kind word spoken) to me each day, whether by a loved one or a total stranger. The idea is to be able to reflect on these, when things get a little bit tough and also to keep my benefactors in prayers. So for every good thing you do to me this month, I get to treasure it foreverSo what are you waiting for?😜😅

8. Inspiration from around the web:

i. Me, Myself and Lies 

ii. Stop Confusing Physical Attraction with Chemistry

iii. The Ministry of home-making 

iv. Eggshells

PS: You can now follow me on Instagram @eunice_smiles.

Thank you for reading, 

And have a Fabulous July!
:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

THE BUCKET-LIST OF AN AVERAGE NIGERIAN: Six Simple Wishes!

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For the average Nigerian living in Nigeria, whether male or female, the good life is pretty much basic:

1. Settle down on time (aka get married between your mid 20s and early 30s, beyond that you’re a latecomer. In Nigeria, if you’ve not married, you’ve not arrived).

2. Find a good source of income (a white collar job or a thriving business venture or better still both, and earn above 100K in a month, at least).

3. Give your kids the best education you can afford (Primary, Secondary and Tertiary; all private schools if you can, because ASUU is a monster).

4. Build your own house(s) and buy your own car(s), whichever comes first. (It doesn’t matter if you fail to plaster the walls before you move into the house or your first car is a used 1980 Toyota model; As long as you’re a landlord and car owner, you’re successful).

5. Don’t die prematurely. There are a lot of unique but avoidable ways to die as an average Nigerian- RTAs, Armed Robbery Attacks, Fire Outbreaks and Medical Negligence, are just a few. (Nigerians love to live, no matter how bleak the future looks, after all a living dog is a better than a dead lion, na bible talk am. Ecclesiastes 9:4).

6. Retire to eat the fruits of your labor (i.e. your children get to graduate, start working, marry into wealth, make beautiful grandchildren, then relocate abroad where you can visit them as often as you want, after all they are your major investments!).

Maybe there are some individual twists to what I’ve mentioned based on personal interests, but no average Nigerian can deny relating to at least one of the above.

E go better” is the mantra of the Average Nigerian.
-It’s the reason we hustle (a refined name for struggling), from dawn to dusk just to make ends meet.
-It’s what we hope for every day of our lives, gathering in religious houses from week to week, holding special programs and giving special offerings, just to be blessed by the Almighty.
-It’s why we are restless and dissatisfied when others seem to be making better progress than we are.
In Nigeria, we thrive on sweat rather than sense, we own more buildings than we build people.

We are by nature myopic, more concerned about how we can get more rather than give more. Who wants to invest in a sick nation like Nigeria? The public civil servant just wants to collect his monthly salary and go home. There are bills to be paid, from DSTV monthly subscription to the Children’s school fees for the term.
The average Nigerian is less concerned about making any difference, whether local or global. Not the classroom teacher who just wants the day to end, not the nurse in the hospital ward already frustrated from the overwhelming workload and definitely not the police officer collecting bribes at the security checkpoint.

It is why many of our leaders lie and steal and get away with it. After all they are only sharing the national cake, which belongs to everybody but nobody in particular. And who wants to catch them? EFCC? Pls try again.

We the followers are not much different, as long as we can afford to fence our own compounds and provide for our basic amenities like electricity and water, the rest of the nation can go to rot.

So back to the bucket-list, what can we do to change our priorities from that of merely surviving to actually flourishing as Nigerians living in Nigeria? How can we make a paradigm shift from our attitude of consumption to that of contribution? Where do we even begin from?
My mum once mentioned this phrase while praying for my siblings and I recently, “They didn’t choose to be Nigerians…”
Neither did you. But now that you’re here, why not make your impact felt?
I’m Nigerian and Blessed.
:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️
*ASUU: Academic Staff Union of Universities

*EFCC: Economic and Financial Crime Commission

LIFE 101



My days are blue
And full of gloom
I have no clue
On what to do

I hide my tears
And wipe my eyes
There’s no one here
Who has to know

My nights are dark
No need to lie
The only choice
Is to sigh and cry

I paint my face
And fake a smile
I make ev’ryone
To think I’m fine

You can’t be mad
That I make you sad
And don’t feel bad
That I’m not alright

My days are blue
And full of gloom
I have no clue
On what to do…

(Requine 2017)
❤️❤️❤️

Jubiloso Junio {Jubilant June}

Hola!


It’s the middle of the year already…like seriously, year 2017 is wrapping up rapidly.
Well, I’m thankful because God has been so faithful.

For me, June is a month of JUBILATION.

Jubilation (Noun): a feeling of great happiness and triumph.
Synonyms: euphoria, ecstasy, glee, delight, elation.

And here are some reasons why:
– About this time last year, yours sincerely completed medical school.
It was a major breakthrough and a dream come true.

– And just this month God gave my family another victory,
My dad got his PhD! 

Papi!


It took a while coming…many days, weeks, months and years longer than expected.Thank God, it has come to pass. And we trust him for other testimonies as well. Amen.

Before I continue, I have a few confessions:
In my first blogpost this year, I’d announced that I’d be doing free adverts for a few of my friends with growing businesses through this platform until the middle of the year. Unfortunately, I had to discontinue at some point, because it was challenging to create content and publish my blog posts.

To the friends I made promises to, I sincerely apologize. Please find it in your hearts to forgive me and I hope I can make it up to you all in the near future.

I also had to quit the blog challenge: 26 BLESSINGS AND COUNTING (with just 2 more posts to go), because I was overwhelmed by the way it dragged into the month of May. And there were other pending posts I had to work on, so I had to let it go.
Again I apologize for all the unkept promises.

Here’s a peep into my June (plus What’s New):
1. Meditating on: 1 John 4:11


2. Song on repeat: The Hill (Travis Greene)

3. Currently reading:
a. The book of 1 John


b. Lioness Arising (Lisa Bevere)
“Jesus stripped himself and became like us, so we could strip ourselves and become like him.”
c. Unstoppable (Christine Caine)
” The goal of the race is not to earn God’s favor, the goal of the race is to become like Christ.”
d. Passing It On (Myles Munroe)
“True leaders do not retire. They simply move to the next phase.”
e. Innovation and Entrepreneurship (Peter F Drucker)
“Successful innovators are conservative, they are not risk-focused, they are opportunity focused.”

4. Still learning:
– Spanish

– Igbo


5. Working on:


Scripture Flash Cards

I love memorizing scriptures and I keep looking for easier ways to go about it. So I finally decided to create my own Flash Cards from scratch, using cardboard paper and a variety of pens.

6. Personal development:
Another thing I’ve become really intentional about is boosting my Self Confidence. And here are a few things I’m learning to do:


i) Proper Grooming
ii) Amiable Smile
iii) Increase Competence
iv) Accept Compliments
v) Lend a helping hand

7. Driving lessons:🚘🚥🚦

#StudentDriverMood

 

I’ve been training for over 2 weeks now but I’m still a long way from becoming the confident driver I need to be. My instructor says I’m taking the training rather too seriously and I need to relax.
I feel I’m battling with a level of performance anxiety that leads me to repeat some mistakes. It’s frustrating really. I need all the courage I can get and be done with the training already. Please Pray For Me🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

8. Creative Writing: I finally registered for an online writing course I could afford, last month. It’s been really enlightening, and to be honest there’s so much to learn. I’m thankful for the opportunity to improve on my writing.

9. NewsFlash: I’ve started using a piggy bank which is another goal for this year, thanks to Dr. tamie. My bank is locally made from cheap wood and without lock/key, which means I can’t be tempted to “borrow” from it. Already I’ve saved a reasonable amount, though I don’t have a job yet. I’m pretty excited.

10. Crushing on:
My three favorite TV soaps with intriguing storylines. I watch them back to back on weekdays, thanks to Africa Magic Showcase.

Tinsel



Jemeji

BattleGround


That’s all for now.

Cheers to a great month, everyone!

:::requ1ne:::
❤️❤️❤️

MELODIOUS MARCH!!!

Hola!

Welcome to MARCH.


The year is pretty fast, isn’t it?

I hope you all are eager to partake of all that God is set to do this season (in your life, nation and globally)…because I AM.

There’s just so much I’m trusting God for right now, and I believe there are endless possibilities awaiting me as each day unfolds.

One of the scriptures I currently find encouraging is,

“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will act.” Ps 37:5


I saw this on the blog of someone I admire greatly (Hola doctora!😀), and I decided to adapt it for this post.

1. ❤️Reading:

a) FERVENT (Priscilla Shirer):

“That’s why you and I need to be praying—to keep the truth about our real identity in constant, unbroken focus before us.”
“Truth—God’s standard and viewpoint about us—must come first in our hearts and minds if we want to be effective in
battle against the enemy.”

b) WHEN GOD WHISPERS YOUR NAME (Max Lucado):


“Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.”
“God forgets the past. Imitate him. Sacrilege is to feel guilt for sins already forgiven.”


“Don’t ask God to do what you want, ask God to do what is right.”
“You’ll never forgive anyone more than God has already forgiven you.”
“To see sin without grace is despair. To see grace without sin is arrogance”

c) LIONESS ARISING (Lisa Bevere):

-The lioness rises to gather strength, greet/groom others, hunt, move the young to safety, confront the enemies that threaten the pride and walk alongside her king.
-The lioness has something which is fierce, wild at the same time beautiful.

d) PASSING IT ON (Myles Munroe):
“Finishing well is more important than starting well.”
“One of the most difficult decisions a leader has, is to surrender the reins of power to another.”
“Knowing when to leave is so essential that it’s better for a leader to leave too early than too late.”

e) INNOVATION AND ENTREPRENEURSHIP (Peter F. Drucker):

– Entrepreneurship is neither a science or an art, it is a practice.
– Innovation is the specific tool for entrepreneurs the means by which they exploit change as an opportunity for a different service or business.
– Not everyone who starts a new venture is an entrepreneur. An Entrepreneur has to have special characteristics over being New Or Small. Your business venture does not have to be small or new to make you an entrepreneur.
– An Entrepreneur doesn’t have to be a business owner, capitalist, or employer.
– People who need certainty are unlikely to make good entrepreneurs.

f) AMERICANAH (Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie):

I read the preview copy last year, and bought this recently. Interesting and intriguing read, Chimamanda has a way of putting the obvious in a not-so-obvious way.

I could actually relate with this part, even with Vincentians, it’s never “Sorry” but “Are you okay?”

Nigerians on the other hand, will expect you to tell them “sorry” even when you’re not responsible for their misfortunes.

g) THE BOOK OF ISAIAH :

I recently came across this passage and I thought of my beloved country Nigeria, as I turned it into a prayer:

17 “Those who will rebuild you are coming soon, and those who destroyed you will leave. 18 Look around and see what is happening! Your people are assembling — they are coming home! As surely as I am the living God, you will be proud of your people, as proud as a bride is of her jewels. 19 “Your country was ruined and desolate — but now it will be too small for those who are coming to live there. And those who left you in ruins will be far removed from you. (‭Isaiah‬ ‭49‬:‭17-19‬ GNB)

2. ❤️Playing: Nothing. Once upon a time, it was CANDY CRUSH, but those days are long gone.
3. ❤️Watching: Nothing ATM.  Last watched YELLOW BIRD (last weekend), and in my opinion, it’s booooring….with a CAPITAL B.

4.❤️Listening to: I TESTIFY (by Ada).

Recently discovered it on my playlist and it’s been a recurring song in my spirit. Surely, this month I TESTIFY. 

5.❤️ Working on: learning Spanish (courtesy of Fluencia and Duolingo) and Igbo languages (courtesy of Igbovillagesquare on YouTube). It’s been fun all the way.

6. ❤️Eating: Besides real food, lots of Golden Morn and different kinds of Sausage rolls (Gala, Meaty, Beefie😭😂)


7. ❤️Wanting: Many things….especially a new pair of shoes (maybe silver sandals), a friend’s wedding is coming up this month and there’s nothing to rock my iro and buba with…yet.

8. ❤️Needing: More of God. More of his wisdom. More of his strength. More of his grace.

9. ❤️Loving: The strong, fervent, and godly woman I am becoming.

Credit: WEB
10. ❤️ Thinking: of passing the MDCN exams in peace and not in pieces……the workload seems overwhelming, but God dey. 

Over 80 lecture slides already and still counting! 😑😐
11. ❤️Feeling: Blessed to be part of my immediate family. So I ran away from Lagos last weekend, to be with my homeys and how refreshing it was.

The ancient city of Ibadan was welcoming as usual.

IBADAN
The highlight was an evening outing, after a road trip through a part of the city, while singing our favorite hymns and recalling poems/nursery rhymes…of course we took several snap shots (plus a professional studio shoot), followed by a lovely dinner.



And yours sincerely had a big cheese burger that was so yummy….


12. ❤️Celebrating : The publishing of my first book, MY FEGGO DIARIES. It’s basically a memoir about the highs and lows, of my experiences in a Nigerian boarding house.


It is now available for download on Okadabooks app (Googleplay and App Store). I’ll appreciate your reviews and feedbacks.

13. ❤️ Grateful for: The new MONTH.

it is my desire to make MELODY to the Lord with my heart continually, in anticipation of all the testimonies that await me. Like the scripture says,

“addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,”

Ephesians 5:19-20 ESV

I decided to dig out 20 of my favorite hymns (in no particular order) and share with you all. You can look up their verses/tunes on the Internet. I hope you’re blessed by them.

What are some of your favorite hymns?

Have a melodious March,

:::requ1ne::::

Ps: Thanks to all who supported and contributed to my blog challenge, 26 BLESSINGS AND COUNTING. I’ll be completing the skipped days at a latter time, which will be communicated accordingly.

Muchas gracias. ❤️❤️❤️

THIS IS LAGOS!


Hey guys, guess who is in Lagos?
It’s yours sincerely.

What can I say? 

It’s been an unusually intense two weeks plus for me.

Some days I can’t even believe I’m still here, but here I am. This is the longest I’ve ever stayed in Lag, and I’m going to be here for a little while longer.

Una see wetin MDCN don cause? I was already dreaming of the ancient town of Ile-Ife or the calm city of Benin, I didn’t mind traveling all the way to Enugu. Anyway, that one na tory for another day.
Before I launch into my post, here are 5 facts about Lagos that you probably didn’t know:

1. Lagos is the smallest state by geographical size in Nigeria.


2. Lagos is the most populated city in Nigeria.


3. Lagos is the economic capital of Nigeria.


4. Lagos is the second fastest growing city in Africa.


5. The name Lagos was originally given by Portugese explorers as “Largo de Curamo” which means a collection of lakes.

(Credits: Naija.com, Facts.ng)

I won’t even lie I’ve always had some form of trepidation when it comes to facing the hustle and bustle of Lagos city.

All my life I’ve had the privilege of visiting Lagos only for a couple of days at most, and usually with someone to show me around.

However not this time. I’ve literally been on my own (aka OYO), transiting from Idi-Araba to Ojuelegba to Yaba to Oyingbo then Ebutemetta, until much recently when I relocated to a nearby apartment. 
It’s true what they say “Eko o gba gbere rara” which means “There’s no room for dulling in Lagos.”

For someone who is inexperienced about street-life and also coming from a less intense city like Ib (which is the “new Lagos” anyway, with the rapid rate at which it’s growing), I’m learning to be hyper-vigilant about everything and everyone in Lagos, just because…you never know. 
My new motto is: Shine your eyes well!

Thankfully, I’ve not experienced any incidence of theft or assault throughout my stay, Hallelujah to Jesus!
For the life of me, I have never envied Lagosians, I’m always like “What’s in your Lagos sef?” 🙄😑

A couple of times I’ve actually argued with people over the pros and cons of living in Lagos. Apart from the bubbling city life, remarkable job opportunities and lots of fun places that can be visited, Lagos to me, is just a hubbub of mental and physical stress. Here are a few:

1. The Traffic.

Traffic congestion in Lagos is incomparable. Depending on where one resides, some folks (including school-aged children) leave their homes as early as 4 a.m. and do not return until late evening. I can’t even imagine that kind of lifestyle. Thankfully, traffic doesn’t happen so often on the route I take. And from the information I’ve gathered, where Lagos traffic is concerned, things are better than they used to be. As for me, I just can’t do it, I will pack my bags and jejely leave Lagos ni o.

2. The crowd. 

Lagos is r-o-w-d-y! Like seriously, visit a place like Tejuosho market, and you will wonder where that sea of people come from. You can’t conveniently walk in some parts of Lagos, without getting shoved from behind or bumped into, by other pedestrians. Lagos is a place where everyone is constantly on the move, if you’re not after something, it is likely that something is after you.


The good thing though is that I like to watch people, so the Lagos crowd kinda provides me with some side-attraction; from the random beggars on the street, to the Igbo traders displaying their wares on the floor, then my co-passengers inside Lagos Molue and all sorts of roadside vendors, I always get my fill of daily drama and comic relief 😅

3. The noise. 

I don’t like noise abeg and Lagos has too much of it. When it’s not the Agberos shouting at the motor garage, it’s the noise from buses, okadas and trailers blaring their horns, and everywhere you go there’s one generating plant or the other in use (EKEDC no dey try abeg). In general, there’s sha noise everywhere, schools, churches and mosques kuku plenty. One good thing is that the van drivers don’t play high volume/deafening music (something I don’t miss about SVG). It’s not too strange to also see brawls breaking out among people on the streets for one reason or the other. Lagosians are very entertaining.

4. The Hustling.

Chai, Lagos is full of hustlers. People typically migrate to Lagos in order to “make it” and will do whatever it takes to get “there.”

Everyone is trying to make ends meet usually at other people’s expense. The headquarters of The Nigerian Opportunists Club is located in Lagos. Too many victims of fraudsters and scammers on a daily basis. I don’t trust anyone in Lagos (not anywhere in Nigeria sef), I simply walk by faith and not by sight and God has been faithful. 

Lagos has been described as the city that never sleeps, and how can they when money-making is their number one priority? 😬
With these few points of mine, I hope I’ve been able to convince and not to confuse you, that the city of Lagos is no place for the faint-hearted. Kudos to Governor Ambode and co, one day Lagos go better.

Having said that, it is also expedient for me to reiterate that Lagos is a land of abundant opportunities. It provides the confidence for you to dream and dare, and the courage to face any challenge that occurs. With the high rate of successful feats and giant accomplishments in Lagos, compared to other parts of Nigeria, you’re instilled with the hope to dream and live your dreams.

So on behalf of myself and other visitors to Lagos, I say,

Welcome to Lagos, where GREAT things happen.

Eko o ni baje o.

Amin.

PS: So like I mentioned in my last post, I will be helping some of my Facebook friends promote their growing businesses on my blog. This will hopefully run through the first half of the year. Stay tuned.

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With love from Lasgidi,

😘😘😘

:::requ1ne:::