Book Review|| I’ll have what she’s having. 



Author: Bobbie Houston

Genre: Christian, Non-fiction 

How I came across the book:

One of the several books in my e-library that I acquired in an online christian group (The Fabulous Sisters Academy) about two years ago.

Expectations:

I was quite intrigued by the title, I didn’t know whether to consider it in a positive or negative light. 

Lessons and Reflections:

1. On making a difference:

Whatever your story is, it has the capacity to make a difference in this world. 

Even negative parts of our stories, once dealt with and overcome, become powerful tools that can bring inspiration, healing, deliverance and restoration to others.

Three things that matter the most- keeping your heart simple, keeping your desires simple and keeping your relationships simple.

Believers are not called to pretend to have good lives, we should be genuinely joyful and excited about what God is doing in us and through us at all times.
God passionately wants us to run well so that our success stories can inspire others to run too. 

2. On Leadership and Stewardship:

Leadership is a responsibility marked with integrity and stewardship. 

When we live as godly examples in our speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, others are inspired to lead godly lives as well. 
Transparency from a place of victory is a powerful tool.

A good leader recognizes that leadership carries a price tag, and that as a leader the margin for error is reduced. 

The mark of leadership is the fact that your life is not your own and you have to “get it right” for the sake of those watching. It is about bringing security to the people you lead.

3. On Overcoming the Feelings of Inadequacy:

Truth is we all feel inadequate at one point or the other. Inadequacy is not a major headache to God; but remaining inadequate is. We will remain inadequate until we choose to grow.

Biblical heroes were human like us. They faced fear, insecurity, inferiority and feelings of inadequacy. We are also making history today, just like they did in their time. 

God is a NOTHING expert. He specializes in making a somebody out of a nobody. With him our “not enough” can become “more than enough.” You will no longer feel inadequate when the word of God is rich within you

When we say we can’t, we are indirectly saying God can’t and that is blasphemy. With God all things are possible. If he says we can, then we can.

A believer must aggressively confront the spirit of containment because we are called to enlarge and expand not to conform to the limitations of our environment.

4. On Church Attendance and Active Participation:

For the church to work, each member must be a contributor and not just a consumer.

No matter how little we have to contribute God blesses us by increasing our capacity.

Weak Christians always look for excuses to avoid church.

Accountability, stewardship, commitment and maturity are some benefits of belonging to a local church.

The gospel message may be free but taking the gospel to a lost world takes a lot of hard work and finance. 

5. On Personal Discipline, Growth and Gratitude:

Many people want the reward of progress without the process. Anyone who aims to be successful must embrace discipline. Undisciplined soldiers perish, undisciplined athletes lose and undisciplined farmers miss the harvest.

If you can’t afford to invest in personal growth, then you can afford to be a miserable failure. 

Knowing the truth is not enough, applying the truth is what sets you free. 

Secular movies/music may or may not harm you but they certainly do not nourish your soul. The furnace is a refining fire, that gets rid of the nonsense, garbage, dross, and baggage that prevent Christians from reaching their fullest potentials. 

Until you carry out the last instruction, God does not give out a new one. We are only given more when we apply that which we already have. 

Love what you do and be faithful because faithful hearts are always rewarded. 

God wants you to be comfortable with who you’re but he also wants you to excel in life. Every christian’s growth and experience, should be continual, always moving onward and upward.

Be a thankful person. The blessings in your life are privileges, not rights. For you to count your blessings, you need to recognize them.

6. On Satan’s Tactics and Spiritual Warfare:

To have the mountain top experience we must learn to navigate the valleys of life. Without a doubt, God knows every bend and curve in our journey, and gives us the grace to handle every circumstance.

The enemy is an expert at magnifying unimportant things and making important things lose focus. And when we lose sight of the big picture we get frustrated by the nitty gritty of life. 

No matter how overwhelming life seems, with wisdom, discipline and careful planning, we can negotiate challenges so they do not become enemies. 

When attacks come from every side, it’s a sure sign that you’re doing something right. Our adversary is ruthless. He does not care where or who he hits as long as someone is hurt. Satan fights like a terrorist aiming for the weak and innocent. 

The storms of life come and go, but major damage can be done if things are not firmly secured. If we find ourselves undone, it means we were not as rooted and grounded as we thought we were. 

Always smile in the storm and you’ll make the enemy crazy every time. Joyful Christians are pretty irritating to the adversary. 

It is a choice to remain hurt and wounded. Strong leaders rise up and keep going no matter the setbacks they’ve experienced in life.

Our strength is not dependent upon perfect circumstances or conditions. A love for God and his purpose gives you the strength to stand firm against all odds.

7. On Convictions, Resolve and Trusting God:

To walk in purpose we must learn to trust God with the time frames of our lives and never forget that he is God and we are not. Patience is the ability to stand strong on God’s promises when it seems slow in coming.

Conviction on a background of faith in God enables us to endure conditions we would otherwise have run from. It’s not enough to have a conviction you must have the skill, determination and resolve to maintain it.

Resolve is an amazing quality. It has you seeking the necessary tools and skills so you can secure your destiny. 

A woman of resolve is a no-matter-what kind of woman. She is a woman on assignment and will never settle for half of a testimony. However, she understands the fine balance of desiring things, having things and knowing when to be content.

A purposeful single woman doesn’t have the time to sit around and wish she were married. She is too busy having a brilliant life. 

Single, married, divorced or widowed is not a status that affects your destiny. Destiny is about being in the right place, at the right time and with the right people.

8. The Mandate for believers:

The Holy Spirit conveys God’s mind to us per time so we can fulfill his purpose here on earth.

Each of us as God’s children have roles to play in bringing God’s kingdom to dominate here on earth. Divided we fall but united we stand.

Resist the temptation to do life alone. God is more concerned about the body, his church, than any individual person. No man’s plan is more important than the master plan.

It is up to us as God’s children to color the world with the goodness of God. God wants us to turn up our volumes so that our stories may resound, loud and clear through the earth.

Let Jesus Christ consume you, let him be your life. Let him shine forth. May all who observe your sweet life say, “I want to know this person who brings light and love, laughter and depth to this lady, I’ll have what she has!”

Observations:

I loved this book and enjoyed reading it. Every chapter ministered to me. I like the author’s colorful approach to life. Even her words of rebuke were rather encouraging. 

Conclusion: 

It’s amazing how much God is interested in investing in me as a woman; I’m really glad I was able to read this book as a young woman who is yet to navigate the complexities of a career, with marriage and motherhood. 

Recommendations:

To every woman who knows she has been given a specific assignment by God, and needs encouragement and strength to continue on her journey, so that she can inspire other women as well.

PPS: Would you like to have a copy of this book (PDF version)? Then send an email to lolade1512@gmail.com

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Housejob Chronicles: Memoirs of an Ex-HouseOfficer! (2)

Please read the previous part here
 

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 1. Can we meet you?

 

I’m Dr Sarah Ifeoluwa Oloruntoba, a graduate of Bowen University  (2017)

 

2. Favorite posting, and why?:

O&G

I enjoyed the morning reviews and working with my senior colleagues. 

They made things so easy despite the fact that I was in a stressful unit as the only House Officer. 

I also had enough time to do other things I wanted to do (like blogging, cooking healthy meals etc)

 

3. Least favorite posting, and why?:

Surgery

 Surgery posting was extremely stressful. 

I didn’t even have the time to go to church and I spent almost everyday  in the hospital. I also didn’t like the fact that I couldn’t really plan my day without any interruption.
4. Best call(s) ever:

The calls I prayed about, telling God the specific number of patients I wanted to see and got my request.

 

5. Worst call ever:

One Gynae emergency call. That night was really eventful.

I was so scared but my chief Dr Sule, was calm and brave all through. 

One lesson I learnt from that call is how to be calm yet brave enough to face my fears and handle situations to the best of my ability while awaiting help. 

 

6. Nicest Chief(s) I worked with:

 Most of my chiefs were actually nice.

However there are some that I will not forget too quickly:

  • O and G posting: Dr Awolumate and Dr Akinro
  • Paediatrics posting: Dr Owa
  • Internal medicine posting: Dr Palma
  • Surgery posting: Dr Aduloju, Dr Ibrahim and Dr Ogoji 

 

7. Most admirable consultant:

Dr Temitope ODI (Consultant Paediatric Surgeon). 

Though I didn’t really know (or work with) him, but the inspirational speech he gave at our sendforth dinner told me a lot about him. An Empathetic Christian doctor who isn’t just out to make money but to make a difference. 

 

8. Most likely specialty, and why?:

Geriatrics. 

I just have this love for elderly people and I feel the way our health system is currently designed doesn’t really suit them 

i.e. the Nigerian healthcare system is NOT old-people friendly. 

Like Children, they have special needs and peculiarities that should be properly addressed. 

Many of these elderly men and women gave their youthful years in one form of service or the other to the nation, therefore they should benefit from good health care.

 

9. Most unlikely specialty, and why not?:

 

Surgery. 😱😱😱

That posting was too stressful.  Abeg!

And their wahala as a department was just too much (a department of numerous rules and regulations !)

I do love the practical aspect of surgery, but the unfair treatment I saw our senior colleagues (residents) go through was not funny.  I can’t live my life like that jare

 

10. Three life lessons from housejob:

 

i. Be brave enough to face your fears. 

ii. There is a thin line between life and death and as a doctor you may be the one with the pencil that will draw that line or the eraser that will clean it off. 

iii. Build Relationships, nurture them and cherish them.

11. Most embarrassing moment:

I honestly can’t remember any.

 

12. What are you thankful about:

 – God’s faithfulness in bringing to pass the things he said.

– All the people I met, especially all my teachers and colleagues.

– I am specially thankful for the new friends I have now. I didn’t really have a lot of friends before HouseJob but God gave me friends who are now my sisters. Hallelujah!

The 3 Musketeers❤️


 

13. Longest day ever:

Day ke? Dayssss… My entire SCBU posting!

 

14. Happiest day ever:

The day I saw my Primaries* result.

 

15. Something to miss:

  • The chiefs who were like older siblings to me. Those ones I could have a conversation with conveniently anytime.
  • My darling friends.
  • Weekend trips to Mount Patti (Fitfam Adventure☺️)

16. Rate your housejob experience on a scale of 1-5:

4/5 

 

17. Call food: Yay or Nay? 

Indifferent 

 

18. New skills learnt: 

Quite a number. 

 

19. Unforgettable patient

One patient in general surgery who had surgeries up to 3 times, due to complicated perforated typhoid Ileus, I think… Well, she is alive doing well!

There was another woman in Gynae ward who had a cancer. She is now late though.

20. Any regrets? 
None that I can think of.

 

21. Favorite mantra:

This too shall pass.

 
22. Shout out to 3 friends you made during house job: 

(Hian…3 is too small ooo!)

 

Debby– She opened her room to me for the entire period. It means so much to me and I just can’t thank her enough. 

She chose to be my friend and treated me like her sister. I love all the lovely moments we shared together gisting, going out etc

She taught me how to take care of my natural hair, and tried her best to bring me out of my shell 😉

Debby, God bless you dear🤗

Deby and I.

 

Eunice– She encouraged me to start my blog the first time I had a conversation with her. 

She is also motherly, caring, and a no-nonsense person. 😬


Ifeoluwa Yes, me! 😂 For sticking with me throughout the one year despite all my plenty wahala. For being bold and courageous to take new steps to an amazing new me. 


Baby girl, you’re the best!😘😍❤️
 
23. What next after housejob?

 

NYSC, then others as the Lord leads.

 

24. If not Medicine, then what? 
 

Farming, Catering/Baking. (Yes, I’m a foodie😅)

25. What’s more important for a House Officer, skill or stuff? 

Both. 

Stuff without skill is useless because the stuff will not transform to an intervention all by itself without appropriate application.

And skill without stuff makes one look like a gambler just trying something just to see if it will work or not, and if it does work, applying it to everyone that comes forgetting that patient care should be individualized. 

26. Thank you for sharing your Housejob experience.

Thanks for giving me the opportunity 😀. 

*Primaries: An exam written to enter into the residency program. 
 

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Editor’s Note:

Dr Sarah (a.k.a Sarah Baby 😍), is my warm and wise friend-turned-sister, a chef of life and destiny (she can cook for Africa😂), budding blogger and a fellow believer in Christ. 

One of the most inspiring people I met during housejob. I really believe our meeting was not ordinary, God had a hand in it. 

Beneath her calm exterior is a depth with several stories of her journey with God, and an emphasis on his faithfulness and constant love. 

A foodie, lover of God and natural hair enthusiast, she doesn’t just preach her faith, she lives by it. 

Dr. Sarah blogs here.

Thank you for reading!

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The Girl’s Guide||Hey, What’s in your handbag?

Hello again, 

This year, I’m introducing a new segment on the blog with the caption: 

The Girl’s Guide. 

The segment will be all about the girl (boss-lady, wife, mom…whatever role/title she chooses): her styles, her tastes and her preferences

It will cut across her wardrobe, her work-desk, her kitchen and her home in general. 

In a nutshell, I will be reviewing beauty care products, wardrobe essentials, toiletries and a few household products, that I’m familiar with. 

I will also tell you why I think a particular brand is great or not so great and maybe feature a couple of DIY tips too.

Lastly, the segment will serve as an open forum for suggestions and discussion threads that will range from beauty care products to house cleaning agents.   

Sounds pretty interesting, huh?

Please stay tuned. 

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For today’s post, I want us to explore the regular contents of a lady’s handbag (featuring yours truly) and why I think each item is important.

Enjoy!
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a. Handkerchief: 

I think every lady’s handbag should have a handkerchief at all times. 

It’s useful for wiping a sweaty face, stuffy nose, or wet hands. 

I use the white 100% pure cotton handkerchief cos it’s my mum’s preference, it’s easy to use, shows when dirty, can easily be washed, and dries quickly. 

You can purchase a piece for N100 from roadside vendors. But it’s more cost effective to buy in bulk (a dozen pack) from retail stores. 

The only downside to the white 100% pure handkerchief, is that the color fades easily, and the fabric wears out quickly, so you need to change it every couple of months. 

I hardly use colored handkerchiefs although I have nothing against them. 

b. Wipes:

I love to have baby wipes in my bag, especially while going on an outing on a sunny day. 

They have a nice, soft and baby friendly scent, that I find quite appealing to my maternal senses😂…

Their moist texture is a plus when trying to remove stains and smudges whether from your face or an object. I love this particular brand, Pampersbecause of its plastic seal, which keeps in the moisture. 

Other brands I’ve tried are fairly cheaper but have no plastic seal, so the moisture dries up easily.

c. Tissue

A pack of tissue is also a must have in every lady’s handbag or carry on purse, for its multipurpose use.

It serves as serviette when I’m dining outside the home (eg at work), serves as toilet paper when I have to use a public restroom and as a napkin to wipe off a dusty chair before sitting.

The Rose Carla tissue is my go to brand. I love it because it’s small, well packaged and has no scent. Some hand tissues are scented and for some reason, that puts me off.

These tissues are quite cheap, a pack of 8 is less than N500.

d. Wallet or Purse.

This is where I keep money and other important little things like my identity card, and my mom’s business card (incase I go missing…lol).

I love my current brown pseudo leather  purse because of its several compartments. I can’t even recall where I bought it from or whether it was a gift. 

The downside though, is that I sometimes forget where exactly I put something important and I have to take some precious moments to empty the entire purse. 

e. Mobile Phone (with/without an earpiece).

Ofcourse there’s hardly any outing, whether casual or official that doesn’t require that I use my phone. 

Apart from hosting my social media handles, my phone also serves as an accurate time-keeper, calendar, calculator, personal accountant (bank mobile app), fitfam instructor (Samsung Health app), menstrual period tracker (Flo app), and an e-library, among other things. 

The android phone is a lifesaver for the 21st century lady!

The only downside to my current phone, a Samsung S5, is that the front camera (especially) doesn’t do much justice to my fine face, hence my “selfie” game is so NOT on point!

I occasionally carry an earpiece with me, especially if I’m on a long distance journey. 

Ditto power-bank and cord.

f. Chewing gum

Having a pack of gum in my handbag is also something I see as a necessity. 

#ChewingGumGang
 
Among other things, chewing gum minimizes mouth odor, helps me to stay awake and reduces indigestion after a heavy or spicy meal. I’m quite addicted to buying them especially while traveling or working an overnight shift.  

My favorite brand is ORBIT which comes in different flavors and has a half-life of about 12 hours (I kid you not!). Although I think it’s a little too pricey, a pack costs about N350. 

The Clorets brand has a non sweetened minty after-taste which I’m not really a fan of, but is relatively cheaper. 

g. Pen/Notepad



I like to carry a pen/notepad, so that I can jot down new ideas since I don’t always like to use my phone. I take a book with me as well, especially when I’m going on a long trip.

h. Body spray 

If you live in this part of the world, where the average temperature around this time of the year is about 35-38c, then having a carry on body spray is a must.

And I love this particular product Enchanteur because it gives off such a gentle, sweet and girly scent. And it’s not too expensive either (costs less than N1000). 

i. Lotion 

This is a necessity if your skin type loses moisture and cracks easily. My hands and feet, can be embarrassingly dry even after doing a decent job on them at home. 

Hand lotion to the rescue!

My mum got this product Hendel’s Garden Goji cream for me last year.  

It is a pretty good moisturizer  but I don’t care much for its “herbal mixture” smell. 

I’d rather use a product with a milder and girly scent.

j. Sanitizer

It’s also important to have an alcohol based hand sanitizer in your bag as a lady, since you don’t know whose hands you’ll be shaking and all the places those hands have been to..(No, you don’t want to picture that!😱)

This brand Radox isn’t exactly my type though, because if it’s strong chemical smell. Again, I’d have preferred a more feminine scent. 

k. Diclofenac 

So I have this in my bag on days when I have menstrual cramps and I kid you not, it’s my lifeline.

Of course, NSAIDs are not recommended if you have peptic ulcer or other related conditions, which thankfully, I don’t have. 


l. Water bottle

Everyone needs a water bottle. 

Male or Female. Old or Young. White or Black. 

Thanks to my water bottle, I stay vibrant, all day, every day.

There is no excuse not to drink water.

Using a water bottle to store your own water, is not only cost effective, it’s also hygienic and super healthy.

More water means less soda.

Less soda means less sugar. 

Remember, a hydrated body is a happy body!

Stay happy, Drink water.

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I hope you enjoyed this post. 

Please tell, What’s in your bag?

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5 THINGS TO DO IN 2019

Hey Fam,


I’m really excited to welcome you all into the new year. 

2018 was a challenging yet very beautiful year for me, in retrospect. 

This new year is going to be pretty significant too, there will be battles to fight and win, mountains to approach and climb, and rivers to navigate and cross. 

There are bad habits to conquer and healthy mindsets to adopt. 

There are decade-old problems that we will crack and solve, as floods of ideas come rushing in.

There are people to reach and needs to be met. Broken relationships to mend and restore.

Oh, Change is definitely here in 2019. And it has come to stay.

Hallelujah!💃💃💃

One thing I’m sure of is that our victory is certain (I can almost taste and smell it…haha)

As each phase of this year’s journey unfolds, here are 5 vital things to focus on:

1. Trust God:

If you really worried about something last year, raise your hands like this☝☝

Come on, don’t be shy.


Don’t worry I’m on this particular table as well…lol😂😂 

Now be honest, did worrying help that situation? 

I guessed as much.

Why then do we worry, when we can pray?

Like seriously “who worry epp?”


This year, we refuse to worry over any situation we can’t handle, whether big or small. 

Instead, we trust God to take care of the outcome in his own way and at his own timing.

And where he leads, we follow. What he says, we do.

In 2019, we don’t worry, we PRAY. 

We don’t hustle, we TRUST. 



2. Set Goals:

It’s another 365 days cycle. How will you make your life count?

Do you have a vision board?

Read this: How to make a vision board that actually works

More than the usual new year resolutions, what are the core areas of your life that need an upgrade?

Why bother with goals? 

Plan carefully what you do, and whatever you do will turn out right. Proverbs 4:26 GNB

Remember for your goals to reach their full potential, they must be:

S. M. A. R. T

S- Specific

M- Measurable

A- Attainable

R- Realistic

T- Time-bound

Without the concomitant commitment and discipline to follow through, a goal is just a mere desire.

3. Work hard:

There is no legal short cut to success, hardwork is the only way.

For you to get to the place of your breakthrough, you have to work hard. 

Decide that in 2019;

No more excuses. No more laziness. No more distractions. 

So switch off your tv 🖥 and study 📚 for that exam. 

Get up from your bed 🛌 and find a place to pray 🙏🏾 . ( Yeah, prayer is hardwork🙄)

Read that book 📖.

Register for that course 💻.

Start that business 🗓.

Complete✅ that project. 🎉 

Stop 🚫 procrastinating your own success🍾

The best time to live is NOW!

However, it is not enough to work hard, make sure you also learn how to work smart. 

Read this: Working HARD vs Working SMART

4. Give thanks:

It’s natural to whine and murmur when circumstances seem to get out of hand, but we must remember that nothing is out of God’s control.

No matter what comes your way this year, choose gratitude.

Gratitude is a choice.

Rather than complain about the things that don’t seem to work, give thanks for the things that are working.

“The best way to give thanks is to live right.”

5. Take stock.

2019 is a year of ACCOUNTABILITY. 

THE ACCOUNTABILITY MINDSET

It is a year to take stock of the gifts and resources we’ve been endowed with.

2019 is a year to take stock of the relationships and influences (including social media) in our lives. 

This year, there is no time to waste time. Can I get an AMEN?

We must maximize all God has invested in us. 

I pray that this year, we’ll let go of the strategies that don’t work as we receive God’s grace and wisdom for the journey ahead. 

Cheers to the New Year!

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PS:

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A copy goes for just N2000*. 

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