7 COMMON MYTHS ABOUT STAYING ABROAD

Disclaimer: This is not a SUB, just in case you’re thinking it is. It is a good, infact a great prospect, to live outside Nigeria (24/7 Internet and Electricity combo is something most young folks can’t resist) but if that’s your only life-goal, then you’re WRONG, and I will tell you why. Not that I consider myself an authority on this subject, what do I even know and how many countries have I been to?😅 Just hear me out first. I’ll try to make it interesting. Enjoy!


Actually, when you look through my list carefully, the central message is clear, most people equate success/wealth/comfort with living abroad. I’ll try to debunk each of those myths with some of the knowledge I’ve gained over a few years.

Myth 1: GOING ABROAD MEANS YOU’RE SUCCESSFUL.

It’s such a shame that a lot of young, old, educated and non-educated people alike, still carry the mindset that going abroad (whether for a period of time or a lifetime) translates to success. By success, I mean material wealth. You’ll hear folks boast about having their Father’s Cousin’s Husband in Germany or Australia or Spain, and that kinda elevates their social status among their peers. Most people don’t even know what exactly is going on with the said person. 

Folks abroad may have more chances at succeeding based on the easy access to the resources made available to them, but the criteria for success in any area of life, no matter your location, still remains the same: Diligence, Determination and Discipline. And I’ve heard a number of stories about abroadees working twice as hard as their counterparts in Nigeria.

 “If you’re lazy, you can’t survive abroad.” It’s that simple. 

Myth 2: WHERE YOU ARE DETERMINES WHO YOU ARE.

Many people are also quick to assume that it is their environment that defines them. It’s the reason why a lot of young people hustle tirelessly just to travel outside Nigeria. 

The truth is, Abroad is not all of that. Hear what the bible says:

“The earth is the Lord ʼs, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it;”
(Psalm‬ ‭24:1‬ ‭NIV‬‬)
While you can be largely influenced by your environment, it is what is on your inside that ultimately becomes enhanced. Your environment enables you to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.

People don’t necessarily change when they go abroad, they just become better (whether for good or bad) at who they already are. So a shift in your mindset is of more importance than a change in your location. 

Permit me to say this, if you’re not sure of who you are, where you live will not matter. It is people that add value to a place and not vice-versa.


Myth 3: GREAT OPPORTUNITIES ONLY EXIST IN DIASPORA.

To many going Overseas, it is like going to a fairyland where opportunities are there on the streets waiting to be picked up. This isn’t necessarily true.

Great opportunities abound around us, to the extent we choose to see them

Every Opportunity you discover was created by a need. If you can indentify the needs of people around you, you will discover that several opportunities exist, even here in Nigeria. You simply need to DISCOVER to DELIVER

Thank God for several entrepreneurs producing worthwhile goods or services across the Fashion, Music, and Food industries. It’s especially easier when you have cultivated the mindset of CONTRIBUTING to your society rather than just CONSUMING from it. 

Myth 4: EVERYTHING IS ALRIGHT OVERSEAS.
Every nation that man inhabits has some forces (or demons) to contend with. Whether it is political unrest or economic recession, famine or earthquakes, religious intolerance, militants invasion, subtle racism or drug burdens; there is always a fight behind-the-scenes. As lovely as it was to school in the Caribbean, there was always the rumor of hurricanes, volcanoes or storms lurking nearby. During my stay in St. Vincent, we experienced some fatal floods that didn’t exactly leave the island the same way, not to talk of earth tremors and several storm watches. Thank God for safety on all sides.

Those in other parts of the world can also count some of the challenges they face on a daily basis. Of course, Naija has a truckload of problems as well, but not everything is bad with us

So dear Wannabe-Abroadees, pls think before you leap. Wherever you plan to port to, make sure it is worth the cost of everything you have (which may include your life). 

Myth 5: LIFE IS AUTOMATIC WHEN YOU’RE ABROAD.

An automatic life simply put, is the life that has it all, the wealth, the glitz and the glamour. Suddenly several folks begin to look up to you like you’ve arrived. But it’s not that simple. Living abroad also has its ups and downs. Like everyone else in Naija, life happens to abroadees too. 

Some People struggle through physical, emotional or financial needs. Life abroad is generally more expensive, the next bills come in almost as soon as the previous ones get settled. The electricity/gas/cable being used are not free. Someone has to pay for all the enjoyment. A lot of people are also away from their loved ones, the loneliness faced can sometimes be terrifying. 

Trust me, not everything gets to Social media. Behind some happy faces are heavy hearts. So be careful not to turn that Uncle in Canada or Aunty in UK, into a vending machine, and don’t get mad if he or she can’t afford to send you some dollars/pounds this Christmas. 

Remember, Family isn’t a right, it’s a privilege.”

Myth 6: EVERYWHERE IN JAND IS BEAUTIFUL. 

Somewhere abroad vs LAGOS…😶

Credits:WEB

That a place is ugly, dirty or rundown, doesn’t mean it is exclusive to Nigeria. Although I’d say it’s more common here. Lots of places abroad are beautiful, no doubt. But one thing I think of is their high level of maintenance, and many of us lack that quality in Nigeria. 

Side-Story: I remember how I was almost furious with my second Landlady in SVG, when she complained about some stains on the gas cooker in my apartment. According to her, she and her husband have maintained an almost spotless cooker for 19 years (😱😁). I just had to swallow a chill pill because I initially thought I was doing my best as per cleaning the cooker. Funny enough, I’d visited some Nigerian friends’ apartments, whose cookers fared worse. [There were other things she complained of, but I won’t bore you with the details.]

My mindset about quality maintenance has since improved. 

My point is, a lot of us don’t pay enough attention to our immediate environment, much less public buildings. In  Secondary school, I even had the bad habit of defacing walls and furniture with my signature: “So and So was here”. I’ve since repented..lol.

Our carelessness doesn’t help our image as a country. And I’m a very strong advocate of keeping our environment clean. I love neat, organized and colorful places. Don’t you? 

We should all cultivate the habit of putting the trash in the trash can, and not inside the drains or on our roads. That’s a good place to start. Forget the fact that the Government sometimes employs cheap labor to clean the roads. Let the change begin with you. 

“The grass is always greener on the other side, because we’ve refused to maintain ours.”


Myth 7: STAYING ABROAD MEANS YOU ARE RICH.

Not everybody abroad is rich o. I know that from personal experience.

Not everyone has enough to even eat 3 square meals or pay their house rent.

As a foreign student (with no work-permit) plus Buhari’s Economic Recession, this year was especially tough. Thank God I made it back alive…Haha.

Pls don’t sell all your life’s investments to pursue a life outside the country without concrete plans. It’s at your own risk. That kind of pressure makes people do stupid things like drugs, con acts or prostitution and unfortunately some end up in jail. If you don’t have the credible means (skills/qualifications/funds) for sustenance abroad, pls stay at home. Tenkiu!

I hope you found the post enlightening. You can share some of your thoughts too. 

The next post in the series is 5 TIPS TO SURVIVE ABROAD. Pls watch this space.

Thank you for reading.

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MY GREEN PASSPORT & FOUR COUNTRIES.

Hey People,

So yours sincerely returned to Nigeria a few days ago.

Thankfully, I had a smooth journey, there were no flight delays or cancellations.

I transversed the Atlantic Ocean, from the Caribbean to the United Kingdom and finally Africa. The entire journey took approximately 16 hours, minus the stop overs.

So here is a mini breakdown of my trip and the things I enjoyed about it:

1. SVG TO LONDON

I left SVG on Monday afternoon amidst hugs and some reserved tears, for St. Lucia on the LIAT airline. It was my first time in St. Lucia and though I didn’t get off the plane, I could see that it would be a cool place to visit. A few more passengers came on board and we left for Barbados. The entire journey from St. Vincent to Barbados was about 1 hr 15 minutes. Barbados is a MUST for anyone considering a vacation in the Caribbean. Thankfully, the immigration process was smooth. I’ve learnt not to take it personal when the Barbados Immigration officials ask random, annoying questions about why I’m visiting and when I’m supposed to leave. I had the experience the last two times I was in Barbados.

I was able to use the bathroom and have a light snack before boarding the British Airways to the UK. I don’t know why, but food is always tastier while I’m in transit. As a rule I eat more and try out new food. I don’t understand why LIAT airline doesn’t serve complimentary meals. There should be a law that all airlines have to serve meals no matter the duration of the flight. 

The flight to the UK was about 8 hours, but it was the most enjoyable because I had enough to eat and entertain myself with. I also watched ANGRY BIRDS Movie and THE SECRET LIFE OF PETS, and slept for the rest of the trip. 

2. LONDON TO CASABLANCA 

On arrival at the GATWICK Airport, I passed through immigration with ease and then found my way to the train station. 

With two luggages and a hand bag, it was tough navigating the several stairs I encountered. But God was faithful to bring a couple of sweet gentlemen my way at intervals. Londoners are too kind. Don’t you agree? 

“Can I help you with that?”

“Yes please, thank you so much”

“Do you need help?”

“Yes, I’ll appreciate it.”

Oh my, I was too pleased to hand over my luggage every time. I actually took on the role of a Princess in distress…hahaha.


I took the train from Gatwick to Victoria Park, then to South Kensington, from where I got on the Piccadilly line and we went from station to station, until I finally got down at the Terminal 4 of Heathrow Airport. 


I was able to have a typical English breakfast at an airport cafe, then walked around for some window (more than actual) shopping. I almost embarrassed myself while asking about some wristwatches, I didn’t realize the prices were all in 4 digits. When I discovered my error, I quietly left the store for another.

By evening, I was on board the Royal Air Maroc in a flight to Casablanca, Morocco. It was a less fun (no TV for entertainment) trip but I absolutely enjoyed the meals served. For a 3-hour trip, we had more than enough to eat and drink. Eating and Sleeping were my favorite activities, since I didn’t download any novels to read. Candy crush disappointedly refused to open as well. There was a bit of people-watching on my part too, and for the first time I discovered Non-Nigerian Pidgin speakers. 

3. CASABLANCA TO NIGERIA

I didn’t realize until my flight that English wasn’t an official language in the country, I heard more of Arabic and French. I was able to buy a few more items at the Airport and the currency in use was Euros. I later learnt their official currency is Moroccan Dirham (MAD). I was quite exhausted walking around the shops. My flight to Nigeria was around midnight and it took us 4 hours to get to Lagos. There was more eating and sleeping during the flight. Since Nigeria is a hour ahead of Morocco, we arrived about 5 a.m. (Nigerian Time). 




I was surprised that the MURITALA MOHAMMED INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT, Lagos, was more sophisticated than the last time I visited (in 2014), and there was even air conditioning in the arrival lounge. So I was welcomed in the typical Nigerian way, and it was only in Nigeria that the Green Passport was classified as a priority. 

“Do you have the Nigerian Passport?”

“Yes”

“Go that way”

After passing through the immigration, there were porters all over asking if I needed help with my luggages, taxi service, or calls. I was also approached to change foreign currency. It was good to be home. There were several eateries, stands for Network providers and some business centers. I didn’t see much of souvenir shops though. A porter allowed me to call my mum and led me to an eatery where I bought a snack and bottle of water, I couldn’t get access to wifi and was really exhausted because I had to wait for about 5 hours before I was eventually picked up, thanks to Lagos traffic et al. 

Now that I’m home I would like to write about 7 common myths about staying abroad. It promises to be enlightening. Stay tuned.


Thanks for reading,

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DELIGHTFUL DECEMBER

DECEMBER is h-e-r-e!!!

And I’m trusting God for a delightful experience this month, simply because:

1. It’s the Christmas SEASON and I’m very pro-CHRIST.


2. It’s also my Birth Month and I have many things to be THANKFUL for, too many to count.

Because I’m happy!!!

So last month was a combo of mixed emotions for me, with lots of mountain and valley experiences. I seemed to make significant progress in certain areas, but on the other hand, a couple of challenges weighed me down:

I had a day-trip to Barbados, and God really FAVORED me. Divine helpers are REAL, of that I’m sure. God’s children cannot be stranded because he makes Provision for us in every Location.


So I was here…lol

(PS: All images are from the WEB).

Btw, Barbados is breathtaking and scintillating…if you want to visit the Caribbean, Barbados is a MUST. Just be sure to travel with plenty money…lol. 

My 5 weeks experience with other awesome ladies at TFSA with Eziaha of The FAB Sister’s blog, was nothing short of  

A-m-a-z-i-n-g!!! E’ is one blessed and loaded woman. My life has not remained the same.

My TFSA Journal

I was really hopeful about getting MY FEGGO DIARIES published, but it hasn’t worked out yet.
I also anticipated traveling to Nigeria, but I’m still here in SVG because God has other plans. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to write the December Diaries as promised in my November post.

One thing I know is this, 

My Wait is not a Waste and My Faith is not in Vain. 

I’m learning to trust God’s delay rather than doubt his ways. So help me God.

That said, I look forward to an exciting and eventful December, with the Jingle Bells, Christmas lights and loads of fun!!!

And not forgetting that JESUS IS THE REASON FOR THIS SEASON!!!

I came across this scripture in Isaiah 9:6-7 a few days ago with a better understanding: 


The zeal of the Lord of hosts will perform this. 

God means some serious business and he is very DETERMINED to bring it to pass.

Yes and Amen!!!

Here Are My December Highlights:

1. Scripture for the month: Psalm 13:5-6.


2. Song for the month: You made a way (Travis Greene)

3. I’ll continue reading:



ME AND MY BIG MOUTH (Joyce Meyer)


JESUS AMONG OTHER GODS (Ravi Zecharias)


WAIT & SEE* (Wendy Pope)


*PS: I got the first 3 chapters for FREE!!! You can check out this link.

4. Join in my Sing Along Favorite Christmas Carols:

1. O Holy Night

2. Mary’s boy child 

3. O come, O come, Emmanuel

4. Mary did you know?

5. Hark! The Herald angel sing

6. Once in royal David’s city 

7. The first Noel

8. Away in a manger

9. Feliz Navidad

10. Joy to the World

11. Rudolph, the red nosed reindeer

12. Silent Night, Holy Night

5. Still in the Christmas spirit, here’s a Bible teaser:


(Hint Mat 1:15)

That’s all for now. I look forward to delightful and enlightening adventures as the remaining days and weeks of the month unfolds.

Thanks for reading,

Stay Merry!!!



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