DAY 19: FRIENDS, FUN & FELLOWSHIP.

Welcome back.

My FRIENDS forever…

I have met a number of people who say things to suggest that friends and friendships are simply…overrated.

They claim they don’t have friends and don’t need them anyway.
They tend to make several excuses to prove those points. They usually keep busy by focusing on themselves, their families, career, ministry, or one social cause or the other.
I’m talking about those who have been afflicted one way or the other by “supposed” friends. I know that is such a sad experience to have and it often prevents future friendships from budding.

In two of my previous posts, Friends, Friendships & Friendliness (2015) and TRUE FRIENDS MAKE A DIFFERENCE (2016), I think I have made a good case for the importance of having (the right kind of) friends.
I’m happy to say that I still hold on to those beliefs, and I’m yet to have an experience with a friend that has left a sore taste in my mouth (not that I want to).

Today, I’m thankful for the beautiful friends God has blessed me with.

The truth is that I’m not really good at making friends.
Let’s just say I’m a bit awkward in social gatherings. But the few friends that I’ve had and that stayed, are as beautiful as they make them.

My med school days are some of the best highlights of the friendships I’ve had. And I miss that.
Everything from get-togethers to sleep overs, to casual hangouts and being treated to restaurants or with take outs (the jolly days of Chinese and Subway 😰, thankfully our Naija also has KFC franchises all over the country), or just staying home to watch movies or play games or talk about life…which is my most favorite thing to do.😉

I have had friends who made my hair at no cost, took me shopping for groceries or paid for my fares out of their benevolence, when I was wanting financially.

I even had a friend who would make me meals and bring it over when I had nothing to eat; the same friend once babysat me all through the night when I was sick and did all the running around because I had to travel to another island for a VISA biometric capturing, the next day. What a huge relief it was for me.

Towards the end of my stay in SVG, I left the apartment I was living in. Two lovely ladies took me into theirs, housed and fed me for a couple of days. I’m not exaggerating when I say they literally doted on me throughout my stay. It was like being waited upon in a 5-star hotel, with room service. I had such a cozy experience.

From there I moved into another friend’s apartment and stayed with her until I eventually left the island. She also went the extra mile to take good care of me. I have been so blessed with such friends and I will always remember them for good.
I’m especially thankful for friends of the same faith. There’s nothing as wonderful as having sweet fellowship with your christian friends.

I belong to a Small Bible Study Group, made up of a few friends and it’s one of the best experiences I’ve had in my christian walk. It’s such a privilege to study God’s word and discover some deep truths together. More so we hold each other accountable based on what we learn and our lives have been imparted remarkably.

Since returning to Nigeria, my friends have rallied around as much as time, distance and our schedules permit.
Shoutout to,

-My sweetheart, Funbex (who with her husband), hosted me in her lovely home (not minding our marital status difference 😄),

-My wonderful Wanimi, who went out of her way to help my family give me a befitting (surprise) welcome home party,

-My amiable Walopxy, one of my faithful girlfriends who has stayed all these years, checking on my wellbeing every now and then, because she’s caring like that. May the flames of our friendship burn for many years to come!

Drs. Bunmi and Ify, who made my experience at LUTH worthwhile in every way. 

Derayo, our paths have divinely  crossed again. Lord B, it’s a blessing to finally meet you. 

And to, Ibksinging, Wiseguy, and Tdeemc, the gentlemen who on separate occasions, treated me to the Lagos hospitality. 

Of course, Uncle B (my friend from jand😅) who paid me a visit in IB. 

And to the others (Ayoigbala, Barrysome, Dr. DJ, Niyot) who have kept in touch, even though we’ve not visited…I appreciate you in every way. 

For my friends in the Diaspora, Asholly, Ede et al, thank you for checking on me PRN. 😘

Thanks to you all for the all kindness you have shown to me.

What joy it is to have friends walking in purpose and committed to serving God all the days of their lives. That has been my TESTIMONY.

Let me just share a few nuggets with you from my little wealth of experience (I’m by no means a scholastic authority on this subject):

1. Friendship is NOT always about you.
Yes, we must never forget that. Sometimes we are too carried away by our own needs that we are often blind to the needs of others. Sadly, I’ve found myself making this particular mistake more times than I’d like to admit.
It is true that there are benefits to every friendship but if you make the friendship about you ALL the time, you’ll lose out eventually.
It’s not always about what you like, what you want, what you need…it’s about them too.
Selfishness is something that rips friendships apart more than distance or time. One good way to nip it in the bud is to pray for your friends and then check on them, especially when you feel they are acting detached because you don’t know what’s really going on behind the scenes.
It’s cheap emotional blackmail to whine and complain all the time that your friends don’t keep in touch, when you never bother to text, call or visit them either.
There was a time I accused a friend of forgetting to call me on my birthday, and guess what? The said friend had actually been on admission in a hospital. How selfish of me.
If you however have a friend that is only around when they are in need and soon disappears after, please run! run!! run!!!

2. Your FRIENDS are different from you, don’t try to change them.
I’m a chronic phlegmatic, cool as cucumber, hardly ruffled on the outside but acutely sensitive to the atmosphere around me.
Bottomline: I’m an INTROVERT with bold letters.
My point is, I’m wired differently from my next door neighbor, Sally Jones who seems all over the place, the typical extrovert, blasting music from dawn to dusk, laughing hysterically at anything and everything that seems funny, and lives for the FUN of it.
And that’s okay.
A good attempt at self discovery, will help you appreciate the intricate yet complementary differences seen in others.
I love to watch others have fun even when I’m not participating (or particularly enjoying it) and when it’s time to have my own kind of fun (books, animations, writing), which is boring to most of my friends anyway, I simply excuse myself.
It’s NOT okay for your friends to be anything but themselves when they are around you.
Now when it comes to values and principles that you live by (like integrity, honesty, diligence, discipline), ensure your friends have similar values.
If they don’t help to build you, please leave them.

3. When it HURTS, it’s alright to say so.
Here is one we often take for granted. Like any two smooth surfaces in motion experience friction, friends will occasionally rub off each other in ways that unintentionally hurt. The mistake we make is to keep such hurts inside until our hearts get scarred and the next best option is for us to drift apart.
Only God knows how many friends destined for greatness have been cut asunder by the seeds of bitterness.
I’m not suggesting that you go on nagging about every petty thing your friend does wrong, but you can learn how to communicate effectively when you’re not pleased about a situation.
Granted it might sting your friend at first (most friends assume they give their best), but a good friend will appreciate the feedback and you both can confront the issue and adjust accordingly .
By God’s grace, as I keep learning and becoming wiser, although I’m a long way from becoming the kind of friend I want (need) to be, I’ve certainly grown and my friendships have blossomed and gotten richer over the years.

Also remember that there are several categories of friends, old friends, new friends, special friends, casual friends, close friends, distant friends…no one size fits all.

Every friend is there for a reason and will be needed at one season of your life or the other; as the saying goes,

“A friend in need, is a friend indeed.”


Here are some biblical verses about friendships:

Proverbs 13:20

“Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” (MSG)


Proverbs 18:24 “Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” (MSG)


Proverbs 22:24-25


“Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious-don’t get infected. (MSG)


Proverbs 27:10b

“Better a nearby friend than a distant family.” (MSG)

Proverbs 27:17
“You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another.” (MSG)


Ecclesiastes 4:12a
“By yourself you are unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst.” ( MSG)

To my many lovely friends, I say thank you for the beautiful experiences I’ve had. I do not take the bond between us for granted.

Cheers!
So what are you thankful for today?

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Spanish Phrase for the day:

Nostros bebemos leche – We drink milk.

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DAY 21: TFSA!!!

Welcome back!

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Have you ever been in a season of life when everything about you seems slow and routine, while other people around you seem to be doing exploits for God’s kingdom and kicking the devil’s butt?
That was me, a couple of months back. I was fresh out of medical school and had much free time on my hands with a million ideas and no particular direction.
I felt such a great need that I started pouring out my heart to God in the place of prayer. I had started following Coach E’s blog some months before. Around August of last year, she announced applications for the first TFSA (The FAB Sistership Academy) and I was more than excited…finally, my prayer had been answered!
But, after I got a message that I was qualified…I still wasn’t added to the group for some technical reasons. My, I was disappointed…raved and ranted for a few days, but eventually calmed down. I told God that if I didn’t need to be part of that group (right then or in future), then no problem. He (GOD) gives me all I need.
Fast forward to November, I think. The second TFSA announcement came up and I reapplied and got in. It was about the best 5 weeks of last year for me. The lessons were EXPLOSIVE, ENLIGHTENING & EMPOWERING!

BE INTENTIONAL!
GOD’S INSTRUCTIONS ARE NOT IDEAS!
TO GO DEEPER, YOU NEED TO GET CLOSER!

Unfortunately I can’t download all those life lessons here but they have been FUNDAMENTAL to my growth spiritual and mental growth, for life.

Eziaha.com
Coach E was so open and raw…and the ladies in the group were such a blessing (despite the age, career-line, and marital status differences).

Today I’m thankful for TFSA and the opportunity to be a part of it.


I’m thankful for coach E, and how God keeps using her to touch lives remarkably.
I’m also thankful for all my TFSA sisters and the sweet bond between us. I’m yet to meet any of them in real life, but they are like the most amazing set of Christian ladies I’ve come across (no time for petty jealousies, gossips or malice), each of us still diligently running the race God has called us to.
Even after the Academy was officially over, the group still remained, and has been so much of a blessing to me since the year began. From sharing DDK’s Reflection and Planning Journal, to over a dozen christian/motivational books (Lisa Bevere, Joyce Meyer, Max Lucado e.t.c) for free, sermons, event invites and a LIVE video conference (by Student finance coach, Eby)
TFSA was also where I met my special person, Dr. T of Tamie’s Alcove, we have so much in common, that you’d think we are like sisters separated by distance.

It’s no COINCIDENCE I tell you, it was divinely orchestrated.
What are you thankful for today?
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Spanish phrase for the day:
Tengo un perro: I have a dog
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DAY 24- THE SIBLING TAG

Welcome back!


So today I’m thankful for my siblings.



Often, when I remember what growing up was like… I just smile. The playing, acting, eating, singing, sometimes arguing or even fighting together.




Now that we are all grown and mature, let’s just say things are not as they used to be, still we try to have fun as much as our schedules, time and distance permit.


BROTHER TAG @OSESE




1. He (26 moons and 6 dawns)

2. A lot of things…he is jovial, nice, musical, allows me to eat from his plate (even when he is frowning), teaches me a lot of handy stuff around the house, chauffeurs me around town, dashes me money (what more can a little sister ask for 😄) etc

3. He says we look alike…😂😂 [I can’t think of anything else]

4. Random stuff…gisting, hanging out, throwback songs, kid games like Name, Animal, Place or Things (my favorite😅)

5. BC, Egbonsky, Goldenbrother, Smat, Nirankeyz…

6. He doesn’t joke with FOOD, like seriously, dude can like to eat…maybe it’s just a guy thing sha.

7. Plenty memories…primary school days, traveling in the car backseat and singing our lungs out, that late night trip to former Wonderland (Abuja) 


SISTER TAG @OSEBI




1. I (57 moons and 6 dawns)

2. Brainy, Black & Beautiful, mouthed, our family tailor (sorry, fashion designer ☺️), allows me to use her makeup and wear her clothes whenever I like…😉

3. My look-alike in shape, size, height, face (minus the glasses), lots of similarities in thinking (Women rights and feminism topics), life goals (family, career, vacations), creative writing, event planning etc

4. Same as OSESE

5. P, Princo, Cindy

6. She can sleep for Africa…no controversy (sorry babe, couldn’t help it😘)

7. Play acting as little girls, late night convos as adults

Again, I’m thankful for my siblings…their support in times of distress is of immense value. Family is not a right but a privilege…and I do not take mine for granted.

SIBLINGS

Love you bro and sis❤️❤️❤️
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What are you thankful for today?

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Spanish phrase for the day:


Me gusta cocinar- I like to cook

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DAY 26: Papá y Mamá

Welcome back!!!

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I’ve returned as promised. I hope I can finish working on all the skipped posts, before the month is over. So help me God.
This year makes my parents marriage…a whooping 30 years!!! 

A whole 3 DECADES…Glory!

That day in history!
 

Although the D-day is still a couple of months away, it’s not too early to give God thanks for his unending mercies over them.


-30 years of togetherness in good and bad times
-30 years of commitment and selfless dedication
-30 years of building a home and nurturing a family

Today, I’m thankful for my parents. It’s a privilege to be a product of their loins. There’s so much I’m grateful for:

The solid upbringing
Thank you for the gift of koboko*(a.k.a bla-la), following the biblical principle of not sparing the rod at the expense of the child (Proverbs 13:24), evidently this particular child didn’t spoil…lol. And there was plenty of pampering alongside the discipline too. All in all, kudos to you guys!

The unprejudiced investment in my education
Thank you for believing in training the girl-child as well as the boy-child. I appreciate all your toils over the past two decades in helping me achieve this level education. Thanks for the many times you had to go without, to ensure I had everything I needed to succeed. I’m forever grateful.

The spiritual instructions
For you, Jesus is the first, the last and all that is in between. I’m particularly thankful to you for the support you’ve always given me to serve in God’s vineyard…from secondary school days uptil medical school, your encouragement did not waiver, for you serving Jesus is always the right thing to do.



Easy going daddy, always excited about my success

Shebi we look alike?🤓

Thank you for believing in me everytime

Ever caring mummy, going the extra mile to see me happy
Yes ke, we did combo sef..lol😉
Abiyamo tooto, e ma jeun omo pe.
Happy PEARL Anniversary, Papá y Mamá
3 decades STRONG!

Cheers to many more years in sound health, peace and fruitfulness!
Amen.

I celebrate you.
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Spanish phrase for the day: LO SIENTO- I’m sorry!

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ALLELUIA APRIL!!!

I’m so glad to be back and I know APRIL is halfway gone, but I’ll do my customary new month post anyway…I hope it’s been an adventurous ride for y’all.
I’m so glad to have crossed into the second quarter of the year. God in his faithfulness brought me through:

a Judicious January

a Fervent February

a Melodious March…

And now it’s an Alleluia April 💃💃💃


So Let somebody shout Alleluia!

Alleluia (also spelt Hallelujah) means “Praise Ye Jehovah”
The word PRAISE is synonymous with words like bless, celebrate, compliment, exalt, glorify, hail, hallow, honor, reverence, and worship among others.

And that’s what April is about. For the many victories in the past three months…my heart desire is for God’s praises to rise from the inside of me

An insight into what the month looks like for me:

❤️WORSHIP:

I rejoice in him (SINACH)

❤️WORD:

Jeremiah 17:7-8


❤️ WHAT I’M READING (plus a few lessons):

1. The book of John


So Jesus’ brothers said to him, “Leave this place and go to Judea, so that your followers will see the things that you are doing. No one hides what he is doing if he wants to be well known. Since you are doing these things, let the whole world know about you!” (Not even his brothers believed in him.) Jesus said to them, “The right time for me has not yet come. Any time is right for you. The world cannot hate you, but it hates me, because I keep telling it that its ways are bad.
John 7:3-7 GNB

2. Unstoppable (Christine Caine)

In the divine relay, every believer is called to run, and the only spectators are those already in heaven’s grand stand.

3. Innovation and Entrepreneurship (Peter F. Drucker)

It is not enough for a need to be felt, it also must be understood. Without understanding a problem, we may never be able to find a lasting solution.


4. Lioness Arising (Lisa Bevere)

A lioness knows her beauty is revealed in her strength. It is captured in what her body can actually do, not merely how it looks. Her attractiveness is undeniable because her power is unquestionable.


5. Passing it on (Myles Munroe)

The only way you can share power is to be confident in yourself. You are unique, no one can steal you. So learn to give yourself away.

6. It’s not about Me (Max Lucado)

Players who seek their own glory at the sacrifice of the team’s glory drive the team away from success. So it is with life. The goal is not our own glory– David Robinson.

❤️STILL LEARNING:
Spanish and Igbo languages
❤️TO-DO-LIST:
Complete writing project- 26 Blessings and Counting!


❤️ANTICIPATING:

Ify’s Weddingall roads lead to Nnewi 28/29th of this Month…and yes to Aso Ebi things🙌😄

GLORY!!!

 
– My MDCN Induction Ceremony

Finally, yours sincerely gets to practice this Medicine thing😅🤓

#LicensedToPractice
– Other Goals for 2017

Hello vision board
❤️THANKFUL FOR:

Ty and Lord B’s visit, for the awesome gifts I received from the abroad😉



and also the very crunchy, yummy, kilishi, all the way from KD.

Family.Fun.Freetime



​Our belated Easter outing was yesterday, and we saw the movie OMUGWO…believe me,  it was worth every penny we paid😉


❤️CURRENT TRENDS

1. bookzz.org: An e-library of over a million free books of several genres. Well, for the periods I was indisposed, and unable to blog, I must have consumed at least half a dozen of Agatha Christie’s books. She writes great detective stories.

2. Flo app (for ladies): provides a smart and simple way to track your cycle by making accurate and reliable predictions of your menstruation and ovulation.
Available for free on Android and Apple devices.

3.  Musixmatch: an app which projects lyrics of songs played on your device directly onto the screen, so you can sing along.
Also available for free on Android and Apple devices.

So that’s it for now folks…

Wishing you all a lovely rest of the month,

And don’t stop Praising God.

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HELLO FROM THE OTHER SIDE…

It’s been a very loooooooong hiatus (pls grab your dictionary) and I’ve almost forgotten what it feels like to be here. 

*covers face*

Lo siento.


Maybe some of you have been wondering why I’d gone AWOL in the last couple of weeks….
Special shoutout to my personal person, Dr. T of Tamie’s alcove, who was kind enough to ask me in particular. ☺️😘

Ahhh…life has been happening. And just when I think the drama is about to end, a new one begins.

What can I say? God is FAITHFUL.

So my theme song for Melodious March was “I TESTIFY” by Ada. Of course at the time, I had no idea of the challenges that awaited me during the month but I could sense the mighty hand of God working quietly behind the scenes…my testimony therefore is in three folds:

1. A Narrow Escape:
A couple of days to the end of March, the enemy made a very cheap, but unsuccessful attempt on my life, via a motorcycle accident.
Like I never expected it…

It was a lovely and gay Monday morning, and I was feeling especially elated that day. You see, the evening before, my sister (who was on a short visit to Lagos) and I, had attended an awesome worship service at JoshuaVille (Mainland) and I was yet to recover from the experience.
It was in that jolly mood that I wished my sister a safe trip and I left for LUTH.
A few minutes down the road the accident occurred, one moment I was walking, the next moment I was flat on my face. The shock of it all…it felt like an out-of-body experience. In fact, at some point, I wanted to laugh…by then sympathizers had gathered and I found myself being taken to the Emergency room. It was on getting there that I had a release from my trance-like state, and soon enough the tears flowed.

2. Through Pain and Tears:
Thankfully the injuries I sustained from the accident were mostly superficial…chiefly skin lacerations. It was an irony to find myself- a doctor in the role of a rather helpless patient.
The weeks that followed were spent in significant physical and psychological distress. I consumed lots of medications, had a good number of wound dressings and found myself in the dental centre more times than I cared about. To further complicate matters, I was sleeping poorly, eating and drinking shabbily, and suffering from mood swings.



What had initially appeared to be a transient phase was fast becoming a frustrating experience for me. I felt (permit me to say) quite angry with God for bringing such distress my way at such an inconvenient time…the MDCN exams were just around the corner.
If only I knew…

3. Way-Maker, Miracle-Worker and Promise-Keeper:
So it was that at some point, I considered not taking the exams, because my situation seemed hopeless. There were days when I had neither the energy nor the willpower to even study. I also missed a couple of revision classes and there was so much to cover.
Thank God for the support of good friends, like Dr. Ify (Chief of PQs) and Dr. Bunmi (my OSCE tutor)…

(These ladies MUST make Heaven😘😘😘)
Along with the encouragement of other well wishers and my ever-praying parents, I was able to move from a state of despondence to a state of dependence on God.

Needless to say, I passed the exams. And all I can say is…
BABA NA YOU BIKO!

“[I] thank the LORD, who has not let [My] enemies destroy [Me]. [I] have escaped like a bird from a hunter’s trap; the trap is broken, and [I am] free! [My] help comes from the LORD, who made heaven and earth.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭124:6-8‬ ‭GNB‬‬

(Emphasis mine)

The next part of the story is how I transited from being a patient to becoming a caregiver for another, and so my Easter break was practically spent within the four walls of a hospital (Naija hospitals are just one kind), but I won’t bore you with the details sha.


Thank God for victory.

Again, I testify.

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