August 2020|| Strength

Hey Guys,

Welcome to a beautiful new month.

 

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It’s been a year of highs and lows, but I am thankful not just for the gift of life but also for the gift of strength.

This season, God has been teaching me what it means to rely on his strength.

If I am being honest, there are still days I find myself triggered by the words or actions of people around me, that I end up in tears.

Whenever this happens, I become frustrated with myself because I feel God must be disappointed with me.

I somehow feel responsible for not having sufficient strength, since the scripture says, “he that faints in the day of adversity, his strength is small.” (Proverbs 24:10).

Then one day, God said to me

“Eunice,
It’s normal to get tired, but that’s not an excuse to give up. It’s only a reminder to renew your strength.

Strength is exhaustible, whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, that is why it must be renewed.

So I am asking you to trust my promises and my process, because it’s in the place of TRUST, that your strength is renewed.”

What an encouragement that was!

The Holyspirit also gave me an insight using the analogy of a phone battery.

There are days I charge my battery to full capacity, then use my phone all day, to play music, take pictures, chat with friends, watch movies and browse. At some point my battery gets drained and I have to plug and recharge it.

There are other days I charge my phone to full capacity, but I only receive a few phone calls and messages. On such days, my phone battery remains relatively full.

In the same vein, when it comes to our spiritual battery, there are days we have to pray multiple times, confess lots of scriptures, speak in tongues every couple of hours and listen to as many sermons and songs as possible, just to get through the day.

Everytime we start to feel overwhelmed by doubt, fear, or discouragement, we need to plug in to God’s strength and recharge.

Going to God in our time of need is a sign of trust. God is such a sweet and caring Father, and he’s always ready to help us.

Remember, his strength is inexhaustible.

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
(Hebrews 4:16)

Shalom!

:::requ1ne:::
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July 2020||HEALING.

Hello Fam,

Welcome to the second half of 2020.

Source: Pinterest

And what a year it’s been!

Nevertheless, we don’t complain, we give thanks because God CAN be trusted. 

One of the things this year has reminded me of, is that moving on after a crisis is easier said than done.

The truth is that no one wants to be in a state of continuous despondency, but healing is a process and it takes time. 

In a bid to help, people can indirectly put pressure on someone to heal quickly.

From experience, the deeper the hurt the longer the process of recovery.

“Just move on” is a nice cliché but it it’s not as helpful as it sounds.

How do you expect someone to just move on from a place of confusion, betrayal or loss?

While we must be careful not to glorify our pain, the focus should not be on “Moving On” but on “Getting Well.”  

A person who has not healed completely will not be able to function optimally.

There are several people who are carrying pains from years ago on their shoulders.

A lot of these people end up hurting others, either consciously or unconsciously, sometimes creating a cycle of abuse.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the process of healing.

When it comes to emotional trauma, rather than tell people to get well soon, just tell them to get well (no matter how long that takes).

Another common assumption people make, especially in this part of the world, is that whatever happens (whether good or evil) it’s the will of God.

There’s nothing further from the truth.

The scripture says,

“…God is light, and there is no darkness at all in him.”

1 John 1:5 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/1jn.1.5.GNB

GOD DOES NO EVIL. 

When something terrible happens to someone, it’s not unusual for people to make blanket statements like “Maybe God allowed it for a reason…yen, yen, yen.”

It’s even more annoying when they ask victims to consider worst case scenarios.

For example, a couple has had a miscarriage, rather than just offering them words of comfort, you hear things like “God probably has a reason for taking the life of the baby; who knows maybe the baby would have had a congenital malformation.” 

That’s such a terrible feedback to give to someone who is hurting.

As far as God’s children are concerned, anything that involves loss, hurt, betrayal, hatred, conflict, confusion or despair is NOT the will of God.

This passage puts things in perspective,

The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life — life in all its fullness.

John 10:10 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.10.10.GNB

The enemy’s job description is to steal, to kill and to destroy: whether it’s your business, your health, your relationships, or your possessions.

The bottom line is this, Satan loves to wreck good things! That is his modus operandi. 

So the next time, something terrible happens to you, don’t blame God (and don’t allow people to indirectly blame God on your behalf), rather FACE THE DEVIL AND REBUKE HIM!

Another understanding I have from the light of scriptures is that, God can use evil circumstances to bring about his purposes, but God does not orchestrate evil.

This story in the bible explains it briefly,

His disciples asked him, “Teacher, whose sin caused him to be born blind? Was it his own or his parents’ sin?” Jesus answered, “His blindness has nothing to do with his sins or his parents’ sins. HE IS BLIND SO THAT GOD’S POWER MIGHT BE SEEN AT WORK IN HIM.

John 9:2‭-‬3 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/jhn.9.2-3.GNB

Look at that. Although the man was born blind, God decided to use his life as an avenue to show forth his glory.

HEALING is God’s will.

RESTORATION is God’s will.

VICTORY is God’s will. 

Let me conclude with this verse,

We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28 GNB

https://bible.com/bible/296/rom.8.28.GNB

No matter the kind of crisis a believer faces, God will work things out for their good.

Keep believing.

Have an amazing new month!

:::requ1ne:::

❤️❤️❤️

JUNE 2020|| HOPE


Vulnerability can either be the most risky or the most rewarding action to take. 

Sometimes it leaves you misunderstood or even more confused than ever. 

Other times you end up as an unprepared client in an unsolicited therapy session. 

But the most painful outcome is to become the victim of a shameful story gone viral.

For years, I struggled with the concept of opening up to others while going through a tough time. 

My modus operandi was to suffer in silence.  It didn’t help that I was also battling with depression. 

Only those who have dealt with MDD* can truly understand the sense of helplessness and despair that comes with it. 

Doesn’t it appear selfish to want to open up to people who are also dealing with their own hurt and pain? Sometimes in greater ways than you can imagine. 

Where do you draw the line between trying to cope and asking for help?

The world as we know it today is in ruins. This particular year, 2020, has been especially devastating for a lot of people. 

Amidst the uncertainty of the current pandemic, people still have to battle with illnesses, loss of jobs, heartbreak, crime and all kinds of abuse.

The world is hurting we know, but it doesn’t invalidate any individual’s pain.

How can a patient who is comatose and on life support be aware that the building is on fire?

The truth is that being in a vulnerable state makes you feel like a nuisance. You never know when you’re disturbing others. 

Some people truly want to help but their resources of time, energy, prayers and words of encouragement are limited. So there’s no true help outside God, only his resources are unlimited. 

Everyone needs help. Everyone needs healing. Everyone needs HOPE. 

To be vulnerable is to be human. To help the vulnerable is to be STRONG, not in yourself but in the Lord. 

It’s good to share our vulnerable moments with people, even if it’s for them to identify with our humanity.

We laugh. We dance. We sing. We love. We celebrate.

But we also cry. We get hurt. We feel betrayed. We face rejection. We experience disappointments. We know what it means to feel hopeless & helpless. 

No one has it all together. We are in this together.

May was a month of premium tears, I cried everyday (save three). Someday, I will share my story.

I trust God that in this month of June, our hearts will be filled with his joy. 

“Rejoice in the Lord, always. Again I will say, rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4, NKJV)

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::
    ❤️❤️❤️

*MDD: Major Depressive Disorder. 

April 2020||A Love Letter 

IMAGE CREDIT: Pinterest.

Hello April,

What a delight you are!
You’re like a treasure hidden in a large cave surrounded by mighty giants.

Having you has been such a rewarding experience for me. 

You’re as sweet as the sunrise- its rays bursting out with hope as each new day unfolds.

Your are so sincere and kind, and every moment spent with you is priceless. 

My darling April, you’ve taught me many things; how to be patient with the faults of others, gracious towards those who are suffering and generous with my gratitude. 

I can’t thank you enough for coming into my life, especially at such a time like this. 

You gave me reasons to smile despite my fears, and proved to be a safe haven in the midst of life’s storms. 

April, you’re a gift that I’ll cherish for the rest of my days. 

I love you now and forever. 

_____________

PS: This symbolic love letter is in celebration of Christ’s life, death, resurrection and anticipated return. In this trying time, he remains our hope for the future.

:::requ1ne:::

       ❤ 

BOOK REVIEW|| Friends, Partners and Lovers 

Author: Kevin A. Thompson

Genre: Non-Fiction, Christian


||How I came across the book
A friend shared this book with and I also had the opportunity to be in a small group where the book was read and reviewed. 

||Expectations

I loved the title of this book from the first glance, because it described marriage in a multidimensional way; so I knew I was going to enjoy its content. I’m glad I wasn’t disappointed.


||Lessons 
– Marriage is an exclusive relationship. It creates a hard boundary between us and others. 

– A successful marriage doesn’t happen on a whim. It isn’t a fortunate twist of fate. 

– The number one cause of divorce is a lack of intentional investment in the marriage. Far more marriages die of apathy than adultery. 

– Marriage demands courage. It requires strength when we have none to give.

– Marriage calls for transparency when we want to be secretive. We have to run toward problems when we want to run away. 

– In marriage, we have to admit fault when we want to deny it. We have to recognize ignorance and do something about it. If an issue is important to one spouse, it has to be important to both spouses. 

– Very often, couples do not put in the work because of the misconception that a good marriage is based on luck and doesn’t require work because our spouse is perfect for us. 

– We like the idea that love is unexplainable, because if we can’t explain it we can’t be expected to maintain it or grow it.

– Marriage doesn’t make you happy. It’s your happiness that determines whether your marriage is happy or not. Two unhappy people can never make a happy marriage. 

– Healthy couples don’t just wait until they feel something to do something. They form the discipline of investing in their spouse (even when they don’t feel like it), and that investment influences their affections.


PART A: Friendship in Marriage

– At the foundation of any good marriage is deep friendship. By no means should a spouse be your only friend, but they should be your best friend. 

– The demands of parenting, career, and life can become so overwhelming that the friendship aspect of a marriage is easily ignored.

– Many marriages struggle because the couple does not continue to develop the friendship throughout the marriage. 

– Friendship is built on shared attention and experiences. It is more than just positive experiences, but without positive experiences, a friendship ceases.

– Creating positive interactions with your spouse is necessary because the negative interactions within a marriage are guaranteed. 

Aim to have your spouse as the first person to share your significant moments with. In doing this, you aren’t just sharing the moment; you’re sharing yourself.

– To give good moments to other friends before you give them to your spouse is to starve your marriage of the very thing it needs to thrive.

– Time is a prerequisite for friendship. If you won’t make time for your spouse, you can not be friends. Do not invest in other friendships at the expense of our spouse.

– Friends talk. They communicate. They interact with one another. The biggest symptom of a dying relationship is silence. Silence is a symptom of apathy. 

– We all have friends we haven’t seen in years, and we still feel the same way about them that we always have, because there have not been too many withdrawals.

– Our emotional bank is quickly depleted when we continue to make withdrawals from a relationship without depositing into it.

– Few things breed intimacy as much as playfulness. Friends have fun, and having fun builds friendships.

– When married couples are also best friends, they are comfortable with one another. The marriage is a fort—a place where both partners can find safety and comfort.

– Life is hard enough but friends can help carry the burden, ease the pain and lessen the load.

– It is easier to suffer with another than alone. Marry someone who suffers well. Someone who hopes no matter the circumstances. So that when life falls apart, you have someone you can run to, not someone you want to run from. 


PART B: Partnership in Marriage

– When partners begin a business, they bring different strengths, abilities, and backgrounds to the table. They believe that they are better together than apart.

As it is in business, so it is in marriage. Marriage is a partnership. It is a business decision. Many people live in denial of this reality, but it is true. 

– The partnership is no less important than the friendship or the sexual connection. Our differences are both the source of our greatest frustration and the place of our greatest potential.

– Partnership doesn’t mean both spouses will perform the exact same tasks. It however means they will be equally involved in energy and effort toward the well-being of the marriage.

– This is the heart of partnership—two people fully committed to the well-being and success of their spouse. As they each benefit the other, they receive benefits from the relationship. Each individual thrives as the relationship itself thrives.

– It reassures us that in failure and success we will have someone to weep with us or cheer us on. It challenges us to live day to day with another adult who is striving to do the best they can.

– Respect is a prerequisite for a healthy partnership. When respect is absent, a husband and wife cannot be true partners. If we treat our spouse in a way we would never treat a stranger, we are not respecting them. 

– We respect people’s strengths. This doesn’t happen in denial of their weaknesses, but it is the result of seeing those imperfections within a larger context of abilities, aptitudes, and skills.
– Friendship fuels partnership because it gives us a deeper understanding of our spouse, which causes us to better understand who they are and what is happening in their lives.
– In marriage, conflict is guaranteed. Friction is a must. While we shouldn’t seek it, we should embrace it, because making peace in the midst of conflict is important in marriage.

– Healthy couples are not afraid of negotiation. They understand it is a natural part of being married. The task of a good marriage is to find common ground in the midst of differences.

– Peace is not something that magically happens. Peace is made. It is struggled for and fought for. It is attained through hardwork, sacrifice, energy, and effort. 
– Communication is a key skill of good partnerships. Humility and Honesty are necessary ingredients for good communication to take place.

– When couples confront problems as problems rather than people, they remain on the same side. It is them against the problem. While they each may have differing opinions on how to solve it, they are united in their attempt to find common ground.

– Love demands difficult conversations. Issues cannot be ignored. Feelings must be communicated, opinions must be presented, and frustrations must be expressed. 

– Love is not the ability to know what our spouse is thinking without asking; love is taking the time to ask, listen, and act in response to what our spouse tells us.

– Wise couples use hard words, not harsh words. They aren’t afraid to say what needs to be said. Hard words provide an opportunity to expose a problem and fix it; harsh words distract from the issue and focus on finding faults with the person. 


PART C: Love in Marriage
– In the best of scenarios, a healthy couple will have many meaningful friendships. But they should have physical intimacy with only one person. 

The greatest of lovers are the best of friends. The best thing the average couple can do to assist their sex life is to nourish their friendship. Great friends have great sex.

– Sex is a unique connection meant for husband and wife. But being lovers is more than just having sex.

– Feeling cherished, valued, desired, and loved can assist a person in becoming fully alive. 

– One of the most fun aspects of marriage is waking up every day knowing someone else wants you to succeed. In a healthy marriage, each person is doing everything in their power to make the other person’s dreams come true. 

– The biggest misconception young couples have of marriage is that sex will be easy. Yet nothing could be further from the truth. Great sex is rarely easy.

– In fiction, sex appears easy, but real sex is much messier than we like it to be. It confronts our deepest insecurities and wounds, and unless we can trust the person we are intimate with, we will be guarded.

– Pornography and prostitution promise sex without emotional demands, and sex outside of marriage promises the physical experience without any responsibilities. But they never fully provide what they promise. 

– A strong sexual connection takes time, knowledge, wisdom, understanding, and a lot of trial and error.

– The greatest aspect of sex is giving pleasure. Paradoxically, when each spouse attempts to give pleasure rather than seek it, they both give it and receive it. 

– The unknown aspects of life is what makes marriage so risky and what makes the vow to love so beautiful. We vow to one another our very best no matter what might come—for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.

– Both partners should be excited to learn, struggle, and figure out how to have a good marriage. No pretending. No posturing. No assumptions. When trust is present, a couple can confront and endure nearly anything. 

– Deliberately create time to give your spouse your best. When you are most awake, most refreshed, most alive, give that time to the one you love the most.

– Marriage is best lived in gratitude. Gratitude empowers us to see the good in our spouse. Though life still has its demands, the presence of gratitude helps a couple not be overwhelmed by them.

– Every relationship takes a backseat to marriage, including relationships with other family members. Spouses before children and spouses before parents.

– Marriage is one compromise after another. If you are not willing to give and take in a variety of areas, you are not willing to do what is necessary to be happy. 

– To become lifetime lovers, be willing to keep trying, failing, and trying again. 


||Conclusion 

– Being a good spouse is demanding. It is not enough to play one role; we must play three. Unless we are a friend, partner, and lover, we are failing to give our spouse everything we have promised and everything they deserve.
– Friendship and partnership should make us better lovers. Friendship gives us patience with one another. Partnership gives us the ability to learn and grow. When they are put together, we are better lovers because we patiently learn what our spouse needs and desires.


||Observation

This book has so much depth. I love how it addresses the practical issues of marriage. 

||Recommendations

To every couple, young or old, willing to make the most out of their marriage. And to every aspiring couple willing to prepare themselves for the requirements of a solid and healthy marriage. 

I hope you enjoyed the review.

Thank you for reading,

:::requ1ne:::

    ❤️❤️❤️

March 2020|| UNCENSORED.  

Hey guys,

The long-awaited March is upon us.

For some of us, January was just a trial month.  

There was so much pressure to write down new year resolutions, set realistic goals, and put up vision boards. 

By February, while some of us had barely settled in, the wave of disappointments began to hit. 

For some, the disappointments were mild and far apart, so they were able to bounce back.  

For others, the disappointments were so overwhelming that they just settled back to their old system of life. 

February was an especially rough month for me. 

I experienced my first episode of burnout this year, and on two different occasions I just couldn’t make it to work.

On a particular day, I was so overwhelmed that I was beside myself crying uncontrollably.  

Thank God I was home alone. 

Apart from the mental exhaustion, I was also physically drained. 

There were days I was so tired at the end of my workshift, that I stayed back at the hospital for some minutes, to regain my stamina before heading home.  

To add to the stress, two of my work buddies got job offers elsewhere, at the same time.

One moment we were together cracking jokes and smiling the stress away, and the next moment they were leaving.

I was devastated. 

To some, maybe it’s an exaggerated response, but these guys were my PLUG: the major reason I looked forward to going to work on most days.

The thought of not having them around anymore was rather distressing.

As if that wasn’t bad enough, the workload at the hospital where I work significantly increased, with an increase in the frequency of shifts per doctor.

Sighs. 

Plus I had a couple of personal challenges to also deal with. 

Like I didn’t see all of that coming. 

When I say I barely made it out of February alive, I’m not even kidding. 


Thankfully, when I thought I was at the end of my rope, the Holy Spirit minstered to me through this scripture:  

“Rejoice not against me, O mine enemy: when I fall, I shall arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord shall be a light unto me.”
Micah 7:8 KJV

And this has been my WEAPON in the battle against depression.

No matter how many times the enemy strikes, I won’t stop fighting back!

I hope the rest of this year will be an enjoyable experience. 

But no matter what happens, God is good and he can be TRUSTED. 

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

  ❤❤❤ 

14 Ideas For Self-love on February 14th.

Hello Fam,

Today’s post is a special edition.

Self-love is to be cultivated, whether you are single or attached to someone. 

Even if you have been married for years, it’s great to be able to allocate time to nurturing your soul, body and spirit. 

While true self-love is an every moment affair, February 14th is a day to remind us all about its importance.

If you are single, looking for love and feeling down about being without a date on valentine’s day, you may be inclined to believe that you are the most unlucky person in the world. 

So instead of thinking of how you can have a great time by yourself, you are already stuck in self-pity.

Ask yourself these questions. 

– Do I have an affection for myself? 

– Do I celebrate my small wins or am I always critical about every decision I take? 
– Am I devoted to myself?

– Do I spend enough time/money/energy to take care of myself? 

– What do I appreciate about myself? 

My skin?

My voice?

My weight?

My personality?

My talents?

Self love is about learning to fall in love with everything that makes you, you. 
Many people expect others to love them unconditionally without loving themselves first. 

To put Selflove into practice, it must be reflected in your attitude, words and actions.

Here are 14 ideas for selflove on February 14th:

1. A candle-lit dinner for one.

Complete with wine, background music, scented flowers and of course Dessert!!! 

This is an opportunity for you to get to know you. 

Learning to be comfortable in your own company helps to boost your self-confidence.

2. Karaoke.

And it doesn’t have to be in a club. 

Why not inside your bedroom? 

It doesn’t matter whether you know how to sing or dance, or not.

Create a playlist. 

Get silly. And have fun.

3. Lunch date for one.

If the idea of setting up a candle lit dinner seems rather too fancy, then go on a lunch-date or maybe a solo-picnic. 

Whatever you can afford. 

Take time to spend time with yourself. 

Hang out with your spirit, soul and body. 

Get to know your likes, your dislikes, your passions/interests, what keeps you going on tough days etc. 

4. Write a letter to yourself and list out every amazing quality you can think of. 

Many of us are way too critical about ourselves. We simply don’t know how to appreciate our efforts. 

5. Medical check up:

February 14th is an especially good day to have your body checked. 

That doctor’s office visit you’ve been postponing for the last one year, how about you make it today?

6. Mental reset:

February 14 is definitely a good day to let go of negative energy and be healed of painful memories. 

Decide today to leave that abusive relationship and cut out from an environment that is continually toxic to your mental health. 

7. Pamper your body: 

An important aspect of self-love, is self-care.

Whether it’s a pedicure, new hairdo, body massage, face scrub, or simply painting your finger nails, give your body a treat it will thank you for. 

8. Watch a fun movie. 

You don’t have to go to a cinema. 

Just set up one right in your living room or on your bed complete with a pack of buttered popcorn (or hotdogs) and drink. 

And it doesn’t have to be a romantic movie.

9. Start the day with Personal reflection. 

Personal reflection helps you to acknowledge and show gratitude for the things you have. 

It also boosts your self esteem by helping you to gain clarity and focus on the things that truly matter. 

10. Buy yourself a gift: 

Whether it’s a bouquet of scented flowers, some bars of chocolate or a customized mug, February 14 is a good day to splurge on yourself!

11. Take a morning/an evening walk.

It’s such a simple gesture that doesn’t take much from you but gives you the opportunity to observe and appreciate the scenery around you. 

12. Make an anonymous donation:

Maybe you’ve been considering this for a while. Why not do it today?

13. Check up on an old friend. 

The dividends of your self-love can also extend to others. 

Be the reason that someone gets to smile today. 

14. Find time to pray!!!

Self love is incomplete if your spiritman is not refreshed. 

Having Fellowship with God is an everyday affair and February 14th should be no exception.

Also it’s a good opportunity to show appreciation to the greatest lover of all times, who loves us all unconditionally -Jesus.

***

Which of these is your favorite? Do you have other selflove ideas for today?

Please share.

Cheers,

:::requ1ne:::

     ❤❤❤ 

Book Review|| BECOMING 

Author: Michelle Obama

Genre: Autobiography/Memoir





||How I came across the book

As the book went viral, a good friend who knows my love for books recommended it and sent me a copy. 

||Expectations

If I’m being honest, before reading this book, I didn’t pay so much attention to Michelle Obama as a person. 

||Lessons

Michelle Obama: If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice. I have tried my best to speak the truth and shed light on the stories of others who are often brushed aside.


On Owning Your Story:

Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.

– So many of us go through life with our stories hidden, feeling ashamed or afraid when our own truth doesn’t live up to some established ideal. We grow up with messages that tell us there’s only one way to be American-or anything else. That is, until someone dares to start telling that story differently.

– To make impact you must know your own voice and not be afraid to use it.

On Failure, Self-doubt and Success:

– Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It is a vulnerability that breeds self-doubt and is then escalated by fear. 

– There’s no hurrying a bus ride. You get on and either choose to endure it or enjoy it. So it is with life. 

– With every steady accomplishment the doubts about our competence ebbs away.

– The noise doesn’t go away but the most successful people in life have figured out how to live with it. 

– To succeed you must lean on those who believe in you, have faith in your story and push onward with your goals. 

– Most successful people in life know how to manage a state of constant calibration, tweaking one area of life in hopes of bringing steadiness to another.


On the difference between men and women, and navigating motherhood:

– Men are not innately smarter than women, they are simply emboldened, floating on an ancient tide of superiority buoyed by the fact that history has never told them anything different.

– There’s no real formula for motherhood. No single approach is 100% right or wrong. Knowing the balance for your unique needs is what matters.

– There are tradeoffs every working mother has to make to maintain enough energy for life at home. 

– Home is wherever we don’t feel the need to prove a point to anyone.


On Inspiration, Hope and Hardwork:

– In life there are truths we face and the ones we ignore, but ignoring the truth doesn’t change it from being true.
– It hurts to live after someone else has died. But death reminds us that there’s no time to waste time.

– The future is promising not to those who make plans, but to those who believe.

– A person who sees his opportunities as endless doesn’t waste time trying to figure out if they will ever dry up.

– Inspiration on its own is shallow; you always have to back it up with hard work.  


On Resilience, Preparation and Vulnerability:

– To make impact you must be strategic about how you apportion your time and energy. 

– When we unbury our past struggles, we help to steady others who still struggle. But when we hide our past struggles, those in a similar journey suffer in silence, pain and loneliness. 

– Sometimes the right decisions will cost us more than we bargained for. 

– We often don’t know what exactly life would throw our way – whether rain or sunshine, our responsibility is to always live prepared.

– It is possible to be more in charge of our own happiness than we have allowed ourselves to be.

– Set your own rules. Those that truly matter will stick to it. 


On Priorities, Uncertainties and Perspectives:

– The adventures that life brings our way often force us to hold on tighter to our priorities. 

– Sometimes we are too obsessed with life as it should be, that we are discontent with life as it is. 

– The uncertainty life brings our way can serve either as a fuel or as a threat. When life seems out of control, the best we can do is focus on things we can control. 

– People who understand how fortunate they have been, have an obligation not to be complacent. 

– When you put in the right effort to a cause, even if you don’t end up winning, you’ve made progress. Sometimes that’s all that matters.

– We often prematurely assume we know all there is to know about life, whereas we don’t yet know a thing.

– Sometimes no one takes responsibility for looking out for you unless you push for it.

– No matter how exhausted we feel, there are people making more sacrifices than we are.

– For most things in life, it’s a matter of perspective, how we decide to look at what is right in front of us. 


On Confidence, Criticisms and Purposeful Living: 

– Authentic confidence has to come from within. 

– Authenticity focuses more on going deep than broad.

– To make a difference you must be intentional about your dreams.

– Everything we do matters. So we must be intentional the most about the little things. The world always needs an example, maybe that example could be us. 

– If you don’t work at defining yourself people will incorrectly define you.

– No matter how enormous your responsibilities are, if you consider yourself blessed, you’ll live with gratitude. 

– At all times our focus shouldn’t just be to do the proper thing, but to do the human thing.

– There are pieces of public life that can significantly strip away part of your identity. But if you keep your focus, your public office will align with your purpose. 

– The critics will always be there. Judgemental people will always have their opinions. No matter who we try to please, there will always be those who won’t be pleased. 

– Some people want us to fail whether what we are doing is right or wrong.

– We are constantly being watched by people and regardless of what we choose, we are bound to disappoint someone.


On Leadership, Opportunities, and Perseverance:

– With a garden you never know for sure what will or won’t happen- whether anything, in fact, will grow. Sometimes all we can do is to put our faith into the effort, trusting that with the sun, rain and time, something half-decent will push up through the dirt. 

– Each time something goes awry in a garden, as in life, we must make small adjustments and focus on the bigger picture. 

– We can choose to use the power we find inside a situation we didn’t choose, to our own advantage. 

– A leader is supposed to stand out without overshadowing others, to blend in but not fade away. 

– Dominance, even the threat of it is a form of dehumanization. It’s the ugliest kind of power.

– Life teaches us to be always prepared and to sometimes imagine worst case scenarios, before we take certain decisions. 

– As life gets busier, there are many details that can’t be planned for. No matter how much planning we do, we can’t be sufficiently prepared for everything life decides to throw our way. 

– If you’re the first woman at something, your legacy should be not to be the only one. 

– Every woman should feel the ease and get the encouragement to speak and be heard. 

– As a woman, even without brute force, you can find ways to be strong. 

– Life teaches us that progress and change often happen slowly. We plant seeds of change, the fruit of which we may never see. 

– To make a long lasting impact, it’s important to connect your message to your image.

– The truth is that the future will arrive with its own surprises, some joyous, others unspeakably tragic.

– The more we understand purpose, the more emboldened we become to speak honestly and directly about our Assignment.  

– In the world we live in, we must learn to be resolute, to keep our feet pointed in the direction of progress. 


On Becoming:

– Becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim, it’s a forward motion, a means of evolving, continuously reaching toward one’s better self. The journey doesn’t end. It’s a process, many steps along a path. 

– Becoming requires equal parts of patience and rigor. Like children we must wake up each day believing in the goodness of things, in the magic of what can be.

– We need to remain both tough and hopeful, to acknowledge that there’s more growing to be done.


||Conclusion


Michelle Obama:

I am an ordinary person who found herself on an extraordinary journey. In sharing my story, I hope to help create space for other stories and other voices to be heard. For every door that’s been opened to me, I’ve tried to open mine to others. And here’s what I have to say, finally: Let’s invite one another in. Maybe we can better embrace the ways we are the same. It’s not about being perfect. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there’s grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become. 


||Observations

I found this book to be brilliant, inspiring and mind-blowing. I love the author’s unique perspective about life and thorough enjoyed how she weaved the stories from her childhood and from her tenure as the First Lady into the book.

||Recommendation

For Wives, Mothers, Daughters, Sisters, Female Executives and Every Woman in her journey to becoming. 

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20 Books To Read In 2020:

Hello fam,

20 Books To Read In 2020
Year 2020 is just a couple of weeks old and most of us still have lofty hopes and dreams for it. 

One area a lot of people fail to pay attention to is GROWTH. 

Growth does not happen by chance. Although the opportunities are numerous, the decision to grow must be intentional. 

One of the simplest ways to grow is through consistent learning – and an easy way to achieve this is by reading. 

Looking for what to read this year? In no particular order, here are my top suggestions:


1. I’ll have what she’s having – Bobbie Houston

I love this book in particular because it helped me realize that it’s only in living meaningfully for the audience of one -God, that I can truly make a difference in the lives of others.

Check out the review here

2. Becoming – Michelle Obama

This woman is GOLD!

I’m yet to read any other memoir/autobiography as interesting and compelling as hers.

And I’m definitely going to do a review on it soon. 

3. Why you act the way you do – Tim LaHaye

I read this book many years ago but I’m re-reading it this year. 

If you don’t know much about temperaments, here’s a good place to start. 



4. Crash the chatter box – Steven Furtick 

This is a humor-filled, godly but practical book on how to “shake a table” where fear has been comfortably sitting for too long.



5. Awaken the giant within – Tony Robbins.

I read this about 5 years ago and it triggered a restlessness in me. 

My life has never been the same. 


6. No Excuses – Brian Tracy 

One of my recent favorites. Excuses are just too common. 

This book will force you to see the lies that you’re allowing to hold you back from fulfilling your dreams. 



7. LEAN IN – Sheryl Sandberg

Are you a career woman looking to take bold steps in the cooperate world? Then this book will definitely be a game-changer for you. It literally reset my brain in many ways. 


8. The 4 Loves – C.S Lewis 

If you’re yet to read a book by C.S Lewis, this is a good place to start. 

This book is really good.

It will help you to understand the dynamics of the different types of relationships, their strengths, expectations and shortcomings. 


9. Fervent – Priscilla Shirer 

If there were ever a book on prayer that I think every believer should read at least once in their lifetime, it is this book. 

Your prayer life cannot remain the same afterwards. 

Check out the review here


10. Prayer deposits – Allison Hyacintho 

For courting and married couples. 

As spiritual as the title sounds, it’s a rather laid back, humor-filled yet very insightful book. 

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this with my partner, and highly recommend it.



11. Unstoppable – Christine Caine

“On your mark, get set, run!”

This is a call-to-action book and a compelling reminder that you and I didn’t come to this world to play.

Check out the review here

12. Ask It – Andy Stanley

This book basically simplifies the need for godly wisdom and no matter your current season in life, your life could use some wisdom. 

Check out the review here

13. The Smart Money Woman – Arese Ugwu

This is a good book on personal finance especially for women in this part of the world, because we are primarily conditioned to think that it’s only men that should take financial responsibility seriously.

Check out the review here 

14. Passing it on – Myles Munroe

This insightful book is a reminder that we are in transit, and whether we like it or not, our days are numbered. So we must do our best to give to the generations after us, what we already know. 

15. Crazy Busy – Kevin DeYoung 

Looking for an escape from a world that is constantly distracted? Then you need to read this book. 

Check out the review here 

16. Lioness Arising- Lisa Bevere

This is such a captivating read, and highly recommended for every daughter of God who wants to gain insight into what God can do through her. 

Check out the review here


17. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck – Mark Manson

The Author of this book didn’t mince words in addressing the entitlement mentality of our generation. Minus the abundance of the “cuss words” used, this book is highly recommended.



18. How To Achieve More With Less – Celestine Chua

A very short and precise book that I think everyone, whether young or old would benefit from. 

Check out the review here

19. The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People – Steven R. Covey

This is a book that has made a difference in my own life and I especially recommend it to anyone who wants to make a lasting difference not only in their lives but also in the lives of others. 

Check out the review here

20. Fire Brand – Debola Deji Kurunmi
I feel a slight reluctance in adding this book, because for a pretty fast reader, it took me all of 6 months to finish this book, still the book isn’t finished with me yet. 

But if one of your goals this year is to improve your intimacy with God, then FIREBRAND is definitely a book to roll with. 

Your personal walk with God cannot remain the same, that I promise you.

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Which of these books have you read?

What other books can you recommend for 2020? Please share. 

Cheers. 

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January 2020|| A Letter To 2020

Dear 2020,

I’m glad to finally meet you.

There are so many great things I’ve heard about you. 

I’ve been told of how special you are, not just because you’re brand new and full of potentials, but because you’re the beginning of a whole new decade. 

This for me is very significant. 

Just like they say, the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step: so does the journey of the next decade, it begins with YOU!

So I want to thank you in advance for all the exciting opportunities you’ll be bringing my way because I’m ready to embrace them.

I’m committed to learning, growing and serving with my strengths. 

I’m not going to hold myself back, because of the things I cannot yet do or the things that I don’t yet have. 

I’m going to focus on the possibilities around me, and what I can give rather than what I can get.

2020, I make a promise to you that I’ll be a better friend, lover, sister, daughter, medical practitioner, blogger, writer and any other role that will define me. So help me God. 

I know that you are my year of good things, and you are so full of glad tidings from home and abroad. So I can’t wait to do life with you, 2020.

Cheers to the beginning of a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship.

Your new best friend,

Hello, 2020❤️

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